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My child goes to school with a Moreblessings and a Godwilling in their class - not that uncommon outside Anglo countries for people to name their children after positive thoughts. Think Goodluck Jonathan who was the president of Nigeria for example.
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My five year old daughter beats me two games out of three in memory (the flip over two cards and you keep the pair if they match) despite me playing cynically (never turn over a new card for your second turn, try and distract, sledge like an Aussie etc) but her mum refuses to play with our daughter any more because she is beaten about half the time no matter how hard she tries. If you get it in your head you should beat someone, it seems hard to take to be beaten.
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huh, we always had gifts from each other (ie , from bro to sis, from dad to sis, etc) wrapped up under the tree weeks out from Christmas, Christmas eve we would leave a bottle of beer and some cookies and carrots out for Santa and then Christmas morning we would wake up and Santa had left each of us siblings a pile of toys each near the Christmas tree. e) and because we were afraid that if we let on that we new Santa was fakee, then the "Santa" gifts would stop so we always pretended we didn't know and consequently never rushed to ruin the moment for our younger siblings (like I assume we would have - being little bastards and all that). Electric Wrigglies fucked around with this message at 18:01 on Dec 7, 2020 |
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I can say as someone whos partner gave birth in two different countries not the US or Australia - it is very common that no one other than medical staff are allowed in the theater for a lot of births. Very businesslike health professionals that expect absolute faith on behalf of the patient in their skills. Maybe it is not very sensitive (I think a bit old school) but I also did not see in those maternity wards any of the "who is in the theater during birth" drama play out like what I seen with my sisters and some of my mates in Australia.
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Dec 12, 2020 14:50
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Gerblyn posted:It's not just the birth though, it's the whole period from check in until discharge he's being excluded from. I guess how long that is varies based on location and the circumstances of the birth, but he might not get to see his baby until 2 days after the birth, which I think might be a bit much for anyone. Yeah, that's pretty wild. I would lump it but would also be quietly very disappointed to be down the order enough that I had to wait days to hold my newborn.
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Dec 12, 2020 15:09
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graventy posted:Particularly when skin color really only works as a sign if you are white as hell, and I don't really think eye color would tell you much of anything. He was prepared to hate those kids from day one. I don't have a lot of respect for men who abandon women, particularly if he's not willing to take the easy step of getting a test done. I don’t think there are too many sub-continent / Filipina relationships the end up with blue eyed babies - except OPs of course but he got outside help.
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Dec 12, 2020 21:28
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:On the one hand, yes. On the other, you should never wake up someone working a night shift unless their life is literally danger. Yeah WTF waking up someone on N/S and making them clean it up there and then because they left a bottle in the freezer before falling asleep? That’s how incidents at work happen.
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Dec 13, 2020 00:18
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA Boyfriend and mom putting cereal in baby’s bottle What is the fascination with overestimating how fat babies and children need to be? It is not even guesswork any more because baby center or your child's pediatrician will tell you what the healthy milestone weight ranges are for kids but people still make an assessment based upon what they see and feel should be. Then to go and feed additional and different stuff behind either parent's back is beyond the pale.
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Dec 14, 2020 18:34
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tactlessbastard posted:Yeah but 'your marriage is fraudulent, you're living in sin, we've kept our silence long enough...' are such oddly specifically lovely ways of being mad with grief that I'd wash my hands of the whole lot I think the "they are living in sin" is an uncharitable way of looking at it and think of it more as "we will pay/help to have a do-over, we will all consider the do-over as the actual day and then you can remember your marriage as the celebration of union of two people - not as the ceremony where Jan and John's child drowned and that you remind everyone by showing photos of the lake that we dragged a dead child out of each anniversary of his/her drowning".
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for saying that on girl's trips, my lesbian friends can bring their girlfriends, but my straight friends can't bring their boyfriends. Eh, they are better off just realising that time moves on and doing trips with their partners (maybe even in groups of partners) is the future rather then trying to force a repeat of obviously what was a pretty good time in the past. The couples (gay or otherwise) are still going to pair off a significant amount of time I would have thought which takes away from the all for one and one for all nature of group trips. There is a number of countries that don't have much covid so I suspend belief and assume these sort of stories are from New Zealand, Vietnam, Australia, etc.
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Pope Hilarius II posted:That's certainly possible but there are, in fact, 'new converts' to any sort of movement who are completely obsessed with it and turn it into a personality, especially if that movement is actually very relevant and offers meaningful insights into how the world works. People like this can be quite annoying even if you agree with them 95% of the time. The term "born again" was coined for Christians but is applicable to the behaviors of many a new true believer across the range of subjects or pursuits.
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Dec 22, 2020 15:56
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please knock Mom! posted:Her finances become your business when her focus on them starts influencing your finances. She’s brazenly making the workplace worse for the rest. She needs to go, which is the boss’ thing to deal with, but if you’re just going to assume only the things which suit your preconceived notions have happened anyway you don’t care about that stuff. yeah, snitches get stitches but hopefully the boss clues on and gets rid of the uninvited solicitation lady ASAP. I have no problem reporting or working towards the sacking of employees that proactively solicits customers or fellow workers for donations for themselves, borrowing money or to proactively plug personal business. You get enough harassment / hustle as it is without having to put up with it at work where you can't just leave or while trying to enjoy an evening out with your mates or family where you ruin the event to just walk away.
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Dec 24, 2020 14:56
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for yelling at my girlfriend and storming out after she ate food off my plate? heh, my brother is really sensitive about not sharing his plate and although it weirds me out just how much he hates it (I like being in small groups when travelling and trying each others dishes they ordered), it also helped me understand that some people really don't like to share their plate. Otherwise my bro seems to happy to share whisky, money, a room in his apartment whatever, just don't touch his food.
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H.P. Hovercraft posted:no, "write off" means that the insurance company is "writing it off" by writing you a check for the (total) value of the car, this is analogous to the term "totaled" I am not sure how you got through this much life without hearing the term "write-off" as a colloquial expression with multiple meanings well outside the original definition. https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=write%20off
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Any attempt to make the BMI more than what it is is overthinking it. It is a very rough and easy to understand rule of thumb to prompt thinking about the well established correlation between weight and health. Getting worked up whether it is correct to the nearest kilogram for West Mongolian men born before 1975 with hobbies of horse riding and European rule is missing the point. You don't have to tell anyone your BMI, your doctor will likely use the BMI as a talking point and not as an actual actionable assessment tool. Most jobs with fitness requirements test fitness with physical tasks. If a job requires a certain weight (eg seats on certain equipment are safe rated to <125kg for instance) than they don't care about your height so BMI doesn't come into it.
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Dec 29, 2020 12:55
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Skippy McPants posted:I read it as asking for a reference but looking at it again and considering the context your take is probably closer to correct. wow! I thought most people got their jobs through contacts once a few years in or even before if you don't include school.
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Dec 29, 2020 14:57
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betaraywil posted:Am I crazy that this seems like a "talk through your fairly specific problem" problem and not a "blow up your family with a trial separation" problem? Sever? No forgiveness! Only sever.
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pentyne posted:There's absolutely no way the OP clearly explained what the plan was. The vibe from doing that is "get the gently caress out of our house" and making the daughter feel like she's a guest in her own home much less trashing everything from her childhood they decided wasn't important, which was everything. What? Who expects to go to university and have a room kept for you the way you used to keep it as a high school student? Actually who goes home for more than a couple of weeks a year to visit your olds when you have left home for university and then onto work anyway. I did pack up my stuff out of my old room when I left but going through it years later it was great memories sure but all but one or two items binned rather than repack it.
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betaraywil posted:My(35m) family thinks I'm a paedophile. How do I convince them I'm not? I would hate to be tarred with the same brush or get caught defending a pedophile so I think it is just for the best if the family goes ahead and rids the streets of his filth by getting the cops involved. The cops might not believe it with just the information they have so it is going to be better if they make up a few stories about what he might have did to his cousins just to be sure the cops can convince a jury to protect the world from him.
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betaraywil posted:AITA for telling my GF we're either staying in a hotel or not going on the trip? I wonder how'd they feel if their daughter slept out on the couch. Anyway, a more sensible answer is to sleep in the same room and let the awkward moments flooooooow. What are they going to do? Call the cops?
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Megillah Gorilla posted:I would usually be sympathetic to the OP in a situation like this, but they're HR, so no. That business class budget that HR actively works on ensuring the plebs don't use isn't going to spend itself now is it? Also, ringing you from the site office set aside for corporate HR as opposed to ringing you from the corporate office without traveling to site counts as "reaching out for engagement and doing the needful" I think in HR KPI land.
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Pope Corky the IX posted:Unrelated, but this reminded me of someone I saw get fired on the spot because he just couldn't help himself from making a joke. I was a hazmat tech/safety supervisor at the time and we were talking about the PPE we needed to order. The shipping manager was concerned about wearing latex gloves because his wife is allergic and one of the other employees immediately said "No she isn't, trust me." haha did he say who he was going to spend his new-found spare time with?  Did you chew him out for discouraging use of PPE?
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Solenna posted:I would like to know the son's reaction to how badly he screwed up because that would make a big difference to me. Yeah, agree with this post. You have already paid for the lesson; with a scorched bathroom, so if it looks like the teenager has had a good teachable moment that has been taken on board then laugh, lighten up and bring it up each time the little bastard gets a little arrogant, even when he is a young adult. He is not the first 10-15 year old to play with fire and ended up with more  than expected and most learn their lesson. A bit of forgiveness now will probably mean you have a loyal nephew on your side that might pay back more than a blacked bathroom later on. You go "there can be no forgiveness" then you have tossed out the moment and burnt the potential goodwill that could have been gained.
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Sisal Two-Step posted:yes, the truly great wisdom of "don't set something on fire indoors, esp near a pile of flammable objects such as towels". This story made me recollect some things that happened in my last two years of high school - so 15 to 17 years old; -Girl smoking lights some blades of grass in school property but dry blades blew over the fence into some more dry grass and burnt about 15 acres of scrubland next to the school. She was by and large a teacher's pet that most people liked so she got a suspension. -My sister's friend was making smoke bombs while his parents were out but his mix boiled over on the hotplate and exploded - writing off his parents kitchen and keeping him out of school for six months. Pretty much fully recovered, although later went born again Christian that was also a pornography distributer in Canberra. Interesting lad. -School mate was driving her older sister to a concert; apparently got impatient and overtook in the wrong place, head on with truck, her and her sister died. -Fellow boy scout was making chlorine and break fluid bombs but it went off a bit quicker than expected, chemically burnt his face but he happily shielded his eyes so no damage there. He was a very handsome and popular fellow before and uh, not so handsome after. Still popular though. -Lad from another school helped his older brother out stripping paint from inside a boat, did not read the tin of paint stripper which warns against confined space use ~ 10 years later my mum (a nurse at the local public hospital) was happy because he had learnt how to say his first word since being found unconscious. -Mate on the school bus was throwing matchbombs but one bounced back at him and blew up next to his eye, partial damage to his eye but fairly lucky all in all. -Another school bus fellow student ditched a frozen orange out of the bus at a lolipop man, old mate ended up in hospital and the offender out of school. Probably does not surprise anyone to find out he became a jockey. -Mates of mine worked out the computer room window locks could have a matchstick put behind the latch so it seemed locked when it wasn't - stole about 30 computers that weekend but left one mouse at his house when the police come a knocking. One of them did actually get kicked out of home for this so went to live with his sister and I never heard from him again. Then you have your normal garden variety pregnancies, drug ODs, fights resulting in disfiguring or disabling injuries, etc. For me, it seems like a one-off non-malicious gently caress up. Now if this is a pattern then that's different but I think it would have been mentioned in the OP.
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therattle posted:"Sure, here's your fee, and here's the bill for the ambulance". eh, you employ someone and they make a mistake in the line of their work, you have to wear the cost and if you want to prevent it happening again, you need to put in place better controls and training. Just because it was a friend that you employed, does not give you the right to treat them like a slave.
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therattle posted:There’s a mistake and there’s real negligence with severe consequences. Holding someone responsible for their acts or omissions is not treating them like a slave. Sure, but that does not include withholding their pay or unilaterally making them pay for the damage without legal action. Workers rights is littered with examples where employers decide that a worker done something negligent with severe consequences (and in this case, I note there was no severe outcome) and use that as justification to not uphold their responsibilities as an employer. E: and to the comment about contract, when you offer to pay someone to do a task, that is a contract. It does not need to be written down to count as such.
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Straight White Shark posted:contract status: breached Sure, but then you follow formal grievance process which does not include unilaterally withholding payment. Employees being diddled via "clever" use of contracts is also common as dirt. The hired caregiver obviously made a mistake, probably reflecting the lack of training or ability to fulfil the task in the first place but the onus is on the employer to put people in a place where they don't make mistakes with severe outcomes, not employ someone on the cheap without proper care and then make the employee pay when it does not work out.
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JeremoudCorbynejad posted:Ah yes I always make sure that when i ask a friend to do something and give them some cash in return, there's a Formal Grievance Procedure in place The formal grievance process is civil law or labour law court depending on the country and how far you want to gently caress up your employee for making a mistake on the job. Like the other poster said, you pay them the days wage and you don't employ an amateur for a professional role again, double so if you are not going to supervise them effectively or train them appropriately. It is that simple. Take on employees, you take on the responsibilities of being an employer and that includes accountability of the outcome of the actions of your employee.
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Sunswipe posted:Are you getting off on being wrong? Then their insurance will pay for it.
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JeremoudCorbynejad posted:If I promise a friend £20 to help move my TV and they drop and break it I'm not going to give them their £20 and then ~initiate court proceedings~ like some bollock brained twat Your mate is also not going to pay you for that TV. E) sorry, my bad, misread your post. You are right that you would not pay them the 20 pounds but neither does many restaurants pay the serving staff when someone skips out on the meal without paying so you can get away with it but it does not make it right. Electric Wrigglies fucked around with this message at 20:13 on Jan 27, 2021 |
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Play posted:Like many others, I'm sympathetic with the OP even though I don't think they did the right thing and don't necessarily agree with their positions on adoption. It's understandable but they are definitely the rear end in a top hat in that particular story. Yeah, this sounds a sad story all around on top of coming of age with the single biggest issue in their life being something that evokes very nasty emotions when you expound your thoughts on it on new people. People raised on being passionate on sports rant and rave about Tom Brady's deflated balls but no one gives a poo poo. She went off on something in similar fashion but on something deeply personal like race and origin. It is understandable and she is the arsehole but hopefully she learns, heals and lives in memory of her awful moment and never does anything remotely similar in future.
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Sunswipe posted:The correct response there was "Oh, I hadn't read the post properly. I should probably go do that before offering any more of my stupid opinions." What? Do you get off on litigating why some employers don't have to be responsible because their worker done the "wrong thing"? If an employer cheaps out and gets a mate to do it for mates rates, the risk is with the employer. If you get a consultant and it goes wrong then you sue the conultant (or come to a mutual agreement) and their insurance pays for it. At no time does MacDonalds get to say that this "was really important to me" and make the engaged person/employee pay for the damage without challenge. You employ someone to do something for you, then you are rich enough to do it properly. Pushing your want to be cheap and half arsed on the employee you hired is not on. (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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betaraywil posted:So what I'm hearing is that the partner has a medical issue and the OP won't marry her so she can be on his health insurance, and he started laying the background for why that's not a good argument, but he couldn't actually come up with an argument so he decided to talk around the really pressing need because it's "a government protection." Insurance does not require marriage for your partner - the reason given by the in laws was that they were afraid he would get a midlife crisis and leaving (as opposed to midlife crisis and divorcing, I guess). I am not sure why he felt the need to justify why he does not want to get married - no means no and that is good enough. Saying that, he should hardly be surprised or get offended when he gets quizzed on it. He should also not be surprised that kids at school will angle any sledging action they can and the non-normative status of parents is prime fodder.
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Dazerbeams posted:No isn’t good enough when your partner has serious medical issues and you both have a child together. The mother and daughter are a whim away from being made homeless. You might not like his answer of no, but no is actually good enough for anyone except his partner - she can bounce if she does not like his answer and that would be her choice that he shouldn't moan about. Harassing someone about their marital status or changing your intent to employ them, serve them, basically treat them differently is not allowed (except in some areas due to religious exemptions). OldMemes posted:If you've been with the same partner for 20 years and have a 13 year old kid, yes, you are "tied down" and the 'I don't need society's rules maaaaaan' thing is cringe. The way he writes about "meeting new people" in that context seems he's hedging his bets so that he can run off with a new partner or force a one sided poly relationship if a better offer comes along. This is the truth. He is very weird about how he words paths in life but whether he thinks so or not, he is at least committed to looking after his kids until they are adults and providing financially for his partner if he or she wishes to separate.
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Some people do get sensitive to their little ones being taught a language they don't understand themselves because it does happen that one of the parents will teach and only speak the language the other partner does not and the little one end up favouring and not being able to really learn the language common to all. Especially for those that work away such as remote workers or defense force personnel on deployment. In this case though, if I understand correctly the little one already speaks the common language well enough and they live somewhere the common language is the lingua franca so I don't think that could be the issue here.
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Barudak posted:In china a restaurant that doesn't have photos of its dishes would be viewed as kind of cheap and a nicer one without pictures suspiciously like they have something to hide. They teach chinese kids visiting america which chains to hit up first because they have pictures of food to ease you into restaurant ordering. yeah, if you don't appreciate pictures on menus, you have not pushed the boat out enough on travel or trying different food. That along with or at least the basic ingredients listed but assume you can't read the local language. Last week I had atkilt wot on inerja, chicken kedjenou, beef bulalo, poisson avec alloco et legume, sisig, beef with sauce grein and pahtaht (not sure the spelling on those but the sauce is based on pine nuts and the pahtaht sweet potato leaves), Korean bbq with side dishes I don't remember the name of but definitely some kimchee and tofu soup, sashimi/sushi, tasty arse street cooked poisson et ateki (you could just say you want fish but you will get just plain grilled fish and plain rice instead of the grilled fish with the tasty spicy onion side dish and granulated casava). Admittedly most of these were home cooked but I had tried most of these before at restaurants and there are plenty of meals that will be confronting if you just pick randomly (14 day balut anyone?). Anyway the point is photos of the above in most instances will give you a good idea of what is worth asking follow up questions in broken local language with the server. When you have an idea (and know how to pronounce) what you want to repeat on, then you go to the even more local places that don't have menus and you can try asking for what you want to see if they have it.
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Aramoro posted:
You don't have to go to a restaurant with pictures on its menu if you don't want to and evidently Invisible Clergy also thinks it's below adults to do so but I just think that opinion is hoity-toity elitism. I say that as someone that's enjoyed invite only, no menu, no prices, no bill at the time (it goes onto your host's account), individual room overlooking Nagoya restaurant eating the best sashimi of my life. I didn't think that saying that I find it useful to have pictures on a menu with unfamiliar dishes (especially if I can't read the local language or script) is useful to me would be so offensive.
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Solenna posted:AITA for not trying harder to tell my husband I was in labour? It’s pretty normal to not have any access to your own phone in work hours (you surrender your phone upon entry) where I work. If your family needs you urgently, you ring the front desk and it will be sorted. He can’t be too angry about it if he didn’t give her the best urgent call method though. Especially considering that natural birth is gonna be a sudden anytime event.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Having chickens I can't say I've noticed diet or lifestyle having anything at all to do with eggshell color lol but then again I'm not abusing any of them to anything like the extent commercial hens see We had chooks as a kid on a farm that grew small crops including red chilies. I can tell you right now one of the most confronting things I couldn't eat was eggs with yolk that was blood red from their time in the chili patch, we called them devil eggs. I don't recall the shell colour being at all different however.
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As a previous poster said, when one is 70+, it is much more likely that the old person was groomed/targeted by the younger (unless they have been together for 20 years). Pander and be a live in low cost carer on the trade off of a better life for you and your family. Same as when a distant cousin all of a sudden takes a very big interest in going down every week to the old persons home and making dear friends with the elder relative that has assets - Wills are written with presence bias just like everything else. Where I have lived previously, there is a local saying/joke of four rhyming words in local dialect that encapsulates what makes a good partner from the US or Western Europe which roughly translates as; Kind Rich Old Soon to die.
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