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Is this bait? This feels like bait. AITA for giving my son’s college money away? quote:Somewhat provocative title, but here’s the full story...
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 02:01 |
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blackmet posted:r/relationships: the Iranian Yogurt is not the issue here From almost 30 pages back, but this needs to be the thread title.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 02:03 |
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Biplane posted:I guess we'll have to agree to disagree. It just doesn't seem all that unreasonable to me that a woman in a relationship with an obviously emotionally stunted redditor, who suddenly finds herself pregnant, feels the need to talk about it with her sister who she obviously is very close to, before laying it out for her robotic husband. Doing an awful lot of beating around the bush when it comes to this guy. You want to get it over with and say what you really mean?
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 02:46 |
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As a baby haver, I think the woman can tell whoever they want first. Maybe she couldn’t wait, maybe she was afraid of the husband’s reaction, maybe she didn’t think it through and didn’t mean to hurt him. Its the kind of an event that can be a total mindfuck and I am not going to judge any woman for telling who she tells when. I would apologize if I told someone else and it hurt my partner’s feelings, but this guy needs to grow up yesterday. Its not getting easier any time soon
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 03:16 |
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DemoneeHo posted:Is this bait? This feels like bait. Bullshit. If you cared about his financial literacy you would've taught it to him before he went to college.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 03:22 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Aita for threatening to not invite my stepsister to my wedding if she keeps fetishizing my fiancé’s race? NTA. Stepsister is being creepy and gross, and OP has every right to go "stop it or gently caress off". There's nothing bridezilla about this. It's good that her fiance is going "don't burn bridges over me," but stepsister is the one playing with matches. Hughlander posted:My (24f) boyfriend (25m) gaslit me using my birth control & other medications to get back at me for cancelling our engagement. I don't know where to go from here. Holy poo poo. Run. He's shown he's willing to gently caress with your meds and gaslight you about it. There is no recovery from this, he has destroyed any reason to trust him. pentyne posted:Not really seeing why breaking off an engagement and sticking around is a good idea. Great that she learned how manipulative her bf is but how do you walk back "let's get married" and not think the relationship is over? She says that none of her family live nearby, and she isn't sure if she could stay with friends. So I can see her justifying staying with him prior to this under the logic of "he says he understands and isn't angry, and it's not like I want to break up". It's a pity that he turned out to be an rear end in a top hat.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 03:55 |
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HungryMedusa posted:As a baby haver, I think the woman can tell whoever they want first. Maybe she couldn’t wait, maybe she was afraid of the husband’s reaction, maybe she didn’t think it through and didn’t mean to hurt him. Its the kind of an event that can be a total mindfuck and I am not going to judge any woman for telling who she tells when. This seems right, also lol @ the guy that said it'd do permanent damage to the relationship get over yourself.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 03:58 |
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AITA for yelling at my boyfriend to “just shut up” when he tried giving me a corporate finance lecture during sex?quote:My(23F) boyfriend (24M) works for a bank. He does stuff like financial modeling all day. I don’t really understand it despite a some basic accounting concepts.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 04:12 |
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artsy fartsy posted:AITA for yelling at my boyfriend to “just shut up” when he tried giving me a corporate finance lecture during sex? Haha!!!
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 04:15 |
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Holy poo poo, Cumshitter's evil mirror counterpart!
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 04:18 |
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Mission statement: Our plan espouses Holding Every Time Extraordinary Recessions Occur. While we appreciate the skill and foresight of Capital Under Management, the business hole only does well in market growing large and rigidly inflexible under a firm hand. Without vigorous pumping of currency deep into every asset Capital Under Management cannot hold on during the ups and downs we face today. When we stick to the goals of Holding Every Time Extraordinary Recessions Occur we will constantly keep our Dual Investment Capital Kickbacks and Variable Account Growth In New Assets together as the market continues to rise and fall, over and over. We present this not as superior to the tenets espoused when filling your assets with Capital Under Management, simply an alternative in today's unpredictable financial climate. edit: "Wanting to privatize" is a pretty good sex euphemism, not gonna lie threelemmings fucked around with this message at 05:03 on Jul 7, 2020 |
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AITA for throwing out my mom after she threw out my weed?quote:Throwaway in case someone I know sees this, don't want them to know my main reddit account.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 05:26 |
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threelemmings posted:edit: "Wanting to privatize" is a pretty good sex euphemism, not gonna lie "Classic Joke": Margaret Thatcher walked into the bathroom while her lover was showering. Immediately he covered himself. Confused, she said you are my lover, what have you go to be shy about? He said, the last time you saw a public service this large you privatized it. Barudak fucked around with this message at 05:32 on Jul 7, 2020 |
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Evil Willow posted:AITA for throwing out my mom after she threw out my weed? Lol at that part. Of course NTA like come on now.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 05:35 |
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No Pants posted:it doesn't change the calculus too much, but she told her husband's sister first Who’s been her best friend since before they were together.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 05:45 |
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threelemmings posted:Mission statement: Our plan espouses Holding Every Time Extraordinary Recessions Occur. While we appreciate the skill and foresight of Capital Under Management, the business hole only does well in market growing large and rigidly inflexible under a firm hand. Without vigorous pumping of currency deep into every asset Capital Under Management cannot hold on during the ups and downs we face today. When we stick to the goals of Holding Every Time Extraordinary Recessions Occur we will constantly keep our Dual Investment Capital Kickbacks and Variable Account Growth In New Assets together as the market continues to rise and fall, over and over. We present this not as superior to the tenets espoused when filling your assets with Capital Under Management, simply an alternative in today's unpredictable financial climate. Why would Cumshitter embed HETERO and VAGINA in a mission statement? I get why he'd use DICK, but come on now. Cumshitter- is this your intern? If so you'd better get a handle on them or I'll pull my CUM out of your rear end.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 05:51 |
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He’s obviously a competitor of Capital Under Management.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 05:59 |
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Emily Spinach posted:He’s obviously a competitor of Capital Under Management. Organizational Vestings Under Management
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 06:24 |
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AITA for making my 17 year old daughter pay 500$ for a trip I said I would pay for?quote:So a year ago my daughter got invited to go to Washington DC from a program called envision. When she got the invitation in the mail she was so excited but when she saw the price tag she decided it’s best for her not to go because it was something around 2.5k but I figure that hey she’s moving out in a few years this might be the only trip she can take for a while so I told her me and her father would pay for it if she gets the money for her plane ticket and when she comes back she would do more chores and she was fine with it and excited. She picks up more shifts at work and get enough money to buy her plane ticket (about 346$) and we pay in installments (500$ every month) so after the trip (a few months after) we get a message that our final payment have not made it through and it was around 500$ but we didn’t have the money to make this and we asked our daughter to pay it because we could not afford it and she completely blew up on us! She said that she was saving up for a new computer upgrade and money for when she moves out and she refuses to pay it. I told her it would be for the good of the family if she just payed it but she refuses too. I’ve now been sending her the emails we are getting from the debt collection agency and she is furious that we have not payed it yet. AITA for making her pay the 500$? In the comments the daughter responds quote:For one you know that I have Reddit and you choose to put this post up, I said I didn’t want to go when I saw how expensive that it was and I even declined that I wanted to go when you offered to pay but YOU filled out all the forms and told me that all expenses were covered by a bonus you got (which you didn’t) and all I would need to get is the ticket. You LIED to me. I refuse to pay that 500$ I’m aware that there are times when we don’t have a lot of money but every paycheck I buy at least 4 meals for all of us every two weeks don’t act like it’s not your fault. Your the one that lent him the money and it’s your fault your not getting paid back. Even worse the daughter posted this to r/aita two weeks ago WIBTA if I move away from my family that have been manipulative? quote:So I am about to move away for college I live in the eastern part of Illinois and I want to move to Oregon. I have discussed this with my parents many times and they are very against it because they don’t think that I’m ready to move out on my own. I have explained many times that I can I’ve taken all the courses in school that prepares you for living on your own, I’ve worked very hard to accumulate a savings of about 1.1k so far and I’ve been paying bills for my phone and for the car I use etc. I’ve been working hard in my schooling to get to graduate a semester early in high school and in my job (I’m a cook in a restaurant).
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 06:24 |
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A long time ago in this thread there was a post from a woman who had gotten married first out of all her friends, and her friends gave her "advice" on how to make sure that her husband didn't walk all over her. This advice amounted to being a huge selfish bitch and it ruined her marriage, and then when her friends later got married they all became stepford wives and one admitted to her that they were just using her as a testbed for their dumb ideas. Real gut punch of an oof. Does anyone have a link to that one?
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 06:28 |
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WIBTA for not giving my child my husband’s last name to shield them from bigotry?quote:(Throwaway for usual reasons). I am in the process of trying for a baby with my husband who is wonderful and I adore. When I got married I did not take his last name, mostly because I just didn’t feel it was necessary. I also assumed I would give our kids his name if he wanted it that way (which he does). But I’ve been thinking it over and now I am concerned. My husband’s last name is El-Masri (he’s of Egyptian heritage, but grew up in the US). This name is very divisive and causes him LOADS of problems in life because of its association with terrorism, particularly during 9/11. My husbands gets stopped all the time, mistreated by TSA, and has had several negative police interactions. He also has a darker complexion, so obviously it is not entirely name-based, but regardless of the reasons it sucks how he gets treated.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 06:32 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA for not giving my child my husband’s last name to shield them from bigotry? damned if you do damned if you dont situation. snergle fucked around with this message at 07:17 on Jul 7, 2020 |
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snergle posted:damned if you damned if you dont situation. Yeah, if that dude is at the airport with very light skinned kids that don't have his name? Look out.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 07:10 |
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:AITA for breaking up with my friend group for horrible relationship advice that broke up my marriage?
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 07:10 |
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This one never ever gets old.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 07:19 |
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kimbo305 posted:Yeah, if that dude is at the airport with very light skinned kids that don't have his name? Look out. honestly i didnt even think about that but that is very in the damned if you do part. when i first read it i knew i would give the child the name and try to teach them to be weary of cops and poo poo but ive been thinking about it since i read the post and there is no good option even mine sucks because seeing that name on a job application in white collar office jobs is an instant shredder for most places and the name is going to close so many other doors but changing it could also lead to that thing where minority children adopted by white people hate the fact that they have no connection to white culture or their racial culture and are stuck inbetween.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA for not giving my child my husband’s last name to shield them from bigotry? Move to Australia, around the Canterbury-Bankstown area, kid will be a King
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snergle posted:changing it could also lead to that thing where minority children adopted by white people hate the fact that they have no connection to hite culture or their racial culture and are stuck inbetween. As for what they should do, that's for them to decide and no one who hasn't lived it can really give an opinion since those opinions will almost certainly be based on whether the person giving it values pragmatism or defiance more highly, neither of which is a decision one should be making for others. Yeah it feels hosed up that they make a decision based on what other people will think, but the decision to use the father's name is also a social decision based on what others will think, it's just that it's the default one and makes not thinking about the implications easier. A hyphenated name or a variation on their names might be a solution as well depending on how they feel about it.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 07:38 |
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Call them Pnurtis El-Masri Jones or similar and then they can go by their white name in situations where they might interact with racists but have their father's name right there for all the other times.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 07:44 |
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As a person from a long line of ethnic mixing and middle eastern names, there are lots of viable options. First, just a new one as a household so everyone has the same name, then let your kids repeat the process with their own families if they desire. Second, every half middle eastern person I know is considered white as hell visually so even just a white first name will probably be good enough, even if you keep the last name. Third, you could also arguably drop the "Al-" part of the name like one branch of my family did and everyone thought they were dutch based on the name because Americans are real dumb.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 07:52 |
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Hi my name is Alan Masri, people call me Al. Problem solved.
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# ? Jul 7, 2020 08:20 |
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quote:Dear Prudence, quote:Dear RSVP,
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GORDON posted:Yeah. It wouldn't sit well with me. And I'm not a beep boop engineer. The reason it wouldn't sit well is because the reason for withholding the info is usually 'i wasn't sure if I actually wanted a baby with you', which btw is a reasonable position. There's no a moral imperative to tell the father right away - just the opposite, in fact. Once you're pregnant, you have to do the hard thinking on if the person you're with is actually ready to be a dad, and if you actually want to build a life with them - and they may come out lacking and the answer might be no. Then you get to decide if you're gonna move forward or not. Part of that is deciding if you're even going to share that info and have that discussion, or not. Anyway that's not the case with that OP, I'm piping in to explain why the concept may sit weird deep in some folks' gut. But ultimately this just sounds like two super-close ladies, so maybe that guy should be happy his wife is happy and he's gonna have a family? StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 09:33 on Jul 7, 2020 |
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threelemmings posted:Mission statement: Our plan espouses Holding Every Time Extraordinary Recessions Occur. While we appreciate the skill and foresight of Capital Under Management, the business hole only does well in market growing large and rigidly inflexible under a firm hand. Without vigorous pumping of currency deep into every asset Capital Under Management cannot hold on during the ups and downs we face today. When we stick to the goals of Holding Every Time Extraordinary Recessions Occur we will constantly keep our Dual Investment Capital Kickbacks and Variable Account Growth In New Assets together as the market continues to rise and fall, over and over. We present this not as superior to the tenets espoused when filling your assets with Capital Under Management, simply an alternative in today's unpredictable financial climate. Honestly, HETERO is a great concept and the only time it can be applied in real life with positive results. artsy fartsy posted:AITA for yelling at my boyfriend to just shut up when he tried giving me a corporate finance lecture during sex? OK this dork is an analyst, or Chartered Financial Analyst which is honestly an extremely difficult certification to get and I respect anyone who holds it. I also understand the impulse to share your financial knowledge with people. If you let me, I will talk your ear off about about a bunch of boring finance poo poo. That said, I would be the first person to tell you my job shouldn't exist. And that's why I want to share my knowledge with people. It is extremely hosed up that even what we could call the typical, American ideal of success requires extra steps to retire comfortably. On top of learning whatever specialized skills are necessary to eke out a decent living you're required to play a meta game with money wherein a significant portion of your life savings are subject to the whims of the market. Even if you just max out 401k contributions your average investor is still flying blind and has no idea what the alphabet soup of funds in their 401k mean. Like the average person has no idea what the gently caress "Russell 1000 Value" or "Barclay's Government/Credit Intermediate" mean, but those are reasonable funds to hold and you're expected to own them. Anyway, the #1 way to piss off a CFA is to keep calling them a Certified Financial Analyst. They loving hate that, and will correct you every time. Just knock their dumb degree off the wall and call them a nerd if they argue with you. If they specialize in equities tell them they're just scrying bones like a fiscal shaman and ask them what the twitching of the goat's intestines are telling them about the market today. If they work with bonds call them low-T wimps who are too chicken poo poo to ride the NYSE rollercoaster. I'm an equity man myself, because I ride the loving whirlwind. Equities until I loving DIE. I have NYSE on my left knuckles and DJIA on my right
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Why the hell would I charter a CFA if they aren't certified?
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Machai posted:Why the hell would I charter a CFA if they aren't certified? To sail the wide accountant-seas?
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StrangersInTheNight posted:The reason it wouldn't sit well is because the reason for withholding the info is usually 'i wasn't sure if I actually wanted a baby with you', which btw is a reasonable position. "Not being told first" isn't actually the deal breaker. To me, it's a minor bummer. But another person laid out a case why a woman isn't REQUIRED to tell the father first. Of course women aren't property, are people, and have the freedom to do what they want. But the reasons offered: 1. She's afraid of his response? Relationship ender. 2. Her significant other isn't the most important person in her life? Relationship ender. 3. "Just can't wait to tell someone?" jfc Not telling him first is a symptom of a much bigger problem. It wouldn't sit well with me.
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GORDON posted:"Not being told first" isn't actually the deal breaker. To me, it's a minor bummer. But another person laid out a case why a woman isn't REQUIRED to tell the father first. Why is #3 “jfc”?
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GORDON posted:2. Her significant other isn't the most important person in her life? Relationship ender. I don't disagree but there are a lot of otherwise stable relationships where one or both partners looks to someone else as their closest confidant and emotional support, to the point that there's a school of thought that considers it ideal
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