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KuangMkV posted:You're having a wedding related party themed around an RPG that was so terrible not even White Wolf could sell it to a ready-made market of fat girls in faerie wings? My room party is entirely separate from my wedding, actually. As in, the two have absolutely nothing to do with each other. And it sold well enough that they decided to make it for their new generation...
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Lissedae posted:I've actually gotten that advice from my grandmother. She said that the hardest year is without a doubt the first year. You're so worried about finances, you don't get the time you thought you would, and you start thinking about big thinks like kids. OK fine you love each other truly madly deeply and will last forever. Why are you doing your wedding like this? Why not put it off a year, save up a bit of cash, and do something nice and memorable? If you're not into tradition fine whatever go somewhere you've always wanted to go and get married there. You're right I don't know you so I can't say whether or not your marriage is going to last, but I can with absolute 100 percent certainty guarantee that you will regret getting married in this way
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May 26, 2007 10:54
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Also, you're basing an awful lot of your life on something that isn't guaranteed to exist forever. It's a sci-fi convention in Minnesota. I'm sure it's the oldest and the bestest, but things end. Even E3 is finished, if I heard correctly. What if you want to take the kids down memory lane someday? "See here, Link Jr.? This was the site of the convention hall where we tied the knot. Yeah, it's a used car lot now. No, we didn't rent out the whole place ourselves. See, people used to get together for big sci-fi conventions and wear costumes and talk about video games. There were thousands of people there. No, we didn't know most of them. They pretty much wandered in and out as they pleased. That's what made our wedding so intimate and special."
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May 26, 2007 10:55
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tombom posted:http://archives.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=1796748&highlight= People seem to be missing the 'mildly' part. No costumes, no excessive decoration, no zelda themed vows, none of that. I'm a lot better off than people who get married and renaissance faires.
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May 26, 2007 10:55
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Lissedae posted:I'm a lot better off than people who get married and renaissance faires. You asked an internet comedy website to decorate posters for your wedding let's not put on airs
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May 26, 2007 10:56
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A wedding with a *twist* of zelda. I don't understand why?
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Lissedae posted:I've actually gotten that advice from my grandmother. She said that the hardest year is without a doubt the first year. You're so worried about finances, you don't get the time you thought you would, and you start thinking about big thinks like kids. No problem at all, my wife and I lived together for 3 years before getting married very little changed at first, but then you realize that one of you has to give up there dreams at least for a little while. My wife works and goes to school full time to become a teacher, I work for a very large company as a systems analyst. I will have to stay at this job no matter what till she finishes school. Anything I want to work on school wise or job wise will be put on hold till she is done, once she finishes I assume I will start working on things I want. But tell then I just have to weight and that is hard to do sometimes. I hope you guys beat all the odds and have a kick rear end life, but realize that you both may change and one of you may change into someone the other does not like 
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May 26, 2007 10:57
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Lissedae posted:I'm a lot better off than people who get married and renaissance faires. You realize this is like saying "I'm not healthy, but I'm better off than lepers!" right?
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May 26, 2007 10:57
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Slashie posted:Also, you're basing an awful lot of your life on something that isn't guaranteed to exist forever. It's a sci-fi convention in Minnesota. I'm sure it's the oldest and the bestest, but things end. Even E3 is finished, if I heard correctly. What if you want to take the kids down memory lane someday? And if I get married at a park it could turn into a parking lot, or a church could turn into some condos. This is as guaranteed to last forever and any other location I could get married at. And I don't really want a wedding that's 'intimate and special' in a traditional sense. Our original plan was to get married at my grandparent's house with us, our immediate family and a minister. I really like the feel of anyone and everyone wandering in and out as they please. It's not something that bothers me at all. It will be really memorable for them, and it's still my wedding, so it'll still always be special to me. Also, we're probably going to name our first kid Eric or Jonathan. We're not total freaks. I understand that it's not most people's idea of a good wedding, but it's mine and his. What's the problem with that?
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May 26, 2007 10:59
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HEY! LISTEN! HEY! LISTEN! HEY! LISTEN! LittleJoe posted:You are going to regret nearly everything about your wedding
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May 26, 2007 11:00
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LittleJoe posted:OK fine you love each other truly madly deeply and will last forever. How is this not memorable?? And this is the place we always wanted to get married. You have to understand that this is our ideal - nothing could be better. It's way better than hawaii or some place we'll likely never go again.
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Lissedae posted:And if I get married at a park it could turn into a parking lot, or a church could turn into some condos. This is as guaranteed to last forever and any other location I could get married at. I'm not talking about the location. I'm talking about the event. CONvergence or whatever isn't going to be the cultural mainstay you think it is. Your grandkids are going to have no idea what you're talking about. Slashie fucked around with this message at 11:09 on May 26, 2007 |
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May 26, 2007 11:03
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LittleJoe posted:You're right I don't know you so I can't say whether or not your marriage is going to last, but I can with absolute 100 percent certainty guarantee that you will regret getting married in this way Let me get this out of the way: I think getting married at a Sci Fi convention is about as tacky as I can imagine. That said, most of the people who I know who were really really into nerdy stuff during their early years are still going at it pretty strongly (meaning, I know a bunch of 50 year old couples who live D & D). Sometimes people radically change, but I think the odds that someone who's really into getting married as a Nintendo character at a science fiction convention would grow to regret their wedding are much lower than 100%. Worst come to worst, they can renew their vows and take pictures of that and pretend they're the wedding photos (you know, ret-con their own lives). But I guess you just really wanted to be an rear end in a top hat today, so feel free to ignore my post.
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May 26, 2007 11:03
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You are taking something beautiful and pure and eternal and you are giving it a yeast infection.
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May 26, 2007 11:04
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Lissedae posted:How is this not memorable?? Well, I guess there's something to be said for lowered expectations.
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May 26, 2007 11:04
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theinhko posted:A wedding with a *twist* of zelda. I don't understand why? It's something a little different, a little fun, something we like. There's still a normal dress, a normal minister, and at the ceremony in august there will be a normal setting with normal people.
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May 26, 2007 11:04
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EmperorBobman posted:Let me get this out of the way: I think getting married at a Sci Fi convention is about as tacky as I can imagine. Also a lot of people aren't getting the part where I'm having a totally normal wedding only a little more than a month later... Also, the D&D at 50+ thing - Oh yeah. Most of my friends have parents like that. And I'll probably be like that too. I'm a total nerd at heart, that's just how it is and how it's been for about a decade now.
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Lissedae posted:How is this not memorable?? Think on it a while and I'm pretty certain you can come up with a better place to be married than a science fiction convention in Minnesota. Like I say, it'd be like if your parents had a disco-themed wedding or something. Even if you think it's pretty cool now it really, really isn't going to be as memorable in 10 or even 5 years as you think it is now. EmperorBobman posted:But I guess you just really wanted to be an rear end in a top hat today, so feel free to ignore my post. How am I being an rear end in a top hat? She posted a thread about her wedding and asked what people thought, I didn't pull it out of her livejournal or something. She asked for feedback, and my genuine belief is that it's a terrible idea.
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Lissedae posted:Also a lot of people aren't getting the part where I'm having a totally normal wedding only a little more than a month later... That's fine and all and I'm not going to poo poo on your life's decisions, but a Zelda wedding just kinda makes me chuckle inside. Then again, if that's what makes you jump for joy go for it.
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LittleJoe posted:Think on it a while and I'm pretty certain you can come up with a better place to be married than a science fiction convention in Minnesota. Like I say, it'd be like if your parents had a disco-themed wedding or something. Even if you think it's pretty cool now it really, really isn't going to be as memorable in 10 or even 5 years as you think it is now. Well, I could get married at Dragon-Con or something, but I've never been there and I would likely never go again... I guess I just don't get why you're specifying 'in Minnesota'. It's where I live and people generally get married where they live.
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LittleJoe posted:How am I being an rear end in a top hat? She posted a thread about her wedding and asked what people thought, I didn't pull it out of her livejournal or something. She asked for feedback, and my genuine belief is that it's a terrible idea. Spending the whole thread patronizing her about how young she is and how her decision to get married at 19 is wrong is a pretty assholeish thing to do when you know almost nothing about their relationship or even either person in it.
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What will you do if your evil personality resurfaces when you see some hot night elf or whatever?
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What we're all trying to tell you is that video games, conventions, roleplaying, these are childish obsessions. It may take a year, it may take a decade, but someday work and kids and life will sap you of the energy to put on green tights and run around with a tinfoil sword. You'll find new interests, ones more grounded in reality, and when you look back at the things you're doing now you'll be embarassed. It's going to happen to each and every person that attends CONvergence sooner or later. You don't hear about the former geeks who sell off their action figures and get on with their lives because they don't look back. Doing this is like tattooing the name of your junior prom date on your rear end. It forces you to remember the dumb, shortsighted teenager you were for the rest of your life. Middle-aged you is going to want to reach back through time and smack you.
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EmperorBobman posted:That's fine and all and I'm not going to poo poo on your life's decisions, but a Zelda wedding just kinda makes me chuckle inside. Then again, if that's what makes you jump for joy go for it. Wow - I just accidentally clicked the 'edit' button and got REALLY confused why it was giving me the 'login or pay $10 for an account' speech... Anyway - Thank you. <3 I appreciate it. I agree that it's a little silly, and I totally understand why it seems silly. But it really is what we want and I'm glad to see you're respectful even though you find it funny.
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Slashie posted:What we're all trying to tell you is that video games, conventions, roleplaying, these are childish obsessions. It may take a year, it may take a decade, but someday work and kids and life will sap you of the energy to put on green tights and run around with a tinfoil sword. You'll find new interests, ones more grounded in reality, and when you look back at the things you're doing now you'll be embarassed. It's going to happen to each and every person that attends CONvergence sooner or later. You don't hear about the former geeks who sell off their action figures and get on with their lives because they don't look back. Hahaha. Well, considering we have attendees and staff members in their fifties who have been working with MN sci-fi cons for over 20 years... I would say you're very wrong in saying it will happen to everyone. And I've considered these things before. I can live with thinking I was really silly 5, 10, 50 years from now. That idea doesn't bother me at all. I don't think I'll be embarassed, I think I'll proudly think "Well, that's just who I was back then. And I've changed. It happens." I've made way bigger mistakes and I'm too laid back to be critical about this in years to come.
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EmperorBobman posted:Spending the whole thread patronizing her about how young she is and how her decision to get married at 19 is wrong is a pretty assholeish thing to do when you know almost nothing about their relationship or even either person in it. Thank you. My grandparents got married when my grandmother was 19. They'd known eachother for about a year on their wedding day. They had 5 hell raising children and they're still together, happy, and very in love 45-50 years later.
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EmperorBobman posted:Spending the whole thread patronizing her about how young she is and how her decision to get married at 19 is wrong is a pretty assholeish thing to do when you know almost nothing about their relationship or even either person in it. Sorry if I seem like I'm talking down to her but I don't really know how else to communicate that video games are pretty much a childish thing and something you should ideally grow out of and certainly not something you want to immortalize in your wedding ceremony Also that of all the couples that get married at 19 and then break up at 22 when they can't stand each other anymore and want nothing more than some freedom to enjoy their youth there isn't one that says "Yeah we're getting married and we're going to get divorced". they all say this optimistic, idealistic, against-the-world "WELL MY GRANDPARENTS GOT MARRIED WHEN THEY WERE 10 AND THEY TURNED OUT FINE" poo poo and almost without fail they end up splitting up 2 years later just like everyone said they would
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Every single "kooky" wedding plan I have heard always ends in divorce. Especially when one of them is a teenager and the other one just barely can buy a drink.
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Slashie posted:I'm not talking about the location. I'm talking about the event. CONvergence or whatever isn't going to be the cultural mainstay you think it is. Your grandkids are going to have no idea what you're talking about. I don't care if my grandkids have no idea what I'm talking about. I'll be lucky if I even have grandkids.
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Lissedae posted:Hahaha. Well, considering we have attendees and staff members in their fifties who have been working with MN sci-fi cons for over 20 years... I would say you're very wrong in saying it will happen to everyone.
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LittleJoe posted:Sorry if I seem like I'm talking down to her but I don't really know how else to communicate that video games are pretty much a childish thing and something you should ideally grow out of and certainly not something you want to immortalize in your wedding ceremony If my marriage fails in less than 10 years and SA is still around, I will get on and announce to everyone that I was a complete idiot for doing what I did. I'll even tell them that 'I am not smarter than a 5th grader'. Okay? Mind getting off my back about it now?
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inpheaux posted:Except in either case you lose. Either you acknowledge that what you did was childish and are embarrassed by it later in life, or you don't ever acknowledge it and end up being That Person. Except that I want to be That Person
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Lissedae posted:Thank you. That was in 1950. This is 2007 where you can get drive-thru divorces. You are going to end up getting one of those in a couple of years. GOOD loving GOD you can't even go out and get drunk yet, yet you think that you have seen enough of the world to start making decisions like marriage. I'm only 22 and marriage is pretty much the furthest thing from my mind. My grandparents got married when they were really young - around 18. They split up 10 years ago because my granddad is a flaming homosexual. Their marriage was far from happy.
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The good side of who I am as a person wants to give you congrats on getting married and for good luck in the future and all that jazz. But the rational side of me is screaming and laughing on the inside and it's slowly creeping out as I type this because holy gently caress you are going to regret this in future years and for some reason I picture the time when you find out how insanely hilarious it is, is when you explain to your kids and they look at you and go. "That's stupid" Ignore everything I've written, if it's something you really want to do then go do it and tell people on the internet. edit; WOAH WOAH WOAH YOU ARE 19? NEVERMIND IGNORE THIS POST BECAUSE; 
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A wedding based on a multi-million dollar franchise and pop culture icon is not whatsoever tacky or shallow, and it will be the best day of her life. Nope. Nuh-uh. Lets be honest here, you're going to change and theres nothing you can do to stop it. At first you'll think, "Well this is slightly corny, but hey I enjoyed my wedding," and you'll see our posts in the back of your head, but you'll push them further back thinking "Nah, I loved it. It was good." As the years go by you'll slowly begin to mature and get out of your teens and into your mid twenties you'll realize there's a lot more to life than a loving elf that saves the world, and then, and only then our posts will slowly start to linger back and you'll feel like you've made a huge mistake. You'll begin by saying to yourself "No, its okay....I can't let them be right. It was a good wedding, gently caress." However much you try though, the better half of you says that "It was a pretty ridiculous wedding." Until you're finally convinced that it was dumb. Hey I hate to rain on your parade, but unless you are going to live an absurdly sheltered life, your body will physically and mentally go through hundreds of changes over the course of a few years, chemical and abstract changes, and they all factor in slowly refining our outlook in life everyday. Things we wished we had now could be things we loathe in the future, and theres nothing you can do to stop it. Congratulations, enjoy your wedding!
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Ramseyk posted:She's too young and flashy things and different settings in a fantasy world excite her to no end about being married, and at that age of perfect 19 she has found the one true person. The one person who won't gently caress around her back, lie to her just to get out of doing extra work, and who actually. Truely. Understands her. As a person.
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binary_hero posted:That was in 1950. This is 2007 where you can get drive-thru divorces. You are going to end up getting one of those in a couple of years. GOOD loving GOD you can't even go out and get drunk yet, yet you think that you have seen enough of the world to start making decisions like marriage. I'm only 22 and marriage is pretty much the furthest thing from my mind. Not being legal to drink does not mean that I have not been overwhelmingly drunk too many times to count. And that's fine for you that you're not thinking about marriage. That's you. This is me. And as for your list - all of it. And I'm not about to let a disorder that hardly affect my life any more stop me from being happy any longer than it already has. Christ, it's the drinking and partying that brings my disorder out the most these days.
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binary_hero posted:WHAT PART OF THIS DO YOU THINK IS A GOOD IDEA? Further proof of a tenuous grasp on reality.
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Clandestine Carwash posted:
Ahahaha jesus Seriously don't get married when you are still dressing up in costumes from anime
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Lissedae posted:If my marriage fails in less than 10 years and SA is still around, I will get on and announce to everyone that I was a complete idiot for doing what I did. I'll even tell them that 'I am not smarter than a 5th grader'. Okay? Mind getting off my back about it now? If your marriage fails in 10 years at least you had a wedding that was exciting and memorable for those 10 years rather than having something that may or may not be memorable in 20. I'm having this same conversation with my fiancee. It's her wedding, not her mother's, sister's, best friend's or somethingawful's. Do what you want to do, just don't turn into a total bitch about it (Not directed towards you, or my fiancee). Best of luck to you and your other half, Im 78 days out.
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