therobit posted:

In the replies she says that her husband told the kid and that just made him more angry and he just wants them to divorce and his mom to leave. I think he connects the small penis thing with his mom loving other dudes for some reason and no longer views her as a safe person to confide in.

There is absolutely no excuse to allow your child to find photos of you having sex with any, let alone his dad’s friend. If they were stores anywhere the kid might possibly find them, you have failed as a parent.

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My (27F) husband (32M) and I have been dating for 6 years and married for 4, we have a 3 year old baby boy and since we don't plan on having more children, I told my husband that I wanted to get my boobs redone because I wanted them more perky and I had surgery last year.

My MIL has always been sniffy because my husband is her only son, we've gone LC over the years because she's overbearing with him and dismissing with me, things got a little better when our baby was born, but after my surgery? oof, it's like I wrote in my forehead ''LOOK AT MY BOOBS, I WANT TO CHEAT ON MY HUSBAND'', she's always implying that I did it for male validation (yeah, your son's ffs), that I'll leave my husband, that I look like a hooker because I wear stuff that shows cleavage, that I could've gotten them a little smaller, everything. She also complaint about my clothes (and underwear) a lot, because ''no married woman with a child should dress like this''.

And see, that's what stung me because, how could she know? I suspected she was going in my drawers, but my husband told me that she could never, she made a comment about a cute set of lingerie that shows basically everything and I was confused, I asked how'd she knows I have it and she said ''she saw it in the washing machine'' but I prefer to wash my sets by hand so the lace last longer. Anyway, we recently changed our bedroom and I had an idea to put an end to this, when I was restocking my drawers, I used one in my vanity to put all of my husband's and mines sex toys, a few sets and a dirty letter he wrote to me once. My MIL visited us a few times and said nothing, so I did felt bad for accusing her, but yesterday she was here with my SIL and my husband and I were in the kitchen cooking for them.

We heard my MIL calling us and when we went to our room they were standing next to my open drawer, I just snorted, looked at my husband and said ''see? she snoops.'' My husband got red in the face, berated my MIL and my SIL and they both left after calling me indecent. My husband is mad at them, but he's mad at me too because he says I shouldn't have set a trap for his family and is saying we three need to apologize to each other, so maybe AITA?

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So my gf uses a pen name to write erotic stories on her blog and she has quite an audience for it. Now that is not my issue, but the topic of her erotic stories bothers me a lot. She writes stories about everything from hookups with colleagues in office bathrooms to group sex to cnc. It really makes me uncomfortable, but since I am technically not supposed to know about her pen name I cant raise my insecurity with her. But I cant really see any red flags in her behavior, she seems very happy with me and we have fire sex. Advice me on how to raise this with her? I am 24m and she is 26f.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

This belongs here, dammit. Just imagine it's from r/ratlationships.
White rats to get rid of Black/Grey rats

Absurd Alhazred posted:

My (17M) dad is mad because my brother (13M) is tall but doesn’t play sports

therobit posted:

I would have thought the play would be to just say you don’t feel like drinking because you are tired and have an upset stomach, thereby subtly implying that you are pregnant without saying it.

Human Tornada posted:

And I mean come on the mom is at least a little screwy if she left pictures of herself getting porked where he could stumble across them.

Vim Fuego posted:

so cuckolding isn't her only fetish

I don't even know if there's a word for intentionally showing homemade cuckporn to your kid

She's the one that showed him the pictures! He's allowed to be miffed. God only knows what sort of meta-fetish he's developing as a result of this whole thing

Kenshin posted:

There is zero chance some dude who literally gets off on being humiliated is going to let his kid know how much he loves it, because he'd lose that extra humiliation factor that he now gets. Now he can watch his wife get hosed and think about what a cuck his kid thinks he is.

Look into the darkest part of your heart, you know this to be true.

DreamingofRoses posted:

Do you not know kids are nosy and will get into anything? This doesn’t just apply to toddlers

Barudak posted:

Geek Squad will be relieve the photos are of consenting adults

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This happened a long time ago and my sons still bring it up occasionally.

I decided to get into mountain biking and read that it was best to build your own bike from parts. I got a good deal on a nice used frame and started to acquire all the various other parts. I still needed one gear shifter and front and rear brake systems. It so happened that my 13 year old son's bike had exactly the parts I needed. He had an older used mountain bike that he had gotten for his birthday and was currently using to deliver newspapers.

I asked him if I could have the parts I needed off his bike and he said no. I offered to pay him by giving him two weeks off of chores and unlimited video game time. When he was still reluctant, I reminded him that I could always assign him extra chores indefinitely if he was going to be unreasonable. He finally agreed and I went and did all the work taking the parts off his bike.

We made a deal. He got his two weeks of unlimited video games and no chores and his bike remained perfectly useable, proven by the fact that he continued to deliver newspapers on it every morning for at least a year after that. But years later he still sometimes tells this story, making it seem like I was an rear end in a top hat who forced him into something.

So what do you think, AITA?

Invisible Clergy posted:

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for buying the brakes off my son's bike?

I reminded him that I could always assign him extra chores indefinitely if he was going to be unreasonable .... years later he still sometimes tells this story, making it seem like I was an rear end in a top hat who forced him into something.

Mx. posted:

guillotine

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My(M17) sister(F20) came back from her college back home for spring break last week. A couple days ago, she asked me if I wanted to go out with her to see a movie and eat at a restaurant, and I agreed.

However, the last few times when it’s just been us two in public together without our parents, people have thought that we are a couple and it’s really uncomfortable. I don’t even know why since it’s obvious that we’re brother and sister. We both are clearly Asian and have the same exact skin tone and we share many similar features, and we’re both like 5’7. I’ll admit it doesn’t help that she’s apparently “hot” according to my friends. I asked my sister if she could tape a paper that said that she’s my sister in her outfit, and she laughed at me and thought I was joking. I told her I wasn’t loving around, and she got more serious and kept refusing. In the end the argument escalated and we didn’t go out.

Our parents have said that I’m being ridiculous, but I disagree. AITA?

haveblue posted:

My “this is my sister not my girlfriend” T-shirt has people asking a lot of questions already answered by my shirt

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for refusing to be public with my sister until she wears a sign that indicates that she’s my sister and not my girlfriend?

Barudak posted:

When all the women in my social circle hit the "baby zone(tm)" every get together small and large was gossip trains about who was drinking what and oh she skipped the sushi time to circle back for the kill on that one.

PancakeTransmission posted:

That's pretty fuckin weird.

The Lone Badger posted:

If a paper sign is the solution why doesn't he wear one?

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Me (23f) and my boyfriend (24m) were excited about our pregnancy it was planned and I’m one of those people who has a long list of baby names I’ve been making since I was like 15.(I’m not accepting any criticism for the baby names that I like I do not care how you feel😅) anyway I’ve always wanted a son and the list is a mile long so I gave my boyfriend my top 5 and he’d help narrow it down.

We we’re trying out all the names seeing how it would look and sound, he suddenly really like the name Xerxes at around my 6 month mark at first I didn’t understand but I mean it’s on my list and I love it too so we start using it for him to only reveal that he liked it because of that Family guy episode with peters drat Hawk he was making the connection ALL THE TIME I’m not even joking he even wanted to nickname the baby Hawk, don’t get me wrong I knew about the episode but the constant reminder was driving me insane so when it was time to order all the cute embroidered blankets and onesies I just straight up told him “we’re not naming him that anymore”

He was upset,he’d told everyone the name (which I told him not to do) they had apparently already bought the gifts with the name Xerxes all over it, but I just couldn’t do it. He even went as far to say he would write whatever he wanted on the birth certificate because I couldn’t just “take back” my agreement, he even left the house for over 8 hours.

I can’t really describe it but it was a really but I didn’t think it was that serious for him to get as upset as he was and for him to drag our entire family into it. I really just want some validation that he’s over reacting and his attachment to the name from a fukin family guy episode and not the actual meaning of the name is weird.

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So I have this acquaintance Mona. I went to high school with Mona and she sucked. I’ll chock it up to us being young and teenagers are awful but she was sucky. We had each other on social media and ran in similar circles as I dated one of her close friends, but I never heard from her after graduation. So it turns out she started attending my college the year after me and dropped out but stayed in the general area.

I found her on tinder recently and when I matched with her I was talking and she mentioned she was offering certain services. I took screenshots of her offering me said services and sent them to high school friends I was close with.

Then 2 years go by. She blows up online as some sort of entrepreneur who gave out money tips and would give out investment tips through social media. She had over 40k followers.

So I forgot to mention, she is dumb as bricks. Like is the epitome of, “Good thing she’s pretty,” as if she wasn’t she’d be SOL. She was offering money advice, credit advice, investment, advice and crypto/NFT advice. All of which was terrible. Like comedically terrible. She gave the advice to get as many credit cards as you can to build credit. Like this was awful.

She was making money off of sponsorships, donations, and people buying her Amazon gifts. To top it all off, she was giving advice under the guise that she hustled through college. Saying she had a degree, worked as a waitress, to make her money for all 4 years and just hustled to make her money. She said she was able to grow her measly tips and paychecks using her own advice.

This made me mad. She was being disingenuous and advising people awfully. So I made a comment on her post. Saying essentially that she was lying about her come up and leading people wrong.

I was met with pushback from her followers so I decided to post my old screenshots of her trying to sell her rear end to me. It blew up and her fans turned on her. She posted that she was getting hate messages and private her account. She messages me privately to tell me she’ll get her brothers to go after me and other bs for doing this to her.

I told my friends about it and non of them sided with me. They all said what I did possibly put her life and livelihood at risk. They said I shouldn’t “shame” women for doing what they have to do to survive, especially since I wasn’t one of the guys who payed her.

AITA?

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me (31M) have been married to my wife (27F) for many 3 years now and she is currently pregnant with our first child. she is the love of my life and there is nothing I would change about her except for one little thing. the way she drinks water, or anything for that matter. i do not understand how it is possible for one person to gulp the drinks the way she does. you guys know how kids drink loudly and breathe into the glass? it is sorta like that. every single night, she has the same craving which is nutella on bread with middle eastern thing called zaatar on top of it, and understandably she would get quite thirsty as she has like 30 of these in one sitting.

so she yells for me to grab her the massive bottle of water from the fridge, every single night, and she gulps it so loudly that the cats run out from the room. when i tell you guys it is loud to the point where i am scared it will trigger my migraine, i am not exaggerating. she also pauses in between these MASSIVE gulps to take really loud breaths as if she is running a marathon. yesterday i reached my limit, and as she took her first loud gulp i lost it and yelled for her to lower her gulps and drink like a normal human being. she was startled, naturally, and accidentally choked on the water while drinking causing her to feel uncomfortable.

she told me she cant help it if our baby needs water, and that i am a massive rear end in a top hat for making her feel bad for giving said baby that water. i told her that belly at this point might be 99% water and 1% baby which now thinking about it i should not have done because she started crying and called her mom in front of me and told her that i had shamed her for giving our baby its nutrients and vitamins and depriving the baby of water.

i honestly do not feel like the rear end in a top hat, but her mom, my mom, my sister and my wifes cousin are all telling me that i am a massive rear end in a top hat who should not be allowed around the baby if i cant control my temper. i tried telling them how she has been gulping loudly for months, and they try to argue that it is a normal thing. so, should i get on my knees and apologise or should i wait for her to apologise for gulping?



EDIT: i was told to add an edit. this is NOT a new thing, she has been doing it for a very very long time and i have actually told her that loud noises with drinking and chewing annoy me. i am under investigation for adhd as well and can not filter out these sounds at all. when she does the gulping she look at me in the eyes and smirks as well. which is why i think she is doing it on purpose.

i do not have anger problems and am actually quite good with kids. i tried telling our families that she does it on purpose but they tell me i am a monster basically for making her cry

Mx. posted:

i am under investigation for adhd is an interesting turn of phrase

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for publicly outing my high school friend as a sex worker?

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We came home from the hospital 5 weeks ago with our first child, a boy. For the next 4 weeks, my wife did not let any of my family visit our son. Her mother and sister came over several times a week.

My wife refuses to let my family see him because she doesn't want to play host. My family understands that being a new mom is stressful and they have no expectations of being treated like proper guests. I told her it's not fair that her family can come & go as they please but my family can't even meet him. She said her family comes over to help her, which is not really true, they just hold the baby a little and if the baby isn't sleeping then I am the one taking care of him while they are here. They don't clean or anything, at most they might bring some takeout on the way over.

Finally I decided I will be taking the baby to see my parents last weekend. My wife doesn't breastfeed so I got all the formula and diapers and everything I would need for a couple days and packed a bag. I thought this was a win-win because my wife could have some time to herself or come along and she would be under no pressure to host anyone. But she got mad when I told her what I would do but I told her this was happening, I am the baby's father and my family has a right to see him just as hers does. She refused to come along and said she can't believe I'm treating a new mother this way.

I left on Friday evening and didn't hear anything from my wife on Saturday, but her sister & mom were over & sent a bunch of texts basically accusing me of "abusing" a new mother. Finally on Sunday she started sending me text after text on how I was a terrible husband, how I kidnapped her son, how a baby can't be separated from its mother, etc. It got so bad that I cut my visit short and drove home.

She was very mad when I got home and refusing to speak to me. The next day when the baby was asleep I sat her down and tried to calmly explain to her that I am the FATHER of the baby so I have as much right to where he goes and who he sees as she does, we are equal parents and she needs to accept reasonable compromises when we disagree, like my family being able to see our son and she not having to host them. She called me an rear end in a top hat and shouted that she gets more say because she's the one who was pregnant with him.

At that point I said if she thinks that way & the accusations she texted me, I think she really needs to see a doctor and get assessed for PPD because her behavior is not normal. She called me an AH and said I was abusing my position as the earner (money was never part of any discussion). She has been giving me a near-silent treatment all week, resisting any attempts to discuss therapy, and her sister has texted me saying I should apologize to her for what I said. I told her sister that I had said absolutely nothing wrong in response to being accused of kidnapping and being a lesser parent to MY son.

I am standing my ground but I need an outside perspective, AITA?

EDIT: To clarify, the idea my wife might have PPD did not occur to me until after the visit with my family.

EDIT 2: My wife knew of my plan to visit my family several days in advance. I planned a weekend trip because they are several hours away.

EDIT 3: I want to emphasize this because people keep asking about it. I DID NOT WANT TO SEPARATE MY SON FROM HIS MOTHER. I WANTED HER TO COME WITH US. SHE REFUSED. I did not forcibly take my son away from her. It was her decision not to come along and her decision not to allow my family to come to her.

EDIT 4: My wife is not physically handicapped from childbirth. She has been mobile and going out including a 6 hour car ride 2 weeks ago.

EDIT 5: My wife refused any options involving my family coming to us. No hotel or in-town visits.

therobit posted:

AITA for taking my baby to see my family against my wife's wishes, and then telling her she needs to see a therapist?

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I was divorced and I was supposed to have the four kids (13M, 15M, 17M, 19M) most of the summer. I lived about a 10 hour drive from my ex-husband and the place my kids grew up. At the beginning of one summer I drove to husband's and picked up two of the four (one didn't want to come and the oldest was now an adult with a job). My oldest was set to be married in the middle of the summer and asked me to make sure his two brothers made it back for his wedding. I assured him I would be there and would bring his brothers.

The problem is, as the wedding got closer my chronic low back pain started to act up. The more I thought about driving 10 hours each way again, the more I realized I was going to have to back out. I called my oldest son and explained that I couldn't make it and he would have to find a different groomsman to replace his brother.

My oldest son acted really annoyed and insisted that his brothers still needed to make it somehow. He ended up buying them bus tickets to get back in time for the wedding. He called the older of the two without my knowledge and encouraged him to sneak out to the bus station if I tried to stop them.

To make matters worse, my oldest son only bought *one way* tickets for his brothers, so they wouldn't be able to see me the rest of the summer. I feel like he did this just to get back at me. I called and told him how inappropriate that was and he completely blew me off and acted like I was the one being an rear end in a top hat here.

AITA?

Invisible Clergy posted:

Oh. I thought the wife wanted to avoid people seeing the 5 week old infant for covid-related reasons. Good thing covid only exists if you think about it.

Total Meatlove posted:

Unless I’m massively misinterpreting this, it’s really off and sounds like you’re blaming/assigning responsibility to the husband for his wife’s attempt to alienate him from his family?

He needs to speak to a mental health professional and maybe a lawyer.

Invisible Clergy posted:

Oh. I thought the wife wanted to avoid people seeing the 5 week old infant for covid-related reasons. Good thing covid only exists if you think about it.

theflyingexecutive posted:

Well the elder manchildren who run AITA have written on their gold plate that discussion about an event that has affected every single person on the globe is forbidden, so we all have to guess if that's the issue

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I (27F) got married to my husband (27M) about 3 months ago after dating for 2 1/2 years. Things have been really good so far, no issues other than a few fights about who does the chores, but nothing that would overall affect our relationship.

About 2 weeks ago he ran into one of his childhood friends that used to live on his block when they were both in elementary school. He told me that she had 2 kids around the ages of 3-5 each with her and said she looked like she hadn't slept in days, her hair was really messy, and she had a bit of an odor. He told me he was worried for her health and safety so he got her number and offered to help her out. I asked him if she even showed any signs of wanting help but he said no, but she was probably too embarrassed to ask. I felt like saying something but let it slide.

That entire week he would bring her groceries in her low end apartment for her and her children, even went as far as buying them clothes AND offered to babysit her kids (we never did). I started to get concerned and a bit jealous but said nothing. He told me that she would hesitate to accept the stuff he gave her but still took them. I started talking about this to my friends and they asked me if he had some type of crush on her and I said I didn't know, but it got me thinking about it. She came to the house once for dinner with her children after I told my husband I didn't want her to, and the entire time my husband was offering stuff to her and checked up on her and the kids several times throughout the dinner. She was exactly how he described, very quiet and had bad hygiene.

I found a photograph of her from social media and sent it to my friends after they asked and one of them told me that she was involved in a certain business on the streets because her boyfriend seen her phone with the picture and told her, I won't say what business but if you know you know. I got enraged and told my husband to stop helping her, and he refused. He said that she used to be a good kid that did well in school but some people just get desperate. I told him that it was her decision to put herself in that position and it isn't our responsibility to help someone that doesn't want to be helped. He told me that if I was in her place, wouldn't I want to be treated the same? I told him that I would never put myself in that place to begin with and to stop being so infatuated with his childhood friend. He just looked at me with a shocked expression and packed a bag to stay at his mother's house for the night. He wouldn't pick up or return any of my calls, and when he came home the next day he was very short with his answers. I talked to my friends to see if I was an rear end in a top hat in that situation but they told me he had it coming. Was I in the wrong for telling my husband to stop being so infatuated with his childhood friend? He still refuses to really interact with me at all after this happened 3 days ago, and continues to help her after I told him how I feel and it is eating me up inside.

Edit: Feel like I should add a bit of background information. Husband HAS cheated before. The night of his bachelor party at a nightclub with his high school friend group he ran into an old fling from college. He ended up hooking up with her in the bathroom of the club. His friend sent me a picture of him holding hands with the lady and walking into the restroom in the background of a selfie the friend had taken, and he confessed out of guilt. I confronted husband and he lied about the reason they were holding hands and going to the restroom multiple times until the second night of our honeymoon where he finally confessed. He told me he was drunk and he wouldn't have done it sober, and she kept telling him stuff he wanted to hear. He kept reassuring me that he wanted me and ONLY me so I believed it and never brought it up again.

Invisible Clergy posted:

She's not doing that, she just doesn't want them to come over. You can check the comments if you want, but OP is a colossal piece of poo poo, shrieking about men's rights and not understanding what the actual problems at play here are at all. For once, I don't think a character in one of these posts actually has PPD, he's just invoking it to call his wife hysterical and dismiss her concerns.

Invisible Clergy posted:

She's not doing that, she just doesn't want them to come over. You can check the comments if you want, but OP is a colossal piece of poo poo, shrieking about men's rights and not understanding what the actual problems at play here are at all. For once, I don't think a character in one of these posts actually has PPD, he's just invoking it to call his wife hysterical and dismiss her concerns.

Barudak posted:

If you wouldn't cheat on me with them while you're sober thats even more insulting. Come on, have some dignity

Invisible Clergy posted:

True enough. In the many comments from OP, he claims his relatives are vaxxed (as are the wife's) but even prior to covid, you really don't want to expose a baby that young to more humans than you have to: they don't have all their shots and antibodies from breastmilk and stuff yet.

AITA for telling my husband to stop being so infatuated with his childhood friend?


r/relationships: She was exactly how he described, very quiet and had bad hygiene.

value-brand cereal posted:

Good news! YOSPOS brings good tidings in the form of the oldest philosophy: Ignore the Stymie. Do Not Quote Stymie. Do Not Engage the Stymie.

Both work fine, though the second may not be updated ever, so if it breaks because the forums get actual updates. Well. Goon speed. Just add these to your ublock origin or greasemonkey extensions.

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So here's some backstory. About a year ago my firm hired a young assistant (She's 24 and we'll call her Tammy). The young lady works hard and is always polite.

However, her hygiene is awful.

She smells funky on a good day, and extremely terrible on the bad ones. It's bad enough that we've received complaints from atleast two clients.

Several of the coworkers have mentioned it, and one young lady actually purchased a goody basket of lotions, sprays, and dry shampoo and gave it to her. That was weeks ago and all the bottles sit unopened on her desk and clearly unused.

One gentleman said and I quote "It's like something that crawled up out of a sewer, died, and then something else ate it, and they died too".

She often has to enter my private office to bring me mail, and some days the stench that is left behind remains for hours. Like a bad fog that I'm shocked we can't all see like in a cartoon with flies. It sometimes leaves me nauseated and I'm forced to continuously spray air freshener until it either fades or overpowers the stench.

It's gotten so bad that no one wants her in their cars when we meet outside the office, because the funk will remain in your car for days if it's hot. No one can really explain the cause, she's not overly obese (though she's a tad overweight) and she has access to a shower and washer and dryer (another coworker went to her apt).

I personally think she doesn't bathe very often (her hair is very greasy and really thin for someone that young). She also wears sleeveless shirts and has very thick underarm hair, and I think she doesn't use deodorant and perhaps sweat is getting trapped there. (I'm embarrassed to have noticed this, but if you smelled her you'd be questioning where it comes from too).

On Friday I finally had enough and mentioned it to our owner who is the only person with the authority to do anything and he quickly went to her and very bluntly asked her to go home and shower and not to return until she did.

Now I feel like a complete jerk, since she was clearly humilated. Did i handle this wrong? Should we ignore and accept people who smell terrible? Am I the AH?

Invisible Clergy posted:

Sorry to bring this back from a few pages ago, but I don't think you have PMs: I tried putting this into my ublock origin, but it didn't work. Do you have any advice about what I might be doing incorrectly?

AITA for reporting my smelly coworker to our boss?

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for reporting my smelly coworker to our boss?

Invisible Clergy posted:

She's not doing that, she just doesn't want them to come over. You can check the comments if you want, but OP is a colossal piece of poo poo, shrieking about men's rights and not understanding what the actual problems at play here are at all. For once, I don't think a character in one of these posts actually has PPD, he's just invoking it to call his wife hysterical and dismiss her concerns.

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I (f34) am pregnant with twin boys and my husband (m34) told me that he was dead set on naming our sons “notch” and “jeb”. I know most of you are probably unaware, but these are the names of two of the people who created minecraft. My husband is a big minecraft fan and builds stuff on the game a lot and has minecraft posters, he even said he wants to play minecraft with his sons. I told my husband that I want to give our children regular names, not after minecraft because they are not objects, and my husband got really defensive about it saying that he should be able to choose because he is their father and I never gave any name suggestions. I will never name my children after minecraft because I don’t want them to get bullied and feel like it’s dehumanizing to name them after a game. I told my husband that I’d rather get a divorce than name our kids after minecraft and he got really angry and raised his voice. I’m pregnant and my hormones maybe made me really emotional because I started crying. A few hours after that, we calmed down and I asked him again and he said he will for sure name the kids “notch” and “jeb”. AITA?