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HugeGrossBurrito posted:Topic unlocked Lmao so this person is fine but i get probed for telling people not to post abuse stories in the thread bc of "backseat modding" cool cool cool
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Forum rules and their enforcement are arbitrary, by definition. hastag-dealwithit edit, content: My(32f) husband (36) doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with leaving his wife and kids to go on vacation. quote:He’s taken 3 trips (3-7 days boating with his family) in the last 6 months. The first trip I was 8.5 months pregnant, with a 3 yr old toddler. He went again two more times, when baby was 6 weeks and 4 months. He claims men go on business trips all the time and this is the same thing. I had agreed to let him go but under different circumstances. He planned the trips with his dad and changed plans on what we had agreed. I let him go because I don’t feel like I have a great relationship with my in-laws and was afraid I’d be blamed for ruining the trip. I managed but it was really hard for me. When I had my first child he went to Europe for two weeks and said it was a business trip. When he came back he said he only worked about 10% of the time. Serephina fucked around with this message at 05:44 on Oct 24, 2020 |
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Serephina posted:Forum rules and their enforcement are arbitrary, by definition. Knowing about the Dairy Inspection Program Advisory Committee before I married my wonderful wife has made our life together so much easier. (Please tell me what it stands for in this context, Google is no help here.)
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penis is abundant and of little value
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Dick is Plentiful and Cheap
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DICAP is the canon version. (dick is cheap and plentiful)
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Dick Is Pretty Awesome Cowboy!
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Thank you all! Apparently I knew that but had forgotten or the DICAP/DIPAC change caused my brain to not process it.
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DICAP Attack was one of my favorite genesis games
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AITA for interviewing job candidates in a foreign language if their résumé claims non-native fluency in that language? quote:I manage a team of software developers, and am in charge of all hiring for my team. I absolutely cannot tolerate candidates who bullshit about their skills, technical or otherwise. I (and all of my employees who interview candidates) really probe that a candidate knows everything they claim on their résumé. For example, if you claim to be a C++ expert, you’d better demonstrate C++ proficiency during an interview.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not wanting a backup name if our daughter doesn’t come out black enough? I assure you she will look mixed. Other Nigerians can loving tell I’m Nigerian, even though my first name isn’t. Hell I can pick out other Nigerians at times, regardless of name. Also quantifying if you’re kid is black enough is insanely hosed. Punishment for such male foolishness: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sitting_on_a_man?wprov=sfti1
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AITA for saying you shouldn’t call babies ugly?quote:AITA For getting upset when people argued that all babies are gross and ugly?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for interviewing job candidates in a foreign language if their résumé claims non-native fluency in that language? I'm not sure but I think that's actually fair. I can't say I would ever claim to know a language that I didn't know. I can imagine that plenty of weebs would claim they know Japanese 'cause they know a few words or whatever and would put it on their resume. However, I think that it's possible that if it's a language that the interviewer doesn't know and gets an employee to grade their knowledge, there may be reason for the employee to claim that the interviewee doesn't cut the mustard with the language so that they're not hired. Doubly so if the company is as cutthroat as it sounds.
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Tarkus V2.0 posted:I'm not sure but I think that's actually fair. I can't say I would ever claim to know a language that I didn't know. I can imagine that plenty of weebs would claim they know Japanese 'cause they know a few words or whatever and would put it on their resume. Nah it's a symptom of extremely toxic interview processes. That op is a dick, and is likely running an extremely dysfunctional office. He's not wrong in that lying on your resume in obvious ways is dumb, because you can get caught. But approaching the interview from the starting position of "I need to check if this person is lying" is loving terrible.
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for saying you shouldn’t call babies ugly? Babies are objectively ugly and it's only intense hormones that make people think they aren't. NTA Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for interviewing job candidates in a foreign language if their résumé claims non-native fluency in that language? No, you should expect to be able to back up anything you put on your resume. If you say you're fluent when you aren't, and you lose the job as a result, too bad for you. Yeah it might suck if it isn't relevant to the job, but maybe don't put random lies on if they aren't gonna make a difference? But at the same time, unless the job actually requires the language, sending someone over to test their fluency is needless gatekeeping. ESH.
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Nah it's a symptom of extremely toxic interview processes. That op is a dick, and is likely running an extremely dysfunctional office. He's not wrong in that lying on your resume in obvious ways is dumb, because you can get caught. But approaching the interview from the starting position of "I need to check if this person is lying" is loving terrible. Yeah, I get what you're saying but in this day and age being able to speak, say Tagalog, may be important to being able to work with a specific set of people in the company or outside of the company. It's not like listing your hobby as parasailing and being tested on your mad skillz. It is a pertinent skill in many workplaces and shouldn't be listed willy nilly. OP is probably a dick but ESH.
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Depending on the language it might not be obviously related to the job but could be something they consider when deciding who to hire. We look at a lot of documents where I work and sometimes they are in foriegn languages and we need to ask the customer to translate them. Unless we have an employee on hand who is comfortable reading the document and determining if it's acceptable. Being able to read Spanish or Chinese or German might not be something we would put in the job description but could actually come up down the road when the person in the cubicle next to you comes across something and asks for your help. We don't hire our own translators but in some positions it's considered valuable to read or speak a foriegn language. The applicant is trying to leverage their language skills for an edge in the hiring process, so it's fair to test it.
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Years ago we interviewed someone for a technical support position who put on his CV that he could speak Mandarin. My boss had spent several months in China the year before so just said [good morning in Mandarin] to him. He went completely blank and when pressed, said he’d put it on there because his mum spoke it, so if it become relevant she could teach him. Shortest interview I’ve ever done.
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# ? Oct 24, 2020 08:51 |
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I notice a huge thing in AITA (and Relationship subs as well), is where friends are split between the OP being good or bad in a situation where they were clearly the good guy... And it pretty much always comes to light that the reason for that is that the OP never actually told anyone their side of the story. Like there's been a couple stories, like the girl with the wheelchair-bound friend, where just actually telling people what happened instantly made the people take their side. Its so weird to me, how they just refuse to defend themselves until pushed
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It really only matters if the fluency is related to the job. Most people are told by resume writing companies to lie and exaggerate their resume with things like that so they stand out from the stack of 100s. "Fluency" as a resume word is also a bad idea, because "proficient" can mean whatever you want when asked. pentyne fucked around with this message at 09:27 on Oct 24, 2020 |
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Knobb Manwich posted:A Filipino told me the teeth dreams mean someone close to you is gonna die. Well, they're completely right, but they just didn't say when those people would die.
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for saying you shouldn’t call babies ugly? I feel exhausted just reading this, I cant imagine actually interacting with this person.
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DemoneeHo posted:Always remember: DIPAC (or did we settle on DICAP?) I prefer DICAP because it has 'dick' in it. Invisible Clergy posted:Either is acceptable. I personally prefer DIPAC, as in Chopra, so I can imagine a guru telling all these posters to leave their crusty-assed boyfriends. Not sure if this is relationships material, but isn't Deepak a scam? Though maybe many a guru is. See you all in a month when I clear this backlog.
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Of course he is; all gurus are. See you in a month. AITA for refusing to use my employee discount to buy my brother clothes??? quote:Ok this happened a couple hours ago my stepmother and father wanted me to use my employee discount at the clothing store that I work at and I told them no because it is a violation of the contract that I agreed to at my workplace and it states that I can not pay for other people while using my discount and have them pay me back but I can however buy it as a gift and so they got pissed at me and they said "oh its not like they'll find out" the mangers of the store actually have a team of investigators that look into these things so they would actually find out so am I the rear end in a top hat here or no??
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Danaru posted:I feel exhausted just reading this, I cant imagine actually interacting with this person. You can be right (based on the heavily skewed one-sided version that you present to the audience), and also still an rear end in a top hat, which a lot of people love to ignore there (because they're assholes too).
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therobit posted:Depending on the language it might not be obviously related to the job but could be something they consider when deciding who to hire. We look at a lot of documents where I work and sometimes they are in foriegn languages and we need to ask the customer to translate them. Unless we have an employee on hand who is comfortable reading the document and determining if it's acceptable. Being able to read Spanish or Chinese or German might not be something we would put in the job description but could actually come up down the road when the person in the cubicle next to you comes across something and asks for your help. We don't hire our own translators but in some positions it's considered valuable to read or speak a foriegn language. The applicant is trying to leverage their language skills for an edge in the hiring process, so it's fair to test it. It's also highly relevant if the company does any international business, which it sounds like that company does. You don't want to, say, put together a team to work with a client from France and then one member of that team turns out to not be able to speak French.
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Danaru posted:I feel exhausted just reading this, I cant imagine actually interacting with this person. I quit about halfway through, haha.
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AITA for Calling a Guy Stupid after he made Assumptions about my Family of 19?quote:So I have seen on other posts this sub isn't a huge fan of big families so I wouldn't say this would be 100% unbiased but please be as neutral as you can before you hear the story. (sees title) Oh, maybe OP is starting a family at 19 and doesn't appreciate people telling her she's starting too soon. That sucks (reads post)
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for Calling a Guy Stupid after he made Assumptions about my Family of 19? Started off on her side, then the more she talked about how perfect and amazing her mom is I started understanding the cult accusations. YTA regardless for those edits
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for refusing to use my employee discount to buy my brother clothes??? Some places are downright evil with employee discounts, in his defense. I've heard of places tracking employee discounts hard and firing for it at the drop of a hat, so his apprehension is understandable, especially if it's a clothing store since they tend to be the worst.
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WIBTA for reporting a guy who played me to his team for a drug test I know he'd fail?quote:Sorry this is my first post ever so I might mess up.
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Invisible Clergy posted:WIBTA for reporting a guy who played me to his team for a drug test I know he'd fail? This might be the most incredibly petty thing in the thread so far. Edit - the guy sucks but he just sounds like a loving idiot more than anything. Cut your losses and move on.
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA for Calling a Guy Stupid after he made Assumptions about my Family of 19? Sometimes it really does take a village.
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Invisible Clergy posted:WIBTA for reporting a guy who played me to his team for a drug test I know he'd fail? Hoooooly poo poo, "Am I an rear end in a top hat for torpedoing a person's career because I got stood up for a hookup?"
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She's young and angry and asking if she's overreacting before going through with something. The thread gently talked her down and she's being gracious about it, so it's about as much of a success story as you can get from the subreddit.
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AITA?? Toothbrush issuesquote:My husband uses my toothbrush!! Yuck! AITA? I can't stand it when my husband uses my toothbrush. He will even take it into the shower to use and leave it there. He'll also take the tube on the sink into the shower. FYI, I make sure he has 2 toothbrushes. 1 on the sink in a cup, 1 in the shower. I keep extra tubes of toothpaste under the sink. If he takes the sink tube shouldn't he replace it with a new one? Or take a new one for the shower? I've politely mentioned that I prefer to be the only person using my toothbrush. And I keep plenty of replacement brushes and paste right in the cabinet. Hasn't changed anything. Petty, I know. But is it a lack of respect for a reasonable request or AITA??
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Invisible Clergy posted:AITA?? Toothbrush issues This is why you live together before marriage.
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AITA for not talking to my depressed co-worker anymore?quote:I (35f) work for a very small office, there's 7 of us. This co-worker (25m) and I started there around two years ago. He's kind of different, and I got to know him quite a bit. He is manic depressive, so he would have these extreme mood swings, where occasionally he'd be over the top, loud, joking, etc, to the point that I would get annoyed, and sometimes he wouldn't even say hi or goodbye to anyone, just close the door and ignore everyone.
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I can't believe sharing toothbrushes is something anyone would do. To me it's like a step below sharing your dirty toilet paper with each other.
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Prisons and homeless shelters will issue each person their own toothbrush.
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