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SpaceSDoorGunner posted:I’m a toothpaste anarchist *doesn't close cap completely, stands tube on it*
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AITA? Plumber wanted $500/hr, I told him to leave.quote:Had a new countertop and sink installed, and the countertop people don’t do plumbing, so I needed someone to install the new facet and disposal on the new sink. I can do it myself, but it’s it what brings me joy, plus I’m working. So I decide to just hire a plumber. Reddit says? YTA 
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Apr 30, 2020 17:04
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:My (29/F) boyfriend (30/F) doesn't want my 9 y/o dog in the bedroom. sleeping in a bed covered in dog or cat hair sucks, so yeah no pets in the bedroom.
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datajugend posted:sleeping in a bed covered in dog or cat hair sucks, so yeah no pets in the bedroom. Post and AV combo doesn't check out.
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Apr 30, 2020 17:07
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Trusting a cat owner to not lie, how naïve.
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Apr 30, 2020 17:09
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AITA for telling my 27 year old gf that she needs to grow up and stop sleeping with a stuffed animal [quote] My gf recently read a book about children of narcissistic parents and realized that she was raised by narcissists who robbed her of her childhood and is now set on reparenting herself and starting from scratch. Initially I thought it was good that she’s taking steps towards improving her life since she’s been going through a lot of depression and anxiety lately but then she started acting like an actual child: for example she bought a stuffed animal and started sleeping with it and reading bedtime stories and a range of odd childish behaviour, I tried explaining that reparenting yourself is more of a mental thing and not actually regressing into a childlike state, she said that she’s aware of that but it helps with the process, last week she ordered yet another stuffed animal and I straight up told her that her behaviour is scaring me and that she needs to grow up and stop this. She got visibly upset and I felt bad about it later, after that incident she put her stuffed animals in a box in the basement but has been acting cold and distant towards me, am I the rear end in a top hat? TLDR: gf decided that she wants to reparent herself but started acting like an actual child ie sleeping with stuffed animals so I confronted her about her odd behaviour and she stopped but has been cold and distant ever since the confrontation
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Apr 30, 2020 17:10
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Maybe not nesscery for toothpaste because it's pretty inexpensive, but if you aren't cutting open your cosmetics/lotions tubes to get that remaining ten percent out you're a bougie fat cat.
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Apr 30, 2020 17:14
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Every cat is different and that's just been my experiences. Mom volunteers with a Humane Society shelter as a "cat cuddler". Besides keeping the cats socialized, the volunteers classify the cats by personality type, and what kind and quantity of interaction they want. This keeps people who want a lap cat from adopting one that will just want to hang out on its own most of the time. At the very least, you'll have some idea of what the cat is like when you take it home.
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Apr 30, 2020 17:15
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Ralph Crammed In posted:Maybe not nesscery for toothpaste because it's pretty inexpensive, but if you aren't cutting open your cosmetics/lotions tubes to get that remaining ten percent out you're a bougie fat cat. Perhaps, if the rate that you are going through cosmetics and lotions is perceptible, it is you who is the bourgeois?
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Apr 30, 2020 17:26
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sephiRoth IRA posted:AITA for telling my 27 year old gf that she needs to grow up and stop sleeping with a stuffed animal Owning soft toys and reading in bed are a problem? This has to be from "Don't talk to me about ducks, only finance and videogames matter" dude.
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Apr 30, 2020 17:32
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Serephina posted:Perhaps, if the rate that you are going through cosmetics and lotions is perceptible, it is you who is the bourgeois? or maybe female u dingus
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Apr 30, 2020 17:33
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sephiRoth IRA posted:AITA for telling my 27 year old gf that she needs to grow up and stop sleeping with a stuffed animal Uh, like, plenty of adults do that poo poo more as a physical comfort rather than because they really loving love their Garfield plushie. Frankly speaking as someone who sleeps horrifically restlessly I'd rather my partner hug a drat toy instead of me so I didn't end up suplexing them off the bed during my lovely sleep cycle.
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Serephina posted:Perhaps, if the rate that you are going through cosmetics and lotions is perceptible, it is you who is the bourgeois? I looked into the mirror and screamed and turned to dust, then I made sure to get the dust all gathered up in order to more frugally craft my soul golem.
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Apr 30, 2020 17:35
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Sunswipe posted:Owning soft toys and reading in bed are a problem? This has to be from "Don't talk to me about ducks, only finance and videogames matter" dude. I think the crux is the line between “cuddling up and reading in bed” and “cuddling up and reading children’s books to your teddy bear”. One is totally healthy, the other is a super red flag
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Apr 30, 2020 17:36
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Tesseraction posted:Uh, like, plenty of adults do that poo poo more as a physical comfort rather than because they really loving love their Garfield plushie. Frankly speaking as someone who sleeps horrifically restlessly I'd rather my partner hug a drat toy instead of me so I didn't end up suplexing them off the bed during my lovely sleep cycle. you seem to be skipping over how the ops gf was doing this crap as an attempt to have a second childhood. most ppl dont really want to be in a relationship with an adult regressing into a child.
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Apr 30, 2020 17:38
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Tesseraction posted:Uh, like, plenty of adults do that poo poo more as a physical comfort rather than because they really loving love their Garfield plushie. Frankly speaking as someone who sleeps horrifically restlessly I'd rather my partner hug a drat toy instead of me so I didn't end up suplexing them off the bed during my lovely sleep cycle. I'm guessing it's less the holding something while she sleeps part and more the part where she is one step away from having a tea party with her stuffed animals like a five year old that is weirding out the op.
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Apr 30, 2020 17:39
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HIJK posted:how hard do you hit a car window to break it, jesus I've seen someone take a baseball swing at a car window with a sledgehammer and it bounced off leaving a small scratch. Auto glass, much like the Wu-Tang Clan, ain't nothin to gently caress with.
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I might be taking 'reading bedtime stories' as a silent thing as opposed to "to the teddy bear" To be honest, OP even says to her it's about a mental state and her saying it helps with the process... like, we're not given a timescale because honestly, lovely parenting can't be fixed overnight, and doing some weird poo poo that helps your mental wellbeing doesn't seem like that big of a deal? For perspective, when I saw the spoiler tags I assumed it was wandering around in a diaper or bringing a rattle to restaurants. Instead she has a loving plushie in bed. Seems pretty mundane for potential childhood trauma?
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It's hard to say how bad it is. Like if she's sitting there reading Wind in the Willows or some poo poo to herself then w/e, if she's reading Goodnight Moon to her teddy bear that's something entirely different, but both could be described as "bedtime stories" by an exasperated OP.
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Tesseraction posted:I might be taking 'reading bedtime stories' as a silent thing as opposed to "to the teddy bear" That's how it read to me. Good for her, taking charge of her own mental well-being.
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Apr 30, 2020 18:02
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The whole 'recovering from neglectful and abusive narcissistic parents by re-doing your childhood' thing always struck me as a recipe for disaster. Michael Jackson vibes. But I suppose it might help for emotional catharsis of a kind.
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Even if she's reading stories for babies out loud to a teddy bear, if it's part of a process and it's working where's the harm? Like there's obviously ways it could go bad (escalating behaviours, becoming stuck in an unhealthy reinforcement loop, if it's NOT actually helping but making things worse etc), but if it's a phase she's moving through with decent self awareness and self examination (ideally with the help of a professional or at least good written resources taking her through various steps with an end goal of making past traumas less powerful in her current life) I can envisage it being fine, as a temporary thing. EDIT quote:The whole 'recovering from neglectful and abusive narcissistic parents by re-doing your childhood' thing always struck me as a recipe for disaster. Michael Jackson vibes. But I suppose it might help for emotional catharsis of a kind. true, I'm no professional and it's perfectly possible there is no healthy way to do this, I'm purely talking vague hypotheticals.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:The whole 'recovering from neglectful and abusive narcissistic parents by re-doing your childhood' thing always struck me as a recipe for disaster. Michael Jackson vibes. But I suppose it might help for emotional catharsis of a kind. Anyway on the sliding scale of childishness reading children's books for a little bit before bed while having a teddy bear by you doesn't seem so weird as an anxiety-reducing thing.
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Apr 30, 2020 18:18
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Jeez, why don't you grow up and go to bed like a adult? i.e. drinking yourself into a stupor and watching tv except you're not actually watching it's just making noise while you brood about the futility of life and all the things you wanted to do but didn't/couldn't.
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Dumb kids things can actually be really good for lulling yourself to sleep because they engage the brain but like, not very much. And if she never got a chance to experience them as an actual kid I can see the appeal. I am curious if we're talking Goodnight Moon or The Wind in the Willows or Narnia here, but it doesn't particularly matter that much.
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Chomp8645 posted:Jeez, why don't you grow up and go to bed like a adult? i.e. drinking yourself into a stupor and watching tv except you're not actually watching it's just making noise while you brood about the futility of life and all the things you wanted to do but didn't/couldn't. Jesus christ the accuracy.
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Apr 30, 2020 18:28
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sephiRoth IRA posted:AITA? Plumber wanted $500/hr, I told him to leave. If there is truly flat, "transparent" pricing, the dispatcher should have told the OP what the cost would be over the phone before they sent the plumber out. The OP could have gotten over the sticker shock before wasting everyone's time. $500 for a plumber/helper for an hour isn't COMPLETELY outrageous, if parts are included.
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Apr 30, 2020 18:33
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PetraCore posted:It probably depends on if you ever stop or if it takes over your life. There's a lot of 'childish' things that are still fairly normal for adults to do - look at how many young adults are playing the new Animal Crossing now, and people typically aren't going to be too weirded out if you're watching She-Ra on netflix or whatever. The idea that adults have to stop doing anything childish is itself unhealthy. But... if you're an independent adult devoting a significant amount of time to watching cartoons for elementary schoolers and constantly wearing pigtails, that's a problem. I still say it's not that bad given the writing level of most 'grown-up' entertainment isn't really any better half the time. Though there's a difference between media habits and active patterns of behaviour emulating childhood activities. Though I remember a lot of kids books having loving kickass illustrations, Graeme Base was it? I could look at that all day.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:I still say it's not that bad given the writing level of most 'grown-up' entertainment isn't really any better half the time. Though there's a difference between media habits and active patterns of behaviour emulating childhood activities. As the guy said, he owned all the actual components. His $10 worth of parts just sounds like sealant, and 2 hours of DIY. Taking his post at face value then yes he was being scammed, unless he's managed to completely botch the install job.
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Ghost Leviathan posted:I still say it's not that bad given the writing level of most 'grown-up' entertainment isn't really any better half the time. Though there's a difference between media habits and active patterns of behaviour emulating childhood activities. EDIT: My bedtime routine is to stay online until the time I've set as my bedtime, taking the meds that make me drowsy as a side effect a set time beforehand so I'm nodding off. Honestly not the healthiest.
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GORDON posted:If there is truly flat, "transparent" pricing, the dispatcher should have told the OP what the cost would be over the phone before they sent the plumber out. The OP could have gotten over the sticker shock before wasting everyone's time. quote:So the dispatcher could have told me the cost when I asked, but they decided to see if they could back me into a corner with an on the spot price and a $70 charge and no working kitchen sink hanging over my head.
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GORDON posted:If there is truly flat, "transparent" pricing, the dispatcher should have told the OP what the cost would be over the phone before they sent the plumber out. The OP could have gotten over the sticker shock before wasting everyone's time. Assuming that the op already has the faucet and disposal, the parts needed total $20-$30 max. Add another $20 or so if new shutoffs are needed. As a general rule, the bigger companies that charge for estimates are really expensive. My cousin has an old house that still had an actual fuse box and, as part of some renovating, wanted to upgrade to a modern breaker box. He's generally handy and knows his way around residential wiring, but given that this would involve pulling the meter and messing with the unfused service drop from the street, they wanted to hire someone who's dealt with this before. They called a company a neighbor recommended, who told them that there would be an $80 estimate fee, waived if the service is actually done. The quote they got from the company, just for replacing the service drop and installing the breaker panel, no extra wiring or anything, was $7500 for 100 amp service and $8500 for 200 amp service. Note that the amount of work is exactly the same whether you are installing a 100 or 200 amp box and the price difference of the parts isn't even $200. Oh, and the job would take two days and he might be without power overnight. They called a relative of a friend who works in construction and got the name of the guy they usually use. $1300 including parts for 200 amp service, did the whole job and had power restored in 6 hours, and the guy was a walking encyclopedia of the electrical code so he was able to give my cousin some pointers on code compliance for his upcoming project.
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Toothpaste guy needs to go for the nuclear option: TWO tubes of toothpaste.
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AITA for sending my homophobic grandpa a photo of myself and my partner kissing?quote:I [F25] came out as a lesbian to my family four years ago. At the time, I didn’t realize how homophobic my grandparents are, particularly my grandpa. They’re the overly-religious type who think any sexuality but straight is unnatural and against the teaching of the Lord. I have an aunt who’s the same way, as well as my parents; who have those same views to a lesser extent.
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elise the great posted:Toothpaste guy needs to go for the nuclear option: TWO tubes of toothpaste. That’s just two new tubes ripe for a middle squeezin.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for sending my homophobic grandpa a photo of myself and my partner kissing? Hell yeah, happy birthgay grandpa you hateful sack of poo poo.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for sending my homophobic grandpa a photo of myself and my partner kissing? Lol. That's hilarious and I hope she sends a new photo with her girlfriend to every bigoted rear end in a top hat member of her family every couple weeks.
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for sending my homophobic grandpa a photo of myself and my partner kissing? Nta this lady owns e. Also this just pisses me right off. Why are LGBTQ+ folks the ones who are expected to "take the high road" and bigots get a pass just because they're old? gently caress this. Mikl fucked around with this message at 19:51 on Apr 30, 2020 |
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AITA for wanting money as a wedding gift? quote:Obligatory on mobile. Some background info I (23F) and my fiance (26M) have been together for 6 years, and we've lived together for almost all of it. We are recently engaged and sent out physical wedding invitations, and made a social media group where the guests can RSVP. His family is upper middle class, my family well below the poverty line, this being somewhat relevant since it is a "money issue."
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