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Mom's alive, Dad's been dead for coming on 10 years now. Took a while to process and come to terms with the fact that I'm glad he's dead and I'm happier for it. He had an explosive temper and you were never really sure what would set him off. Yelling and screaming were a daily occurrence; at home and in public. Thrown things, slammed doors, hitting in ways not to leave marks. No praise or encouragement and always being told I'd fail if I followed my dreams. Zero compassion or sympathy for others. Hated the thought of spending money on me for my birthday or christmas and always made it a point to try and ruin both for me. He hated giving me stuff so much that once he had upgraded to a new digital camera and offered his old one to his brother for free. He declined. I asked if I could have it. He said I could have it for the price of his new one. He ended up giving it to a coworker. He'd randomly wake me up as a kid in the middle of the night by shaking me and pouring water on me. Never played with me outside of video games a handful of times. And if I was doing better, he'd immediately quit. Never taught me how to ride a bike. He propped an old bike against the fence, put me on the seat and said "Balance," before walking back into the house. There's a lot more, but I don't want to turn this into an e/n post. I don't know why he acted like he did towards me. He said his dad acted the same way towards him, but that he still loved him and missed him, and that when he was gone I'd miss him too. Fucker's wrong. Dad dead, so what.
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they both are, i don't talk with them often at all, they thought the best way to parent was to yell and beat us, now they wonder why their kids and grandkids don't want to see them
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Oct 25, 2023 04:36
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We fixed my electric issue and no one got all shocked to death or nothing
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Oct 25, 2023 04:41
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yes they are op, because in this world the worse of a person you are the longer you seem to live
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Oct 25, 2023 05:02
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Bad Purchase posted:yes they are op, because in this world the worse of a person you are the longer you seem to live
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Oct 25, 2023 05:07
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Yeah, they are. my parents are both in their 70's and are in better shape physically than i am.
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Oct 25, 2023 05:24
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Both my parents are alice, and they babysit my dog so it doesn’t eat me while I work at home.she (and I ) love(s) them.
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Oct 25, 2023 05:49
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Well this threads going dark
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Oct 25, 2023 05:49
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My parents are dead, and everything is worse now.
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Oct 25, 2023 06:00
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My momma didn't raise no fool, and my papa didn't raise me at all
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Oct 25, 2023 06:13
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My dad is alive but I inherited his procrastination and awkwardness which combined with a lovely childhood means we rarely talk. I should text him tomorrow. My mom is dead to me she was a real "see you next Tuesday" if you know what I mean. Thanks for the reminder to text my dad I guess. He has a cool dog.
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Oct 25, 2023 06:28
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Chief McHeath posted:annyway thats my mom and dad dead so what post i hope someone can find something in there that can help them if they need it What's it like never being able to talk to them again That kind of sucks to think I won't be able to ask my dad for advice about stuff or get a text from my mom anymore and it'll just be me
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Oct 25, 2023 07:36
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I became a dad recently at 38 so I'll probably die before I see my kid reach my age Owned lol
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Oct 25, 2023 08:50
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If it makes anyone feel better, my maternal grandparents were pieces of poo poo and there was a pseudo family reunion to pitch their urn off a cliff. Everyone had a great time and laughed about how much it would've pissed lovely grandfather off. And I sincerely hope this story does make y'all feel better, because it made us all feel great!
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Oct 25, 2023 08:53
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ninjoatse.cx posted:Both my parents are alice, and they babysit my dog so it doesn’t eat me while I work at home.she (and I ) love(s) them. only my moms alice, my dads john. both alive tho.
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Oct 25, 2023 08:58
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They are and I hope they keep on kicking until my own children are adults as they are great grandparents and my kids love them. I also miss my own grandparents, though they would've been 100+ by now, but that's not an unheard of age in my family. Two great aunts are alive at 98 now and my great granddad got to be 102.
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Oct 25, 2023 09:04
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Moai Ou posted:Sad words  Mine are still alive. They’re both in their 70’s and are still married although by all accounts it’s an empty shell marriage. I haven’t voluntarily spoken to either of them since 2012. They’re not nice people; I’ve posted a lot about them in the Rejected Parents thread already but know this: I’m eagerly awaiting the feeling of relief and the weight of the world being lifted off my shoulders once I’m informed that one or both of them have finally shuffled off the mortal coil.
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Oct 25, 2023 09:46
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mine are both still alive and i have good relationships with them, and they both love my girlfriend my mom for sure likes my girlfriend more than she likes me lol
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Oct 25, 2023 09:51
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Mine are doing well which is great. When I was little I didn't realize that I had, like, a movie family, both parents really loved & love me, are kind and thoughtful people, and before having kids they educated themselves and throughout my childhood took a lot of care to make good parenting decisions intentionally. Anyway I really showed them who is boss by being a deadender fuckup, gottem.
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Oct 25, 2023 09:52
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Oct 25, 2023 18:10
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Yep both alive and I talk to them maybe once in two months even though they never wronged me or hurt me in any way. I wonder why. Well, they got divorced, but I dunno. My wife's family is so cartoon perfect and loving and cohesive that if I'm honest with myself it makes me really angry and uncomfortable and dials my guilt up to 11. Her grandma tells me she loves me and she means it. She writes me $30 checks for my birthday. I hate the holidays so much. sigh well, thanks thread Squiggle fucked around with this message at 18:43 on Oct 25, 2023 |
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Oct 25, 2023 18:26
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As of this morning, yes probably
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Oct 25, 2023 18:46
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Toxic Mental posted:What's it like never being able to talk to them again One of the hardest things for me to learn, and that I only learned with the benefit of hindsight was I didn’t just lose my dad at 19 years old, I lost the dad I would have had at 25, at 30 and on and on. There was a lot of useful advice I never got to get from him just because I wasn’t old enough to ask for it or need it, and when I was, he wasn’t there to ask. And there were certainly plenty of times he would have seen the way I was acting and reeled me in and made sure I cut that poo poo out real quick. e: the short answer is “pretty tough sometimes,” op
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Mom is alive, and she's a very happy new grandma to our first kid. She is a wonderful woman and has always had my back and has taught me many useful things. COVID killed my dad two years ago. He was a maga hat business man that knew that he could take ivermectin "like Trump did" and be fine. Well he fuckin found out about that by drowning in his own lung soup for 2 weeks until he finally died. He thought he taught me a lot of life lessons about how to succeed in business by being conniving and cheating and shortcutting like he did, and I guess I did listen to him and have done the exact opposite of his advice so I could live with myself and sleep at night. Everyone seems to think that he was a good dad since he bought us a bunch of stuff and threw money at us. I am still dealing with his lovely mess of an estate more than two years later and probably will be forever. I miss my dad. I sure wish he could have met his grandson. He would have been over the moon about that. Anyway gently caress me for seriousposting. I'm sorry to the ones who had lovely parents, and I'm happy for the ones who had good ones. To the conflicted ones, I totally get it.
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ninjoatse.cx posted:Both my parents are alice, and they babysit my dog so it doesn’t eat me while I work at home.she (and I ) love(s) them. Neighbor made a song about these parents: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Living_Next_Door_to_Alice
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Oct 26, 2023 03:12
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Is this a threat?
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Oct 26, 2023 03:31
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They're alive and married still. I should know how long they have been at it but I'm a lovely kid. Anyway, they certainly had their issues but I believe they did their best and besides making me exist without my consent I don't have anything against them. They are actually extremely helpful and a wealth of information on certain practical things, my life will be poorer when they finally die. They are like 78 and 75 or 4 I think? Again, subpar child. Also  they are never going to get to be grandparents so they spoil my sister and BIL's dog and cats to compensate.
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Oct 26, 2023 05:00
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20 Blunts posted:millenial with young parents here so ya 
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Oct 26, 2023 05:05
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Toxic Mental posted:What's it like never being able to talk to them again You’ve described what I would call “a good time”
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Both still live, but my mother recently purchased her coffin (took out a 30-year mortgage), so I can sort of envision how it’ll pan out.
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Dad dead for 5 years now; long, drawn-out, awful to watch. Thanks, Robert McNamara. Mom in early stages of congestive heart failure, most likely brought on in part due to stress of dealing with Dad's care and finally getting the VA to pay for it all. I take her to all her appointments. Good times.
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Both my parents were dead by the time I was 30. I refuse to visit my mother's grave. Because even though I paid for the stone I would be hard pressed not to smash the hell out of it. Those of yall with living folks try to make amends and or tell em how you feel about stuff that hurt you while you can. Otherwise you are gonna be left with a lifetime of bad. (If you can. 90% of the estranged parents thread here is people that say or had to completely block off all contact with their parents. I'm not sure its always the best choice. Regret about things unsaid can suck.)
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Oct 26, 2023 21:24
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My parents are alive.
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Oct 26, 2023 21:45
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Bio dad could be dead for all I know, but my actual parents are still alive and I'm very glad for it, they're great and I love them very much
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My mom died just two weeks ago. We had the services this past Sunday and Monday. Dad is doing pretty well, considering. I just had supper with him tonight, and the cards and gifts are still pouring in. He received four lasagnas, and a 4 pound tin of danish butter cookies, among other things.
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Oct 27, 2023 02:48
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Physically or emotionally
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Oct 27, 2023 02:49
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Yes ..no
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dinahmoe posted:My mom died just two weeks ago. We had the services this past Sunday and Monday. Dad is doing pretty well, considering. I just had supper with him tonight, and the cards and gifts are still pouring in. He received four lasagnas, and a 4 pound tin of danish butter cookies, among other things. bet the tin isnt even full of sewing supplies…
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