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some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

LionArcher posted:

Cool. Are you white? because if you are, and you're not more pissed at someone like Tom Brady (who is both clearly a worse human being and also a worse athlete) then your high horsing something that's at least partly fueled in racial biases. Kobe's legal team did what they were paid to do. And yes, it was lovely. And yes, he at least admitted fault and paid a fee. Was justice served? That feels like a different conversation honestly. But I will say if you look at his actions after the case, it appears that he was in fact trying to right wrongs. He championed female sports, put a spotlight on them and was doing a drat good job of being a coach. And now he's dead, so if nothing else your post is in poor taste, but this feels like a derail.

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wow


Anyway I've read through the thread and it's been a somewhat frustrating experience, and illustrated one of the biggest disappointments about the metoo movement for me. It was great that a culture shift was attempted towards a place where women would be able to talk about their experiences of sexual violence, but I was hoping the inverse would also be true, that we would move towards a world where we wouldn't have to, where we could discuss the lovely behaviour of men without having to preface it with a list of our personal experiences of sexual assault. But thag didn't happen and there still seems be an expectation that you either discuss these subjects with dispassionate professionalism in object terms, and if you want to get emotional about it you'd better express a personal stake or I will block my ears to your uncouth behaviour

I hope this makes sense, I'm a bit all over the place

e: also wanted to add that seeing Biden’s behaviour dismissed as "creepy grandpa poo poo" is infuriating

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some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Jaxyon posted:

I was under the impression that Joe Biden is actually pretty personable to those around him, and about as far from as you can get.

I'm not naive, I assume that every politician no matter how evil is putting on a character. But my understanding was that he had a better in-person game.

Nah he sucks. The second he's treated with anything less than absolute deference he loses his poo poo and his personable mask just completely falls off. Remember the number of people he told to vote for trump? Or this poo poo?

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Jaxyon posted:

I know he sucks, but my impression was that he's well liked in government. "Not being able to handle disagreement" is most people in power.

Oh yeah he probably is extremely well liked in government, because it's a big country club and every member is aware they're in it together against the likes of us. Not sure what that's got to do with anything, if I'm honest?

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

The Oldest Man posted:

"You ain't black" springs to mind. As does "Talk about losers."

Ah man I'd forgotten about both of these, he's so cool

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy
Yeah it seems like a big part of the reason senate republicans like Biden is his absolute dedication to staying in their good graces, generally by rolling over and giving them exactly what they want

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy
My oped about how my daughter wasn't extremely creeped out is raising a lot of etc

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Strange Poon posted:

Is it even proven she did? Last I saw some lawyers from the defense had claimed people would be looking into it and if she had there would be repercussions. If there hasn't been any actual charges or investigation or any update on if there's been any movement forward on either of them I'm going to assume it was people looking to smear her characters for various reasons like protecting Biden, scoring a retrial for a client, or whatever.

Not that it's even relevant, but no, she didn't. It was a smear concocted by Harvey Weinstein's defense team that went literally nowhere

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

xcheopis posted:

I'm sure your intention was good when you wrote this but it comes across as dehumanizing. Her name is Tara Reade and she can be referred to directly. Maybe say her name and add the other bit as a paranthetical?

This really seems like extremely nitpicky and unhelpful point scoring rather than any kind of sincere attempt to actually grant Reade some dignity or recognition, maybe leave it out?

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Kalit posted:

Holy poo poo, this thread is becoming toxic, with you being the main culprit it seems. A minor suggestion was made by a poster, while acknowledging that they were sure that the OP's intention was good, and other posters are attacking them? And you're still continuing after they came out to the thread about being raped multiple times in the past??

E: Clarified my remarks after looking back on this last page

Oh good, it's that point in the thread where we all have to specify how many times we've been sexually assaulted to decide who's allowed to set the terms of the conversation, that's always a hoot for everyone!

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

xcheopis posted:

How hard was it to just scroll on by?

edit: I don't know how many other women are posting/reading this thread. Personally, having been through many of these conversations with leftist men (and some women!) in my life, I have a lot of hesitancy in believing any man will have a "good-faith conversation" about sexual harassment and assault. My confidence that such a thing is possible will coincide with the Left being a lot more active in dealing with these specific crimes within their own circles.

It definitely seemed like you were trying to disrupt the thread using a concern troll version of "say her name" and the fact you've now launched into "everyone disagreeing with me is a man who thinks sexual assault is not big deal" is not exactly changing my mind

e: and gently caress it, you know what, I'll play by your rules: yes I'm a woman and yes I've been sexually assaulted before

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

xcheopis posted:

Good-faith conversation until even a single sexual assault victim gently asks that posters think about what they are saying before posting.

You're not the only one here that applies to and its lovely to use it to make yourself the arbiter of the conversation as though only yours matters and the rest of us are somehow being victims incorrectly for disagreeing with you

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy
e: missed your edit, Willa

Willa Rogers posted:

It's an effective way to derail the thread so that it ends up closed instead of making some tummies hurt.

Is that an honest assessment of what you think I was trying to do?

I was not intending to start a big derail with my original post, but the jump to "people are disagreeing with me, must be men who refuse to take sexual assault seriously" really gets my blood up. It's a cheap,lovely tactic and I'm pretty sure I actually posted in this thread or maybe the last one about how much I hate the whole idea that in conversations like this we all have to list our identities and experiences of trauma to be taken seriously at all.

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy
Yeah, moving swiftly on: god drat I hate Joe Biden! I hate him so much for doing this, and also everything else he's done, and will do! and I hate that things are bad enough or people are apathetic enough about this they just voted for him anyway!

e: xcheopis, please just shut the gently caress up about it now. we're moving on. please not more smarmy sarcasm

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy
Here's an edit I made back when the whole Tara Reade thing surfaced, in an attempt to bring some desperately needed levity

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Ytlaya posted:

I actually somewhat agree if I'm interpreting this right. Something that has kind of bugged me is that some people seem to view Biden being a rapist as being "disqualifying/beyond the pale" in a way that various other terrible things him and other politicians do aren't. I don't really understand why "pushed for a war with a 6-7 figure death count" doesn't fall under the same category of "this guy should be immediately rejected as both a politician and a human being."

I think it's good that people believe Biden being a rapist is irreversibly damning, but I feel like many people treat a lot of the other immensely harmful things him and other politicians do as somehow just being "a difference in policy" (rather than an irredeemable act of evil).

The short version would be that you're talking about the difference between a personal act of evil versus the indifferent day to day workings of the American empire. The Iraq war would have happened with or without Joe Biden. Tara Reade getting assaulted would not have.

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Cabbages and Kings posted:

and I personally am swayed by the "less harm for less people as quickly as possible" argument.

This is always an interesting take to me. I'm not having a go at you, but when you say this, do you mean "less harm for less [white, American] people" or do you think that if he stayed in office Trump would have come up with something to match the Iraq war and the 94 crime bill?

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

socialsecurity posted:

The implication here is that iraq wouldn't of happened without Biden?

Would Covid have happened without Trump? If you want to talk harm reduction it seems important to factor in the things a person is directly responsible for, partly responsible for, and strongly in favour of. Those are two things Biden is extremely responsible for, and more importantly two things I believe he would do again in a heartbeat.

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Sodomy Hussein posted:

you can point to any number of issues that the Biden administration has been a measurable good for people on already, in February 2021.


Such as?

Sodomy Hussein posted:

I would ask people to follow Sanders' example, who certainly isn't 1:1 with Biden on policy but through the effort of decades made things that were politically impossible pipe dreams as late as 2016 become central issues to the Democratic Party in 2021,

Again, such as?

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

generic one posted:

I’m not really sure how to interpret the bolded part. Are you merely asking if it would have happened without Trump, or are you implying there would be no difference in its impact, regardless of who was president?

The second one. With or without Trump there would still be a Cuomo, a Fauci, a Newsom, all those red state guys, but no one is arguing thy Trump isn't to blame. Same thing applies to Biden and the Iraq war.

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Sodomy Hussein posted:

I'm not going to further entertain this to turn this thread into U.S. Pol 2 just because some posters got laughed out of that one. In practical terms if you didn't vote for Biden or Trump you may as well have not voted for president at all. That is the choice in front of people who have not decided that engaging with the electoral system is unacceptable. That is why people voted Biden even when they suspected or believed he committed a sexual assault. Because the one actual alternative admitted to one on tape, and nothing happened, except that he got to mismanage a hundred-year pandemic and kill hundreds of thousands through negligence.

Electoral politics simply isn't about which candidate is without sin, it never has been.

Hey, you're the one who said it. Not sure what USPol has to do with anything, I've never posted in there. As for the rest, I'm unclear on what your point is. Do you think voting for Biden is effective harm reduction?

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

I read up until the bit where you said you've been sexually assaulted multiple times but you don't mind and you could threaten them because you were a bartender(?) and then I just started scrolling past which I assume was the correct choice

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Willa Rogers posted:


I, personally, won't knowingly vote for rapists for political office, but I can totally understand why others believe that they have to, especially when they *do* believe in moral relativism.

I don't think it's puritanical (nor is it a purity test) to make this choice for myself.

But Willa, something something Christian morality something something fifteen years old on tiktok

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some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy
E: actually disregard. I'm having a really bad day and I don't want to yell at this guy for having porn opinions

some plague rats fucked around with this message at 01:19 on Feb 25, 2021

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

indiscriminately posted:


edit: vvvvv What's your point? Cases and deaths in New York exploded and then fell and stayed low throughout the summer while the virus raged elsewhere. New York's recovery was the covid success story.

Having the highest number of cases, one of the highest death tolls in the country and being the current state with the fastest growing number of cases seems like an odd definition of a covid success story? What exactly did you mean by that?

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Harvey Mantaco posted:

This thread was really important for me to read. I feel like I've been unintentionally enabling rape culture in ways I'm horrified about in the ways I've discussed Biden. I also don't think I really understood what it meant to fully support rape survivors and stand behind the women these predators target. Thank you to the earlier posters that shared some really brave things to provide context to their posts.

Do you mind sharing any specifics? Knowing what can get through to people is helpful when we talk about stuff like this. Also I'm so internet poisoned I had to read through that twice to figure out if it was a poo poo post, god help me

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

The Oldest Man posted:

This should be considered a litmus test for one of the most important arms of the Democratic party in the country. He's a sitting executive so there are no excuses to be made about letting the voters decide, there's a pile of credible accusations, he's also an incompetent lying grandma-killer, and there's literally no chance of a chud getting in here. The only stakes are whether taking a sex abuser out of office matters more than loyalty to one's feudal party lord does. This is the lowest possible bar available to prove that Me Too was more than just a cudgel to hit Republicans with and then discard when it became inconvenient.

Yeah there's no excuse to not run him out of office so I'm excited to see him face absolutely no consequences at all

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Harvey Mantaco posted:

Bringing up Biden being a rapist with my liberal in-laws and extended family... woof

That's about the quickest and most handily this white boy has ever been dismissed. Probably a good lesson in humility. Didn't even have a chance to discuss, was just a roaring hurricane of not giving a gently caress and disengaged dismissal. Anecdotal I guess but people really just don't want to hear it.

Now imagine your family is the entire country and you've got an idea of how Tara Reade felt! Just a little something to completely ruin your morning :(

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Timeless Appeal posted:

I'd argue that there are already broader social reforms that curb future men like Cuomo or at least that behavior in men like Cuomo.

Such as...?

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Insanite posted:

Are you ready to hit rock bottom, thread?

https://twitter.com/PoliticsNYnews/status/1371451910058823683?s=20


This is more brazen, more cynical a move than anything I can recall in recent memory.

I thought I was beyond the point where anything would surprise me but this is so breathtakingly cynical they've proven me wrong

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

How are u posted:


But sure, in your hypothetical world in which it appears a rapist holds office and there's nothing more to it than that,

That is... not a hypothetical. That is the world you and I both live in. What??

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Sodomy Hussein posted:

If there's a big anti-Tara Reade culture on D&D then people should probably address and engage that, instead of just trying to zone off threads because they are "unwelcome" in D&D or whatever. This thread has often frozen people out with self-righteous screeds about how people who don't see the situation the same way as they do are disgusting and beneath engaging with. At the end of the day it's simply more complicated than that and everyone here knows it.

How the hell is it more complicated...? The problem at this point is that anyone who doesn't believe Tara Reade at this point simply doesn't want to, and you can't argue someone out of something like that. The NYT poo poo, all her transcript stuff, it was all obviously an irrelevant smokescreen from the start and anyone who gave it the time of day was looking for a way to discount her without having to do anything as damaging to their self-image as directly call her liar.

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Crosby B. Alfred posted:

My take, while I think Franken resigning was the right decision it's nowhere near what it was played out to be. Franken might be very well be a lovely old dude but I'm not entirely confident this was the right outcome.

???

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy
To my mind, it's real simple: if someone has committed multiple sexual harassments they should not be allowed to hold a position of power over others regardless of whether their current victims forgive them or how sorry they claim to be. Neither of those things matter, get them out. Calls for an investigation always seems to amount to "okay how can we stall for long enough that people lose interest while we kick up enough dust to provide cover for letting him off the hook." Once in a while let's absolutely rush to judgment, especially when there's multiple accusations and photographic evidence

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

VitalSigns posted:

How is this relevant?

I don't think that guy is coming back

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Thorn Wishes Talon posted:

To be clear, I didn't say or suggest she's lying. If you think I did, perhaps you read too much into what I posted. If you feel so inclined, you can search my previous dozen or so posts in this thread and see that not only have I outlined my stance on this topic clearly, but also that said stance does not include "Reade lied about Biden."

Why bring up Putin at all then?

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy
I think one of the worst things about how Reade was treated in the media is how unecessary it felt? If it was just about protecting Biden the mass media were free to just ignore it but the lengths they've gone to to smear and destroy her feels like it's being done as a warning to the others, a "hey ladies, this is what you've got to look forward to if you talk about what a man did to you!" Even a couple of years ago this line of thinking would have struck me as pretty paranoid but now that basically everyone in the media has been revealed as abusive creeps and psychos suddenly it doesn't seem that farfetched? Like watching actual murderer Joe Scarborough defame her was just as, well, yeah

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

PeterCat posted:

Check the date.

In my timezone it was posted on April 2nd and I was like wow, that was a close oneoooooh nooooo

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Crosby B. Alfred posted:

Not exactly true,


I don't think she was too sensitive. Franken took it way too far but not to the point of criminality.

Link


Personally, I think it was dumb, offensive but then again the 2000s were ripe with stuff like Shallow Hall and Entourage. While I don't think we need or should have any of these movies today it's important to recognize that we judge people in the era in which things occurred.

This is such a weird and bad hill to die on it's kinda making me wonder what you got upto in the early 2000s

some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Crosby B. Alfred posted:

Well, I think it's wrong to accuse someone of criminal sex acts if that isn't the case. :shrug:

This isn't just my own opinion either and disputed still to this day,

The still-raging controversy over Al Franken’s resignation, explained

Why do you feel it's so important to defend the honour of a sexual assaulter, though? The guy acknowledged his own wrongdoing to the point he resigned as a senator over it. Why are you so driven to come in here muddying the waters talking about the culture of the time and the raunchy skits she did and dancing right up to the line of shrugging it off as "boys will be boys" without ever actually saying that? Den partisanship doesn't make sense, he's already gone

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some plague rats
Jun 5, 2012

by Fluffdaddy

Crosby B. Alfred posted:

I'm not defending his honor. I think this bizarre view of binary, black-and-white vengeful morality is absolutely gross.

As gross as doing everything you can do minimise the actions of a serial sexual harrasser? I think you and I might be coming at this with fundamentally different life experiences

Crosby B. Alfred posted:

What I am saying is that his action don't rise to the level of a criminal sex act.

Why is this an important distinction to you? Even if you think he didn't break the law, does that make his behaviour acceptable to you? If something is legal, does that make it okay?


Crosby B. Alfred posted:

It's like how the song "Baby it's cold" outside is sometimes commonly interrupted as a song about rape... or was the cultural and linguistics used back the 1940s completely different and hence it's just a song about the holidays?

:dafuq:

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