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Volcott posted:Has polyamory ever worked out? Like, even once? It's the kind of thing where people always loudly and widely report it as a success while it is "working" and then are never heard from again when it fails.
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Dec 20, 2017 20:17
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Yes it does work sometimes, if the people are right for it. Why wouldn’t it?
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Dec 20, 2017 20:20
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Jay Rust posted:Yes it does work sometimes, if the people are right for it. Why wouldn’t it? Just like communism.
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Dec 20, 2017 20:25
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Because we don't want to jinx it. :shh:
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Dec 20, 2017 21:08
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Volcott posted:Has polyamory ever worked out? Like, even once? Sure as hell not in my case.
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Dec 20, 2017 21:09
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Volcott posted:Has polyamory ever worked out? Like, even once? I have three sets of poly friends. They were poly when they got together, got married, were still poly after getting married, and are poly now. Actually, one from one marriage is dating another from another marriage. They all seem very happy. Sometimes they come over to our monogamous household and ask for advice or vent worries and we're always supportive and non-judgmental because why would we be anything else? I definitely don't "get it" but they all are genuinely well-adjusted, kind people and seem to be doing something right since they've all been together for nearly as long as I've known them. I think it works sometimes, but I think like anything else if you don't have support and aren't honest, then everything just falls the gently caress apart.
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Dec 20, 2017 21:13
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Most people have their hands full just neglecting one spouse and kids after work and 6 hours of sleep.
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Dec 20, 2017 21:35
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Volcott posted:Has polyamory ever worked out? Like, even once? What's that joke, theres nothing wrong with polyamory except for the people that are doing it. In chit's case, it seems that his girlfriend was a bit of a poo poo, so it would probably have fallen apart anyway - he's lucky it was before the wedding. I dated a bunch of poly girls when I lived in the city, and it was perfectly fine while I was the "bit on the side" (one was married, so it was clear from the outset where the boundary was), but it's when proper emotions and commitments get involved that it invariably turns messy. I think a lot of the time people are using it to deflect from their fear of commitment, and that sucks for everyone involved. Also anyone who uses the phrase "relationship anarchy" can sod right off.
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Dec 20, 2017 21:50
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When I was a teenager, I remember telling my mom that you can't have sex with someone unless you love them. She responded with "oh, yes you can" a little too quickly. In a polyamorous relationship, I'd be the one crying / masturbating at home while my spouse hit the town with a dude on each arm.
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Dec 20, 2017 21:55
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I'm not gonna get into details because this isn't an E/N thread, but yeah she had a lot of issues. I was willing to work through a lot of it because I loved her, but she wasn't willing to work on herself and was constantly suffering from her money "mysteriously disappearing" and making impulsive, sweeping decisions about what direction to take her life that I could barely talk her out of. Two days before she dumped me, we had an argument because she really wanted to have a boyfriend and a husband simultaneously (and she made it out initially like the only reason was because she was into some terrifying BDSM stuff that I wasn't comfortable with doing to her, but she admitted during the argument to having feelings for him) and I told her that I wasn't at all comfortable with it.
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Dec 20, 2017 22:03
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chitoryu12 posted:I'm not gonna get into details because this isn't an E/N thread, but yeah she had a lot of issues. I was willing to work through a lot of it because I loved her, but she wasn't willing to work on herself and was constantly suffering from her money "mysteriously disappearing" and making impulsive, sweeping decisions about what direction to take her life that I could barely talk her out of. Two days before she dumped me, we had an argument because she really wanted to have a boyfriend and a husband simultaneously (and she made it out initially like the only reason was because she was into some terrifying BDSM stuff that I wasn't comfortable with doing to her, but she admitted during the argument to having feelings for him) and I told her that I wasn't at all comfortable with it. Not to state the obvious but that whole thing seems like something she should not only have said before you guys got engaged but also when the relationship started. I don’t know any poly folks, but maybe that is because I’m in Texas and in a monogamous marriage that would end if the monogamy ended, so I’m not exactly seeking to hang out with polyamorous people or understand polyamory better tbh. Anyway that’s my contribution to the derail, cya
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Dec 21, 2017 02:10
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life is killing me posted:I’m in Texas and in a monogamous marriage that would end if the monogamy ended Username/post combo.
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Dec 21, 2017 02:15
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walrusman posted:Username/post combo. Sounds about right. Life would certainly be killing me if my marriage ended.
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Dec 21, 2017 02:51
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Volcott posted:Has polyamory ever worked out? Like, even once? Yes. I know a polyamorous group who have shared a multifamily house for going on twenty years, and they all get along wonderfully. They're also big old hippies. Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee had a happy open marriage for decades. So, twice, at least. If you count swinging as polyamory, I've interviewed a bunch of people in decades-long marriages or relationships who have been swinging the whole time. AlbieQuirky has a new favorite as of 03:45 on Dec 21, 2017 |
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Dec 21, 2017 03:43
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youknowthatoneguy posted:Are there guys still like this? I would loving love for my wife to make a ton of money. My wife makes roughly $95k/yr. more than I do. We both work full-time jobs. I love it. gently caress insecure morons.
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Dec 21, 2017 08:18
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I'm just choosing to pretend this page didn't happen, Jesus Christ people.
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Dec 21, 2017 08:57
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Yeah what Iron Rose says. Also Zipperelli. posted:gently caress insecure morons.
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Dec 21, 2017 08:58
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Zipperelli. posted:My wife makes roughly $95k/yr. more than I do. Would she be open for a poly thing?
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Dec 21, 2017 11:58
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Non Serviam posted:Would she be open for a poly thing? Financial polygamy where she pays for my stuff but I'm not bound by any marital responsibilities.
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Dec 21, 2017 12:05
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Non Serviam posted:Would she be open for a poly thing? I can't even get her to agree to a threesome, much less a romantic relationship with another person.
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Dec 21, 2017 12:07
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Katt posted:Financial polygamy where she pays for my stuff but I'm not bound by any marital responsibilities. You should look into findom (financial domination, not being a Finn).
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Dec 21, 2017 12:17
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Katt posted:Financial polygamy where she pays for my stuff but I'm not bound by any marital responsibilities. Exactly. Would this work?
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Dec 21, 2017 12:20
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Zipperelli. posted:I can't even get her to agree to a threesome, much less a romantic relationship with another person. Even with you? 
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Dec 21, 2017 13:18
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ilmucche posted:Even with you? Especially him.
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Dec 21, 2017 13:29
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Fathis Munk posted:You should look into findom I work with two Fins. I experience Findom whenever it's sauna time and they brandish the spruce twig 
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Dec 21, 2017 13:41
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I know plenty of couples into swinging that have very succesful relationships, otherwise (including mine). Poly is needlessly complicating stuff, imo. I've seen couples crash and burn when the swinging started to get a bit too personal and they were moving towards poly.
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Dec 21, 2017 14:07
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Katt posted:I work with two fins, 
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Dec 21, 2017 14:34
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Foglet posted:if you catch my drift, babe I swam into that one 
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Dec 21, 2017 14:42
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ilmucche posted:Even with you? CROWS EVERYWHERE posted:Especially him. especially me
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Dec 22, 2017 00:30
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My wife and I both have the dream for either one of us to make enough the other doesn't have to work. Then the other will still work and those paychecks will be nothing but play around money.
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Dec 22, 2017 00:33
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sixth and maimed posted:I know plenty of couples into swinging that have very succesful relationships, otherwise (including mine). Poly is needlessly complicating stuff, imo. I've seen couples crash and burn when the swinging started to get a bit too personal and they were moving towards poly. A lot of cucks itt
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Dec 22, 2017 00:57
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Let's re-rail please.
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Dec 22, 2017 04:25
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LITERALLY A BIRD posted:Let's re-rail please. Jokes on them. He was reading it for his African American Culture Studies course. I guess he can just skip to Invisible Man.
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Dec 22, 2017 04:32
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Dec 22, 2017 04:50
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LITERALLY A BIRD posted:Let's re-rail please. I need to see comments on this. I just have to know if they double down and add more poo poo that obviously didn't happen to the story.
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Dec 22, 2017 04:57
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You really think someone would do that? Just go into a Toy Shop and preach lies?
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Dec 22, 2017 06:07
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LITERALLY A BIRD posted:Let's re-rail please. Pretty sure this is making fun of what they consider “over sensitive tumblr types” and not sincere But yeah stdh either way
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Dec 22, 2017 06:26
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Tunicate has a new favorite as of 07:22 on Dec 22, 2017 |
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Dec 22, 2017 07:20
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When I was six, I ate a big rear end glob of wasabi not knowing what it was. All the asians just laughed at me.
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