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Agrikk posted:When I was in middle school I was getting bullied pretty hard by two kids and the school wasn’t doing much about it. My dad asked me if he should talk to their parents about it but I opted out of that because it would most certainly blow back on me on the court of school society so I was just putting up with it. That's heartwarming!
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The Glumslinger posted:My (23F) boyfriend (28M) is really into anime and has several "waifus" and I'm not sure how to feel about it
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:Does anyone remember the post that was about a famous magicians home and his girlfriend wanted to get rid of his Gothic and occult stuff and redecorate with like Pier 17 furniture? Pretty sure it was from her viewpoint and we all signs pointed to it being about Criss Angel. from the old thread Hate my (29/f) fiancee's (52/m) million dollar dream house full of magic-themed decor. What do I do? quote:Hi Reddit, this is my first time posting here. I found this forum after looking for advice elsewhere on the web. Hope you guys can help me out!
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# ? Apr 16, 2021 04:48 |
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for ignoring my parents?
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# ? Apr 16, 2021 04:52 |
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My dad had to ask me my birthday so he could give the police my twin's dob to report him missing Not remembering birthdays is whatever
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# ? Apr 16, 2021 05:03 |
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13Pandora13 posted:No, you have been dating a spy. No, it just means accepting you'll get in trouble. I was suspended and given ISS for a month when I punched my bully in the face, it was still worth it.
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# ? Apr 16, 2021 05:27 |
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for ignoring my parents? "I'm not going to tell you why I'm upset and punishing you, you have to figure it out yourself" is Abusive Behavior 101.
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# ? Apr 16, 2021 05:37 |
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If you haven't punched someone out for the sake of justice, have you truly lived?
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# ? Apr 16, 2021 05:49 |
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H.P. Hovercraft posted:from the old thread Lady, he's not dating someone young enough to be his daughter because he's willing to make massive changes to his home and lifestyle.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTAH if I go to work Saturday and therefore breaking a promise I made to my boyfriend. DIPAC Jesus christ dude. "Get a job, but only when I say so, and im going to incessantly bug you the whole time". Has he ever actually worked a retail or food service job where you have little control over shifts? It seemed like her manager was even accommodating her a little bit too DreamingofRoses posted:hosed up marital income distribution you say? I'm glad she made the right decision but..where is $50k a year big earner status?
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SneezeOfTheDecade posted:"I'm not going to tell you why I'm upset and punishing you, you have to figure it out yourself" is Abusive Behavior 101. Yeah the parents should absolutely just from...their daughter, who just wanted them to wish her happy birthday and is overreacting about it, before she ??? abuses them further
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Bruceski posted:"Within COVID guidelines" Over the Easter weekend, households in my country were only allowed to meet with one person from a different household, so you couldn't even bring your kids to see your parents. They also considered closing all shops the day before Easter, so that people wouldn't crowd there for last-minute Easter shopping, because that worked so well on Christmas. Churches were fully open. They were politely asked to please maybe consider not holding Easter Mass, prompting complaints from a politician how he couldn't believe a Christian country would do something like that. The Vatican also responded by telling the catholic church not to listen to this request.
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bell jar posted:Yeah the parents should absolutely just from...their daughter, who just wanted them to wish her happy birthday and is overreacting about it, before she ??? abuses them further This post (and her one in r/relationship_advice) are ones everyone should seek out and read her comments. She's a bit of a piece of work! Some choice comments: OP posted:They had 3 months to grieve and I didn’t include this in the post but I’m sick of it. I want them to focus their attention on me. My mom should be able to suck up her grief for one day to spoil me or else she’s going to lose her daughter in the future OP posted:To me, being an adult has nothing to do with it. Even when I’m 90, I still want my birthday to be all about me. It’s a day to celebrate a person and I wanted to be celebrated OP posted:I disagree and I don’t think my behavior is immature. I think my parents are rude for forgetting my birthday so I’m only giving them a taste of their own medicine. If my behaviour is immature than surely them forgetting my birthday warrants the same judgement, no?
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titty_baby_ posted:I'm glad she made the right decision but..where is $50k a year big earner status? I'm gonna give th me raised by grandparents until teenage and preyed upon by an abuser a lot of leeway on not understanding financials
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AITA for telling my cousin that she can't call herself a mother when my aunt will have to take care of her new and third kid?quote:I woke up today with my sister saying that one of my cousins is pregnant with her third child. Both her and my mother were so surprised with the news (not in a positive way), and I didn't say a word because I was prepping myself to work.
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for telling my cousin that she can't call herself a mother when my aunt will have to take care of her new and third kid? ESH, Facebook drama.
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Evil Willow posted:This post (and her one in r/relationship_advice) are ones everyone should seek out and read her comments. She's a bit of a piece of work! Some choice comments: This woman deserves every one of her birthdays to be acknowledged with "congrats on emerging from your mother's vagina, well done" just to remind her how pathetic that is
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# ? Apr 16, 2021 10:36 |
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Send her a gender reveal bomb every year.
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Barudak posted:I'm gonna give th me raised by grandparents until teenage and preyed upon by an abuser a lot of leeway on not understanding financials Y’all live near major urban areas and it shows. For reference a $15/hr wage is just over $30k/yr. I don’t think she thought he was mega rich guy but for some places, $50k is pretty well off
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The median annual income in the US is $31,000. These forums skew heavily white, male, college-educated, and urban, which is why that number might seem shockingly low.
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titty_baby_ posted:I'm glad she made the right decision but..where is $50k a year big earner status? She say's that he is 'the' big earner not 'a' big earner. Which is is compared to her as he gets paid 5 times as much.
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Irukandji Syndrome posted:Hey, sorry to drag this up from a few pages back, but I feel like I need to point out this is a really hosed up thing to say. Nobody's saying you have to stay with an HIV positive partner, and I sure as gently caress don't think OP should because of the obvious poo poo going on there, but "there is no option for a little bit of normal" is a hosed up thing to say about a super stigmatized disease that disproportionately affects vulnerable populations, some of which are already at a higher risk of suicide without reading things like "this disease fucks you up, it's too expensive to live, and you're literally never going to have a normal life". I'm gonna add support for this because I also thought that post was a little hysterical and out of pocket, but it goes to show how strong and pervasive the stigma against HIV really is. The reality is that you can, in fact, have a pretty normal life while positive these days; it's a cliche to put it this way, but HIV is not a death sentence anymore. Sure, you have to take daily meds for the rest of your life, but it's not functionally much different from managing many other chronic conditions. With proper adherence to said meds, positive people become undetectable and basically unable to transmit it to partners (I say "basically" because there's been research indicating this is the case, but I don't know if that's a scientific consensus). There's also a prophylaxis that negative partners can take to prevent themselves from getting HIV and it's insanely effective (as in I think there's been maybe one or two cases ever, worldwide, of someone becoming positive on it). Living with HIV is still a big deal, don't me wrong -- I certainly wouldn't sign up for it, and if someone isn't willing to date a positive partner, that's their prerogative. But there's a lot of needless cruelty and ignorance surrounding the disease these days because most people have seemingly not bothered to update their perception of it past like, 1993.
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Advice on How to Get More Responsibilities From My Overprotective Brother?quote:Okay, just so you guys know, I've been officially diagnosed with DID when I was 16 after YEARS of therapy. I only have one other 'complete' alter but I'm so glad I have him! I feel like without him I wouldn't know how to function at all, lol. I'm a 17 year old highschooler, currently in 12th grade with a LOT of work to do... WAY too much for me, hehe. My grades have always ever been average while his have been literally on an entirely other level, like 4.0 GPA kind of level. Even though we're twins we're complete opposites on everything too! I'm a girl, he's a boy, I'm outgoing and he's cold, I'm (only kind of) childish and he's mature. There's more but that would be boring to just list out. This person is referring to their alter-ego as their "brother", yes.
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My therapist "red alert" senses are tingling with that post. Or it's sensing something else... but we'll go with "so many things not right here".
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RumbleFish posted:I'm gonna add support for this because I also thought that post was a little hysterical and out of pocket, but it goes to show how strong and pervasive the stigma against HIV really is. The reality is that you can, in fact, have a pretty normal life while positive these days; it's a cliche to put it this way, but HIV is not a death sentence anymore. Sure, you have to take daily meds for the rest of your life, but it's not functionally much different from managing many other chronic conditions. With proper adherence to said meds, positive people become undetectable and basically unable to transmit it to partners (I say "basically" because there's been research indicating this is the case, but I don't know if that's a scientific consensus). There's also a prophylaxis that negative partners can take to prevent themselves from getting HIV and it's insanely effective (as in I think there's been maybe one or two cases ever, worldwide, of someone becoming positive on it). Living with HIV is still a big deal, don't me wrong -- I certainly wouldn't sign up for it, and if someone isn't willing to date a positive partner, that's their prerogative. But there's a lot of needless cruelty and ignorance surrounding the disease these days because most people have seemingly not bothered to update their perception of it past like, 1993. I question how much we can trust the guy who cheated on his partner without using protection to manage his medical condition properly.
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The Bramble posted:Advice on How to Get More Responsibilities From My Overprotective Brother? I think we all know what needs to happen here.... The first rule is, you do not talk about it
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GlyphGryph posted:If you can't fight a bully straight on, the sucker punch is always the right choice.
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The Bramble posted:Advice on How to Get More Responsibilities From My Overprotective Brother?
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Sunswipe posted:I question how much we can trust the guy who cheated on his partner without using protection to manage his medical condition properly. Yeah, there's a middle ground here where a responsible person can manage HIV with virtually no issues in day to day life, both in regards to illness and transmission. It's pretty crazy how much things have changed from the panic in the 80s. The pills don't even cost very much in most countries. A partner who is lying about cheating may not be that reliable, or feel much responsibility over the possible consequences to their partner if they forget to take their meds.
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Evil Willow posted:This post (and her one in r/relationship_advice) are ones everyone should seek out and read her comments. She's a bit of a piece of work! Some choice comments: this ain't reality TV
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Sunswipe posted:I question how much we can trust the guy who cheated on his partner without using protection to manage his medical condition properly. Right, the actual Reddit post has a ton of red flags and I would absolutely walk away from that situation if I were in it. There's just no need to melt down about how "there is no loving way this [e.g. HIV] can be normal" or whatever that other person replied with.
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# ? Apr 16, 2021 13:44 |
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Lobotomy has been considered an inappropriate way to handle mental disorders for a long time
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The Bramble posted:Advice on How to Get More Responsibilities From My Overprotective Brother? That... kinda sounds like she's getting the therapy she needs and is improving? "I'd like to take more of my life back, and I'm working up the nerve to ask my alter-ego" kinda sounds like the kind of slow, studied renegotiation of habits and boundaries that talk therapy is supposed to get you to. (It also sounds like how you would solve this disease that doesn't super exist in reality, in a world with comic book logic, but eh.)
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The Bramble posted:Advice on How to Get More Responsibilities From My Overprotective Brother? I thought the whole "we're 2 separate people" thing for multiple personality had been completely debunked. I don't know why any real therapist would indulge the whole "talk to your other side" thing.
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pentyne posted:I thought the whole "we're 2 separate people" thing for multiple personality had been completely debunked. I don't know why any real therapist would indulge the whole "talk to your other side" thing. *Blazing Saddles chorus* a quack therapist???
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The Bramble posted:The median annual income in the US is $31,000. These forums skew heavily white, male, college-educated, and urban, which is why that number might seem shockingly low. I thought it was at least $45k, but I may he thinking of the mean. I guess my view is also colored from living my whole life in California
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titty_baby_ posted:I thought it was at least $45k, but I may he thinking of the mean. I guess my view is also colored from living my whole life in California I always heard $40k for the US, but it wouldn't surprise me to know it's actually dropped in the last 10 years.
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pentyne posted:I thought the whole "we're 2 separate people" thing for multiple personality had been completely debunked. I don't know why any real therapist would indulge the whole "talk to your other side" thing. I think in this case the point is to start with that and then move on from there, not just laughing in the kid's face and telling them their mental problems are fake.
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pentyne posted:I thought the whole "we're 2 separate people" thing for multiple personality had been completely debunked. I don't know why any real therapist would indulge the whole "talk to your other side" thing. Debunked isn't even the right way to put it. "Multiple personalities" was an early way to describe bipolar disorders. You'd have a patient who was sometimes happy and aggressive, but would sometimes be sullen and withdrawn and apologetic for their behavior. And only those extremes. And we didn't have the brain chemistry knowledge to understand what caused it. Fiction, like books and movies, gave us the model of multiple personalities being more literal and conflating that with delusional disorders. And fiction further conflated that with hallucinations, just giving the generic grab bag "crazy" person who thinks they're someone else, and acts like everyone around them is part of the delusion. But actual psychiatrists weren't thinking it was two minds in one brain, ever. What this poster is, is a highly suggestable teen who found some story that helped them deflect the stresses of their life.
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ikanreed posted:What this poster is, is a highly suggestable teen who found some story that helped them deflect the stresses of their life. Yes, maladaptive coping strategies are a problem that can be helped with therapy! Imagine that.
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