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AITA for disrespecting Japanese 'culture' by wearing shoes?quote:I'm a young professional living in a major city in the U.S., and I live in a group home with 5 other 20-somethings. Our house is an old, four-story row home that was built in the 1920s, and although we keep it neat and clean, some parts of the house are just a little worn down from being a group home for so long. For example, the first floor of the house is all wood flooring, and although we sweep and vacuum it regularly, it is a bit dirty from the accumulate years of footsteps.
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Unlike the person who summered in spain and now says Barthelona this dude is 100% right.
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Sep 28, 2020 01:02
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for disrespecting Japanese 'culture' by wearing shoes? The japanese culture angle is dumb and if you don't wanna wear house slippers it's w/e but yeah take off your shoes when you come in.
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Sep 28, 2020 01:04
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Piell posted:AITA for giving my kids unequal wedding gifts and honestly one gift sucked? Clearly justified as written, but I somehow doubt the word of the one daughter in law was all it took to turn all the kids against her. I was an accident, but my parents definitely never made that my problem. Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for disrespecting Japanese 'culture' by wearing shoes? You live in the city. Clean your goddamn floor and take off your shoes, you're not a animal you piece of poo poo
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Sep 28, 2020 01:17
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for disrespecting Japanese 'culture' by wearing shoes? Ok, who the gently caress regularly wears shoes in their own house?! Every time this argument comes up, it's always about someone getting miffed about having to take off their shoes at someone else's place. Which I guess I can understand on some level (even though they're wrong), like maybe it feels too invasive or overly familiar or they just don't want everyone to see their gross socks. But this guy is in his own house! What is the issue? The only time I wear shoes in my house is if I'm walking out the door or if I forgot something and have to run in for a second. Oh, but spending $5 on some slippers or even just wearing his drat socks is just way too much work for him.
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Sep 28, 2020 01:20
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wizardofloneliness posted:Ok, who the gently caress regularly wears shoes in their own house?! disgusting neanderthals and american boomers take your drat shoes off indoors. if it's summer and you are constantly going in and out, get a pair of sandals that you can just step into
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Sep 28, 2020 01:26
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wizardofloneliness posted:Ok, who the gently caress regularly wears shoes in their own house?! Every time this argument comes up, it's always about someone getting miffed about having to take off their shoes at someone else's place. Which I guess I can understand on some level (even though they're wrong), like maybe it feels too invasive or overly familiar or they just don't want everyone to see their gross socks. But this guy is in his own house! What is the issue? The only time I wear shoes in my house is if I'm walking out the door or if I forgot something and have to run in for a second. Oh, but spending $5 on some slippers or even just wearing his drat socks is just way too much work for him. I wear mine from the entranceway to my bedroom and vice versa. My bedroom is clear across the apartment from my door, but I don't like having shoes cluttering up that area in the living room. Aside from that though, I'm going to barefoot. Also, I hate taking off my shoes at other people's houses (though I will if the host insists). It just makes me wonder if my feet smell, and I don't like wearing socks on the floor, and then when I go to leave I have to spend too much dang time leaning against a wall to put my shoes back on. It's just a pain in my rear end, but it's not the end of the world or anything.
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Sep 28, 2020 01:26
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:Clearly justified as written, but I somehow doubt the word of the one daughter in law was all it took to turn all the kids against her. I was an accident, but my parents definitely never made that my problem. wizardofloneliness posted:Ok, who the gently caress regularly wears shoes in their own house?! Every time this argument comes up, it's always about someone getting miffed about having to take off their shoes at someone else's place. Which I guess I can understand on some level (even though they're wrong), like maybe it feels too invasive or overly familiar or they just don't want everyone to see their gross socks. But this guy is in his own house! What is the issue? The only time I wear shoes in my house is if I'm walking out the door or if I forgot something and have to run in for a second. Oh, but spending $5 on some slippers or even just wearing his drat socks is just way too much work for him. Like every time this exchange of facts comes up, the people who wear their disgusting shoes inside their own houses are filth golems whose floors are so, unclean and unsafe, they want to wear shoes to protect their feet because they don't keep their living spaces cleaner than the parking lot of your average family dollar. I can understand him not wanting to pay a lot of money for a "deep cleaning" of a wood floor (what the hell even is that?) but him insisting on wearing shoes is clearly just stupidity. WIBTA for reporting my professor for teaching on days she shouldn't? quote:Normally this would be a straightforward question for me, but there are some circumstances that are making me question this decision, so here's some context first:
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Sep 28, 2020 01:26
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The_Franz posted:disgusting neanderthals and american boomers Yeah, my dad wears shoes inside a lot. Not all the time, but he'll frequently wear some old tennis shoes for extended periods indoors. I don't know what the deal is. The OP isn't in his 60s though, so he has even less of an excuse.
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Sep 28, 2020 01:34
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Invisible Clergy posted:WIBTA for reporting my professor for teaching on days she shouldn't? ArbitraryC fucked around with this message at 01:48 on Sep 28, 2020 |
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Sep 28, 2020 01:46
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Invisible Clergy posted:Like every time this exchange of facts comes up, the people who wear their disgusting shoes inside their own houses are filth golems whose floors are so, unclean and unsafe, they want to wear shoes to protect their feet because they don't keep their living spaces cleaner than the parking lot of your average family dollar. I can understand him not wanting to pay a lot of money for a "deep cleaning" of a wood floor (what the hell even is that?) but him insisting on wearing shoes is clearly just stupidity. I grew up in Puerto Rico. Most houses are built entirely out of concrete, have tiled floors in every room (even bedrooms), and don't have central a/c (most didn't even have window units in the bedrooms). This means that windows have to be left open to facilitate airflow throughout the house, which results in very dusty floors that have to be swept and mopped regularly, so most people wear shoes or flipflops even inside the house. It's always so funny to me when I read about Americans recoiling at the thought of people wearing shoes indoors. I mean, I understand why, specially when you consider just how filthy carpet can get, but it just never registers are something out of the ordinary for me given how things are where I grew up.
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Sep 28, 2020 01:49
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Invisible Clergy posted:WIBTA for reporting my professor for teaching on days she shouldn't? this really depends on the details of the class and the university's policies if she is adding extra lectures on non-scheduled days that must be attended to get full credit, lol that's extremely out of line and yes she should be reported for it. if, on the other hand, the professor is basically leading tutorial sessions outside of class and recording and posting them for everyone's benefit, that is totally fine and actually really nice. similar situation with the quizzes. if they contain content that can only be gotten by viewing the lecture, that's iffy depending on what the homework expectations are. saying "watch this video for homework" is perfectly fine, even if it's just the teacher talking some more; saying "watch these 10 hours of videos for homework" for a 90 minute class is pushing it. but if the quiz content is available in the textbook and outlined for the students in the syllabus or course website or whatever, and the extra lectures/tutorials are just an alternate way of getting it, then again that's fine and the student just needs to decide how they want to study.
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Sep 28, 2020 01:52
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Barudak posted:Unlike the person who summered in spain and now says Barthelona this dude is 100% right. I’m the guy who corrects people and says “it’s pronounced Ibitha”. 
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Sep 28, 2020 01:59
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A lot of people wear their shoes indoors. My dad used to wear his work boots until bed. Maybe it’s an upper class thing
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Sep 28, 2020 02:13
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Invisible Clergy posted:WIBTA for reporting my professor for teaching on days she shouldn't? That is some serious bullshit. The whole point of a class schedule is to know wen you need to be at class and when you'd be available to take a different class. Also, did anyone post the original to this? Is so, I seem to have missed it: UPDATE: AITA for telling my coworker to gently caress off for showing me Waluigi Porn? quote:So I got an overwhelming majority of people telling me I was NTA for this, but a few people pointed out that if my coworker was special needs, he likely had trouble understanding when enough was enough. Because of this, I should have communicated my boundaries more gently.
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Sep 28, 2020 02:14
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Cockmaster posted:That is some serious bullshit. The whole point of a class schedule is to know wen you need to be at class and when you'd be available to take a different class. That's a far happier ending than I expected.
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Sep 28, 2020 02:28
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Cockmaster posted:That is some serious bullshit. The whole point of a class schedule is to know wen you need to be at class and when you'd be available to take a different class. Hopefully this was just a one-off and the sheer social roasting Waluigi Porn Guy experienced helps him recover from his meme poisoning.
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Sep 28, 2020 02:59
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Cockmaster posted:That is some serious bullshit. The whole point of a class schedule is to know wen you need to be at class and when you'd be available to take a different class.
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Sep 28, 2020 03:35
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ArbitraryC posted:Attendance isn't mandetory and the material is recorded! Jesus christ people are idiots, the prof is doing something for your benefit. Yes it's fine if the material is on exams because it's also in the books that you were supposed to be reading you piece of poo poo. Education having to cater to people who don't wanna learn is what makes it suck for everyone who does. It all depends on what is in the syllabus. If the syllabus says "lectures on Wed" and she's lecturing on different days, yeah that instructor is going to be in a shitload of trouble.
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Sep 28, 2020 04:05
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Again, it really depends on how the content is delivered. Adding extra required lectures on non-class days, or changing the class schedule, is sehr verboten. Holding daily optional tutorial sessions, and posting them online for students who can't attend, is sehr gut. The OP doesn't give us enough information to really know what's going on. It is possible that the professor has said something like "for next week read chapters 8-12, or I'll be covering them in the optional tutorial sessions, and there will be a test on the material" and the student doesn't understand the choice she is being given. I've also known a few really clueless and self-centered professors who would do something like switch the class date and expect every student to figure out how to attend. Could be either way. e: if we take the OP at her word, the professor does seem to be going a little overboard. in the hypothetical case where I decided to be a really good professor and hold effectively double the number of class hours per week out of the goodness of my heart, I could see some of the students who weren't able to attend feeling like they were getting stiffed, even though they still got the basic class hours. If escalated to the dean, I don't know which way that would shake out. I have tenure and I am the final authority on how I run the class, but it could be argued that I was giving some of the students an unfair advantage by essentially tutoring them for free when not everyone can make it to the extra sessions. Interesting question Sagebrush fucked around with this message at 04:22 on Sep 28, 2020 |
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Sep 28, 2020 04:15
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As described it's entirely quote:It is possible that the professor has said something like "for next week read chapters 8-12, or I'll be covering them in the optional tutorial sessions, and there will be a test on the material" They had their time to write their post in the exact way they wanted to, ambiguity is always meant to be in the author's favor, outside the weird gotcha posts. They already specified it was clear the lectures were optional, the only thing they said is they also got tested on the material. This wouldn't be weird at all if the material was in the book and the syllabus had chapter assignments, but they figured this would be a way to be a total weasel and try and get someone in trouble. This is extra bad because modern new professors are on the most precarious of footing, and complaints like these, no matter how unfounded, can be career breaking when compared to peers that make their class as "easy A". They tell you during orientation that a class is supposed to take about 2 extra hours per hour in class, which is why the typical semester credit load for "full time" is set at 4 classes, 3 hours a week in class + 6 hours a week out = 9, 4x9 is 36 bingo bango you got a full workweek. Most classes, particularly early on, do not really meet this load, which make classes that get anywhere close to it ripe for complaints. Prof has a reasonable courseload and is going above and beyond by having recorded extra sessions but because people like the OP don't actually wanna be in school their career is gonna take a hit. Uni's have become a service and the customer is always right.
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Sep 28, 2020 04:26
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The distinction I see is that it's an in-person (or Zoom, whatever) tutorial session, not just an additional reading/lecture/assignment. If the professor had pre-recorded a bunch of additional class content and assigned it as homework, there's no problem there. The student can find time for it when she wants. But it's not that -- it's a session where students can presumably ask questions and get coaching on specific areas. That is a lot more valuable than just another recorded lecture, and you don't get as much of a benefit if you're not there. So the students who attend the extra sessions get instant feedback to improve their work, while those who can't are stuck. I assume can always sign up for office hours but that would require the student to be proactive lol. Like I said, I'm still on the professor's side here (especially after the OP's comment "Sure they're recorded, but this is a lot of extra work and time I'm having to take just to keep up with the class") but I think it's an interesting question. It's just one that is essentially never raised because lol @ a professor actually holding multiple additional tutorials per week outside of their assigned teaching load. It's unheard of
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Sep 28, 2020 04:44
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ClamdestineBoyster posted:I’m the guy who corrects people and says “it’s pronounced Ibitha”. Imagining someone now who names their kid Ibitha because it’s exotic
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Sep 28, 2020 04:47
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Sagebrush posted:The distinction I see is that it's an in-person (or Zoom, whatever) tutorial session, not just an additional reading/lecture/assignment. If the professor had pre-recorded a bunch of additional class content and assigned it as homework, there's no problem there. The student can find time for it when she wants. "You're not allowed to offer anyone else anything because I'm too lazy to ask for stuff myself" is dumb and you can already see it's dumb because 99% of office hours and tutoring schedules are done within a window of hours anyways and no one complains about those because no one shows up to them. The reason I hate this OP so much is that for like the handful of hard classes I had to take in undergraduate they regularly both offered office hours and extra sessions, and the reality is the material they needed to cover (which is not necessarily decided by the professor) was more than a mwf could mesh with and it was loving great they offered those sessions. It was like the professor saying "I want you to succeed and will do everything I can to give you the tools to do so". But at least one of them I directly recall I had a schedule conflict so I asked the professor if we could meet other times and they opened their door to me and were just happy I wanted to be there. The idea of reporting these people is loving offensive. And that poo poo wasn't recorded. A prof going as far as having 4 extra recorded tutorial sessions a week is gonna work with whatever student asks them for help, probably to an unreasonable extent on their part, and some weenus that has the wherewithal to see that other people are going to get a better grade than them because they're more willing to engage in the material reporting a professor for doing more than the bare minimum frankly makes my blood boil. There is no situation where they are offering extra sessions on their own time just to make the material less approachable. They aren't paid for that. The complaint doesn't make sense from the ground up but that doesn't mean it couldn't hurt their career in this climate. ArbitraryC fucked around with this message at 05:02 on Sep 28, 2020 |
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Sep 28, 2020 04:59
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AITA for using an oppai mouse pad that was given to me?quote:I (26M) live with my girlfriend (28F). In my teens, I used to be a massive, VERY CRINGY otaku, the kind who would pick up his phone saying "moshi moshi?". I even had a body pillow. I eventually grew out of it in university and while I may rarely watch it, I'm not that into it anymore.
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Sep 28, 2020 05:34
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for using an oppai mouse pad that was given to me?
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Sep 28, 2020 06:47
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Aita For kicking out my husband's cousin when he was telling someone at the funeral that he knew that my son was going to die? quote:My son passed away last month of a chronic heart condition at the age of 9, He undergone two critical surgeries, medication was not doing any affect, his heart failed, I spent the past months with him at the hospital, my family only visited at home, and stayed there when he was having his surgery.
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Sep 28, 2020 07:04
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You know what they say, ACAB
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Sep 28, 2020 07:05
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Aita For kicking out my husband's cousin when he was telling someone at the funeral that he knew that my son was going to die? Apologize by punching his face through a wall jfc. 
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Sep 28, 2020 07:09
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I’ve always wondered about those shoes off people, do they have different sets of shoes for each door? Backyard shoes/etc, or do y’all just carry your shoes around the house a bunch?
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Sep 28, 2020 07:10
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Pirate Radar posted:Imagining someone now who names their kid Ibitha because it’s exotic Well if it’s a boy name it Barfalona obviously. 
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Sep 28, 2020 07:13
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blugu64 posted:I’ve always wondered about those shoes off people, do they have different sets of shoes for each door? Backyard shoes/etc, or do y’all just carry your shoes around the house a bunch? I take my shoes off when I come into the apartment and put slippers on, those are my house slippers, then I also have a pair of slippers for my front balcony and another for my back balcony (since they’re outdoors they get dirty and I don’t want to track it inside). I could carry the balcony slippers from one to the other or wear my shoes on the balconies but I don’t. These are all plastic/rubber slippers, not fuzzy slippers.
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Sep 28, 2020 07:15
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blugu64 posted:I’ve always wondered about those shoes off people, do they have different sets of shoes for each door? Backyard shoes/etc, or do y’all just carry your shoes around the house a bunch? look at this guy who lives in a house with multiple doors lmao but yes you take your shoes off and carry them through the house, or you go out the front door and then walk to the back yard, etc. this is not a burden of any sort unless you weigh 485 lb
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Sep 28, 2020 07:16
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blugu64 posted:I’ve always wondered about those shoes off people, do they have different sets of shoes for each door? Backyard shoes/etc, or do y’all just carry your shoes around the house a bunch?
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Sep 28, 2020 07:18
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I have back door and front door shoes, or i take my shoes off and leave them in a centrally accessible area Except for the last month where I have had to go against my nature and wear closed toe shoes inside because I have a puppy who loves to steal my slippers off my feet and then chew my toes to pieces like an absolute cliche anyway, content: My [21F] mom [60F] won't stop wearing shoes in my room. quote:Am back home for the summer. My parents and I generally have different home habits, but I know to respect our differences and keep my practices to my room. For example, I do not like wearing shoes in the home. My parents think it is ok to wear shoes inside, so I have a pair of house shoes I wear around. But I don't wear shoes in my room, and have explained this multiple times to my parents. However, my mom still always walks in with shoes on. If I'm in my room, I will ask her to stand in the doorway, where she will still put a foot in the room (maybe she's testing to see if I'll say something, but I don't). If I'm downstairs doing work or cooking, she'll come into my room to play with my hamster. So I have to be on guard to check upstairs to see if she has entered my room without me knowing. But often leaves her shoes on. She came into my room again to put my dog's leash on, with shoes on. I asked her if she could not enter my room with shoes on, and she responded, "if I remember."
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Sep 28, 2020 07:20
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Dude if ppl are shoes off ppl that carpet better be plush and wall to wall and it better feel better than my socks and I best be able to put my raw feet on a velvet couch and there better be radiant floor heating in the bathroom just sayin.
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Sep 28, 2020 07:21
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We kept sandals by the back and garage doors for short errands.
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Sep 28, 2020 07:21
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Bruceski posted:We kept sandals by the back and garage doors for short errands. Lol just slip on the family sandals. 
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Sep 28, 2020 07:28
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im reminded of the reddit post where the guy rattled off like thirty things his wife thought was gross (less than 2 showers per day, eating anything that wasn't super fresh) but would make out with him after he ate her rear end.
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Sep 28, 2020 07:31
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the shoes in the house always brings out the weirdest people who just can't understand the idea of having some simple slippers or sandals available to wear and bringing shoes from one exit to another is this monumental task.
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Sep 28, 2020 07:40
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