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Licarn posted:My (25M) girlfriend (22F) has the emotional intelligence of a turnip Your girlfriend has a terminal case of being an engineer, might as well get yourself a new one.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA if I tell my wife I want to separate our finances due to the fact that she has fallen for a scam twice in one year? They should change numbers, scammers will target you over and over if they knew you were gullible enough to fall for it once.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 09:16 |
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As ridiculous as these scams are they work. I luckily have not had to deal with clients asking me to send them funds for a Nigerian prince at my job, even though I am currently working several old ladies in the early stages of dementia who believe I'm their dead husband. In finance, we call them lottery clients. Anyway, one of my older aunts received a call from some guys claiming that I was in rural Louisana for no loving reason, even though I live in California and nobody in any part of our family resides in Louisiana. They completely convinced her that I was in some weird legal trouble that could be smoothed out with the small town corrupt judge and sheriff or whatever the story was for several thousand dollars. Luckily she spoke with another family member first, who then called me. When I called my aunt she had been so fooled by these guys that she asked me at least half a dozen times if I was in any trouble, as if I might be trying to hide it out of shame. These guys do this for a living because it pays, and they have approach people with authority and confidence. People don't expect big, moronic lies and when you do it confidently you'd be surprised how often it works. Such as saying that you're someone's dead husband.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 09:24 |
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I worked at summer job with a fax machine once and Id say 50% or more of the people attempting to use it were people being scammed.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 09:40 |
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We still use faxes because we have a lot of older clients and easily half the faxes we receive are scams. Just daily messages from people telling the business owner that he's pre-approved for a line of credit. Like I was surprised to know this was a thing and that apparently people are still selling active fax number lists to scammers.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 09:42 |
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I hate that A. those Nigerian scams are a thing and B. that people somehow fall for them. It’s also really annoying that despite Nigerians being one of the most successful immigrant groups in America, this is what we get known for.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 10:03 |
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teen witch posted:I hate that A. those Nigerian scams are a thing and B. that people somehow fall for them. I've nothing for respect for Nigerian immigrants, so many of them try to leave their country with millions of pounds and take it to another country with the help of *checks notes* random person and not a bank. In all seriousness though, only idiots are racist, and only idiots fall for scams. I guess if I think of Nigeria the only two things I think of is a couple of UK Nigerian comedians and online scams though. Then again that's probably more than I would have brought to mind than when I first met my colleagues from Tanzania, Ghana, and the DRC. On the scale of unfortunate reputations though I find myself sympathising the most with Colombians. I don't think they are ever going to be associated with anything other than cocaine and kidnapping, and of the two I'd probably prefer to sort of funny email scams that only idiots fall for.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 10:16 |
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Now now, Medellin has Escobar's legacy to be proud of in more ways than just that! Who can forget the fun days of having your cars checked for bombs as you go to the mall? But seriously, Colombians have a different reputation outside of the English-speaking world, the stereotypes you know are of your own design. ------- I'm going to throw out possibly a very hot take here, but regarding the woman a few pages back who was quizzing all new dates about being ok with her disabled sister... I think I'm going to agree with her latest BF's take. She's probably grilling people who barely know her far too aggressively, and most people are just seeing the red flags and bailing. It'd be like having a date who's vegan, and having a Vegan Date who is drilling you over animal rights.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 10:31 |
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SIL [34F] is a semi animal hoarder who lost her job 11 months ago. Husband and I [27/29] have been supporting her but everyone thinks I'm heartless after I made one criticism.quote:Hi relationships. I'm not looking for validation, just feedback on whether or not I was really being insensitive/petty/heartless. I'm cool with apologizing if so.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 11:04 |
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cumshitter posted:CBP seizure letter HELP!!! Get better at lying because you're probably gonna be doing a lot of it in the near future.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 11:19 |
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In the comments about the animal hoarder the OP says that before they started helping out the SIL was just borrowing money from friends with no intention of paying it back. If they cut her off she will ignore all of her problems until the creditor's take the husband's family home and the sister will just become homeless. I can't think of a bigger gently caress you to anyone supporting you until you get a job than getting a single dog, much less six. They severely limit your schedule and how far you can travel for work. Husband's family is totally enabling her, partly because SIL has the family home, and if they were truly invested in keeping the family home they should just buy it and let sister figure it out rather than be strung along by the possibility of her maybe seeing a therapist. Like I was sad when my family sold my grandparents' home after they died but you don't go out of your way preserve it just because you have happy thoughts about it sometimes. It's a dumb excuse to enable their enabling. cumshitter fucked around with this message at 12:04 on Feb 18, 2020 |
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When I took a hefty dose, I felt like I was a Vulcan. [UPDATE]: [23M] my girlfriend [25F] is obsessed with psychedelics and her spiritual journey Original post It's been a few days since my post and since the post got a lot of traction I decided to post an update. In the end, I made the decision to try psychedelics in order to try and understand my girlfriend's point of view better as I truly love her. I and my GF bought some magic shrooms from a trusted common friend and did it together in my apartment as I felt the safest there. We both consumed 3.5g each (total of 7g). The trip was a blast (I figured as much) and we laughed, were intimate and had an overall great experience. It was unlike any other substance I've tried before but then again I'm the kind of guy who rarely consumes drugs or alcohol. After the trip, I felt my GF was very focused on how my experience was and I could see her face brightened up with excitement as she asked me about the trip afterward. She probably wanted me to feel like this was some sort of spiritual thing just like she does. But in the end, I felt like this was just like any other drug in the sense that it's a drug that manipulates a part of your body/mind. I could see she felt disappointed that I didn't find this trip as spiritual and insightful as she does. I also realized why my GF likes doing psychedelics and I also sensed during the trip that she was trying to deal with a lot of personal issues, I don't have to go into detail but it was regarding trauma, social anxiety and amongst other issues. I tried talking to her about therapy instead but she strongly refused, she says it's a waste of money and time and this way is better and more "fun". We've talked for hours and hours and I came to the conclusion that she won't be stopping this "self-medication" and she has also planned for an out of country trip to take "stronger" psychedelics with a shaman in the future. I realized that our pathways in life don't align anymore and that her mindset isn't that of someone I fell in love with. I fell in love with this smart, outgoing girl that loved video games and animals but now she's more into spirituality and the afterlife than the present and science. I knew breaking up would be difficult for both of us so I tried doing it in a sensible and calm way but she wasn't as understanding as I thought, she started by crying and then rage ensued. Currently, I've been avoiding her but she has been spamming me trying to get together again, ironically enough she has tried to get me to take DMT as she says that if shrooms didn't do the trick to "convert" me, DMT certainly will. I'm done. thanks for all the replies in the previous post.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 12:14 |
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cumshitter posted:Lol this shouldn't surprise anyone, but the guy who wants to do clinical drug trials in his garage has a post history on various research chemical subreddits. He is absolutely trying to find a legal way to give people research chemicals and charge them for it. This guy is so, so bad at crime. Does anyone have any links? It looks like it’s all been purged from reddit.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 12:40 |
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My (22F) boyfriend (23M) has been weird about birth control in our relationship (7 months) and I need helpquote:TL;DR: boyfriend is oddly controlling of almost every aspect of my menstrual cycle and our family planning. commenter posted:He wants you to get pregnant. How are you not furious about this? OP posted:I’m sorry for being... descriptive, but if he did tamper with them, shouldn’t I be able to... feel it? Somehow? Or would I not feel it? Because if cannot feel it then I’m hosed. commenter posted:You wouldn't feel a pinhole, and you wouldn't feel ejaculate coming out of the pinhole either. OP posted:UPDATE] I really don’t know how to do updates. So, I really want to thank everyone for their input. I’m already reading the PDF some of you recommended me: so far it’s hitting real close to home. Good. She can have the privilege of being allowed to independently judge character back once she's had some time to think about how to properly use it.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 13:15 |
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This started off as "OK this guy is paranoid about a girl putting holes in condoms to get knocked up which is a bit extreme but whatever" and quickly moved to "OK so he's the one doing that, the fucker".
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 13:23 |
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Kitchner posted:This started off as "OK this guy is paranoid about a girl putting holes in condoms to get knocked up which is a bit extreme but whatever" and quickly moved to "OK so he's the one doing that, the fucker". I figured it was definitely at least one of those pretty quickly.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 13:27 |
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My (27F) Step-Mum (45F) is leaving my Dad (73M) after 20 years of marriage. How do I console my soon-to-be single 73-year old Dad?quote:It's a large age difference I know, and they've been long-distance for the past two years, but it seemed to be working for them. I guess not. How on earth do you deal with not feeling wanted anymore at that age? What can we advise he do now? Does anyone have any experience of something similar? avoid doorways fucked around with this message at 13:47 on Feb 18, 2020 |
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Wow. The same thing happened to me. My ex-wife got tired of asking me to have sex with her so she left. My straight idiot son told me she went to the farm so she could run and chase the rabbits. Then a few years later he told me she was happier at the farm and that she was going to stay there but to stay at the farm she needed to divorce me. I was really devastated when my son broke the news. I thought she was dead.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 13:47 |
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teen witch posted:I hate that A. those Nigerian scams are a thing and B. that people somehow fall for them. As a member of the junta deposed prince community, I know exactly what you're saying.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 13:58 |
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AITA for helping with my nieces but refusing to help with my severely disabled nephew?quote:I'm a childfree (by choice) woman in my mid twenties. My sister is 10 years my senior, so mid thirties. She has two adorable daughters, aged 9 and 7. I often babysit them and I am planning to help them financialy with their college funds, as their parents cannot provide for them. Why? Because of my nephew (5). I'd like to thank OP for giving those girls some semblance of a childhood. No doubt they're going to be made slaves for their brother once they're old enough to take care of him.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 14:27 |
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One day there'll be a post that starts with "I'm childfree" and then has absolutely nothing at all to do with children.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 14:56 |
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Beachcomber posted:AITA for helping with my nieces but refusing to help with my severely disabled nephew? No poo poo for those poor girls. On the other hand, callous as it might be, will their brother survive that long? gently caress I am getting Baby Faith flashbacks.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 15:01 |
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The Bramble posted:My (22F) boyfriend (23M) has been weird about birth control in our relationship (7 months) and I need help Lol that the mom broke up the relationship, and also at the terrible sex ed this girl got that made it necessary. Glad she got out ok though.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 15:04 |
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quote:AITA for not telling my son the truth about where his father was?
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 15:09 |
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Licarn posted:One day there'll be a post that starts with "I'm childfree" and then has absolutely nothing at all to do with children. sorry breeder, it's hard to post while I'm hanging ten on my jetski in an ocean of disposable cash a la Scrooge McDuck
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 15:11 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:No poo poo for those poor girls. On the other hand, callous as it might be, will their brother survive that long? My mom works with multiple handicap kids for a living, but not even on that level, and so many of them don’t even make it to 18. After seeing what so many parents of MH kids go through I could never blame someone for ending a pregnancy for anything like that, there’s just so much divorce and abuse to the kids and themselves in general where you have some truly strong people who can deal with it, but the sacrifices those people do alone I don’t think the average person can handle.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 15:13 |
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Cowslips Warren posted:No poo poo for those poor girls. On the other hand, callous as it might be, will their brother survive that long? I am extremely unhappy that I read that story because that was also my first connection My mom was a special ed (multiply impaired) teacher for most of my life and even the thought of something like that happening to one of my kids made me absolutely freeze in terror for part of all three pregnancies until I was sure there was nothing wrong. that kid has no chance at a life. he's baby faith. there's no right answer now and it completely sucks for every single person involved, on every level, and my heart hurts for them. e: howdy MI-teacher-mom buddy
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 15:31 |
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My (21/M) girlfriend (18/F) admitted to me that she got pregnant with our baby on purpose.quote:About eight months ago I got a new job. I hit it off with my coworker (17 at the time)
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 15:41 |
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cumshitter posted:Wow. The same thing happened to me. My ex-wife got tired of asking me to have sex with her so she left. My straight idiot son told me she went to the farm so she could run and chase the rabbits. Then a few years later he told me she was happier at the farm and that she was going to stay there but to stay at the farm she needed to divorce me. I was really devastated when my son broke the news. I thought she was dead. Can't even tell if this is a fakepost.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 15:42 |
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Power Khan posted:When I took a hefty dose, I felt like I was a Vulcan. Lmao at this woman talking her boyfriend into doing psychedelics, which made him reevaluate his life and break up with her.
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Beachcomber posted:My (21/M) girlfriend (18/F) admitted to me that she got pregnant with our baby on purpose. This is layers and layers of reasons to get out of that as soon as possible. Wow.
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I can’t judge this one without knowing what dad got in prison for. Was he a black guy caught with pot? Did he kill a dude at the bar? Embezzlement?
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TheKennedys posted:I am extremely unhappy that I read that story because that was also my first connection My mom was a special ed (multiply impaired) teacher for most of my life and even the thought of something like that happening to one of my kids made me absolutely freeze in terror for part of all three pregnancies until I was sure there was nothing wrong. It sounds like... this boy won't ever have a positive quality of life and it's unsure how aware he is of anything, which is an entirely different situation. I wish government assistance was at a better level for him so his parents weren't having to take the role of live-in-nurses 24-7, because there's no way they're able to properly care for their older kids or themselves now, much as they might want to.
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vortmax posted:I know this is from pages back (I'm catching up!) but I checked out* the audiobook of this and it's fantastic! Thanks so much for recommending it. yeah! It's great. I also checked it out using my local library. Glad you enjoyed it.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 16:27 |
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chitoryu12 posted:I can’t judge this one without knowing what dad got in prison for. Was he a black guy caught with pot? Did he kill a dude at the bar? Embezzlement? I'd be more understanding of OP if she was trying to shield her son from the knowledge that dad is a dangerous monster who should never contact the family again. But she doesn't seem to care about that, only that she thought her son could never comprehend dad being in prison at age 7. So i don't think he did anything too terrible, if he managed to get paroled.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 16:29 |
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DemoneeHo posted:I'd be more understanding of OP if she was trying to shield her son from the knowledge that dad is a dangerous monster who should never contact the family again. You can totally do like six years or even less sometimes and be out again for a murder. 17 years is either federal crime or something bigger. Doesn't necessarily mean it was a violent crime but it's pretty likely. e: Unless it's one out of multiple felonies, if he had a bunch of stuff stack up.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 16:40 |
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threelemmings posted:You can totally do like six years or even less sometimes and be out again for a murder. 17 years is either federal crime or something bigger. Doesn't necessarily mean it was a violent crime but it's pretty likely. I know someone who got 10 years for trying to kill his wife, with associated weapons charges, and a history of violent offenses. 17 years is likely to be some Pretty Heavy poo poo.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 16:41 |
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Ugly In The Morning posted:I know someone who got 10 years for trying to kill his wife, with associated weapons charges, and a history of violent offenses. 17 years is likely to be some Pretty Heavy poo poo. Yeah that's where it's hard to know depending on criminal history. If it's not from federal court it was something pretty heinous, if it was federal court could be anything their sentencing guidelines are totally different.
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# ? Feb 18, 2020 16:45 |
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threelemmings posted:Yeah that's where it's hard to know depending on criminal history. If it's not from federal court it was something pretty heinous, if it was federal court could be anything their sentencing guidelines are totally different. Or he could just be black and have been arrested a third time for Marijuana.......
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DandyLion posted:Or he could just be black and have been arrested a third time for Marijuana....... Yeah that's the federal court stuff.
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