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Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

Zurtilik posted:

Is there a good set of rules/tips for finding and posting content? I mean, I could just go and grab whatever is funny on the front page but I assume people have already done that or don't want to see front page crud? But I would like to bring some content back to the group on occasion.

I either look at the Top 24 hours of AITA/relationships if I'm current on the thread or sort by newest and check the most recent posts, to avoid duplicates.

AITA wanting my father's girlfriend to stop bringing laundry for me to do?

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I (18F) am living with my father (42M) full time because my mother (40F) will be working overseas for a few years. I am going to college next year anyway so this isn't a long term plan. I do some chores on the house in exchange for a generous monthly allowance.

I do the laundry and at first it wasn't a big deal but recently my father started dating Amber (21F) and she stays on our house on weekends. She is mostly fine but she started bringing her laundry every week and my father expects me to do it. I did it a few weeks but, when I realised that this was becoming a regular thing, I talked to my father.

He told me that Amber does that because laundry on her dorm is expensive and her family lives too far away. He also said that considering how much he pays me, I am in not position to complain. I think this is very rude, so my father and I have been arguing about this. He simply told me that if I don't do Amber's laundry, he will reduced my allowance.

Am I the rear end in a top hat?

# ¿ Oct 20, 2021 17:26

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# ¿ Apr 27, 2024 23:23

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for not wanting my girlfriend to dye her hair?

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My girlfriend approached me and said she wanted to dye the tips of he hair. The problem I had is that I'm not really attracted to dyed hair, and so it bothered me a little bit. Desperate to find positives for dyeing hair I looked it up and the cons definitely outweigh the pros. Knowing this and the fact someone in my family as well as a friend used to have dyed hair and they said they hated it, I confronted her and she got really defensive and started getting very angry at me. I felt very guilty because I didn't want to make the decision for her so I told her we could text this instead of getting very emotional (and potentially hateful) about it. I told her that i found her natural beauty more attractive than anything something like dye could ever do, and that i think she shouldn't change they way she looks because she's already perfect to me. After I told her everything, she said, " regardless of how the argument ends, I'm still going to do it." So, in a fit of immature anger, I said, "gently caress you." (This obviously wasn't a good idea no matter the circumstances) so she was reasonably upset so I kept trying to backtrack and kept saying I was sorry. She eventually responded after I said, "listen to me please" she asked, "what" so I told her. "I�m sorry. I just don�t want you to make a mistake that may or may not even happen. Like I always say, your natural beauty is perfect for me and everyone else, but especially me. I love you the way you are and I just can�t bear you changing." And she said she understood. This was written right after, and I feel bad. (As stated this was written right after so I'm still pretty emotional, like her so please forgive any grammar mistakes.)

# ¿ Oct 21, 2021 02:25

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for complaining to the manager about a rude cashier?

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I am a regular at a bagel shop near my home. I�ve been going there for two years now and I got to know one of the cashiers there, Brandon. Brandon was very nice and warm and would even treat me to free drinks. He made the place very welcoming. However, he recently moved so there is a new cashier, some college girl. She is nowhere near as nice as Brandon. In fact she is quite rude. She never smiles at me and just usually asks me �what would you like?� I think I�ve only heard her say good morning maybe two or three times to me and she usually just rings me up for my coffee. She is very rude, does not even bother saying hello or even smile at me. I am not used to this kind of treatment here I believe that I should get warmer service especially considering that I�ve been coming here for two years. I ran into her manager and told her about the new cashier and told her that she should be giving nicer customer service. The manager didn�t even apologize for the awful customer service she simply said that the cashier was new and that she was still getting used to the place so I should give her some time. AITA for simply telling a manager that her new staff should have better customer service?

Tl;dr: I complained to a manager about her employees rude behavior to me

# ¿ Oct 23, 2021 00:30

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

pentyne posted:

Calling yourself a hardcore Christian then playing a game with magic and demons is very much the "pick and choose" style of what religious rules you want to follow.

D&D isn't real magic or real demons, Christians can play D&D and they aren't hypocrites

Source: my christian middle school banned Magic the Gathering cards for being demonic and everyone involved in the decision was just dumb as gently caress

# ¿ Oct 23, 2021 00:47

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for kicking out my daughter after what she did?

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I have 2 daughters, one is 33 (Kasey) and the other is 31 (Joan). Joan got married a couple months ago. Joan had a hard time in life, she had surgery and got addicted to opiods at 15. She struggled through school for a while, ended up doing a crap ton of things she wasn�t proud of, but once we managed to get her proper help, she was fine again.

In context, the things she did whilst an addict were really bad. I�m talking ruining family reunions, causing arguments around the house, the works. One example is when Kasey was graduating. Joan didn�t want to go, and insisted we both go without her, but this was when she was at the height of her addiction, so we called her grandparents to watch her, and they would take 10 minutes to get to the house. She warned us that if she went she might cause a scene, but Kasey told her to just shut up and come, and she should at least be able to sit through one of the most important moments of her life.

Well, she ended up projectile vomiting all over the next 2 rows, then proceeded to break down and wail/cry because of the embarrassment. I left with her, whilst my husband stayed to support Kasey. Obviously her sister was furious at her, and when we got home, she promised Joan that when her graduation came, she�d ruin it for her.

Joan had been off drugs for long before her graduation and begged us to not let Kasey come. We obliged and told Kasey to stay at home or do something else. She was not welcome at the graduation. The graduation went fine.

There were a ton more incidents in the 2 years where she was an addict, but in the end she got clean, went to a good college, and got a great job. She�s well past her addiction now. Now, because Kasey never got to ruin her sister�s graduation, she�s been waiting for another big life moment for her to ruin. If it�s relevant, Kasey never got to go to college so that high school graduation was her only graduation.

Joan graduated from college, but only me and her father were able to go because of the distance. Now, the moment that Kasey had dedicated herself to ruining is her wedding.

Joan is often sensitive at life events, and she has some issues she�s working through with a therapist on the side. Joan thought that Kasey would be over the HS graduation issue, and Kasey pretended like she was. In the dressing room right before Joan was meant to walk down the aisle, Kasey took her aside, and started insulting everything about her. I had gone to the bathroom at this time. She called her fat, she said her dress made her look like a pathetic slut, that her husband was constantly looking at other women�s asses. She went on and on until Joan was on the ground in tears. Her makeup was ruined, no one was there to fix it, and the wedding was ruined. Joan walked down the aisle still crying.

After this, I told the family what Kasey had done, and no one�s talking to her. I kicked her out and told her to come back, because she was a vile human being who can�t let anything go. She has nowhere else to go now because she can�t afford any other house

AITA?

(original used numbers instead of names which I have replaced for easier reading)

# ¿ Oct 23, 2021 13:50

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

Sisal Two-Step posted:

AITA for confiscating my daughter's fanfiction?

The fandom was Sherlock.

It was either Sherlock or Supernatural and when she didn't bring up the characters being brothers as a reason it was bad I knew it was Sherlock

# ¿ Oct 23, 2021 14:34

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for being upset that another woman brought my sick husband soup?

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Me (34 female) has been married to my husband (36 male) for three years. In the past few months my husband and his co-worker (33 female) have become very close friends. Lately, they have been communicating over social media constantly (text, Facebook, Instagram, Discord, etc�), every time I catch a glance at his phone there are notifications from her. They travel together for work frequently, I would say he sees her more than he sees me. For the record, the travelling for work does not bother me. What does bother me is that after spending days at a time on a work trip they cannot go a few days without meeting up for lunch or some sort of outing. If the traveling and incessant communication wasn�t enough they also spend hours off the clock playing video games.

A few weeks ago my husband came home from a trip and was feeling sick. I offered to take a break from work to bring him home soup but he said he was fine. I then got an alert from our front door camera indicating movement. I checked the camera and saw that it was her bringing him � you guessed it � soup. She hung out for an hour and I only knew she was at our home because I saw her on the camera. He did not tell me.

When I came home I confronted him and we talked about setting boundaries. After everything that happened he still doesn�t understand why the soup was the straw that broke the camel�s back. TLDR, am I the rear end in a top hat for being upset that my husband�s friend is bringing him soup when I should be the one taking care of him? P.S. I only work ten minutes away.

# ¿ Oct 23, 2021 16:14

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for no longer letting boyfriend eat what I cook after he rated my food infront of my family?

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So sorry if formatting is bad bc I'm on mobile.

My (25) boyfriend Jerry (31) has a culinary art diploma. He works 2 jobs related to his field 1 as a cheft in a restaurant and 2 as a cooking constructor. We've been dating for almost 16 months now btw. I had no real experience in cooking but he encouraged me to learn and helped my skills improve so much even though he has a habit of rating every meal I cook which I find a bit rude for example.. "X meal gets 7/10 or Y meal gets 8,3/10 or even Z meal would've gotten 9/10 if the sauce wasn't so salty etc. I didn't feel great with him rating my food nomatter the score but he says he's helping me improve so..

My family came over to visit and I wanted to cook their favorite meals. Jerry sat with my parents and chatted til food was ready. He started eating and kept making comments about my choice of meals. Once he put his fork down he cleared his throat and literally started rating every dish I made by giving me 7/10 for this, 4,8/10 for this and 6/10 for this. My family were so confused and I was floored I felt awful as he kept giving advice on how to improve my "score" next time. He kept a straight face while doing. It was awkward just awkward the entire evening.

We had a huge argument after my family left and I told Jerry that he acted poorly and embarrassed me when he started rating my food infront of family. I said to him that I won't have him eat what I cook anymore. He said I was overreacting and claimed what he was was doing is just constructive criticizm and I shouldn't take it personal since the he's just used to rating his students work. I said I wasn't his dang student and he wasn't Gordan Ramsey to be heavily putting my efforts down infront of family. He got offonded and said my reaction was way over the top since he was just giving constructive criticism in order for me to make progress and said he was trying to help and that "Gordon Ramsey" comment was totally uncalled for and just a low blow to his abilities as a respectable Cheft with a respectable career. He then asked what made me think it was okay to come at him like that over few ratings. He stated he was hurt and went to stay with a friend for the night probably expecting an apology from me. AIAT?

# ¿ Oct 23, 2021 19:18

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for canceling in an appointment that was made for me without my consent?

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So, I've been seeing this guy for about a month. It seemed like he was taking things really fast, so I asked him to scale back. He respected my boundaries and things were going really ok. Today he had a "surprise" planned for me. So I said okay, that's cool. Surprises are nice. For some insight on the situation, I lost my glasses and have been without them for a while. My surprise ended up being an appointment at the optometrist. I told him I don't have the money for it, but he said he'd pay for it and would collect payments from me every paycheck. I told him that it isn't something I'm really looking into doing right now and that I wanted to leave. He kinda fought me on it, but we finally left. I said something like "I hope I don't seem like a dick for declining, I know you just wanted to help but I can do this on my own." He seemed really upset about it and gave a half assed apology that included something like "I can't believe I'm apologizing for trying to help." This is when I got really angry. He explained that the reason it was a surprise was that he knew I'd decline and if we were already there, I wouldn't want to back out as much. I found that to be really manipulative and I told him that. The thing that upset me was that I was trying to be subjective and understand that he believed what he was doing for me was kind. But it felt a lot like he was trying to take advantage of my understanding and make me feel bad for saying I didn't want the appointment. AITA?

# ¿ Oct 24, 2021 00:46

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for telling my husband to have his therapy sessions somewhere else?

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Me [F34] And my husband [M33] live in a 2 bedr apartment. He started recently attending online therapy. Reasons? No reason in particular. no losing family member, no recent traumas or accidents he just says he feels too overwhelmed with work (he works a demanding job but I won't mention it because I don't want him to be judged for it) he wanted to let off some steam and attend therapy. I 100% encouraged him and said 'go for it. However these therapy sessions have been happening for a period of 3 months. And he'd have 2 sessions in just one day. He says he found another therapist which's illogical to me but anyway. he'd stay in the bedroom for hours on end preventing me from coming in. I'm talking 3 to 4 hrs a day and Whenever I walk into the bedroom which was only twice the laptop gets slammed shut and my husband would just stare at me confused. I pointed out how rude it was to do this to his therapist(s) and he agressively replied that what's really rude is the way I barge in while he's trying to have his therapy session. He told me if I walk in one more time he will take matters into his own hands.

Yesterday I had an emergency and had to get inside the bedroom to get my pad pack which I keep in my closet. I kept knocking but he didn't answer so I walk in quietly but he immediately shuts his laptop and looks enraged then says "oh so we doin' this??? Okay" then he gets off his chair and starts lashing out saying "I'm struggling here and you don't even pretend to give a poo poo anymore!!! it's called privacy and you should respect that! NOW get out!!!". I get out and he locks the door. I was fuming at this point but managed to get my pad before he kicked me out. Out of respect I waited til his session was over and started arguing with him about how utterly bad it was of him to lock me out of the room that's supposed to be a. shared. space. between us. He said he had to lock me out because of my barging/snooping and continuous disrespect of his privacy. I straightup said he needed to start having his therapy sessions somewhere else since it's not okay for him to keep the bedroom busy for 4hrs. That's just too much!!!. He said I could go in and take whatever I need before he locks the door but I won't take all my stuff out that is not logical to me. I told him he could take his laptop and really go anywhere else wether in the apartment, coffeshop, car or even the parking lot! He shamed me and said this is his apartment too and that I was being negative and disrespectful instead of supportive and understanding of his situation

We've been arguing about it for hours til now.

Now I'm leaving this to you. Am i wrong for asking him that?.

Edit#

One I'd like to clarify that it's not everyday but multiple days a week. And two some of you here guessed what his work is and I agree that he could use some therapy and I supported him when he first started and also suggested the other room since he's a very private person and has issues opening up about whatever struggle he's dealing with. Still he thinks I'm not helping and causing him more stress and anxiety.

From the comments

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We have a joint account but he said he's not using it to pay for his therapy since he has money in another account that was dedicated for saving for a new truck but he's no longer sure about buying it.

So what does everyone think, porn or gambling?

# ¿ Oct 24, 2021 16:57

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for not giving my friend struggling with infertility my eggs?

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So for context, I (27F) have a longterm friend (31F) who is struggling with infertility, so much so that she and her partner are looking for an egg donor, she is aware of the fact I plan to never have kids and so asked if i'd donate my eggs to her instead of her getting eggs from someone she doesn't know.

The thing is, I plan to never have kids because of my health, I'd love kids personally but I know it'd be unfair to have a child when I wont be able to care for it properly and then there is the fact that there is a chance a child could inherit my health issues so even if it was simply the fact I didn't want kids i'd still be uncomfortable with giving them to her...

She is upset that I will not consider her request and has stated that I know how much she wants a child and how my eggs are not being used and how unlike me she could care for the child and that she doesn't care if it inherits health problems as she'd care for it regardless, she even threw out that maybe I just want her to be childless like me so she can be miserable too. Edit: i'd just like to state I think this was said out of frustration and anger as this has been a tough road for her with the fertility struggles, I don't think she in any way actually meant this.

# ¿ Oct 25, 2021 14:09

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for expecting my ex to reach out after I publicly failed an exam?

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I (M30) broke up with my ex (F25) of 2 years a couple days after we took the bar exam over the summer. The breakup wasn�t smooth at all and she was definitely blindsided, but I thought we were still on ok terms despite everything, and I told her I still want her in my life as she knows me better than almost anyone. We haven�t spoken except to exchange a few texts about post-breakup logistics.

Bar results came out a couple weeks ago and she passed, while of course I failed (which makes sense; she was always a better student than me). Our state releases bar results publicly so everyone in our class knows who passed. I texted her a congratulations message the same day the results came out, but I never heard anything from her and honestly it hurts. A lot. I can see her on FB congratulating people on passing and supporters others who failed, and I know it�s unfair for me to feel this way but I was expecting at least an �I�m sorry you didn�t pass� text. Anything besides total silence.

But on the other hand, I�m the one who ended things with her. I�m the one who broke her heart and said I wasn�t in love and didn�t want to be together anymore� But I still can�t process the fact that she didn�t respond at all to such a devastating thing happening to me. I know it�s selfish and immature but I can�t just turn my feelings off.

I typed up my thoughts in a long letter apologizing for hurting her but also saying that I was hurt by not hearing from her after I failed. She told me that she needed time after the breakup before she wanted to speak with me again and I�ve tried to give her space. It�s just embarrassing as hell to fail the bar and it�s magnified by feeling embarrassed about getting radio silence like this from her. I�m a 30 year old man flailing in my feelings.

Am I the rear end in a top hat here for feeling this way? Am I the rear end in a top hat if I send the letter? Am I having some breakup regret? I believe that if the roles were reversed then I would at least check in on my ex in a situation like this, but I know not everyone feels that way. And I know it�s unfair for me to put that expectation on her. I�m just spiraling and could use some perspective.

# ¿ Oct 25, 2021 18:15

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for getting noodles despite my wife's disapproval?

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Though I personally disagree with my username but I'll take whatever judgement comes out of this.

So, ready to eat noodles are officially banned from our house by my wife. Her argument is that since she cooks for me and the kids healthy and fresh meals daily then there's no needs to waste money and eat frozen foods. Also she says frozen foods are unhealthy and for single people only.

The kids and I love eating noodles. Yes we eat it outside the house but eversince I lost my job I've been required to stay home to help with our youngest son. My wife reacts very negatively when she catches us with any noodles products inside the house. To her that's offensive and disrespectful to her.

Yesterday I was in the bedroom scrolling my phone when my 13yo son walked and offered me Maggie cuppa mosala noodles in exchange of the new wifi password since he was grounded and had no internet access. I agreed but only for him to use the internet for just 1 hour and thats it. I entered the password and logged into our wifi network in his phone and then he walked out. But my wife clearly caught him and brought him back to me to ask why I gave him the wifi password. She immediately spotted the noodles cup before I got to hide it. She gasped and got all dramatic yelling " wtf what are you doing with noodles on my bed!!!!?" Like she caught me in bed with someone not something!. I played along and told her this wasn't what she thought was and she went off on me calling me an rear end in a top hat with no sense of responsibility nor respect for her and encouraging our son to disrespect the rules and evade punishment. I defended myself saying she needed to loosen up on those strict rules because it's just noodles!. She kept yelling after I refused to surrounder the noodles and insisting on eating it regardless of what she said. She changed the wifi password and me and our son were denied access for the next 3 days. I called her ridiculous for punishing me as if I was a kid and over some noodles. She descirbed my behavior as childish and that I made our son evade punishment by giving him the password despite telling her he was the one who offered me noodles. She responded this is why I'm "being punished too".

She's been treating us with silence after this and acting passive aggressively when I try to discuss the matter with her.

AITA or is she being unreasonable?

Wife is weird about the noodles but also I hate when people focus on some irrelevant point and pretend that's the entire problem. Actual problem is not the noodles, it's you taking bribes to let your kids out of punishments.

# ¿ Oct 30, 2021 16:46

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for refusing to get engaged until he gets divorced?

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My boyfriend of three years has been married twice before, which is fine, I knew that going into it and the divorces were for fair reasons on both sides.

Legally, he is still married to his last wife. They separated over a decade ago but never got round to signing the paperwork.

We have a child together and another on the way and he keeps bringing up the subject of engagement and marriage with me. I have told him in no uncertain terms that my answer will be a resounding 'no' if he hasn't finalised the divorce when he asks me. He's very hurt and says he really wants to marry me. I've said ok, get divorced then. It's bad enough that I've spent three years with a man who is technically married to someone else - the idea of being engaged makes me sick. I told him as much and he was quite upset.

I've spoken to a few close friends about this and I'm getting mixed opinions. Some have said it is downright disrespectful that he is still married, while others have said I'm being petty and immature. My argument is, I'm not going to commit to marrying a man who doesn't respect me enough to get a divorce.

So, Reddit - Am I the rear end in a top hat?

# ¿ Nov 6, 2021 19:56

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

Read the story and take a guess before looking at the spoiler, I guarantee you will be wrong

AITA, for covering and holding my nose because of the smell of my dad�s oatmeal?

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Me (14) and dad is ( 54) and very strict. He likes joking around much, so it�s hard to tell if he is joking around or not. Recently, I started covering my nose because of the smell of my dad�s oatmeal or his breath after he ate his oatmeal, at first he didn�t get mad about it, but recently he has.

So, today after I brushed my teeth and went down, to eat some breakfast he then came downstairs. Seconds later, he farted then after I finished eating, I came up to use the bathroom but then I started covering my nose because I thought the fart would smell. He then seemed kinda angry and said �why are you covering your nose�? I then said because he farted it and I covered my nose in case it smelled bad.

Then after he dressed up he started making oatmeal and as I was near the door and the bathroom he started looking at me in a annoying way then I told him to stop, I also thought he was doing it in a way to mess around with me. Also, the oatmeal didn�t smell that good and I covered my nose ( by the way I was covering my nose before) and then he scolded me about how it was �disrespectful�, which I admit it was. He asked if it � was the trash bag� and made me go take the trash bag outside (in the garage). Now, my father is very mad at me and told me �to never do that again�.

So, AITA Reddit? Also, I am sorry for any grammar mistakes or errors.

# ¿ Nov 6, 2021 22:14

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for getting mad at my dad for eating my meal prep?

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So every Sunday I spend a good solid 3-4 hours cooking my foods for the week. I workout and this is part of my process to get in really good shape. I�ve told my family before the packs of meals in the fridge are for me for the week because they usually like to order in/don�t like to cook so it�s not insane that theyd take one without asking if I didn�t tell them.

Well anyways I (21) came upstairs today after cooking in the kitchen all day to see my mom dad and younger brother eating the delicious meals I made �for the family� well needless to say I was pissed after spending a good portion of my day making that food for the week. I got mad at them and yelled about how I�ve told them countless times that�s my food for the week and now I�m going to have to waste more time the following day to re-prepare all my dinners and buy more ingredients. They told me to relax and that I have no right to yell since it�s �their house they can eat what they want� regardless of if I paid for the food. And that it�s not that hard to make more food. I just decided to not talk to them till they apologize, which I said to them, cuz I thought it was pretty disrespectful. Needless to say I got some nasty texts from my parents later about how I�m rude and disrespectful to them and after �everything they�ve done for me they deserve to have a nice meal� (they typically use the �everything we do for you argument quite frequenlty just as a blanket statement for pretty much anything they�ve done that�s there obligation as a parent)

Needless to say I�m pretty angry and I�m not sure if this was an overreaction or not

# ¿ Nov 8, 2021 02:21

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for not giving my BF 50% of my pain/injury settlement after I got in an accident in his car?

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So earlier this month I (21F) was driving my boyfriend's (22M) C5 corvette when someone ran a red light at an intersection and hit me, totaling the car. I was the the driver in the car and had no passengers besides my two dogs. I was not at any fault for this accident, there were several witnesses that the other driver ran their red light and hit me. I was not seriously injured and my dogs were fine, just shaken up. My boyfriend was upset that his car is totaled but was not mad at me, just frustrated with the situation, which I understood. (Also note he knew I was driving his car at the time, and I had permission to do so.) An ambulance was not called and my boyfriend drove me to the hospital afterwards. My injuries, though not serious, include the typical whiplash and shoulder/back pain, contusions, muscle soreness etc. as well as a busted lip that was bleeding pretty badly at the time of the accident. I was prescribed pain medications at the hospital following the accident.

After the insurance claims are filed with both parties my boyfriend informs me we should meet with his attorney for the situation and I agree. Flash forward, and it seems I would be the one receiving money from the settlement, while he receives money from the insurance to compensate for the loss of his vehicle. Knowing insurance can be somewhat stingy with total payouts sometimes, I agree to cover any difference if they do not give him at least XXXXX amount.

Now here is where the argument comes in; My boyfriend feels he should get half, literally 50%, of my individual settlement and here are his reasons why: 1) I was driving his car 2) I got his car in a wreck and now he is without this vehicle (keep in mind he has another vehicle and this has luckily not put him in a bind for transportation) 3) He referred me to the attorney I am using and its "his" attorney.

I understand where he is coming from and already feel horrible I was the one to get the corvette in an accident, but also am upset he is just NOW blaming me when he has already agreed it wasn't my fault for the accident. Also, I don't really agree he should be getting 50% when his car will be covered and basically all he did was be owner of the car and refer me an attorney? I was the one in the accident, and again it's not like I wanted someone to run a red and hit me. On top of compensating the difference, I agreed to give him 40% while I kept 60% of my settlement for him helping me with the situation and letting me use the corvette that day, etc.

However, I know he is not happy with that agreement and he keeps bringing it up. He keeps saying I am the greedy one and he thought we would both be happy with 50% and we would both "take a win" from the accident. It is definitely putting a strain on our relationship, but I just cannot agree to 50%. I feel like he would be trying to take advantage of me in the situation, and to me he feels like the greedy one. Am in the wrong? Should he be getting 50% of the settlement on top of the amount for his car?

# ¿ Nov 10, 2021 00:44

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AITA for calling my husband�s grandmother a hillbilly?

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So I�m 23F, my husband is 28M, and his grandmother is 81?F. For background, I�m Italian American and the majority of my family is from Italy. Most of my husband�s family are southern born and raised.

His grandmother loves to use a certain derogatory word for Italians (starts with D) and it makes me uncomfortable every time. I finally had enough this weekend and the following conversation ensued:

Me: With all due respect, that word is really offensive to Italians and I�d appreciate it if you�d stop using it.

Her: Well good thing we have the first amendment. You being offended doesn�t change that.

Me: I understand that, but it would be similar to me calling you a hillbilly, which is hurtful.

She hates that word being said in her presence and told me I was disrespectful and I clearly never learned manners. My husbands family is saying I should have let it go because she�s old (I didn�t grow up that way, old people don�t get a pass to be hurtful.)

AITA?

# ¿ Nov 10, 2021 21:37

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

A few short ones

AITA for not helping pay for my new girlfriends divorce?

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So, long story but I'll try and keep it short as possible. Recently i started dating a girl I went to highschool with who also has 3 kids. We've been dating for about 2 months now. Both of us live with our parents. Well yesterday she messaged me saying she has a lot on her mind and wanted to talk. So I said tell me what's going on. She started saying she's stressed out because she has no job and nobody helping her pay bills (besides unemployment) and she doesn't want to be worried about bills and money and that me doing Uber eats isn't a real job that's going to provide for three kids. She also brought up my settlement for a car accident I was in before we even started dating. Saying that me wanting to spend the settlement money on my car "doesn't sit right" with her. That she needs help financially with her divorce and paying lawyer fees because her and the husband are battling over custody of the kids. I sort of do feel like IATA because its important that she gets custody of the kids. But I also feel like this shouldn't be MY responsibility. She said dating her I basically entered into a responsibility of taking care of her and her kids and that I need to start forking over some money.

AITA for changing my garage code after having to tell it to a friend.

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A friend did me a favor and moved a package inside my garage while I was on a work trip. When I got back I changed the code, pretty much because that was the habit instilled in me by my mother, not because I had a specific concern.

Well, this friend tried to access my garage to prank me for my birthday and is upset I didn�t trust them enough to leave the code unchanged. He said I trust him to ask for a favor but act as though he�s untrustworthy. I don�t see it that way, do you?

AITA for buying my daughter a better tasting toothpaste?

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OK, this is probably weird, but hear me out.

My wife discovered 1 week ago that my daughter (14F) had not been brushing her teeth. She went completely crazy, calling my daughter insane, unhygienic, stupid and germy, and my daughter started crying. She ran to me and I sat her down and waited for her to stop crying, then gently asked her what the issue was. She replied that she couldn't stand the taste and aftertaste of mint toothpaste. I said it was fine and bought her another one which was strawberry-flavored (?) and she's happy now and brushing her teeth regularly.

Now for the TA part. My wife is now constantly accusing me of babying a teenager, that she's too old for flavored toothpaste and that she was emotionally manipulating me. I was livid and told her to stick to our son (he has always been her favorite) and to leave our daughter to me. She got very upset about that and won't talk to me or my daughter now, which is also making my daughter upset because she has severe anxiety. I don't want to apologize because there is no fault of mine, but I think I will because of my daughter.

AITA?

# ¿ Nov 13, 2021 19:37

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for not defending my girlfriend?

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One of my best friends ("Ben", M26) and his gf ("Claire", F26) invited my (M29) and my gf (F29) for dinner to meet her for the first time.

They asked her where she is from (Ben, Claire and I live in the capital of the country, GF lives in a city in a surrounding area 1 hour away. Context: in our country people from the capital tend to have a prejudice against people who live out of it. Ben and Claire are also originally from a surrounding city but they live in a fancy area in the capital now) and were shocked that she lives so far and has to travel by public transport for over an hour to see me. My GF just shrugged.

Ben and Claire have a roasting kind of humor and I'm used to it. They roasted me during dinner and the three of us laughed, my GF didn't. Ben asked my GF if she had travelled abroad, because he didn't "want to have a rich kid conversation in front of a poor person", my GF said yes, just one, and Claire said "Then you can't sit with us!" and laughed. Ben explained that he and Claire travelled abroad many times.

At one point Claire made a comment to my GF about how nice it must be not having to think about what to cook, as she still lives with her parents (it's a sore subject for her). My GF said "Yeah" weakly and was pretty quiet throughout dinner.

Afterwards I thanked her for coming and meeting my friend and she was quiet. Later on, she said she felt attacked with rude comments under the pretense that "it's just joking" and that I should have seen that she was uncomfortable and should have defended her. I know Ben and Claire were not ill-intended but I feed bad my GF had a bad time and I didn't notice. AITA?

# ¿ Nov 13, 2021 20:23

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for not giving my husband the prize I won

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My husband of 8 years is a gamer, which has never been a problem until now.

When covid hit our country (not USA) we both lost out jobs and had to eke out government payments by running up our credit cards. We're working now but we both took pay cuts and we've hardly scratched the debt.

Then I won a prize in a competition - an all bells and whistles gaming set up, pc, dual monitors, desk, chair, headset everything down to the mouse.

Thing is, the cash alternative I asked about would more than halve our debt. More like down to a quarter. Hubby wants the set up - it's more than we could ever afford to buy him, he says it's his only chance to have a set up like this.

I'd love to say yes, but the credit card debt is looming over us like the hand of doom. Our credit isn't good enough to swap to a good rate and it'll be years before we could pay it off at this rate and cost an arm and a leg.

He's been sulking for days and I feel like The Only Grownup and a Big Old Meanie but Am I?

AITA - For refusing to participate in my future inlaws' holiday traditions after they demanded I pay 7k?

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Don't know if the title makes sense but here's something context...

I (f33) have been with my fiance (m31) for 3 years. This is my first official holiday (Christmas) with my in laws since they refused to include me in previous holidays because I was just "the girlfriend" and wasn't "official". Anyways, My inlaws had a conversation with me about their holiday tradition which is a trip overseas that include the entire family. They told me that this year the plan to have a distanitation holiday and spend 15 days visiting parks, ski resorts, malls and doing family bonding activities in the spirit of the holidays. It sounded great and I was excited to be part of that but they told me I had to pitch in with 7k...seven thousand dollars to be able to go with them. My mind was blown because wtf that is a lot of money to spend on a holiday trip. For the record they're wealthy and work high paying jobs while I have a 9-5 job that barely gets me by. I said I was sorry but I don't have that kind of money. They said yes I do and brought up the money I had saved which is 10k as emergency fund for my 12 year old chronically ill son. I said no and told them I'm not coming don't count me in but they kept pressuring me saying I can't decline to be part of my first holiday with them as they planned to introduce me to everyone and more importantly this is a family tradition and I'll be disrespecting them by not coming since everybody will ask "where's Adam's fiancee?". I still declined and my fiance told me to really think about it as my son needs this trip and that money shouldn't be a problem since it comes and goes and urged me to take this "priceless" opportunity to be part of something special that his family do and strengthen the bond with them. He gave time to think but I'm not about to change my mind because it's insane to expect me, a mother of a chronically ill child to blow that kind of money on a holiday trip. My inlaws are disappointed in me pressuring me to make the right decision instead of dying on the money hill.

ETA: I just read a comment that had a really good question - The question was wether my inlaws will be willing to help in the future in case I needed money for an emergency and the answer is no from the way they talk about money whenever I'm present as if I was some gold digger going after their money...It's unacceptable.

Also the reason why my fiance keeps pressuring me to go is because he doesn't want to go alone since his family are expecting him to go and if he doesn't go then his family will start openly accusing me of dividing the family and ruining their traditions. His words not mine. This is what he said to me.

# ¿ Nov 15, 2021 00:59

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for buying a camera to �spy on my mother�? (edited to add paragraphs)

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F(15) Lately, I�ve noticed cash going missing from my room on a weekly basis. Usually in increments of $20 to $50. If it were a few odd dollar bills here and there, I would be fine with it. However, I work two jobs to make my own money. I plan to purchase a car the day I turn 16. If it�s in my room, there�s no excuse for it going missing.

I live with my mother, sister (10), and father. I immediately ruled out my father as he was out of the house the day my cash went missing. My father is a physician, he often leaves at strange hours of the night. I questioned my mother and sister. My sister denied it, and swore up and down she was not in my room. My mother was accusatory and defensive, but also denied it. I gave up on trying to get answers out of them. If they denied it, there�s no point in further interrogation. Before I get to the part where I may have screwed up, I would like to mention that I have tried other methods of circumventing this. I try hiding money, only to come back to my drawers ransacked and said money gone. Also, I used to lock my room and keep the only key on my person when I went to school. Once my mother caught wind of this, she ordered my dad to remove the lock on my door. So now I�m out of options and angry.

I logged onto my separate Amazon account and purchased an indoor security camera with my separate debit card. This wouldn�t be an issue, but when the package arrived, my mother found it, to my dismay, she also opened it, probably expecting some version of a sex toy to be inside (no, I�m not into that stuff). My mother spent a good chunk of time chastising me about my �perverted� behavior. I tried explaining she wouldn�t have a problem with it, as it�s in my room, but she was inconsolable. After thirty minutes elapsed, she found something more exciting to bitch about and left the camera on my bed. Whoops. I set it up where it couldn�t be concealed or dismantled, and like clockwork, It detected both my mother and sister entering my room. My mother was probably snooping through my drawers, looking for the giant dildo I don�t have. My sister, however, actually took a $20 bill. I showed my father the footage and he was livid. My mother had none of it and yelled at me, complaining about me somehow �spying on her�. Now, nobody is talking to anyone. My sister walked away unscathed, as that frequently happens in my family. My mother is pissed at both me and my father. But the two of us are good. He replaced the lock on my door on the condition that I threw away the camera, probably to get my mother to stop bitching, and resume her duty as neighborhood traffic cop. AITA?

# ¿ Nov 15, 2021 03:11

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA, my coworker hit on me and said he didn't want anyone to know but I told people?

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I'm working a temp job during college to help afford it, but since my next semester is a work rotation I've put in my notice at my job.

My coworker who's working there long term hit on me. He's a lot older and has kids who are like way closer to college age than he is. I said that I was more so the age of his kids and he was like 'no you're a young woman and they're in middleshchool" which was so creepy, like he was trying to argue me out of saying no. Like just knowing math 14 and 21 is way closer than (40-50ish??) And 21

I told him he was being sketch and he asked me to be discrete about it at work. I was like "oh like you were discrete?"

Anyway he was saying he was working there long term and not just as a quick thing like me. And it would be really selfish of me to flit in and out in 4 months, not even loyal to my company or team, like kids do (????? why was he flirting if he thinks I'm 'kids' yikes)

I was like "alright man" because I felt super on the spot but I thought about it later and i thought it was sketch he said not to tell anyone, like that's only something you say if you're doing something you don't wanna get caught out doing. And he was pissing me off so why would I wanna protect his secret that I didn't even want to have?

Anyway my coworkers and boss were talking about throwing me a goodbye party at a local bar and I said that I didn't want one. They asked why and I said I wasn't super hyped about the idea of drinking with (the guy) because he was tryna get with me and he had kids my age and it was just a bad vibe. And if there's anything I've learned it's that you don't go drinking with someone who doesn't get boundaries.

My coworkers were like "whaat" and I told them everything and we decided to just do a party without this guy. My manager also wanted to talk to me alone and she seemed worried he might be doing the same with other people there? I said I didn't know anything about that but I wouldn't be surprised. Because he hardly knows me from Adam so he definitely wasn't into me because of some personal connection, it felt more like he was shotgunning his shot at a random chick he hardly knows.

My boss thanked me for being honest and I went home without talking to that guy. But the next day at work he tried to talk to me alone and I kinda steered the conversation into a public area and he stopped trying to talk. A couple other times he tried to talk and stopped as soon as someone else came in earshot. He seemed upset with me and maybe this was lovely of me but I wanted no part of whatever conversation he was trying to have so I purposely stuck close to my coworkers and customers all day.

I think he might be mad because he said not to say anything and I did

AITA for telling my coworkers that my coworker was hitting on me?

# ¿ Nov 16, 2021 01:39

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for moving sharp heavy objects that were hanging above the baby's change table?

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I'm 7 months pregnant and in the process of moving into my boyfriend's place. It's a cozy, rustic cabin and he has decorated it with various found artifacts and objects like old axes, saws etc. Above the windows he has wedged into the trim multiple old circular saw blades and large old railroad nails. Yesterday, while he was tidying up, I suggested we move the saw blades and railroad nails from above area where we plan to have the change table. This made him angry and he absolutely refused saying they would never fall and I am being an irrational helicopter parent. He wouldn't hear me out and got angrier and angrier when I tried to explain that having those sharp heavy object would be a needless stress to me every time the baby was changed. I knew they would probably never fall but I couldn't get the thought of those objects decapitating or crushing our baby out of my mind and so I moved them and arranged them on the wall a few feet over by the woodstove. I thought he would realize he was being irrational but he has doubled down and completely cut off all affection toward me. He thinks it is a sign that I am going to be a helicopter parent that turns his child into a wimp. He says I have ruined a part of him and he will be packing up all of his stuff tonight.

# ¿ Nov 16, 2021 02:59

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for leaving a bra on the floor to stop my brother from coming into my room?

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Title sounds weird but I can explain.

I(18F) grew up in a very religious/Christian household. I�ve always been raised to keep stuff that�s considered feminine away from any men and children in my family. Besides my mother, I am the only girl in my family after six boys so that�s been a challenge for me.

I grew up sleeping on a bed in my parents room until I was around six. My parents then moved me into my own room since they didn�t want me sharing a room with my brothers. My brothers have always shown a little bit of jealousy towards this and seem to believe it�s not fully my room since my parents own the house. I grew up with them disrespecting my boundaries and constantly walking in without knocking. My parents usually blame me for this, telling me I should stand closer to the door when I change and shout out a warning when they open the door.

One of my brothers in particular does this at least three times a day. It was only recently when he walked in whilst I was laying in my bed and started messing with some stuff I had out. The thing he was playing with in particular was a small, handmade, cardboard robot one of my best friends made for me when I was around three. After I told him to stop he finally dropped it onto the floor and started talking to me. On his way out of my room he ended up accidentally stepping on it. I immediately got up to inspect it but it was pretty much flattened. He showed no remorse despite me trying to explain how much it meant to me. I then went to my parents but they did nothing and told me it was just a piece of cardboard. I tried to convince my parents to stop him from coming into my room but they refused to listen.

I had finally had enough so the next day I took three of my bras and placed them In front of my door. Later that day he opened the door and stepped on one of them. He just looked at me with a look of horror and walked out. A few minutes later I was called down by my parents who demanded to know why I had left my bras laying out where they�d be seen. I told them it was my room and it wasn�t my fault if he walked in there and saw them. They tried to give me a lesson on �living by the Bible� but I told them it was his fault for not knocking.

My whole family�s been giving me the cold shoulder for a few days and I�m starting to feel guilty and if I overreacted over a small toy.

AITA?

# ¿ Nov 18, 2021 17:10

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for getting mad at my father for not including me in his will?

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So I (23F) have 2 younger siblings (21F and 19M). I walked into the living room the other day and heard my dad discussing his will with my mom. He said if anything were to happen to him, all his assets will go to my mom and my brother, and my sister and I will be getting nothing.

I was pretty frustrated after hearing this and told him I don�t even need his money and he can spend it the way he wants but he needs to stop saying he loves us all equally when it�s clear he favours my brother and always has. He said it wasn�t anything like that but he�s just following cultural norms in which sons gets all the property because they are expected to take care of the parents and daughters are their husband�s property. I told him his rationale doesn�t make sense because we don�t even live in his country and nobody follows that here so why is he so obsessed with his backwards culture.

He then started saying just because he treats his daughters differently than his son doesn�t mean he loves us any less and I reminded him he was full of poo poo because when my sister and I were born he cried because he wanted a son and asked my mom if he could ship us off to his relatives in his home country because he didn�t want us. He said that was a long time ago but I told him I�m so sick of having to deal with all his double standards over the years and I hate his culture and he just shouldn�t have had any kids at all if he didn�t want to risk having daughters because we didn�t want to be born into a family like this either.

At this point he told me I�m being too dramatic and have no right to speak to him like that and my mom got angry at both of us - at me for talking back to him and at him for having this conversation while I was home (but not for excluding my sister and I from the will). I just said whatever and walked away and now we�re not speaking.

I do recognize I may have come across as greedy and entitled though. AITA?

# ¿ Nov 18, 2021 19:03

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA I went with my friend to a restaurant that was originally reserved for me and my wife.

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Yesterday was my birthday. My(30M) wife(28F) and I had made reservations at this really nice Korean BBQ restaurant for dinner. My wife is 4 months pregnant.

However, her friend wanted to hang out with her and had called her the night before my birthday. My wife said that this was a childhood friend of hers and that she really wanted to spend time with her. I reminded her that it's my birthday but she just dismissed it saying my birthday comes every year but her friend will be leaving for Germany in a few weeks. I told her that she could go after my birthday as well but she did not listen and just went to a sleepover at her friend's place.

I got really mad at her and instead of waiting for her to return home to talk things out, I asked my friend if he would like to hang out with me. He was fine with it so we spent the day fishing, grilling, hiking, and went to the Korean BBQ for dinner.

When she came home after spending time with her friend, she apologized to me saying it was an unavoidable circumstance. I told her that it wasn't a problem and that I spent the day with my best friend. She got mad that I'd take him to the restaurant that we had booked for ourselves. I said that it was originally for us but since she prioritized her friend over me, I took the person who prioritized me on my birthday. She said that I'm controlling and that I shouldn't be deciding who she spends time with.

Now she's neither talking to me nor coming out of the room. I think I went too far by telling her whom she should be spending time with.

AITA?

# ¿ Nov 18, 2021 23:18

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for not letting my son be in a photo that my daughter was not allowed in?

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I have two kids, a 16-year-old daughter and a 14-year-old son. My daughter is one of the few girls on my husband�s side of the family. He has 4 brothers, out of them only one of them has daughters. The rest of his brothers had sons. One of my husband�s brothers �Jim� in the past has made a big deal of taking a picture of just the guys at family parties. He�ll also take a big family group shot but then insists on a photo with just them and that�s often the one he hangs up in the house and shares all over social media. My daughter didn�t care when she was younger but two years ago said she felt left out and found the whole thing kind of dumb. I asked my Jim if we could stop doing the guys group shot and he agreed.

We haven�t seen much of each other since then, because of the state of the world. We recently all got together at a different BIL�s (not Jim) as we�re vaccinated and healthy. Nearing the end of the gathering, Jim asked my daughter and niece to move out of the way so he could take a photo of just the guys. My daughter said that was kind of stupid and asked why they couldn�t be in the picture. Jim said it was important to him. I asked why does it matter who is in the frame? We�re all family. Jim said he just wants a photo of the men of the family. I told my daughter to move, but then also told my son to step out of frame. Jim asked why I was doing this and I said he can�t exclude one of my kids. It�s not like he also takes a picture of the women of the family alone, he�s purposefully leaving them out and that�s not nice. After some back and forth, my husband said �Let�s just go� and we left the party. No pictures taken.

My son agreed with me and said he doesn�t find it fair that his sister and girl cousins can�t be in the picture. My husband is on our side but said I should�ve let it go for the sake of the argument. My BIL posted on FB that he was happy to see everyone but he wishes he could�ve gotten a family picture.

AITA?

# ¿ Nov 19, 2021 18:40

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for digging breast holes in the sand so I could lay down where my nephew could see them?

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I (34F) and a big breasted woman. For context my bra size is 34G, so while I'm no where near the biggest out there I am still pretty big.

So my family decided to take a trip to the beach because we haven't since any of the kids have been born. It was Me, my Husband, our kids ages 5 (M) and 7 (M), my BIL and SIL and their 2 kids ages 5 (F) and 9 (M), and my MIL and FIL. We rented an AirBnB and all split the cost.

Anyway, on the first day my MIL and FIL decided to stay in the house and the rest of us went out to the beach. After a bit I decided to lay down for while my husband was occupying the kids building a sand castle. I didn't bring a towel with me so I decided to just lay out on the sand. For those who don't know if you have large breasts and lay on your stomach it can be quite uncomfortable so I dug little holes out for my boobs to lay in. Soon after my BIL and SIL asked if we were all ready to go in for lunch so I got up to help pack our things. My 9 year old nephew saw my boob holes and asked what they were. I explained (in a kid friendly manner) and he said "ok" and walked off.

After we got back to the house my SIL and MIL cornered me in the kitchen and yelled at me for "talking to nephew about my boobs" I asked when I did that and apparently nephew asked my SIL if the reason she didn't dig holes when she laid down on the sand was because if her breasts were not as big as mine. They are mad and said I should never have dug the holes in the first place and I should have just sucked it up and laid without them. (for context both my MIL and SIL and significantly smaller chested than me). That it was inappropriate nephew was exposed to that and he shouldn't even be thinking about boobs at this age and now he is asking questions they don't want him asking (like why some woman have bigger breasts than others or what they are for or is he going to grow them when he grows up etc.)

I don't think what I did was inappropriate. I mean, I have 2 boys of my own and I never hide my breasts or bras from them, they think it's just a normal thing grown woman have and it's not a big deal. But it's not my kid so considering every other adult female in the house is mad at me maybe I am the one in the wrong?

# ¿ Nov 19, 2021 22:08

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for being angry that my Coffee was swapped with Decaf?

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So my boyfriend (28 M) and I (26 F) have recently moved in together, due to some health issues I am always tired and struggle to have energy (Editing as some people have expressed concern, I know what my health conditions are and am currently on medication from my Doctor for it, the coffee simply helps bring me up to a semi-normal level of energy when taken in addition to my medication) this has meant I end up drinking a few cups of coffee a day to keep myself up and going.

The last few weeks i've noticed that even my coffee is not helping me and i'll be honest it worried me as I thought my health was growing worse, why else would it not be helping? I told my boyfriend my worry and he told me that he'd swapped out all my coffee for Decaf as he was worried about me and how it was healthier for me.

I am currently very upset with him as he didn't even consider telling me his thoughts and instead tampered with my coffee without telling me. He says i'm being dramatic and it's just decaf but i'm wondering if our relationship is something that should continue as it just seems hosed up to me that he'd think this is not only ok to do but normal? I've told him I need to think about things which is only upsetting him and making him wonder why I don't see he was trying to do a nice thing.

# ¿ Nov 21, 2021 17:15

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA For Walking Out of a Restaurant Twice after My wife made me the 3rd wheel again?

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I (30m) my wife (29F) planned a date night tonight as our kids were at my IL's

We hadn't decided where to go and while driving my wife asked me where to go I told her that I don't care as long as it's somewhere that her coworkers don't work because my wife works in the restaurant industry and knows a lot of people that work at the places near us. This turns into the majority of our dates being her talking with them instead of me

So I tell my wife, "as long as I'm not made into a third wheel this time, I'll be happy"

She picks a texmex place and says, "I don't know anyone that works there"

As soon as we walk into the restaurant someone shouts my wife's name and a woman comes over us and tells us she'll take us. Turns out this woman is an ex-coworker

We sit at our table and my wife and her are already talking and gossiping about the things going on at their previous jobs. I wasn't mad at this point because I know that they want to catch up

After several minutes of this she left to get our drinks and my wife apologizes and says that she had no idea she worked there. A few minutes later she comes back with our drinks and her bf who is also an ex-coworker of my wife's and they proceed to talk and ignore me again

Then after taking our food orders she stays at our table and they talk for another 5-7 min instead of putting our order in. I try to join in and am ignored again

When she goes to put the order in I tell my wife "I asked for you not to do this one thing tonight" She proceeds to tell me that she didn't want to be rude and it's just small talk. I tell her that I tried to join in and they ignored me. She tells me that they didn't ignore me they just didn't hear me. (I was speaking as loud as they were) She then asks me "What do you want me to do, tell her to gently caress off?" I said "No politely tell her that you are on a date with your husband and we'd like to spend some time together" She tells me that that is rude and is basically the same as telling her to gently caress off. She tellsme to stop being in a bad mood because we're alone now and that I am the only one ruining the night. I said, "Fine then I'll remove myself" and got up and walked out of the restaurant

I stood outside several minutes until she called and begged me to come inside. Ther were a few issues with my meal which turned into another argument with her saying nothing can be right because I'm in a bad mood because she "spoke to someone." I told her that I refuse to let her make me the rear end in a top hat in this situation. She says that I'm being a controlling and this is what normal people do and that I'm being psychotic. I ask her for the keys so I can go out to the car and cool off. She tells me no. So I tell her I'm going to walk home and get up to leave. She calls me 20 minutes later asks where I am and comes to pick me up

This turned into another giant fight and her saying she's going to stay the night at her parents and that this is why her friends think I'm an rear end in a top hat

So AITA

Edit: I forgot to mention that our server's boyfriend that also works at the restaurant and knows my wife also approached the table and spoke to my wife. However, that was a 2 minute conversation then he left and didn't bother us again.

# ¿ Nov 21, 2021 18:54

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for not revealing my financial liabilities to my wife?

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I run a successful business, but I never discuss my finances and business with anybody. I've always been that way right from the beginning. I just don't like to mix work with family and friends.

So, when wife and I were dating, neither of us brought up that topic, and she wasn't interested anyway. After we got married, she concentrated on raising our children and nothing else. I take full responsibilities of our household finances, so she leaves that work to me.

Now, my business has some liabilities to a tune of low 8 figures. Regular payments are being made on time to clear the debt, plus assets are greater than liabilities, so there is nothing to worry about.

Last week, I sold one of my old vacant property to clear a bit of business debt, and I informed my wife the same before doing so. She then casually asked me how much debt we are in, and I told her that she doesn't need to know because that's not her responsibility, but she was adamant that she needed to know. She feared that I was hiding things from her.

I told her that she doesn't need to worry about our finances as long as I'm putting food on the table, and she freaked the gently caress out and started to cry.

This is the reason I don't mix work with family.

She calls me an rear end in a top hat for putting our family in jeopardy.

# ¿ Nov 21, 2021 22:44

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for refusing to take in my ex�s purebred dog, resulting in the dog going to the pound and getting adopted out almost immediately?

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In the final 2 months of our 3 year but quickly dissolving relationship, my ex bought a 2 month old purebred Labrador retriever puppy to the tune of $1200.

For the sake of clarity, we both knew our relationship was in the end stages but neither of us were ready to deal the final break. We talked about the dog and I was fine with it, but she would pay for it and everything associated with it was in her name. We also had 3 cats that I adopted from the local APL, they were all in my name and I paid for their care and so on. Tl;dr: dog was hers, cats were mine.

The cats were absolutely terrified of the dog which hastened the end of our relationship, the cats came with me and moved out. Overall amicable separation, but we did not keep in contact. I never asked about the dog, nor did she about my cats.

Two years later, she gets in touch with me and asks me to take in �our dog� for �some time�. She was moving in with her boyfriend, who I had since learned she had been seeing before we broke up, and his apartment didn�t allow pets. She asked that I take care of �our dog� until they bought a house together.

I said no. She asked why, I said I didn�t want to. She tried to talk about how I cared for the dog and that he was part of my family too, etc etc. Look, I liked the dog well enough and was more than happy to take care of him while I lived with her, but I don�t want a dog for any amount of time. I have 4 cats now, my own house, an unpredictable work schedule, and no desire for a dog and the increased responsibility that comes with one. I told her to look for long term boarding kennels, she said she would never.

Eventually, she straight up begged me saying they were going to buy a home ASAP but how long I was to look after him could anywhere from a week to a few months.

I said no, final answer. She blocked me and I went about my life. A few days ago she unblocked me and unleashed a textual barrage to the effect that I had gotten her dog taken away from her and I owed her the price she paid for him. Apparently she surrendered him to the local APL, believing they would just hold him for her.

Anyway, the dog was adopted out very quickly and unsurprisingly. A well mannered purebred dog at the local APL? Few and far between. Why she didn�t, you know, board him somewhere is a great question. Like I said I suggested it, but I�m also the devil so she disregarded it immediately.

Some of my family who knew her while we were together think I�m TA. Am I?

# ¿ Nov 22, 2021 01:03

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

Funktastic posted:

AITA for requesting a paternity test after my wife, joked out of the blue, about our child's paternity?

Just file the divorce papers now, no matter what the outcome is this marriage is gonna end either way

# ¿ Nov 22, 2021 17:06

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

Computer viking posted:

E: wow this thread is fast. This is obviously about the undead grandma hungering for snacks.

On one hand - yeah, it's entirely human, and sometimes it's nice to say hi to someone who recognises you.

On the other hand, even though my shopping habits are boringly mundane, I kind of enjoy the fiction that cashiers are professional/bored/jaded enough to not really notice what they are scanning.

I don't make snide comments about their suboptimal bagging methods, they shouldn't judge the poo poo I'm buying.

AITA for kicking my BIL out after he referred to himself as the father of my child?

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I know the title is a bit� off, but let me explain. Me (30 F) and my wife (29 F) welcomed our son into this world a year ago, both of our families are very accepting of us but my wife�s family has this weird obsession with �passing on the family genes�, which made adopting out of the question very early on. Me and my wife have always wanted a to start a family but things got difficult when my wife found out she was infertile, we knew her family would be understanding but i am TERRIFIED of pregnancy, from what i have been told im almost physically identical to my bio mom who died during child birth so that has led me to believe i wouldn�t hold a pregnancy very well.

After a few months of brainstorming and let down, MIL suggested that we do IVF, using my eggs and my BIL�s sperm, and let my wife carry the baby. I was skeptical at first but gave in because the plan hit all marks, her family get their genes �passed on�, My wife and i get to start a family, and i don�t have to carry the baby. The procedure was a bit expensive but my wife�s grandma happily covered the cost since our baby would be the first of the new generation in their family.

Everything went great, my wife loved being pregnant (aside from the morning sickness) and we were more than overjoyed to welcome our baby boy in the winter. The problem arose last week, we were preparing for my sons first birthday when BIL made a comment about how he should get a say in the planning as the child�s father. I was shocked. I cringed and told him that he wasn�t, he just provided the sperm, he looked me straight in the eye and said �yeah, so he�s our child�.

I looked to my wife whose mouth was wide open and MIL wasn�t making eye contact. Before he could say anything else i demanded that he get out of my house and that he�d be able to come to the party when he apologized, he got angry but left when my wife started to cry. My wife has always struggled with self esteem and her infertility really took a toll on her, for months i had to constantly reassure her that she an amazing mother and that she wasn�t �wrong� (she faced a lot of homophobia and misogyny growing up)

SIL called me later that day and called me a bitch, I argue that BIL had no right saying any of that but SIL just kept yelling. Me and my wife have cut all contact with her family, it�s turned into something bigger than it needs to be but i refuse to let someone call my family incomplete again. call me dramatic but I grew up with family in and out and never knowing who is �real family� and i refuse to let the same happen to my son.

EDIT: BIL signed away his rights and verbally agreed multiple times that he�s just an uncle. He�s never had a problem until now and it�s kinda out of the blue. If he was starting to feel more of a connection to my son then i�d understand if he calmly spoke to my wife and i instead of staking claim. i�ve reached out to BIL a few times looking for a reason but he has just thrown insults to my wife and i.

My wife is devastated over loosing contact but neither of us want to forgive BIL until he apologizes. So� am i the rear end in a top hat?

Edit: We don�t know where MIL stands, she�s expressed that BIL was out of line but has also said that he is technically the father. MIL steps out once she senses any conflict, that�s why she wasn�t making any contact. BIL has signed a contract that he is nothing more than a sperm donor.

Edit: Also, SIL is my wife�s sister, not BIL�s wife, BIL�s wife isn�t in close contact with us so i�m not sure she even knows what�s going on.

# ¿ Nov 24, 2021 23:57

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA For refusing to make a fake pregnancy announcement to my inlaws at Thanksgiving?

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I (26F) been married to my husband (33M) for 2 years. We recently decided that it was time to start a family and we've been trying for a baby for nearly 4 months. My husband has been stressing out about me not getting pregnant yet thinking there's gotta be something wrong but I've been told that this exhausting and draining process takes years. My husband is mainly worried about not honoring his chronically ill parents wishes to see at least one grandchild before they pass on. I understand his position and am very sympathatic with his situation.

We got invited to thankgiving (today) and he came to me asking me to do him this favor. I asked what it was and he said we should take the opportunity to make a fake pregnancy announcent to his family. I was in dismay I asked why and he replied that seeing how much his family (his parents) endured in the past few months and wanted to give them some good news. I absolutely said no and was so confused asking how he thought it was ok to lie about this stuff. He said he was sure I'll get pregnant in a matter of a month after he consulted a friend of his and just wanted me to play along to give his parents some heartwarming news and tell them what they've been longing to hear and see their faces lighten up. I atgued asking if he really wanted to see their faces lighten up when he tells a lie and told him I won't do it but said he'd do it himself and I'll just have to play along but I said I won't go cause I won't be part of his lie.

He got mad and pointed out that it's partially on me since I still haven't gotten pregnant. We argued about it for hours then started begging me and saying all I have to do is help him announce then he'll handle the rest then said I need to understand how he's feeling and just focus on that instead of caring about wether people think I'm lying or not but I'm not convinced and refused to be put in that position nomatter what.

I said I won't attend thanksgiving altogether since all his family care about is a grandchild and he is still thinking I'm at fault refusing to work with him.

tld;r: my husband wants me to make a fake pregnancy announcement to make his family happy but I refused.

# ¿ Nov 25, 2021 14:06

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

WIBTA for eating with my friend rather than my family for Thanksgiving?

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Every Thanksgiving, my parents usually invite my aunts and uncles and their friends for the dinner. My siblings (6,10,13) and I (18) are never allowed to eat with the grownups, we�d have to stay in our rooms until the grownups either leave or go to sleep if they�re staying over. We�d get the leftovers and tbh it�s kinda boring

One of my friend�s from high school�s parents are throwing a Thanksgiving dinner. I told my friend about how Thanksgiving was at my house so she invited me to eat with her family. At first I was unsure because I didn�t want to be rude and intrude but her mom messaged me (last night) and basically said I�m more than welcomed to come

It�s quite last minute and I doubt anything is going to change. One of my aunts are coming in an hour and my mom�s already telling us to stay upstairs

WIBTA for celebrating Thanksgiving with my friend?

# ¿ Nov 25, 2021 16:11

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for yelling "no no no" during my partner's zoom meeting

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This morning (Thanksgiving in the US) my alarm went off at 7:45am. I turned it off and fell back into a deep sleep.

Around 8:30am my partner got invited to an important work meeting (their company is UK based). While they were not working today, they decided to attend because they were already awake. They took this meeting in bed because they didn't have time to get dressed. In the past they have taken meetings in bed and asked if I was okay with it beforehand. I have never had a problem with it. I am normally the first person awake. I sometimes encourage the dogs to play loudly while my partner is still asleep.

At 8:45am I am awoken from a deep sleep by them talking. I was super confused, slightly terrified and made some kind of noise followed by loudly saying "no no no no no" when they kept talking. I vaguely remember covering my ears. My heart was also pounding. My partner moved to the bathroom where I could still hear them and I started to get angry at being rudely awakened.

My partners point of view - I have never said no to them taking a meeting in bed and they did not anticipate talking during this meeting. Towards the end there was a point where the CEO asked them a direct question. When they started to respond I started yelling loudly which caused them to get very flustered and feel super embarrassed. The CEO had to ask them to repeat themselves because "we couldn't hear you over the other person"

My partner is not upset at me for being flustered and scared but they are upset that I "loudly yelled" "no no no no no" and that I will not apologize for embarrassing them. While I feel bad, I don't believe I did anything wrong because I had no control over my reaction at the time. AITA for yelling during their meeting and not apologizing?

# ¿ Nov 25, 2021 18:05

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

Yolo Swaggins Esq posted:

I feel like if you're gonna have that tradition there's got to be some kind of distinction between "dumb pranks night" and destructive vandalism causing thousands of dollars in property damage?

"Oh yeah, it's sort of like "Mischief Night", every year our kids pick a neighbours yard to toilet-paperify, and then set the garage on fire. It's tradition so you can't call the cops"

Where I come from we just had one night where all crime was legal, people went around in masks, it was great

# ¿ Nov 26, 2021 00:42

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# ¿ Apr 27, 2024 23:23

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

AITA for not letting my fianc�s friend come to the wedding?

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My fianc� and I were planning our wedding and he passed over his guest list and a name stuck out to me. It was my middle school and high school bully. He throw spit balls at me and put rotting food in my desk so all the other kids would think it was me. He also had a shellfish allergy and could be around shellfish but not eat it. So he knew I heated up shellfish in the microwave and would stand in front of me not letting me get to the microwave telling me I was making him sick and then get all his friends to harass me. Even when I wasn�t bringing shellfish he would tell me I had a fishy smell to me and even once called it a �dirty Chinese smell�. He also made the slanted eyes racist joke in front of me regularly.

I told my fianc� this and made it clear there�s no way I�m letting this guy come and he defended him basically saying everyone was an rear end in a top hat in high school and we were adults now so I should forgive and forget. His friend was apparently a family friend�s son so if he wasn�t coming neither were they. He then without telling me brought my bully to meet me one day and he �apologized� claiming he didn�t remember anything but �apologized� for anything he did to me. I told him to f*ck off and to get of my lawn. My fianc� is furious with me for being rude to his friend and we had a screaming fight about it where he said he wasn�t taking his friend off the list and I told him he can get married to him instead.

# ¿ Nov 26, 2021 01:43

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