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WIBTA if I tell my daughter I won’t financially support her if she moves in with her boyfriend at uni instead of sticking with halls?quote:I, (43F) have an exceptionally smart daughter (19F). She has been accepted into 5 of the most prestigious universities in the UK, and has chosen Edinburgh to study politics at. Of course, we are all delighted. From a very early age we have pushed for her to strive for excellence, and not going to university wasn’t really an option. Some people may disagree, but us as parents truly feel like this is the best for her. Why is the daughter in Danish boarding school? Well, from the comments ... quote:My daughter had a severely abusive boyfriend at the time, who luckily has and is continuing to be dealt with the crimes that he did against her. Said ex boyfriend accused my husband of sexual abuse against my daughter, as ex bf wanted to get my daughter pregnant and for her to move in with him when she was 16 and he was 20. There were messages to prove this, and my own daughter told this to the police. That night after the police came, even when my daughter denied the sexual abuse claims to them, (and still does to this day) there was too much tension and we decided she should be better somewhere else instead, such as my parents. She left British school (she was doing her A Levels) and worked full time for 6 months, before moving to Denmark the next academic year. She said that this helped build character and knows she wants a further education so she doesn’t have to continue in a dead end job.
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# ¿ Feb 16, 2020 22:21 |
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Darkhold posted:I'm sorry to go back six pages (hey I've been busy and I'm behind) but I'm surprised my wife got a job that I don't know about.
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# ¿ Feb 17, 2020 17:07 |
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quote:Other detail, I have weird upper body joints. Mostly wrists and fingers. A small pressure on my index finger and the tip goes back almost touching the back of the hand. Same with my wrist, even if less accentuated. A small pressure and it bends too much. This, of course, isn’t painless, but it never caused much problems since there are no many occasions in life in which my wrist/fingers are subjected to that kind of pressure.
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# ¿ Feb 17, 2020 18:07 |
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quote:She pushed me out of her house and told me not to come back unless I squeeze my own oranges because she is old and can’t do it for me. It is about the juice. It is specifically about the juice. It is about the nana not caring that the poster injures themself when making juice.
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# ¿ Feb 17, 2020 19:24 |
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I spent some weeks (family reasons) in the state where I grew up, Indiana, and I didn't realize how Southern the vowels were until I'd been away for decades.
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# ¿ Feb 17, 2020 19:30 |
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Ugly In The Morning posted:Most embarassing is when you say “ow!” right before you walk into something... and then that thing moves and you don’t run into it at all. I’m not even midwestern but I’ve done that a fair bit.
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# ¿ Feb 17, 2020 22:17 |
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JacquelineDempsey posted:If my husband had forced me to binge Smallville or Heroes, or gave me a crappy soundtrack of CW show songs, he'd be living somewhere else right now. At least Highlander's theme music is by Queen.
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# ¿ Feb 19, 2020 05:03 |
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I'm [F22] in love with my best friend [M26], he won't leave his loser GF [F24] for me.quote:I know the title makes me seem like a bitch but I couldn't think of another way to summarize it in one go. We'll call him Dean and we'll call his gf Helen. quote:He doesn't want that. I've asked/sent nudes. He asked me to stop immediately or he would cut contact. As the coup de grace, he shows up as the top-voted comment to her post quote:L, you linked me to this post so I could understand you better and now I do. I love my girlfriend more than life in itself. I've been with her for five years for a reason. Not because of what she can offer me financially but because of who she is as a person. That's what matters to me. I'll work 3 jobs if it means keeping her. For example, she once spent 2 hours travelling in the rain to bring my sick Mom some homemade soup. Money doesn't buy that kind of heart. I never told you that story because you would get emotional and angry with me for even bringing up my girlfriend. The carnage is over at u/ThrowRA-Ihateherguts
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# ¿ Feb 20, 2020 18:38 |
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Serephina posted:Fuckin' hot diggety, that's amazing. Also gently caress you for finding that first, your AwfulPoints must be going through the roof! Thank God we don't do karma.
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# ¿ Feb 20, 2020 19:37 |
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Whoo! Person hears criticism, behaves reasonably, apologizes, and everybody's good. Are we really sure this is AITA?
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# ¿ Feb 20, 2020 20:19 |
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Dazerbeams posted:I’m trying to imagine what a legit 1k food budget would look like on a two person household. They’d both be morbidly obese at the very least, right? Unless it’s just huffing spices. I've been making a list of Top Answers to Reddit Questions. Please add your suggestions. 1. Yes, that's abuse. You are being abused. Here is an abuse hotline. 1b. It sucks that you're under [legal age in your state]. Start preparing to leave at 18. 1c. Yes, you can move out of your parents' home. Here are the documents you'll need. Here are some financial hints. 2. You can break up any time you want, for any reason. You don't have to put up with somebody you don't like any more. 2a. That may be "just the way they are", but "the way they are" is an rear end in a top hat. 2b. Just because they depend on you doesn't mean you have to keep supporting them, emotionally or monetarily. Arsenic Lupin fucked around with this message at 16:57 on Feb 21, 2020 |
# ¿ Feb 21, 2020 16:31 |
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Has that come up more than once?
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# ¿ Feb 21, 2020 16:37 |
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Dienes posted:Hahahahaha, no they loving won't. For every example of police doing this, there's a dozen where they outright refused. My friend is going through a divorce and just wanted to go pick up her cats. Her ex-husband acknowledged the cats were hers in an email and said if she showed up on 'his' property (they were both on the lease) he'd shoot her. Cops refused to escort her to the house to get her cats because 'we don't handle civil matters, ma'am.' Excellent point. I don't know why I violated the ACAB axiom.
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# ¿ Feb 21, 2020 16:56 |
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In the US, we aren't more than a couple of generations removed from women complaining about their husbands and ending with "At least he's a good provider." Like, as long as the household finances are doing okay, you put up with it. Re marriage, when we were in college a friend was checking the local records at the town hall (he was that kind of guy) and came back to the computer room and congratulated an older friend on his marriage. The older friend glared and said, "Oh, great, now we're going to have to tell our parents." Respect.
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# ¿ Feb 22, 2020 18:41 |
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AITA for not telling my partner that I selfpublish romance novels of questionable quality?quote:Partner (m35) and I (f32) have been together ca. 7 months. It started casual and got domestic quickly, in a good way. I'm a part-time teacher, he's in admin (government job), but he studied art history. He knows I write on the side and would love to publish my passion project but it's not commercial - weird, experimental literary fiction. He's supportive, we talk a lot about art, his photography and oils, my novel.
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# ¿ Feb 23, 2020 16:50 |
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Also, there's no evidence that the novels are "of questionable quality". They aren't her experimental art, but they're questionable only if you go by the standard that creating popular entertainment is inherently contemptible.
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# ¿ Feb 23, 2020 17:29 |
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Yup. Something they did, not something they are. But if you're white, step off black women's hair, because there's a long painful history of white people being asshats about black women's hair, including regular requests to touch it.
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# ¿ Feb 24, 2020 17:16 |
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TheKennedys posted:I've wondered about this, I see black women with gorgeous hair all the time and I always want to tell them how much I love it (I would never touch someone's hair unless I had that kind of friendship with them) but I never know if it's over the line as an Extremely White Lady. =/ E: You wouldn't have heard of people asking to touch black women's hair unless you read accounts by black women. It's way too common.
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# ¿ Feb 24, 2020 17:59 |
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Danaru posted:Maybe just listen dipshit, your wife is sharing something deeply personal and you're like "BUT HOW DOES THIS AFFECT ME, THE PROTAGONIST OF THIS MARRIAGE"
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# ¿ Feb 24, 2020 20:31 |
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luxury handset posted:"cripes linda, i know that a multi-faced rat appeared in the mirror and told you that you were the reincarnation of a celestial being doomed to end humanity in terrible woe and fire, but can't it wait until friggin halftime???" About suffering they were never wrong, the old masters.
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# ¿ Feb 24, 2020 22:07 |
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Chomp8645 posted:Maybe he did say "you're pretty smart" Somebody in the comments said they'd misread it as that, and she said, yeah, if he'd said that, she'd have been delighted. And there would be no reason for the manager to chuckle if he'd said that.
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# ¿ Feb 25, 2020 00:35 |
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AITA for making my graduate student walk upstairs after knee surgery.quote:I am an assistant professor at a university with an office on the ninth floor of a building. I hold regular meetings with graduate assistants, and they are expected to attend unless they have a really good excuse. Failure to attend results in less involvement in research projects. This system is common here, and I must abide by it to maintain the respect of my department. Her: uses the phrase "dick move" WHO IS THE REAL VICTIM HERE
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# ¿ Feb 25, 2020 20:56 |
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Xenocides posted:I want to believe this moron just killed any chance of becoming a full professor.
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# ¿ Feb 25, 2020 21:47 |
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Xenocides posted:They said they are only an assistant professor. I doubt it. Whoops! Yeah, no. And I'm betting the department chair has already marked them down as "total rear end in a top hat, do not extend contract".
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# ¿ Feb 25, 2020 21:51 |
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pentyne posted:It's because of the Daughters of the American Revolution. Yeah, there's an association of Jefferson descendants who have gotten pretty ugly about it over the years, including many of them refusing to acknowledge Hemings children even after the DNA results came in. Hemings descendants aren't allowed to be buried in the official Jefferson descendants cemetery, for inst.
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# ¿ Feb 27, 2020 21:44 |
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My father-in-law, whom I loved and respected, genuinely believed that the South would have abolished slavery if left to itself for a couple of generations. I smiled and turned the subject.
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# ¿ Feb 28, 2020 07:10 |
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large_gourd posted:never even heard of somebody attempt at a polyamorous relationship in real life. people have talked about it and posted about it online, but never known anybody to go past that. i think it's mainly an internet thing. i'm sure it happens, i mean that's documented in cases like cults and all that, but i think it's probably something like a few hundred people getting signal boosted. Two different people I know are in (separate) polyamorous relationships and have been for years. And yes, I've met them in person.
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# ¿ Feb 28, 2020 19:18 |
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Luxury Tent Carpet posted:I don't think I've read a single instance of someone deciding to 'open up' an existing monogamous relationship and it not end in total disaster. That's what all the poly people say on Reddit when somebody shows up and says "my partner wants to cheat and call it poly".
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# ¿ Feb 28, 2020 19:29 |
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AITA for ‘ruining’ my sisters life by allowing her fiancé to look through photos of her in her wild college days?quote:My sister is 31 and is engaged. I’m 27 and her younger sister. We didn’t know her fiancé or really had time to meet him properly and get to know him so this past 2 weeks we’ve all been on a family vacation getting to know each other. the photo was of her sister giving somebody a blowjob in a club
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# ¿ Feb 28, 2020 19:49 |
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Worse. He was loud and obnoxious and complaining all the time about things like he didn't enjoy the Oscars with no host and he was losing the betting pool. Then he was furious that GREEN BOOK won, his friend disagreed, and he told the friend that his friend only liked GREEN BOOK because friend was a fatass and there was a cake in the movie.
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# ¿ Feb 28, 2020 20:44 |
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The update really makes this one. AITA for interrupting a eulogy? quote:Title sounds way worse than it is. So I have a cousin, let's call him Joe. Me and Joe are about the same age, and we've always clashed. I'm the kind of guy who works hard, and I struggle to afford rent each month, while Joe's always had everything handed to him in life. He inherited a relatively successful bakery from his dad (my uncle, who died when we were 18), and he's never short of cash. He owns a yacht. I buy my clothes in charity shops, even though I work two jobs. He also has this real superior and arrogant attitude because of it. But you weren't supposed to tell me, the clearly right person, I was an rear end in a top hat.
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# ¿ Mar 2, 2020 16:52 |
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AITA for grilling steak in my vegan daughters frying pan?quote:My daughter is a vegan, I dunno how or why shes turned out like this but because of snow flakes I now need to adhere to pointless rules. She says that she doesnt want meat cooked in her special frying pans which she bought especially. I came home the other night with a rib eye and some veal. All the other pans were dirty and I seen hers and cooked the rib eye in it and she came down stairs and went crazy. I told her that i didnt raise her this way and as long as shes living under my roof Ill do what I want with out having to answer her. She kept giving me back chat so I through all her vegan poo poo in the bin and told her that this isnt the way the Goldsteins live. She called me a fat oval office and stormed out. I was so mad and shes going to get a telling off when she comes back. Before I tell her off i just want to see if anyone else thinks AITA? AITA For being mad at my brother who just decided to get married one month before me? quote:Brother is getting married the month I was going to and I’m not very happy about it "I chose not to make any plans but my brother's plan conflicts with my unspoken plan. He's the jerk, right?"
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# ¿ Mar 2, 2020 19:50 |
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Better Than You posted:Someone call CPS Throwing out all the vegan food is a dick move regardless. Anyway, mods have deleted it because they think it's a troll. And the person who posted about their wedding date has self-deleted.
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# ¿ Mar 2, 2020 19:59 |
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FormaldehydeSon posted:lol well I mean it's obviously a troll On r/relationships I tend to go with Poe's law.
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# ¿ Mar 2, 2020 20:08 |
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Hobo Clown posted:AITA: I asked my wife why she was putting a headband in my glove box
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# ¿ Mar 2, 2020 21:18 |
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Sandwich Anarchist posted:Every recipe for everything should be by weight. A scale doesn't lie. Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not cancelling Disney trip? They shut down the fricking Louvre yesterday. This is not a good time to plan visits to amusement parks. Arsenic Lupin fucked around with this message at 20:49 on Mar 3, 2020 |
# ¿ Mar 3, 2020 20:46 |
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don't hit me, double post
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# ¿ Mar 3, 2020 20:49 |
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I did Botox for migraine, every 90 days, for about a year. Most of the shots go into the hair-covered parts of the head and into the neck and shoulders, but there's a line straight across above the eyebrows. Yes, my eyebrows did get immobile immediately after the shots, but that continued to wear off each time. It did (of course) diddly-squat for laugh lines, nasolabial folds, and so on. Didn't help with the migraines, so stopped. Can still wiggle eyebrows just fine. Partner (27M) has high sex drive that's making him miserable. Am I (26F) his only solution? quote:We've been together for six years. Have two kids (one is five, the other is two). I'm currently on antidepressants and have the IUD. You don't understand. I Haaaaaaave to have sex or I will take it out on you! And, no, it has to be the right kind of sex. Not that kind.
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# ¿ Mar 6, 2020 16:43 |
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Leaving aside all the healthier-than-thou poo poo, carrot cake isn't actually healthy. Leaving aside the standard cream-cheese frosting, carrot cake is full of oil and sugar; the fact that there are also carrot shreds is beside the point. The first recipe I found on a casual Google, which makes one nine-inch two-layer cake, has four eggs, 3/4 cup oil, 2 cups of sugar, plus 8oz cream cheese, 1/2 cup butter, and 2 more cups of sugar for the frosting. I've always found it funny that carrot cake is the default "healthy cake" because in fact an angel-food cake is much, much healthier.
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# ¿ Mar 7, 2020 20:39 |
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ad090 posted:AITA for letting my ex in-laws take my kids on lavish vacations that my step kids never get to go on? The step-kids are the father's step kids, but they certainly aren't the grandparents' step-grandkids; the families were blended when the children were already teenagers. This is really a hard one, but some expectations need to be laid down. Someday there will be inheritances, and the step-kids won't share those, either.
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