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AITA for refusing to go support my mom at a strip club amateur night? I'm a 19M, my mom is a 41F. She worked as a stripper a very long time ago when I can't remember it. Today she has a pretty normal job as a receptionist and bookkeeper and settled down, she was even a Sunday School teacher for a couple years. Recently she told me she's having nostalgic thoughts of stripping and would like to see guys go crazy over her again and wants to dance at a local club on amateur night. I was thinking "fine your decision" until she asked me to come with. The club is non-alcoholic so I can attend under 21. I was stunned. I asked why and she said since the contest is heavily based on crowd applause she wants people cheering for her to compete with the much younger women. I told her "you'd...be naked" and she basically said "oh come on like you've never seen me naked before." Not the point, I've never seen her stripping off sexy clothes, gyrating in a way to make guys hard and spreading her legs. She then later asked if I could at least ask my friends to come with her, something I'm also not wanting to do, ("hey guys, you want to see my mom naked?" Very very awkward.) After a bit of refusing my mom started tearing up a bit. She said she doesn't have much time left she could do this and thus it's important to her, for all the issues with stripping she loves the feeling of being sexy and desired. But she needs support and doesn't want to go on her own especially with women who could be her daughter competing. I'm starting to feel guilty, I get she really wants to do this and I'm not helping out my mom. Think of all the things she's done for me after all...I might be a bit selfish not helping her just because it'd be a bit awkward. AITA?
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Jan 25, 2020 01:53
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Miserable Maid posted:Why do people always say stuff like this? It never fools anyone Cause most of the time they mean it not expecting it to happen for real. Yeah there's a degree of bullshit but it's bullshit they believed at the time.
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Jan 25, 2020 01:58
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I’ve (24f) have been hiding my sugar baby/escort past from my fiancé (26m). Is it bad to keep it a secret? Maybe don't marry a "very Christian man" if you are worried about being found out and self-righteously judged for having a sexual past. Either that or commit 100% to the lie and you've already failed since you admitted it on reddit. Build the idea in his head that those 2 friends are insanely jealous of you for landing a great guy like him and would say anything to try and break up your true love. Edit. Wow big shock that a lot of reddittors insist that she must disclose all her sexual past secrets or she's a lying whore who doesn't deserve him. It's almost like they don't think of it as marrying a real human being capable of growth and change so much as a collection of past deeds and misdeeds. pentyne fucked around with this message at 02:03 on Jan 25, 2020 |
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Jan 25, 2020 02:00
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I’m of the opinion that your partner in life should be a person you could confess your darkest secrets to and wouldn’t be turned away. But maybe that’s just me.
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Jan 25, 2020 02:08
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Be a good son and go support your mother, rear end in a top hat.
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Jan 25, 2020 02:09
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Reddit "cheating"quote:I'm using the term cheating moreso in reference to my boundary being known and crossed, not physical cheating. I just don't know how else to label it.
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Jan 25, 2020 02:15
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Dazerbeams posted:I’m of the opinion that your partner in life should be a person you could confess your darkest secrets to and wouldn’t be turned away. But maybe that’s just me. Nah,  Nobody’s a perfect liar. And eventually something’s gonna happen to make you slip up. Getting married to someone who’s going to be outraged by what was done is going to make it infinitely worse. Godspeed little redditor if you manage to get yourself into that marriage. Ugato fucked around with this message at 02:37 on Jan 25, 2020 |
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Jan 25, 2020 02:34
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Miserable Maid posted:Why do people always say stuff like this? It never fools anyone Nonsense, they clearly fooled themselves
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Jan 25, 2020 02:43
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I feel bad taking this secret to my grave. Should I tell him even if I’m 100% sure he will end things? I feel like this is a recurring theme here.
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Jan 25, 2020 02:47
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Hardon Crime posted:I did a dramatic reading of Tatty's story, have a listen In the AITA thread, the accusations of fakeposting were mostly people who didn't believe that Tatty's scooter (with the built-in poo poo bucket) actually existed. Turns out they're not entirely right: http://commodobile.com/portable-electric-commode-wheelchair/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PoGPhlrSgJ8 The weight rating on that thing is nowhere near what Tatty would most likely weigh, but it's also possible that either similar products exist or his was custom made.
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Jan 25, 2020 02:54
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I’ve (24f) have been hiding my sugar baby/escort past from my fiancé (26m). Is it bad to keep it a secret? As a faithful Christian man I'm sure he will follow Jesus' example in his acceptance and befriending of prostitutes and forgive y- 
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Jan 25, 2020 03:11
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Teenage son (17) fattened up by ex-wife (46)quote:About a year ago, my son (16 at the time,17 now) started primarily living with my ex-wife (46). This kid has grown up his whole life quite heathily, playing just about every sport he could try, excelled on his school soccer team, you get the picture.
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Jan 25, 2020 03:20
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Clocks posted:I wonder if the bee husband also thinks he wouldn't be an rear end in a top hat if he had gotten rid of a beloved cat or dog because "what if they attacked the baby when it was born"? Like, the wife has beekeeping as a hobby and from what I've heard they're really not dangerous especially if you know how to handle them, which I'm sure she does. She's not going to get attacked by thousands of bees randomly. What a total rear end in a top hat. This reminded me of a previous post from a while ago with the same situation except it was iguanas or some other small lizards that she was really into. The dude waited until she went out of town to get rid of them on Craigslist because they're obviously way too dangerous to keep in the same house as a baby, even in a tank behind a locked door. He was totally shocked that she got pissed and left when she found out because it's not like lizards are even real pets, right guys, like who cares?? In this case it was also very obvious that he was very bothered by the fact that she liked lizards and thought it was stupid and weird.
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Jan 25, 2020 03:23
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LadyPictureShow posted:Teenage son (17) fattened up by ex-wife (46) The important details omitted here really tell the story. How did he end up living with mom in the first place? Did he ever like soccer? Is there a reason he gives zero fucks what OP thinks? Is OP as much of a dick all the time as his tone suggests? Does he actually care what the son wants or is his concern entirely about how it reflects on him? 
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Jan 25, 2020 03:36
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Either way 40lbs is a pretty significant weight gain.
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Jan 25, 2020 03:37
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My boyfriend ignored me during threesome - what do I do?quote:So my boyfriend and I have had sex with this girl before - she’s a mutual acquaintance- and we had a repeat experience last night. While I was mildly intoxicated he was not. It started off well enough but then when he penetrated her he moved his body to physically cut me off and wouldn’t let me back in. I was fine watching for a while but then they just completely ignored me - she offered to switch out after about twenty minutes but by that point I just felt hurt and uncomfortable so I left the room. My boyfriend of two years continued to gently caress her for thirty minutes. Tale as old as timeeeee
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Jan 25, 2020 03:38
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Me [27 F] with my roommate [28 F] - she sheds her skin all over the apartment and never cleansquote:I really like my roommate. We're good friends and get along well. The issue is pretty straightforward. She is incredibly lazy and never cleans. I work 12 hour days while she is sleeping most of the time (she does work and go to school, but is nowhere near as busy as I am), and I still end up doing 95% of the cleaning. The issue is she has a skin condition (I know it's no fault of her own) and sheds skin everywhere. There is a couch she sits on that my friends and I never sit on because it is so covered in dead skin. To do that and then on top of it never clean makes the house really really gross. I understand that it's tough to have that kind of medical issue, but it's making it really nasty to live in the apartment. I keep telling her to clean and she says she will and then never does. Not sure what to do at this point besides move out (which I will be doing in the summer).
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Jan 25, 2020 03:39
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MarcusSA posted:Either way 40lbs is a pretty significant weight gain. It certainly is, and rarely does something like that just happen out of nowhere. There was definitely some inciting event that caused the son to change his behavior and it wasn’t just ‘living with mom’, and dad knows what it was but conveniently left it out because it’s probably his fault.
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Licarn posted:Me [27 F] with my roommate [28 F] - she sheds her skin all over the apartment and never cleans Try not living with a snake.
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You're probably feeding her too much, causing her to split out of her skin prematurely. Try doing only one rat per month and see if that helps.
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cumshitter posted:Also lol at him trying to lecture the police officer on this as he's helping the wife collect her property. Christ, what an rear end in a top hat. This is where the story really breaks down. Because any cop in any reasonable jurisdiction is going to nope right the gently caress out of an obvious civil matter.
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Jan 25, 2020 04:18
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Absolutely in awe of how technologically illiterate you'd have to be to go to youtube to get your porn.
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I guess I'm not surprised Youtube has porn, but it honestly never occurred to me to look there for it.
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Dazerbeams posted:I’m of the opinion that your partner in life should be a person you could confess your darkest secrets to and wouldn’t be turned away. But maybe that’s just me. Nah, there's some deep dark secrets that should result in you being turned away. Its just that what she did isn't one of those.
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Ugato posted:Nah, Sexual past is one of those things that you should be able to discuss but that normally shouldn't need to be brought up; guys who are obsessed over bodycount are lovely. This dude is probably going to be pissed off when she provides the details of her time as a prostitute, so yeah, she may as well bring it up now (and possibly be surprised by him being cool)
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QuarkJets posted:Sexual past is one of those things that you should be able to discuss but that normally shouldn't need to be brought up; guys who are obsessed over bodycount are lovely. This dude is probably going to be pissed off when she provides the details of her time as a prostitute, so yeah, she may as well bring it up now (and possibly be surprised by him being cool) The only people who insist on knowing all the details of someone's sexual past are because no matter what they hear they will get furious, jealous, and always circle back to in whenever there is an argument about the relationship. It'll either be "Well why don't you go suck 20 dicks like you did in college" or "I'm not bad at sex you are, its your fault you only ever hosed 2 other people not mine" There is literally nothing about a meaningful personal relationship that is improved by knowing exactly how many times and under what circumstances your partner engaged in sexual activity prior to being with you. pentyne fucked around with this message at 05:29 on Jan 25, 2020 |
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Jan 25, 2020 05:27
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Wasn't there one not too long ago about a guy absolutely fixated that his partner had done anal with an ex, didn't enjoy it, and he was still "why not with me?!?"
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Dienes posted:Nah, there's some deep dark secrets that should result in you being turned away. Its just that what she did isn't one of those. I mean, if you’re guilty of pedo poo poo, you should probably die alone.
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Knobb Manwich posted:Wasn't there one not too long ago about a guy absolutely fixated that his partner had done anal with an ex, didn't enjoy it, and he was still "why not with me?!?" I though it was something more extreme like her ex had assaulted her in that fashion, and when she told her current bf he got mad she wouldn't let him have anal with her since she's "used to it" There's been more then a few "partner is insisting on anal sex" that are borderline abuse or actually outright assault as described by the op. edit: Found it quote:A few years ago my ex boyfriend raped me when he was drunk. We weren’t even in the country, we spent that summer in Italy and i felt like there was no point to try to report him, I didn’t even know if I could since it didn’t happen in America. He did it anally and it was very painful for me and it was a bad experience to say the least. Very traumatic nothing like that ever happened to me before and I only just turned 19. pentyne fucked around with this message at 05:48 on Jan 25, 2020 |
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Jan 25, 2020 05:42
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I hope I was thinking of a different one where the bf was posting. That one's just awful.
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Jan 25, 2020 05:53
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Knobb Manwich posted:I hope I was thinking of a different one where the bf was posting. That one's just awful. There was another where the woman had done all sorts of stuff before that she no longer wanted to and the guy got mad she wouldn't do things with him. It's a common theme.
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AITA for telling a bridesmaid to leave me alone at my wedding? I got married 16th November last year. It was a great day except my half sister, who was one of my bridesmaids, pissed me off a bit. She was the only relative in my bridesmaids and the other 2 were childhood friends. We're not super close as we didn't grow up together and I only learned of her existence 5/6 years ago, but dad asked me to include her. We did make an effort to make her feel welcome, but I felt like she didn't seem at all interested in the wedding. I get that we're not close but even with people who I'm only just meeting who tell me they're engaged I'll still congratulate them or ask questions, meanwhile she was unaffected on finding out I was engaged and seemed disinterested in all wedding stuff. With the dresses I knew I couldn't put them all in the same thing as they all have completely different body types. I gave them 2 requirements: dark green, and under £100 because I'd be paying them back. There was a group chat where the 2 bridesmaids who were my friends both posted dress ideas and I chose out of what they liked, while my half sister posted a picture of a dress and said she'd already bought and paid for it. No problem, it was cute and it was the right colour so I said it looked nice, reimbursed her, and moved on. Wedding day. Everyone is getting ready at my place. She shows up with hair, makeup, and nails done. She complains to me that she had to get up early to get them done professionally. I have no problem with this, but the problem I did have is that if I asked her to do anything she would say she couldn't. I asked her to pass me a hair slide and help button my dress and she said both times she didn't want to mess up her nails. Just really unhelpful, and sat there watching TV while we all got ready. She then put on her dress (she arrived in joggers and t shirt) and the dress was the wrong colour. It looked similar to what she showed us online but instead of it being a dark green it was really bright, bordering neon. She said that it had just arrived wrong, but that was months before the wedding, and she never thought to say anything. If she had I'd have said to send it back and find another. Wedding happens, she looks really out of place with everyone else in dark colours, and eventually it's time for the reception. She sits with dad and our stepmum while my friends say they could really do with some help. I end up doing both bride and bridesmaid stuff while she sits and has a chat. Half hour later she asks if I need help. I tell her to just leave me alone. She looked a bit put out but that was it. I didn't know what I said was an issue until today, when I called dad to ask what he wanted to do for his birthday, and he said that he wanted to have separate things with me and my half sister. I asked why and he said she said I was rude at my wedding and called me a "bridezilla". Was I the a-hole/bridezilla?
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e: nvm
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My (25m) girlfriend (26f) wants me to take a lie detector testquote:u/Adventurous-Swimming1h
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Jan 25, 2020 07:35
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impossible, hand jobs aren't cheating
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Jan 25, 2020 07:38
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Getting them is cheating. Giving them is perfectly fine.
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Jan 25, 2020 07:46
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Beachcomber posted:Getting them is cheating. Giving them is perfectly fine. finally, a sensible poster in this thread
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Jan 25, 2020 07:49
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Turns out my [30f] boyfriend [50m] has been seeing an older Russian woman for FOUR YEARSquote:u/Andronica198933d
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cumshitter posted:Be a good son and go support your mother, rear end in a top hat. She supported you in your stripping career. I am assuming mom is Meredith from the Office.
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gently caress Your Website posted:Turns out my [30f] boyfriend [50m] has been seeing an older Russian woman for FOUR YEARS Paul Erickson?
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