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- pentyne
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It’s absolutely enraging and given the mother’s reaction easy to see how he turned out that way
His dad is a wealthy landlord the mom furious he;s being held accountable for theft and attempting to implicate another employee in the theft and almost got away with it. OP definitely made it seem like he 100% trusted his son and was going to fire that employee.
Gonna be an affluenza defense coming up soon in that kid's future.
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Jan 11, 2021 00:57
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- Invisible Clergy
- Sep 25, 2015
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"Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"
Malachi 2:3
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AITA for giving my little brother controversial self-improvement books for his birthday?
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I have already moved out but my little brother who is 14 still lives with my parents. Since my little bro already likes reading I figure that I could give him my collection of hardcover inspirational books. Though I knew some of these were a little controversial, I hoped they wouldn't notice.
My father has called me furiously on the phone this morning, he could not believe what i had given my little brother. He was angry that among the books there was "The 48 Laws of Power" by Robert Greene, "The Prince" by Machiavelli, and the "Bronze age Minset". Telling me to go to their home and pick them up immediately. The rest were books about nutrition and lifting weights.
For some reason they insist that the younger son will be raised on niceness and understanding, get pampered, and be kept away from any competitive activities as these can trigger him. They don't even let him play Fortnite because it involves shooting. I was raised the exact same way and I turned out a disaster who could not interact with the real world, and who got frequently abused by coworkers and significant othes, and I wanted to help my only sibling in not turning out the same way.
Am I the rear end in a top hat for giving him sort of controversial books that I know that can help him in the future?
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Jan 11, 2021 01:10
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- TheDeadlyShoe
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He didn't think to check the cameras until after he'd chewed out the innocent worker, when that should have been his first move since that's why you have loving cameras.
he probably bought the cameras as part of a security system to deter outside theft and hadn't mentally put it in the category of using it on employees.
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Jan 11, 2021 01:12
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- pentyne
- Nov 7, 2012
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AITA for giving my little brother controversial self-improvement books for his birthday?
I'd say check post history but the top 3 comments are "this guy is a racist nazi see his other posts"
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Jan 11, 2021 01:19
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- Serephina
- Nov 8, 2005
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"Checking the cameras" is usually well down the line for a lot of business owners. Conflict/drama happens regularly enough that "talking to people" is the right answer for empathetic management, the only owners I know who regularly checked cameras where huge assholes.
So I'm willing to cut him some slack, but possibly shoulda thought of them sooner.
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Jan 11, 2021 01:21
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- The Lone Badger
- Sep 24, 2007
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Pleasantly surprised that it wasn't jorps, but I'm worried that the names I didn't recognise are even worse.
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Jan 11, 2021 01:23
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- vonnegutt
- Aug 7, 2006
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Hobocamp.
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AITA for giving my little brother controversial self-improvement books for his birthday?
This one is hilarious to me because I was assigned to read Machiavelli's "The Prince" in high school and was all excited due to reputation only to find it incredibly wordy and full of ridiculously specific 16th c. Italy politics. It's very quotable but not exactly the kind of thing that will corrupt a 14 year old.
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Jan 11, 2021 01:29
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- vonnegutt
- Aug 7, 2006
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Hobocamp.
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I thought The Prince was written as a satire, anyway?
You just made me find my copy to check on this. Dude was a civil servant forced out into early retirement and wrote letters trying to synthesize a theory of government based on his experience in order to get his job back.
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Jan 11, 2021 01:37
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- reignonyourparade
- Nov 15, 2012
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I thought The Prince was written as a satire, anyway?
By my understanding that's not really the dominant school of thought anymore, and it wasn't the original dominant school of thought either. The man himself was a republican but also had an interest to get on the good side of the guy who was ruling his home city, so being a republican in no way meant he couldn't go "look at what good advice i can give you for runny a non-republican government! Hire me!"
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Jan 11, 2021 01:42
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- Sodium Chloride
- Jan 1, 2008
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AITA for giving my little brother controversial self-improvement books for his birthday?
14 and lives at home? What a loser.
Not surprised the op is a piece of poo poo.
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Jan 11, 2021 01:59
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- Pirate Radar
- Apr 18, 2008
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You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!
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Hello, I am in England.
quote:I live in a building that is split into three flats. The ground floor is lived in by the landlord (who owns the building), with the upstairs split into two flats. One faces the road and the other (mine) overlooks the garden. We all have access to the garden.
A few months ago, the landlord added a glass greenhouse sort of thing to the garden. The roof is entirely transparent and is at an angle facing my window. He originally stated it was to be for all of us to use for drying laundry instead of bringing damp into the house, and set up a dryer and dehumidifier in there. It seemed great.
In the past few weeks, he has however moved a mattress out there and has been lying on it in the nude and having sex there. The roof has an exhaust port thing that points at my window, so if I am airing out my flat with it open a crack, I get a direct delivery of loud porn and sex sounds.
Is there anything I can do??? It is only my flat who can see and hear this, it isn’t visible from the road. I tried bringing it up but he shrugged it off and said “just don’t look”. I have a young child though so this is just awkward...
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Jan 11, 2021 03:36
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- there wolf
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I'd say check post history but the top 3 comments are "this guy is a racist nazi see his other posts"
See the books he left his brother. The Bronze Age Mindset is straight out of the alt-right reading library, and is all about how much better life was when men were all Conan the Barbarian noble warriors untainted by the feminization of the modern age.
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Jan 11, 2021 03:39
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- Pirate Radar
- Apr 18, 2008
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You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!
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Also this one, which isn’t about a relationship, it’s about the pressure of standardized test scores driving a school to reinvent segregation:
[Iowa] My school district is intentionally scheduling black students into separate classes from students of all other races for academic interventions
quote:My school is implementing racially segregated academic interventions in a few days. Teachers and staff were told on this past Tuesday (1/5/21) about this plan that is going into effect Monday (1/11/21).
Some context: We have a period of the day that we use for interventions (in an attempt to raise test scores), social-emotional learning lessons, and as a home room at times. This week they told us that the school district will be focusing on closing the gaps between the test scores of white and black students. Well, that’s all well and good, but their solution to that was to put all of the black students in separate intervention classrooms from all other students. They’re setting higher standards for black students so that more of them will have to receive interventions vs. students of any other race. The school district has not issued any public statements regarding this new initiative. It’s one thing to choose to be in a group that is racially homogenous, but now the school is going to force kids to segregate for a class period. They claim it’s to compensate for past experiences and fix our system. I got clarification from my administrator and found out there will be one “black only” assessment intervention group (based on test scores from 2019) in each grade level. If there are too many black students that need academic interventions in a grade level, those remaining students will be placed in a class that also has students of other races that are also receiving assessment interventions.
I have thought about anonymously leaking the story to the media so that at least our students and families are aware of the decision, however I’m worried this can result in the loss of my job if they discovered my identity. One of our school district’s policies is as follows: “With the approval of the building principal or the Director of School & Community Relations, District staff may initiate contact with the media to encourage coverage of positive school activities or events.”
Also, would I be protected if I reported this to the Iowa Civil Rights Commission? If I did that I would have to include my name on the report, which means the district would know who reported them.
I am very nervous about the status of my job in coming out about this situation in some form. I am also nervous that reporting it to the Civil Rights Commission might be a very slow process, especially knowing this new schedule takes effect on Monday for students.
My biggest questions:
How can I report my school district for a violation of civil rights while protecting my job security?
Who should I report it to, and should I consult a lawyer first? Are there any groups who I could report this to that can do their own report and investigation?
Is there some loophole in the law that makes this legal that I am not aware of?
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Note: I originally posted this in r/teachers for general advice, but now I am wanting to know what my legal options and protections might be coming forward with information.
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Jan 11, 2021 03:40
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- snergle
- Aug 3, 2013
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A kind little mouse!
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Is it too strange if I (M19) take my aunt (F34) as a prom date ?
i dont remember this verse? was this tpains verse?
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Jan 11, 2021 03:47
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- Evil Willow
- Apr 26, 2007
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Bored now...
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AITA for letting my SIL live with us against my daughter’s wishes?
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My wife(28f) and I(31m) have been together for fifteen years and have four children(9f,5f,4f,2f). I have been good friends with my wife’s sister(28f) for twelve years and we are very close. I won’t get into the details since I don’t want the post to get removed, but to put it simply, my in-laws treated my wife and SIL like poo poo for their whole childhood. My wife and her sister were close up until three years ago when my in-laws disowned my wife due to something they blamed her for(she didn’t do it), my wife expected her sister to defend her, but she took my in-law’s side. Obviously, I am not as close with my SIL as I was before for obvious reasons, but I still have contact with her and were still good friends. My SIL has been having a tough time financially(Covid, etc) and can no longer afford to live in her apartment, so she contacted me asking if she could move in, I accepted. I asked my wife if her sister could move into our guest room, she protested a little bit, but I eventually convinced her to except. Yesterday my SIL moved in and my wife has been distant and quiet the whole days and our oldest eventually noticed her change in behavior. My oldest daughters eventually confronted me and said that she thinks “aunt jann is making mother sad” and asked if I could have her leave. I thought about it for a few minutes and then told my daughter that her aunt is having a hard time right now and she needs to stay here. I know that my wife probably feels like poo poo(will talk to her about it tonight) to have her sister live with her, but they hardly interact and my SIL is helping a lot with house work and childcare for the youngest, I don’t see the problem. AITA?
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Jan 11, 2021 04:14
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- Midnight Voyager
- Jul 2, 2008
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AITA for letting my SIL live with us against my daughter’s wishes?
I don't like the math on this much...
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Jan 11, 2021 04:18
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- Danaru
- Jun 5, 2012
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AITA for letting my SIL live with us against my daughter’s wishes?
YTA for thinking that title is going to fool anyone
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Jan 11, 2021 04:19
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- wheatpuppy
- Apr 25, 2008
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YOU HAVE MY POST!
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OP has either had sex with SIL or is planning to.
From the ages, wife and SIL are twins. So you can't expect him to be able to tell them apart when he accidentally wanders into her room in the middle of the night.
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Jan 11, 2021 04:22
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- sephiRoth IRA
- Jun 13, 2007
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"Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."
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They're either twins or Irish twins but either way there's more red flags than a Red Sox pennant run
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Jan 11, 2021 04:26
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- wizardofloneliness
- Dec 30, 2008
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AITA for letting my SIL live with us against my daughter’s wishes?
Hmmm, dating a 13-year old when he was 16 and knocking her up at 18, and that's only the first sentence.
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Jan 11, 2021 04:38
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- Smirking_Serpent
- Aug 27, 2009
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AITA for losing my patience with a self-deprecating student?
quote:English is not my first language but I will try my best. This happened before covid. The title is probably a little inaccurate because I don’t know how to word it. TLDR at the end
I teach at university (undergrad level, students are around 20). One student, a girl I will call Jenny here, was... something. In the group of 20 other students, she always did everything to get attention and she just craved it. She would constantly seek approval and validation - she was outgoing and talkative, so I think this was more of an egoism thing rather than anxiety. She just seemed spoiled. (I am aware I sound biased).
For example, every time I gave her the word in the lesson (students often had to write small essays regarding their reading topics, then discuss them) she would start off my a barrage of “oh my I don’t know if this is correct... please don’t laugh at me... I know this sounds bad... I did my best but I know there are many faults” while smiling and laughing about it. She interrupted her speeches with this and ended them with asking for sympathy and leniency and saying how she knows her work is absolutely terrible. After ANY written exam she talked over everyone about how she didn’t study and how she must have failed - she passed with flying colors all the time, top grades. She would not stop until I spoke up and consoled her and praised her work. Even then she would argue with me and I would have to double down on my praise, assuring her that she is doing amazing work. I could clearly see the other students being annoyed since this was a difficult class and many of them failed tests. Of course I tried to be impartial and I even talked to her a few times about toning it down when other students came to me to complain.
Well one day students were presenting their projects, this was a big part of their final grade. I told them ahead of time that self evaluation will be a part of this (mainly to boost the confidence of the less spoken out students). Her work was great as always, when I asked her to self-evaluate she was absolutely brutal, she criticised every detail of her work as always - expecting me to interrupt her and praise her work. I just let her speak and then asked her what grade would she give herself for this project. She said definitelly an E (our grading is A, B, C, D, E and F for fail), she compared herself to others and just said how she can’t have a better grade. (Her work was easily an A grade level stuff). So, instead of spending ten minutes as usual trying to praise her, I just nodded, said okay, E it is. Her mouth dropped, she went quiet and I gave the word to another student.
She was quiet during the remaining three lessons left of the term and some of her classmates later went to me privately to thank me, but obviously I feel bad, which is why I’m turning to this subreddit.
TLDR: student kept criticising her own work and thus fishing for compliments, finally I just agreed with her that her work is terrible because I was so tired of arguing with her and praising her.
Edit: forgot to add. These “arguments” easily took five to ten minutes off our 90 minute classes. It happened every single lesson. I felt I was not able to spend as much time on feedback for other students since the rest of the class just sat bored while I consoled her.
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Jan 11, 2021 04:58
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- vudan
- Dec 11, 2010
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Well it might not be the teachers place, but I can't help feel this might be a valuable lesson in itself.
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Jan 11, 2021 05:40
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- Smirking_Serpent
- Aug 27, 2009
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WIBTA if I [42F] don’t let my niece [27F] and her partner [55M] stay at my house?
quote:My niece, Emily, has been in a relationship with an older man [55M] for over two years now. I’ve met him a few times and though I was really suspicious of him/their relationship at first, he seems like a genuinely good guy and I think he makes her very happy.
I’m usually the person in the family that hosts Christmas, as I’m the only one with a large enough house. Most of our family lives 2+ hours away, so it’s common that everyone or at least some people spend the night when we do so, including Emily.
This year is a bit different and we’re not all getting together at once, but I haven’t seen Emily in over a year and she and her boyfriend have been quarantined for 10 days now and I asked if she would want to come over when she got out, as it would be safe to see her then. She agreed.
Today she sent me a text asking if it would be alright if she and her boyfriend stayed the night when they come. I was surprised she asked this because her boyfriend had never come for Christmas before. I haven’t responded yet, because I want to say no, but feel like I might be an AH and damage our relationship.
My reasoning: I have two kids, 13F and 11M. I don’t want to normalize age gap relationships for them. I don’t want them to see my young niece going to bed with a man twice her age. They’ve met him twice before, but I told them he was a friend of hers. If he’s staying at our house in the same bed as her, they’ll obviously know they’re a couple. I also don’t want the kids to see any PDA from them. It seems like a dangerous example.
My sister (Emily’s mom) [53F] told me I’d be TA because our parents have a 10 year age difference and are very affectionate with each other, so the kids have already been exposed to age differences. However, Emily’s relationship feels different to me given the 28-year age difference.
WIBTA if I told her no?
Update: I called Emily to discuss my hesitation and, as many of you suggested, it did damage my relationship with her. She stayed calm, but she gave me a long list of reasons why I was in the wrong. She made some valid points: they’ve been together 2.5 years, it was evident they loved and respected each other, and she was a grown woman perfectly capable of consent. She said that, amongst the relationships in the family, hers is probably the most loving and respectful, that they were both bright and successful (she’s a PhD student at a top university and he’s a CIO with a PhD) and generous people, and well-traveled and cultured (he’s European and she’s lived in a number of countries). She asked how that was a bad example and I had no answer.
She then talked about her brother [29M], who has been abusive towards past partners. She said that if I let him around my kids with his partners (which I have) then I’m a hypocrite. She said she was hurt to hear me say she’d be setting a bad example for her little cousins because she loves them and wants to me a role model for them, which she rightly feels she is. She told me that if I didn’t feel she set a good example for my kids, but that her brother was, that I needed to rethink my priorities. And because of this point, I think I’m TA.
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Jan 11, 2021 07:29
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- Evil Willow
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I(19F) wanting to adopt out my unborn child against biological father's wishes
quote:I know the title sounds horrible but please hear me out. So I recently found out that I am very early pregnant. I'm still quite young myself and very scared about being a mother. I had a rough childhood with parents that were controlled by their addictions. Without their guidance, it has lead me to be in questionable situations. Hence maybe why I'm here right now.
My boyfriend (36M) and I (19F) both agreed to be childfree when getting together. We have been enjoying spending time together as he works from home. When we frist got together he told me that he had a vasectomy. I didn't think to much of it at the time until about a month ago. I wasn't feeling like meself and I always had irregular period. Pregnancy was the last thought that come to mind, until my boyfriend come home with a pregnancy test. Confused I asked him why he would give me this. He than informed me that he had indeed had a vasectomy in his past, but it didn't work and technically he could possibly still have kids. Let say I was feeling shock and anger from this new found information. Even more when the test come back positive. After this I lock myself in our bedroom and ignored him for hours. I ended up just cried myself to sleep. The next day after I cooled down my boyfriend apologized. I told him that I plan on staying at a friend house for a few nights to get my had straight. I've been here since that night.
My friend has an amazing family and I'm blessed to have her in my life. She has this aunt that is infertile and has been trying to adopt for years. I know her personally and both her and her husband would be amazing parents. I decided couldn't go thought with a termination but can't raise this child. I offered them my baby and they agreed to adopt it. Great right well apparently not.
Here is the part I am questioning myself. This entire time I have been at my friends house my boyfriend keeps harassing me over text/calling. I'm still felt to hurt to see him in person after his deception. He been pushing me to get an abortion because we BOTH are childfree. I have mostly just been ignoring him until he showed up at the door unexpected. I still don't know how he found me but there he was in front of me so I let him come in to talk. He tells me that he understands why I've been upset but I need to get over this. That he loves me and needs me. That I need to get a termination so we can continue on like it was before. I was shocked on what he was telling me and informed him that I will not be getting a termination and have found a family that wants the baby. He than got mad and told me I have no right to continue this pregnancy. I can't give OUR child to another family and abortion would be the right thing to do.
At this point my friend could hear us from the other room and forced him to leave. He since has been blowing up my phone and I blocked him. But now he got some friends and family harassing me to just listen to my boyfriend. That he is looking out for our future. Now I am confused if I am making the right decision.
TL;DR Am I making the right decision to adopt out my unborn against the biological father's wishes??
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Jan 11, 2021 09:02
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- Vim Fuego
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I LITERALLY SLEEP IN A RACING CAR. DO YOU?
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I(19F) wanting to adopt out my unborn child against biological father's wishes
I know this is page 4000 of mark 2 or 3 of this thread but wow, that guy is an astonishing piece of poo poo even in the context of everyone else ever featured in these threads. "I had a vasectomy but I'm still fertile, let's have unprotected sex so I can force you to abort" what an amazing sicko
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Jan 11, 2021 10:24
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- Toplowtech
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You just made me find my copy to check on this. Dude was a civil servant forced out into early retirement and wrote letters trying to synthesize a theory of government based on his experience in order to get his job back.
Forced out into retirement= tortured for a week with the kind of torture(strappado) that make using his whole arms to write a book probably feel like more torture. It's a small book, jeez i wonder why. It's not really Satire, more a "gently caress you" to the guy who got him tortured.
Toplowtech fucked around with this message at 10:35 on Jan 11, 2021
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Jan 11, 2021 10:31
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- betaraywil
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Gather the wind
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AITA for ruining my child's gender reveal?
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Myself (27M) and my wife (27F) are having a boy, we already have a girl who is now 2. My wife is really into films, oscar type films and she is like an analyser when watching them so she wanted to make a gender reveal short film, 10 minutes long to say we're having a girl, kind of weird but I went along with it, we posted it and she was super happy with it but it cost so much, she hired expensive cameras, we drove out to scenic areas for the right shot, I'm working full time during this process, exhausting.
So we just found out that we're having a boy and she started writing a script, I thought there's no loving way I'm doing that again so I posted on facebook "we're having a boy", she's pissed at me telling me to delete it but the damage is done, I don't feel bad, I saved us at least £4k.
What I don't get it why she's just making films about gender reveals, she can write a script about anything and not be on a strict \~6-7 month time limit.
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Jan 11, 2021 17:46
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- there wolf
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I know this is page 4000 of mark 2 or 3 of this thread but wow, that guy is an astonishing piece of poo poo even in the context of everyone else ever featured in these threads. "I had a vasectomy but I'm still fertile, let's have unprotected sex so I can force you to abort" what an amazing sicko
This kind of reproductive manipulation is actually a fairly common form of abuse. This guy has never had a vasectomy; he just said that so he could enjoy violating her established boundary about not having children, and then exert further control over her body by forcing her to have an abortion. This wasn't an accident, and he's certainly done it before with other partners. If she goes back to him and opts to terminate, then he will start sabotaging her birth control in order to do it again.
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Jan 11, 2021 17:47
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Jan 11, 2021 00:51
that's just pure bait for this thread
