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The only plan you need in case of the death of your spouse is whether youll make your new stopgap spouse wear a wig or instead dye their hair the same color as the deceased.
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Hey, remember that one post about how OP's mom and her church wanted to rehabilitate the reputation of a particular hate symbol? Well, it didn't go well. UPDATE: My (25F) mom (45F) is part of a church group that is doing something that makes me feel uncomfortable to the point where I no longer want to see my mom quote:I'm sitting in bed on my tablet writing this update right now and idk how to link the original post unless I am on an actual computer, so I will edit in the morning to add a link to the original post. Again a warning because this has a lot to do with hate symbols. Basically my mom's church group is trying to "take back the swastika".
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Feb 14, 2020 16:51
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Barudak posted:"April Moon", I whisper as she goes under https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4AEwFhB9WTk
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Feb 14, 2020 16:52
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Barudak posted:Dont hyphenate the kids last name, problem solved. I have to say I am really against hyphenated names. Either jeep your surname or take the other partners, but don't mash them together. Why? Because it is just kicking the problem down the road for your kid. If Mr John Smith and Jane Doe get married and become John and Jane Smith-Doe, firstly you've had to argue about whether you are Smith-Doe or Doe-Smith (or you are bother the former for the husband and the latter for the wife which defeats the object of mashing your names into one). Then when little Dave Smith-Doe grows up, he meets Julie Mason-Tailor, and wants to marry her. What does he do then? Does he become Dave Smith-Doe-Mason-Tailor? Honestly I think there are three acceptable options: 1) Take your spouses (male or female) surname, kids have the same surname. 2) Keep your surnames but the kids are all one surname of one of the parents 3) Create your own new surname, breaking ties to your old families and declare your new house of (NAME) will stand for a thousand years. Create a flag with a family crest and hang it up. Declare inter-family war when your kids do this to you in turn. Kitchner fucked around with this message at 16:56 on Feb 14, 2020 |
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Feb 14, 2020 16:54
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DreamingofRoses posted:Found the gamer. EEeeehhhhhh. I'm on the borderline between NTA and ESH, myself. I may just be reading into it, but anyone whose first idea is to break your poo poo is likely to be a lovely, abusive person in other ways, as well.
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Kitchner posted:I have to say I am really against hyphenated names. Either jeep your surname or take the other partners, but don't mash them together. Don't you just take the first name of both hyphenated names or something like that? So smith-doe and mason-taylor would have kids with the last name mason-smith or smith-mason.
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Feb 14, 2020 17:01
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Problem Sleuth posted:Don't you just take the first name of both hyphenated names or something like that? So smith-doe and mason-taylor would have kids with the last name mason-smith or smith-mason. Either that or keep your surnames and give the kid the one surname of the parent of the matching gender
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Feb 14, 2020 17:03
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Kitchner posted:I have to say I am really against hyphenated names. Either jeep your surname or take the other partners, but don't mash them together. The Spanish world has had it figured out for a while now. It's traditionally father-mother, drop the mother in your kid's names.
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Feb 14, 2020 17:04
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haveblue posted:Either that or keep your surnames and give the kid the one surname of the parent of the matching gender Or zip the surnames together, so if you have Doe and Smith the child would be named Sdmiothe
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Feb 14, 2020 17:07
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Pablo Diego José Francisco de Paula Juan Nepomuceno María de los Remedios Cipriano de la Santísima Trinidad Ruiz y Picasso
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Feb 14, 2020 17:09
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In some rather presitigious british circles you keep last names of families that died out due to marriage so theres some upper cruster whose last name is like Clegg-Grimsball-Fanshaw-Clegg because its two different Clegg clans worth noting forever. Personally do whatever you feel about names but my personal recommendation is of course naming your children identically to a famous rich persons kid in hopes theyll be able to comp free hotel stays due to system errors when theyre older
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Feb 14, 2020 17:09
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Ugly In The Morning posted:Except it was a tab on the budget he sent to her to look at. If it was either of those I can’t imagine someone that meticulous would be like “whoopsie, did that on the same file I’m sharing with her”. More likely he figured that she should do her own budget for if he’s out of the picture instead of making a budget for her. I got the impression it was buried under other tabs, and given her admission she doesn't usually look too closely, he probably thought she wouldn't notice it. Someone that meticulous could just as easily add context to the budget so it doesn't look like he's weighing pros and cons of separating. Or talk to her about it sometime.
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Feb 14, 2020 17:15
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Kitchner posted:I have to say I am really against hyphenated names. Either jeep your surname or take the other partners, but don't mash them together. 
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Feb 14, 2020 17:21
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Barudak posted:In some rather presitigious british circles you keep last names of families that died out due to marriage so theres some upper cruster whose last name is like Clegg-Grimsball-Fanshaw-Clegg because its two different Clegg clans worth noting forever. Use the surname "Null" so you can tie computers in knots and hope you don't end up like this guy
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Feb 14, 2020 17:24
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Do what my upper crust British ancestors did and name the entire family after the tragically dead patriarch such that instead of being the "smiths" you're now the "john-smiths" which surely won't make life slightly more complicated for all of your descendants 100 years on.
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Feb 14, 2020 17:33
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People can do whatever they want with their names. It doesn't affect anyone but them. The only time it is annoying is when it makes my spreadsheet columns really wide.
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Feb 14, 2020 17:41
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Fitzy Fitz posted:People can do whatever they want with their names. It doesn't affect anyone but them. bruh just let it get cut off just look at it down there, cut off laughing at you
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Feb 14, 2020 17:43
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Problem Sleuth posted:Don't you just take the first name of both hyphenated names or something like that? So smith-doe and mason-taylor would have kids with the last name mason-smith or smith-mason. So basically what you're saying is dad, because you and mum couldn't agree on a surname for me, I have to choose between having four names in my surname, or picking a parent and just getting rid of their surname? This is why I said it's just kicking the can down the road. John Smith and Mary Doe keeping their surnames and calling their kid Tommy Smith is basically the same as calling them Tommy Smith-Doe until they get married and they become Tommy Smith-Tailor. Yet you're basically making your child which family surname they want to keep and which one potentially gets consigned to the history books as it were. Bonster posted:The Spanish world has had it figured out for a while now. It's traditionally father-mother, drop the mother in your kid's names. Still gives preference to the male lineage, which is why if you do Spanish family history you still trace up the male line and all the female lines just branch off. Any solution that involves "just drop one name later on down the line" is basically "my partner and me don't want to decide this so I'm going to make my kid decide". And yes, the fact this annoys me is totally irrational.
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Feb 14, 2020 17:43
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Its why you pick a new joint name based on a shared passion, like Eatsass
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Feb 14, 2020 17:45
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Barudak posted:Its why you pick a new joint name based on a shared passion, like Eatsass Exactly. You then invite your parents around and declare that you're breaking their lineage to establish your own, unveil the flag with the new House of Eatass family crest and go on at length how yours will be a dynasty that lasts a thousand years. You also insist that your new family motto of Carpe Ano will be emblazoned on your clothes. Kitchner fucked around with this message at 17:50 on Feb 14, 2020 |
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Feb 14, 2020 17:48
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Kitchner posted:Exactly. You then invite your parents around and declare that you're breaking their lineage to establish your own, unveil the flag with the new House of Eatass family crest and go on at length how yours will be a dynasty that lasts a thousand years. My new last name Analvore and my large Anal Vore coming out party are raising a lot of questions answered by my Anal Vore coming-out party.
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Feb 14, 2020 17:49
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Sister [19f] drunkenly revealed some embarrassing info about me [21m] around friends.quote:We were having drinks with friends at the regular hangout bar. We were having a discussion about something I can't remember, something about genders or something. The responses are mostly along the lines of "Dude, it's no big deal, learn to laugh at yourself."
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Feb 14, 2020 17:57
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One unexpected problem with a hyphenated name is insurance. My friend had her identity questioned because she has a hyphenated first name, and by the time she got it straightened out the company declared that she was now ineligible for health insurance by them making her miss the deadline.
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Feb 14, 2020 17:58
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This man is insane and his gf needs to ditch him for someone who doesn't try to minmax finances https://twitter.com/AITA_reddit/status/1228293908859322368
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Feb 14, 2020 17:59
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DaveWoo posted:Sister [19f] drunkenly revealed some embarrassing info about me [21m] around friends. that "overtime" line is incredibly creepy, assuming this wasn't typed one-handed (always a possibility in these cases) i think this dude should probably not live with his sister anymore.
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Feb 14, 2020 18:06
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Another problem with a hyphenated name is that some people just don't give a gently caress, even if they're taking in important information. My ex-wife and I combined our last names with a hyphen when we got married and we both regularly had issues with paying bills, insurance, memberships, etc where the person at the beginning decided "Who gives a poo poo? I'm not typing out the rest of this" and only put down the first half of the hyphenated surname. I almost got a ticket for lack of insurance at one point because the card was sent a few days prior with half my last name missing.
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Feb 14, 2020 18:08
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Tesseraction posted:This man is insane and his gf needs to ditch him for someone who doesn't try to minmax finances https://twitter.com/AITA_reddit/status/1228293908859322368 Jesus gently caress, this is worse than the people on /r/personalfinance or whatever who thought that eating anything more than a subsistance diet of rice and beans makes you an overspender.
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Feb 14, 2020 18:13
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Tesseraction posted:This man is insane and his gf needs to ditch him for someone who doesn't try to minmax finances https://twitter.com/AITA_reddit/status/1228293908859322368 That has to be fake, doesn't it? "We could be out of debt if you stopped eating avocado" is exactly what a dumbass boomer thinks would solve modern financial problems. Really hope it's not someone who would genuinely advocate their loved one work 80 hours a week and live on cheese sandwiches for the sake of their insane budget.
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Feb 14, 2020 18:19
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DaveWoo posted:Sister [19f] drunkenly revealed some embarrassing info about me [21m] around friends. Dude, it's no big deal. Your sister wanting to gently caress you is perfectly normal in America. Chill out.
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Feb 14, 2020 18:20
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When my hippy aunt and uncle got married in the early 80's they each took the other's last name using hyphens, and so the kids grew up with a hyphenated last name. My cousin got married a few years back to a guy with a regular but four-syllable last name, and they did the exact same thing resulting in a new two-hyphen, eight-syllable last name. It was literally about 25 characters long. The Christmas cards we've gotten from them recently use a shorter portmanteau of the three names that's much easier to handle, not sure if it's an official name change or a simplification they use for correspondence.
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Feb 14, 2020 18:21
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Sunswipe posted:That has to be fake, doesn't it? "We could be out of debt if you stopped eating avocado" is exactly what a dumbass boomer thinks would solve modern financial problems. Really hope it's not someone who would genuinely advocate their loved one work 80 hours a week and live on cheese sandwiches for the sake of their insane budget. Also, the debt is medical debt that she took on voluntarily for her dad's cancer treatment. Thanks for doing the right thing, honey, you can have an extra slice of cucumber on your sandwich tonight.
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Hobo Clown posted:When my hippy aunt and uncle got married in the early 80's they each took the other's last name using hyphens, and so the kids grew up with a hyphenated last name. My cousin got married a few years back to a guy with a regular but four-syllable last name, and they did the exact same thing resulting in a new two-hyphen, eight-syllable last name. It was literally about 25 characters long. Everyone should just Portmanteau their names together, great idea. Jennifer Lawrence and Cooke Maroney = Mr & Mrs Loney | Marence Sophie Tuner and Joe Jonas = Mr & Mrs Turnas | Joner
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Feb 14, 2020 18:27
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With the ubiquity of storage computing power we should just convert all last names into a hexadecimal string representing our exponentially increasing last names. Hello I'm Tomfoolery Qb3OylFn4x8Eg855C5RT55x2QM32tRBBd4d, nice to meet you! EDIT: Thinking about this more, we can store significantly more information in our last names such as our social security number, best friends, job, annual salary, and favorite color. Our currently non-unique and non-descriptive last names are basically useless trash.
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Tomfoolery posted:With the ubiquity of storage computing power we should just convert all last names into a hexadecimal string representing our exponentially increasing last names. Hello I'm Tomfoolery Qb3OylFn4x8Eg855C5RT55x2QM32tRBBd4d, nice to meet you! Don't doxx my future child's surname please.
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Kitchner posted:Any solution that involves "just drop one name later on down the line" is basically "my partner and me don't want to decide this so I'm going to make my kid decide". I vaguely remember seeing an article or a post long ago about kids who were having this problem, and supposedly most of the parents were like "pfffft lol we don't care, we figured marriage would be a dead institution by now anyway" or something like that. Maybe I'm misremembering the "dead institution" bit but I do definitely remember the "fuckit, not my problem" attitude from the parents.
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Sunswipe posted:That has to be fake, doesn't it? "We could be out of debt if you stopped eating avocado" is exactly what a dumbass boomer thinks would solve modern financial problems. Really hope it's not someone who would genuinely advocate their loved one work 80 hours a week and live on cheese sandwiches for the sake of their insane budget. That's what it seems to be, though, someone who bought that bullshit and has become insufferable as a result.
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Farmer Crack-rear end posted:I vaguely remember seeing an article or a post long ago about kids who were having this problem, and supposedly most of the parents were like "pfffft lol we don't care, we figured marriage would be a dead institution by now anyway" or something like that. Maybe I'm misremembering the "dead institution" bit but I do definitely remember the "fuckit, not my problem" attitude from the parents. Just another example of how Gen X and the Baby Boomers are the worst generations ever.
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There's some comments from the OP in the Twitter thread: https://twitter.com/such_hockey_wow/status/1228301220311425024 Straight White Shark posted:Also, the debt is medical debt that she took on voluntarily for her dad's cancer treatment. Thanks for doing the right thing, honey, you can have an extra slice of cucumber on your sandwich tonight. Which she put on a credit card. That means an APR of anywhere from 16-26% or even higher, which isn't ideal. That doesn't mean she has to start working 80 hour weeks though. If she can qualify for a card with an introductory 0% APR she might have to add the fee to the balance transferred, but be able to make payments directly to the principal with 0% interest for a 1-2 years depending on the offer. There are options for paying down debt other than grinding yourself into dust and eating gruel. Either way the guy has Witch of Wallstreet/money hoarding tendencies and sounds like a huge pain in the rear end to live with. Once the debts are paid costs will have to be cut to save up for a down payment on the house. Once the house is purchased it's time to make further cuts to pay off the mortgage. And honey, if we both work 120 hour weeks for the next 13 years we can own the house outright!
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