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Midnight Voyager
Jul 2, 2008

Lipstick Apathy

RenegadeStyle1 posted:

It's messed up her mom is trying to use their own customs against her.

It's super loving messed up that she's threatening her goddamn afterlife. What the hell.

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Aramoro
Jun 1, 2012




deety posted:

A friend of mine got hit with this back in college, and she was so sure she wasn't speeding that she took her car to her mechanic and found out the speedometer was actually 15 mph off. She drove all the way back out to bumfuck for her court date, then had her turn with an assistant DA who could either dismiss the ticket or make her wait on the judge. The guy looked at the paperwork from her mechanic and made noises about letting her off the hook right up until she thanked him and explained that there was no way she could have stayed in court all day because she had to get back for a midterm.

So of course she ended up wasting most of that day, paying the mechanic's fee, and having to pay the ticket because she didn't realize that the people in the rural speed trap county courthouse were looking for excuses to take her money.

I'm not quite sure on the logic of her defense here. 'my car is too hosed up to know what speed I'm going at.... So you shouldn't ticket me for speeding?' in what world would that ever work?

Motronic
Nov 6, 2009

Aramoro posted:

I'm not quite sure on the logic of her defense here. 'my car is too hosed up to know what speed I'm going at.... So you shouldn't ticket me for speeding?' in what world would that ever work?

That potentially reduces speeding (intentional) to an equipment violation in a lot of states. Read: no points on your license.

AreWeDrunkYet
Jul 8, 2006

Motronic posted:

That potentially reduces speeding (intentional) to an equipment violation in a lot of states. Read: no points on your license.

It sounds more dangerous than intentionally speeding though. This car is going 15 mph above the intended speed at any given time?

More likely she had a friendly mechanic that was willing to write a note. No way in the world is someone not noticing a speedometer that far off.

Motronic
Nov 6, 2009

AreWeDrunkYet posted:

It sounds more dangerous than intentionally speeding though. This car is going 15 mph above the intended speed at any given time?

More likely she had a friendly mechanic that was willing to write a note.

I mean....I'm just telling you the fairy tale of the magisterial system in Pennsylvania and what I understand of traffic court in some other states. In PA if you can plead down to a "4107" by any means you call that a win: the PD and the court get paid, you don't have to pay increased insurance rates. The "speedometer was off" documentation makes it real easy for the cop to agree to plea you out to an administrative offense rather than a moving violation and everyone leaves "happy" in this lovely revenue-producing system we have.

deety
Aug 2, 2004

zombies + sharks = fun

It was a twenty year old car that she'd had for less than a month at that point; the trip through bumfuck was its first long highway drive. She claims that she was staying with traffic when she got pulled, which was in a pretty notorious speed trap between our school and the beach.

I grew up in a rural area in the same part of the state, and it would not have surprised me to learn that she wasn't actually going a full twenty over.

Motronic
Nov 6, 2009

deety posted:

It was a twenty year old car that she'd had for less than a month at that point; the trip through bumfuck was its first long highway drive. She claims that she was staying with traffic when she got pulled, which was in a pretty notorious speed trap between our school and the beach.

I grew up in a rural area in the same part of the state, and it would not have surprised me to learn that she wasn't actually going a full twenty over.

Just saying, but none of this matters. It's not about right and wrong, it's about ticket revenue.

Cowslips Warren
Oct 29, 2005

What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?

Grimey Drawer

pentyne posted:

What, a pattern? no this is a series of isolated events and now I'm beginning to think it's more plausible someone I know and trust has decided to make up a extremely detailed story of my husband abuse and harassment of her for being female.

must suck to find out you married a misogynist piece of poo poo who's managed to hid his sexism from you since he apparently only attacks women he thinks are stepping out of their gender role.

When I was a kid, my dad was in the military, and us living on a military base, lots of military parties and the like. One lady that was always around was Heidi; she was rather nice to the kids, and I of course liked her the most because she loved unicorns, and My Little Pony was my thing.

And then one day my dad came home in a worse mood than usual, and the cool unicorn ring Heidi gave me, I was told to throw away, because Heidi was a liar and was trying to take my dad's job and all kinds of hosed up poo poo. Of course, I had no idea what really happened, but over the years it came out that as he had had several girlfriends in the ranks, Heidi refused his advances. For one, they were both loving married. But he kept harassing her until she reported him, but it was all glossed over and put aside and one of them was transferred away.

I mostly remember not being able to even say the word Heidi, which also sucked because that movie was a favorite of mine as a kid, and so I could never watch the movie again, and never have any kind of unicorn toys for years. Wasn't until my parents divorced about a decade later that I was able to put a few clues together and realized why Heidi became an Unperson.

Guess the age before unspoiler!
WIBTA if I didn’t tell my cousin's parents about his internet activities?

quote:

So I (15f), have a cousin (9m), who has an iPad he isn’t able to use until after school (we are currently doing remote only right now). His parents gave me his iPad to do a hard reset on because he needs zoom but nobody remembers the apple id password and I have a MacBook to fix the problem. I went to use it and looked through the history and activity and found somethings. Now for some background as to why I checked it, I recalled when he asked me things about “what is hub? I heard about it on TikTok.” I lied and said “I don’t know.” because I wanted to see what he knew (he even insisted that I knew what it was). Anyway, when I checked I found things like “Fortnite s*x”, “p*rnhub”, “p*rn games without zipcode”. Now here’s where I believe I went wrong, I didn’t tell his parents but I told my dad and my older cousin (30f) who lives in the same house as him about what I found. I also am hesitant to tell his parents because I guess the idea is scary and awkward to approach with them I guess. Due to my culture, I feel awkward because we don't really talk about these things unless it's a certain occasion.



AITA for playing a prank that upset my sister?

quote:

I (23M) love jokes and pranks, and I do them a lot. My sister (21F) is mostly tolerant of them, but does not share my joy. She works out a lot and tries to maintain her goal weight, as she was overweight in high school and went through a hell for it. She has let me crash at her apartment for a few weeks because mine is being repaired. I had a friend over and he commented on how good she was looking and I said yeah she works out a lot and has gone vegetarian, so good for you rabbit food. He asked how much weight she lost and I told him I wasn’t completely sure, but it was around 60 pounds over the course of two or three years. He said it would be funny to prank her by hacking the scale and making her think she gained weight. I laughed, because that did sound funny, as I thought she’d have a little hissy fit over it, then roll her eyes like she always does when I prank her. He modded it so it would read heavier and then we just had to wait. The day finally came and she went to weigh herself.

When she came out she said she was up 10 pounds and thought that maybe she was finally getting some muscle definition. I said “I don’t know, it doesn’t look like muscle.” She got really quiet and I realized I wasn’t going to get the reaction I was hoping for and rolled my eyes and told her to relax, I was just kidding, my friend modded her scale to read heavier to see what her reaction would be. Her voice was pretty cold when she asked what exactly I thought her reaction would be. I said I didn’t know, maybe have a hissy fit or something. She asked what exactly I found funny about making it seem like she had gained weight, then tell her it doesn’t look like muscle. I started to realize she was actually kind of pissed, so I tried to defend myself, but she asked If it didn’t look like muscle, what did it look like? I realized she thought I had said it looked like fat. I immediately tried to tell her that isn’t what I meant, but she’s really angry at me. I called my dad for advice, because he’s a bit of a prankster himself and I thought maybe he’d have some advice to help smooth things over, but he’s actually really mad at me now too.

I feel bad, but also conflicted. On one hand, it was just a joke and I think she’s taking it to seriously, and my friend agrees with me. But on the other, my parents said I made my weight conscience sister even more weight conscience by trying to make her think she gained weight and I do feel really bad about that.

Does not share my joy.

Here's a prank, fucker, you're out of my apartment, enjoy a motel for the next few weeks.

Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 01:44 on Jan 23, 2021

VanSandman
Feb 16, 2011
SWAP.AVI EXCHANGER

Motronic posted:

Just saying, but none of this matters. It's not about right and wrong, it's about ticket revenue.

ACAB, small town speed traps make my blood boil

Motronic
Nov 6, 2009

VanSandman posted:

ACAB, small town speed traps make my blood boil

That's the one!

Sisal Two-Step
May 29, 2006

mom without jaw
dad without wife


i'm taking all the Ls now, sorry

Cowslips Warren posted:


AITA for playing a prank that upset my sister?


quote:

I didn’t say she was getting fat though, she said that I said it.

quote:

I didn’t mean for it to be mean and I didn’t say she was fat, I meant that she wasn’t muscular. I will apologize once she stops ignoring me.

quote:

I just meant she didn’t look muscular, I didn’t think she’d take it to mean I thought she looked fat.

quote:

I just feel like she did overreact too is all
Just this, endless comments from the op that are all variations of this. There is something about this attitude that makes me instantly angry. It's basically "aw shucks I don't want to take responsibility for the reasonable conclusion somebody else drew from my words and actions because now they're mad at me :(".

tinytort
Jun 10, 2013

Super healthy, super cheap

Cowslips Warren posted:


Guess the age before unspoiler!
WIBTA if I didn’t tell my cousin's parents about his internet activities?

:stare: :magical:

I was guessing 18. Not, uh, not even in puberty.

Best case, someone else has been using that iPad. Best case.

pentyne
Nov 7, 2012

Cowslips Warren posted:

When I was a kid, my dad was in the military, and us living on a military base, lots of military parties and the like. One lady that was always around was Heidi; she was rather nice to the kids, and I of course liked her the most because she loved unicorns, and My Little Pony was my thing.

And then one day my dad came home in a worse mood than usual, and the cool unicorn ring Heidi gave me, I was told to throw away, because Heidi was a liar and was trying to take my dad's job and all kinds of hosed up poo poo. Of course, I had no idea what really happened, but over the years it came out that as he had had several girlfriends in the ranks, Heidi refused his advances. For one, they were both loving married. But he kept harassing her until she reported him, but it was all glossed over and put aside and one of them was transferred away.

I mostly remember not being able to even say the word Heidi, which also sucked because that movie was a favorite of mine as a kid, and so I could never watch the movie again, and never have any kind of unicorn toys for years. Wasn't until my parents divorced about a decade later that I was able to put a few clues together and realized why Heidi became an Unperson.

There are few tests of a man's character more revealing then seeing how he treats a women in a position of authority over him. It's never going to be difficult to figure out there are only two extremes, either normal human interaction or constantly referring to her as "this bitch"

Bananaquiter
Aug 20, 2008

Ron's not here.


tinytort posted:

:stare: :magical:

I was guessing 18. Not, uh, not even in puberty.

Best case, someone else has been using that iPad. Best case.

Who else would be looking for fortnight porn?

pentyne
Nov 7, 2012
AITA for "forcing" my BIL to hold my baby (his nephew) just for a bit, while I was folding laundry and traumatizing my BIL, I honestly didn't know the reason why he was so reluctant.

quote:

This happened a few days ago.

so, while I (25f) was around 6 months pregnant. my husband (25m) was unfortunately furloughed from his job, so we moved into his brothers (38m) house. his brother is fairly well off, but I'm not exactly sure what he does for a living but he's mostly just in his office from 8am - 8pm so I don't really interact with him, but I do appreciate that he let us move in while we were in a tight spot.

When we moved in, he made it a hard rule that "I will have nothing to do with [baby], so don't expect anything from me, but otherwise y'all can have free reign of the house". that was around 5 months ago.

BIL actually doesn't really interact with any of his nieces or nephews (SILs kids, 4 of them all under 10) as my husband has told me, but he does send them gifts for birthdays and stuff. but definitely not an involved uncle.

Skip to now, we have a beautiful baby boy. and BIL stayed true to his words of not wanting anything to do with his nephew. he just mostly stays in his office. My husband thankfully landed a job in the same field as his last job about a week ago, and even better, he's able to work from home. so we're set to move when we can save up a little more, he was working when everything went down.

Yesterday, while I was folding laundry, my son was getting fussy and wanted to be held, and at that moment my BIL came out of his office to grab something, I asked him is he could just quickly hold his nephew while I finish up folding laundry. he casually just says "nahh, I'm good" and started to walk away. I admit I got really freaking mad at that point - like he can't even help for a minute while I finish up folding laundry??? so I picked up my son and walked over to BIL and placed him in his hands and said "just help out! it's just a baby, it won't kill you or anything?!" my yelling upset my son so he started crying.

He handed me back my child and very coldly says "I told you I'm good" and then he quickly retreated to his office. I was left really confused, and my husband came out of the room he was working in to see what all the commotion was about. I explained what happened and he just starts freaking out and said I shouldn't have done that and he goes off to talk to his brother.

My husband is now demanding I apologize to BIL and explained something no one has ever told me. apparently, BIL had a wife 10 years ago who passed during childbirth and the child later passed due to other complications and BIL never really got over it, my heart sank. I asked why I was never told this and all he said is "My brothers a very private guy, and it wasn't any of your business knowing his past, please just apologize to him" but I wasn't able to, he has yet to come out of his office or room. and my husband leaves food at BILs door.

so I want some outside perspective. AITA for forcing my BIL to hold his nephew, but accidentally opened a pretty bad scar.

ZombieCrew
Apr 1, 2019
Random thing just happened that reminded me of the Happy Birthday Cha Cha Cha AITA. Im sittting at a bar waiting for my togo order and there is a group singing happy birthday at a table. Someone not from their group chimes in with the chachacha bullshit. Its amazing when you see this poo poo in the wild.

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.
It's a very but not exclusively boomer thing for people who simply have to be annoying in lieu of having a personality.

limp_cheese
Sep 10, 2007


Nothing to see here. Move along.

Cowslips Warren posted:

Guess the age before unspoiler!
WIBTA if I didn’t tell my cousin's parents about his internet activities?

This kid needs someone to sit him down and have a talk yesterday. Not in a way that punishes him but he needs some things explained before he goes down a bad road.

TheKennedys
Sep 23, 2006

By my hand, I will take you from this godforsaken internet

tinytort posted:

:stare: :magical:

I was guessing 18. Not, uh, not even in puberty.

Best case, someone else has been using that iPad. Best case.

lol my 8-year-old got busted looking up boobs, y'all may not actually remember being kids

there just wasn't a search history to forget to clear for woods porn or staticky late night cinemax

Motherfucker
Jul 16, 2011

I certainly dont have deep-seated issues involving birthdays.

sullat posted:

In America there's a similar tradition where if you're driving through really rural towns in the west the police will pull you over and claim you're going 20 miles faster than you really are, and issue you a ticket. If you disagree you can come back two months later and fight it in court where they'll all laugh at you for wasting your time trying to fight it.

thats pretty hosed up dawg.

PancakeTransmission
May 27, 2007

You gotta improvise, Lisa: cloves, Tom Collins mix, frozen pie crust...


Plaster Town Cop

TheKennedys posted:

lol my 8-year-old got busted looking up boobs, y'all may not actually remember being kids

there just wasn't a search history to forget to clear for woods porn or staticky late night cinemax

Yeah i got busted around 8-9yo with porn at school. we thought it was more funny than sexy at that age.

Cowslips Warren
Oct 29, 2005

What use had they for tricks and cunning, living in the enemy's warren and paying his price?

Grimey Drawer

pentyne posted:

AITA for "forcing" my BIL to hold my baby (his nephew) just for a bit, while I was folding laundry and traumatizing my BIL, I honestly didn't know the reason why he was so reluctant.

Hey Person, who is doing me a huge favor and not asking for anything back, there is ONE THING you don't want to do, NOW DO IT FOR ME!

OMG WHY IS PERSON SO MAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAD.


loving hell woman. Now if the baby was choking and you were held at gunpoint, then yeah, he should intervene. But forcing him to hold your baby because you have to fold laundry? Get a grip.

The Maroon Hawk
May 10, 2008

Cowslips Warren posted:

Guess the age before unspoiler!
WIBTA if I didn’t tell my cousin's parents about his internet activities?

Is it weird that I went the opposite way and guessed he was 23? Lord knows we've had plenty of other, uh, "late bloomers" in this thread

Robo Reagan
Feb 12, 2012

by Fluffdaddy
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Serephina
Nov 8, 2005

恐竜戦隊
ジュウレンジャー
Aw poo poo, I've got a hot one here!

Men, did you ever reach a point where you realized women don't actually make you happy?

quote:

I spent years hooking up and have had dozens of partners. What I previously thought would manifest into an insatiable hole of sexual conquest has actually turned into the opposite.

I have grown to realize that sex is such a small fraction of my happiness. I used to seek out arm candy and now I don't even bother. What I realized matters is in the heart... beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It's mostly on the inside of us, in our brains and hearts. Pussy has grown to possess no value to me whatsoever.

I actually enjoy friendships with women in my life. I'm thankful for the heartaches and the romances that have passed. Trying to objectify women for years has actually done the complete opposite- the more I met and slept with women, the more I realized that it doesn't matter.

Sex is as desirable as eating, sleeping, or making GBS threads. It's great for a few moments and then it ends. It's the life you live before and after that matters. There are many more satisfying things in life, filled with much more substance.

So now I am 25 and see that I am a man I would never thought I'd be. Still kinda horny, but with a different perspective.

And I'm wondering if anybody can relate.

I can only wish that one day I achieve such great hindsight and wisdom!

Invisible Clergy
Sep 25, 2015

"Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

Sisal Two-Step posted:

I found this looking for Australia stories and thought it was interesting.

AITA - I won't tell my birth mother my real name?

Well, I learned something about Aboriginal culture today. Super interesting post. That's a good find.

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.
Willie Wagtails are said to be spies from the afterlife to check up on living relatives.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Serephina posted:

Aw poo poo, I've got a hot one here!

Men, did you ever reach a point where you realized women don't actually make you happy?


I can only wish that one day I achieve such great hindsight and wisdom!

I don't give a crap if slaying dragons no longer excites you, you are a knight and my village is lousy with them.

PancakeTransmission
May 27, 2007

You gotta improvise, Lisa: cloves, Tom Collins mix, frozen pie crust...


Plaster Town Cop

Serephina posted:

Aw poo poo, I've got a hot one here!

Men, did you ever reach a point where you realized women don't actually make you happy?


I can only wish that one day I achieve such great hindsight and wisdom!

A post given gold posted:

You know, this reminds me of when Mass Effect first came out. If you haven't tried it I totally recommend it. So back on point. So it had amazing graphics, story gameplay and crew members. Plus tons of other things that made it great. Sadly everyone focus on the 10 15 sec sex you can participate in, if you made the right choices. No one cares about about the other great qualities of the game, just the small factor of the game.

Now my point is sex is such a small thing in life. Well for some its nonexistent. So now that you got your fill, play the story man. The story called life. Your 25 and have a lot of potential if you learned that quick. So enjoy my friend, play the story enjoy the graphics of life, enjoy the gameplay. Focus on you

kimbo305
Jun 9, 2007

actually, yeah, I am a little mad

Sisal Two-Step posted:

I found this looking for Australia stories and thought it was interesting.

AITA - I won't tell my birth mother my real name?

Visited my uncle & we chose my GN together. Dad helped me change my name to my GN, we chose a "fake" wakename & my traditional name was erased from record.
I'm confused on a few points here.
Her mom still knows her original WN, right? Would that really keep from ruining the ceremony?
And the new "fake" wakename that the mom doesn't know -- why is it fake, if its value is to be used at the ceremony officially to exclude the mom?
Finally, does it make sense for a GN to be used like a WN for all intents, assuming she's well past three point of danger with Covid? Wouldn't that sort of make it another WN over time?

Obviously these questions might not have many folks who can field them in this thread.

Invisible Clergy
Sep 25, 2015

"Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"

Malachi 2:3

kimbo305 posted:

I'm confused on a few points here.
Her mom still knows her original WN, right? Would that really keep from ruining the ceremony?
And the new "fake" wakename that the mom doesn't know -- why is it fake, if its value is to be used at the ceremony officially to exclude the mom?
Finally, does it make sense for a GN to be used like a WN for all intents, assuming she's well past three point of danger with Covid? Wouldn't that sort of make it another WN over time?

Obviously these questions might not have many folks who can field them in this thread.

I had never heard of the concept of wakenames or goodnight names before this and had some trouble finding detailed resources online to learn more about them. If you or anyone else find any good links on the subject, I'd love to do some more reading since I don't know very much about Aboriginal culture.

AITA for taking out the tip on this driver and giving a bad rating?

quote:

Usually I tip like 1/5 of the time, usually if it's really cold outside or if I ordered a lot of food

It was around 2 am here in Toronto Canada and I ordered some food, when it assigns the order to a courier I see that they're walking and that's an instant eye roll from me because walking turns a 2 minute commute to a 7 minute commute

So then the courier arrives and she said she can't find my door, I never had anyone tell me they couldn't find my door, I have a big bright red number on my door and I turned it on for deliveries, so I tell her on the phone, walk to your left and go down the side of the house, I took out a strongflashlight and I waved it around , almost in her face but more at the floor in front of her and I asked her, "can you see the flash light?" And she went blank... I heard her say "uhhhh" and then she said "can you just come outside"

I think to myself, are you fking serious, I was in my shorts and tank top with no socks and I didn't want to run up to the second floor to get clothing, so I ran out in flip flops with my toes out and got the food, so I told my girlfriend who ordered it for me about the hard time I got, so she took out the $1.78 tip it had set and she put a thumbs down too

Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 11:35 on Jan 23, 2021

Bonster
Mar 3, 2007

Keep rolling, rolling

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for taking out the tip on this driver and giving a bad rating?

This feels like bait.

Especially since in the replies he insists they earn the same whether they're tipped or not.

quote:

You know that if people never tipped, or if people always tipped, they'd get paid the same amount?

quote:

You know that your tips don't increase their earnings in the long run? They'll earn the same if everyone tipped $14 or if everyone tipped 0

quote:

And you're 100% convinced that more tips=more earnings to the couriers?

quote:

I chill extra good after taking out the tip

And

quote:

I don't know how to say this lightly, but if you do tip every time, they still get paid the same I can show you proof

My favorite reply to the OP:

quote:

I believe I'm morally required to limit my reply to the following suggestion: gently caress off

Also, a pre-emptive sorry.

Bonster fucked around with this message at 13:36 on Jan 23, 2021

Bubblyblubber
Nov 17, 2014

Bananaquiter posted:

Who else would be looking for fortnight porn?

WHOMST AMONGST US

Pope Corky the IX
Dec 18, 2006

What are you looking at?

ZombieCrew posted:

Random thing just happened that reminded me of the Happy Birthday Cha Cha Cha AITA. Im sittting at a bar waiting for my togo order and there is a group singing happy birthday at a table. Someone not from their group chimes in with the chachacha bullshit. Its amazing when you see this poo poo in the wild.

I honestly thought it was something my nieces and nephew and cousins made up. Especially because it would go “cha cha cha” then “Juicy Fruit” and finally “Spongebob Pants”

Danaru
Jun 5, 2012

何 ??

pentyne posted:

AITA for "forcing" my BIL to hold my baby (his nephew) just for a bit, while I was folding laundry and traumatizing my BIL, I honestly didn't know the reason why he was so reluctant.

The amount of "I'm getting a free ride as long as I dont do one thing, then I did the one thing and now everyone is overreacting???" stories absolutely astounds me.

Deformed Church
May 12, 2012

5'5", IQ 81


AITA For Not Telling My Family I was Leaving The House When I Turned 18?

quote:

I (19F) used to live with my family in their house until last year. I am the oldest of 7 kids (My Brothers & sisters' ages ranged from 1 month to 12 years) and as the oldest female, my parents started making me take care of everyone as their jobs got more demanding. At first, I didn't mind because I could still balance having a live outside my brothers & sisters, but I think it was around a couple years ago when they both got big promotions and they forced my to come home right after school. Cooking, cleaning, changing diapers, etc. etc.

I asked if they could hire babysitters, other family members, or come home themselves. They told me no; they needed to keep their jobs and keep making money to afford our lifestyle. I said that I wanted to have a future other than taking care of everyone. I wanted to go to college, get a job, and make a life for myself. They again said no. I was going to get married, have my own children and be a homemaker.

Background: When I was 16, there was a college fair at my school and I made the mistake of going; when I got home, my mother ripped all of the information sheets I received for the different colleges and threw them in the garbage.

I knew I couldn't run away because I was under their care until I was 18. I wasn't being physically abused or neglected so there wasn't anything I could do until I was an adult. So, I did the next best thing...

I started planning my future in total secrecy (I didn't tell anyone in my family because I didn't want my parents to find out). Luckily, I had many friends who were sympathetic to me who offered me small amounts of money and even a place to stay with minimal rent once I reached adulthood.

So, finally that day came when everyone was out of the house (I think my parents took everyone on a day trip and I was told to get the house ready for when they got home). I turned 18 a couples week ago so I called my friends to pick me, grabbed my prepacked bags, and left the house for good.

For the next few weeks, my parents called and called. Once, I was safe, I explained to them what I had done. I apologized, said why I left, and told them that I was fine and starting my life. They tried to guilt trip me, even putting my crying siblings on the phone, but I hung up.

It's been a year and I'm taking online college courses (Thanks COVID), living in my friends' shared apartment, and even been getting friendly with a guy I know.

I bring this up because it was my youngest baby sister's birthday yesterday and I feel guilty about not being there. I know if I try to call, I'll get into an argument with my parents so I'm not.

So Reddit, AITA for leaving without telling my family?

Danaru
Jun 5, 2012

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Deformed Church posted:

AITA For Not Telling My Family I was Leaving The House When I Turned 18?

You've already won, Petra, dont go back

Pope Corky the IX
Dec 18, 2006

What are you looking at?
I tried to keep sending birthday cards to my nieces and nephew after going no contact with my family, but then I found out my sister would intercept them and keep all the gift cards while never telling her kids I sent anything at all.

DrManiac
Feb 29, 2012

Her family seems loving nuts, if she ever goes back they probably won’t let her escape again.

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Megillah Gorilla
Sep 22, 2003

If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.



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Deformed Church posted:

AITA For Not Telling My Family I was Leaving The House When I Turned 18?

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