Motherfucker posted:

yaknow despite it all I still prefer it when they come right out with it.

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My son (23) has a learning disability. He's great with jobs that involve cleaning, stocking and facing.

He previously had a care aid come 2x weekly. She had another job at a pet store. My son expressed interest in employment at this store and I asked her if she could discuss setting up a tour with her boss for him. I thought this would work great because she could drive him to work and he'd be more comfortable working if he knew someone.

She said no. Her excuse 'conflict of interest'.

She didn't last long. She said my son was making her 'uncomfortable' because of how he talks (uh, he has a learning disability). Certain comments made her feel 'harassed'.

Browsing online I found a hiring ad at this store. I instantly told my son to apply, because seeing as she no longer works with him it's not a 'conflict of interest'.

She still works there. I know this because I took my son in for an interview (yah!) and she walked away fuming the moment she spotted us.

My MIL and SIL both think I'm being unfair to this girl. If she's uncomfortable working with him before, it's going to happen again. But this is a different setting. She doesn't need to help him. And if she has such an issue she can quit again.

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She was overly sensitive. Yes, my son can be very open and yes, sometimes that involves him being open about how he feels about sex, certain body parts and porn, but it's not the only thing he talks about. She was irked by two or three of these types of comments.

SUPERMAN'S GAL PAL posted:

gently caress him, I’m glad she left. I suffer from migraines and sometimes all the NSAIDs and triptans in the world don’t quite take the edge off the way pressure from a cold wrap can.

Pope Corky the IX posted:

I kept reading it as "baby bitch" over and over again.

Algol Star posted:

As a fellow migraineur If you've not tried aspirin itself and you don't have stomach ulcers or bleeding problems try dispersible aspirin 900 - 1200mg. Way more effective than other nsaids and I've found it better than triptans.

Imagine caring so much that you're less attracted to your girlfriend when she 'not too often' has a headache.

teen witch posted:

AITA for having my son fill out a job application after a store employee/close friend asked him not to?

I’m not going to post the rest of the OPs comments as they’re just as bad as you think they are

Not a red flag generator posted:

That's the thing, since high school, he has not had a problem. There hasn't been any troubles, claims, lawsuits or legal action taken against him. So excuse me for doubting the allegations of one girl, who was new to the field, who showed little interest in her work.

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I'm not going to deny he has a history. He does. But, I've also see improvement over these years and like to recognize the good before the bad.

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She was overly sensitive. Yes, my son can be very open and yes, sometimes that involves him being open about how he feels about sex, certain body parts and porn, but it's not the only thing he talks about. She was irked by two or three of these types of comments.

Puppy Time posted:

Honey, I know you're in so much pain that you're seriously considering the cold, soothing embrace of the grave, but have you considered that I don't want to have sex with you when you look like that?

The Duggler posted:

I think some people really just don't understand how miserable a migraine is.

That womans head probably felt like it was swelling to 30x its normal size, packing while suffering a migraine, and she still walked out on his rear end. What a punk

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This morning I checked my bank account and saw a charge for $88 worth of sandwiches on my husbands card. He said he bought lunch for his guys at work. This is a joint account that we have had since we got married 16 years ago.

We both work and contribute our whole paychecks into this account and this is what we use for groceries/home expenses.

I have had this conversation with him before and I have told him that he should not be buying everyone lunch. While we can afford it we are trying to save up for a home renovation so we have been very frugal in our spending. This is multiple times a week that he is spending $50-$100 per lunch buying food for everyone. They do not pay him in cash or reimburse him, apparently they will pay for his lunch next time they order something.

This morning I asked him again to stop buying lunch for everyone after I saw the charge in our account. He told me it was his turn to buy lunch. I told him that he had a lunch at home (which he did we have leftover sausage and peppers and sub rolls) and he agreed last time to stop doing this.

I get the lunch culture. At my job they order out once a week. But at my office you sign up on a list and contribute cash towards the take out order so nobody has to put the order on their card.

Now he’s mad at me and tells me I don’t understand and that it’s customary at his job for the boss to buy lunch for all the guys. I told him that while it may be customary it does not have to happen more than once a month. And that is how we left things.

Edited for spelling and grammar errors.

AITA for asking him to stop buying lunch for everyone?

Puppy Time posted:

empty sea posted:

I had geese as a teen and let me tell you, they are vengeful creatures who will gleefully run up to you, knowing you feed and shelter them, and still nonetheless grab your pantsleg in their beak and twist and jerk it furiously with all their might because they think it's your flesh and they are composed entirely of hate. They will also beat at your legs with their wings while they try their damndest to rend and tear your "flesh" until you kick and kick at them and they finally give up.

But they will lurk behind you. And hiss and stalk you to attack you whenever they think they can get away with it. Kill all geese. I wore jeans all summer, every summer in the South because of that poo poo.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for asking my husband to stop buying lunch?

SoftNum posted:

I need to do a full audit of their spending before commenting on this.

I kind of want to know how much other things are being spent on. I find in general people are not good at tracking how much they spend in an objective sense.

teen witch posted:

I had my first migraine this past December and I genuinely thought I was about to drop dead in a Target. Absolutely surreal and I’ve had two since, but it is far more than a lovely headache.

chitoryu12 posted:

I'm not sure if it was a migraine, but I had a gigantic splitting headache on the way home from a road trip last year and I absolutely wanted to just knock myself the gently caress out. It felt like I had been smashed in the forehead with a hammer and no amount of Advil would do anything. I wasn't able to do much of anything coherently except lie down and moan in agony.

teen witch posted:

Was light making you freak out? That’s what I had and I hid in darkness for twelve hours confused with my head under a pillow

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I'm married and we have a three sons - 13, 8yo twins. Our marriage is dead in the water and we're basically just roommates and co-parents. People might suggest to divorce but the reality is that divorce doesn't come without a price and at this point, it's not worth it. Given that our marriage is dead, I don't want to share a bed with my wife. Plus she likes the room warm, she gets up early and her phone goes off because everything is set on alert. It started with my tucking in my 8yo sons and falling asleep with them. It was quite peaceful. Their room is cold and they have a little sound machine. They share a king-sized bed. It's an ideal sleeping place for me. Plus they like it too.

My wife told me it's not a good idea to co-sleep with them at that age and I told her that she is more than welcome to sleep on the couch and I will take back our bedroom. She didn't have anything to say after that, but she still doesn't like it. She complains about it on those nasty Mean Girl Mommy blogs and forums.

Right now, this is the best solution. I use the gym at my job so I don't really use our bathroom to shower and we have separate closets. By the time I get up, she's long gone for work.

EDIT: Why we just don't divorce is irrelevant. Divorcing is like pushing the nuclear button. Maybe when the kids are older. There are no winners if we divorce right now.

Not all married people live life some sitcom where you have to be totally in love with your spouse and bring them flowers everyday and if you don't then you should divorce. There is no rule book on marriage.

teen witch posted:

I had my first migraine this past December and I genuinely thought I was about to drop dead in a Target. Absolutely surreal and I’ve had two since, but it is far more than a lovely headache.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for preferring to sleep with my sons over my wife despite her protests?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for preferring to sleep with my sons over my wife despite her protests?

chitoryu12 posted:

"Divorce is the nuclear option and has no winners. That's why instead we've decided to just stay on opposite sides of the house from one another and only interact through arguments.""

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My son (m20) has been dating a girl he goes to university with for about 6 months now. She’s an international student from New Zealand, but has family here so is staying with them during covid-19. Due to lockdown restrictions and such, we hadn’t met her until a couple nights ago, when I invited her over for dinner with my family. We had FaceTimed a few times but not spoken a lot.

My husband and I are very Catholic and traditional, but spent a lot of our 20s travelling the world, including New Zealand. We visited her hometown so asked her a few questions about it which she happily answered, but when I asked about her Maori heritage and family, became quite uncomfortable and said she didn’t know a whole lot about it which I find hard to believe. We asked her if she was religious, she laughed and said no. We asked her about her degree which she seemed very passionate about, but it’s a fashion degree which isn’t exactly going to get her very far, in comparison to my son who is a law student.

It’s clear she loves my son and it’s mutual, and my other children adored her, but I don’t think she’s the right fit for my son. Her parents were both 16 when they had her, and she’s very open with the fact that they have a strong dislike for each other and haven’t spoken since she was 6 months old. She also seems to have a bizarre relationship with each of her parents.

After dinner she went and played monopoly with my daughters and sons, and made a couple crude jokes, as well as laughing at my son, her boyfriend, when he lost. My son asked me if she could stay, and I said she could as long as she slept in a separate room which he said was ridiculous as they’re both 20 and are living together next year. She decided to leave as she “didn’t feel welcome”.

After she left I told my son I didn’t approve and that I could set him up with a nice girl from my church if he preferred but he said he loves her and was furious I would even suggest it. My other son, who’s 16, heard me and said he really liked her. My husband said that even if I felt like that, I shouldn’t vocalise it because it’s clear my son loves her. I understand that but he should be with someone more suitable for our family in my opinion. AITA?

Soylent Pudding posted:

Oh cool my parents are on Reddit.

AITA for grilling my sons new girlfriend and telling him I don’t approve?

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for grilling my sons new girlfriend and telling him I don’t approve?

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My wife's parents are not accepting of queer folk. They didn't attend our wedding and tried to call DCF on us twice.

I'm not fond of them and I really don't want them in my life but that's not quite my call.

Anyways the other day I get a text from my mother-in-law about how I should enroll our children in a private, Catholic school. I'm an atheist, my wife's an atheist and our oldest (only school aged child) is a pagan.

I told her to kindly gently caress off and stay out of my parenting.

She got pissy at me and started going off about how she had so much more experience parenting than me and I replied "yeah and all of your children hate you, guess you're just a lovely parent, not surprising since you're such a loving disgusting woman you wouldn't attend your daughter's wedding because of your religion though."

She got mad and started calling my wife who didn't answer, then she called my parents who told me I should apologise and be the bigger person.

I don't think I was that harsh but was I TA?

Soylent Pudding posted:

Oh cool my parents are on Reddit.

AITA for grilling my sons new girlfriend and telling him I don’t approve?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for preferring to sleep with my sons over my wife despite her protests?

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for grilling my sons new girlfriend and telling him I don’t approve?

Admiralty Flag posted:

Tag urself I'm the law degree that's automatically going to get the son very far in a glutted field

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling my mother-in-law she's a terrible parent?

Admiralty Flag posted:

e: ^^ ESH: the MIL for being a poo poo sucking bigot; the OP for engaging with her instead of turfing the issue to her spouse who is forcing the MIL to remain involved in their lives

Admiralty Flag posted:

e: ^^ ESH: the MIL for being a poo poo sucking bigot; the OP for engaging with her instead of turfing the issue to her spouse who is forcing the MIL to remain involved in their lives

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

I'm not gonna fault someone for telling someone else to gently caress off when that is, in fact, what they need to do, but I feel like you'd have a lot more peace of mind if you just blocked their number and whatever other avenues of communication they have.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA for butchering a goose me and my bf got specifically for meat?

Admiralty Flag posted:

Tag urself I'm the law degree that's automatically going to get the son very far in a glutted field

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for preferring to sleep with my sons over my wife despite her protests?

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for telling my mother-in-law she's a terrible parent?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for preferring to sleep with my sons over my wife despite her protests?