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miscarried over the weekend so I guess we're back to trying. what a kick in the teeth
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BangersInMyKnickers posted:miscarried over the weekend so I guess we're back to trying. what a kick in the teeth oh my god I'm so sorry
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Jan 25, 2021 19:18
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BangersInMyKnickers posted:miscarried over the weekend so I guess we're back to trying. what a kick in the teeth ugh, that sucks, sorry to hear it :/
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Jan 25, 2021 21:19
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BangersInMyKnickers posted:miscarried over the weekend so I guess we're back to trying. what a kick in the teeth mate .. sorry to hear it . 😔
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Jan 25, 2021 22:46
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H.P. Hovercraft posted:all my ancestors who would be mad about me diluting our bloodline with japaneseness are dead lol yospos james with asian dames
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Jan 25, 2021 22:54
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BangersInMyKnickers posted:miscarried over the weekend so I guess we're back to trying. what a kick in the teeth ah, jeez. very sorry.
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Jan 25, 2021 22:59
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BangersInMyKnickers posted:miscarried over the weekend so I guess we're back to trying. what a kick in the teeth gently caress man, really sorry to hear it. much love to you and yours
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Jan 26, 2021 04:32
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got hosed up with my boys on a monday night, but we had to be sorta quiet because one of them had a newborn in the house thats about as close as ill get
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Jan 26, 2021 08:43
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BangersInMyKnickers posted:miscarried over the weekend so I guess we're back to trying. what a kick in the teeth ah poo poo, i'm sorry
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Jan 26, 2021 08:50
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BangersInMyKnickers posted:miscarried over the weekend so I guess we're back to trying. what a kick in the teeth
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Jan 26, 2021 14:23
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It's super heartbreaking and anything upsetting is taboo to talk about in polite company which makes it worse because it's unbelievably common. I haven't brought it up to another dad without them saying in hushed tones "yeah, we had to deal with a lot of that". On the plus side, you can suddenly get drunk again which seems like a good idea all of a sudden.
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Jan 27, 2021 03:13
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my sister in law miscarried like 3 times, it was incredibly hard on them both, I am honestly shocked it didn't end their marriage.
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Jan 27, 2021 03:16
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BangersInMyKnickers posted:miscarried over the weekend so I guess we're back to trying. what a kick in the teeth drat sorry to hear that, that's really hard echinopsis posted:do you guys constantly correct your kids bad use of english? may take is they are going to say what they hear, if you make an effort to use "correct" english with them they will be more likely to use it. also reading is gonna help. i don;t see much point correcting peoples english just tends to make them annoyed, same goes for kids unless they are asking even though correcting ppl is liek my number one pastime
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Feb 5, 2021 02:12
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nah it’s your own kids you don’t treat them like a coworker you want a good relationship with, you’re not subtly guiding them down a path. leading by example is paramount, but not sufficient. for example, I don’t just correct them, I inform them of the importance (classism exists whether they like it or not), but also tell them not to judge other people at the same time.
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Feb 5, 2021 03:37
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i won;t knock your approach, they're your kids. personally i wont bother because a) language prescriptivism sucks anyway and i'm trying not to engage in it b) i think they will learn more from just talking / reading and c) could just be a me thing but if i do this too much ill probably give them low self esteem or somethign cos i sound liek a dickhead take it with a grain of salt tho my kid is still under 2 ( though he does talk in pretty long sentences and apparently he learned how to count at some point??)
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Feb 5, 2021 04:05
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I’ve worked with a few people who would say “I seen this person”, and yeah it immediately makes people think their education was worse than someone else’s. it’s like table manners or manners in general, politeness etc. it’s basically about having standards and trying to keep them high. not much is lost by keeping them high but a lot may not be gained if they weren’t there in the first place 🤷♂️
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Feb 5, 2021 06:00
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i done seent it, paw
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Feb 5, 2021 06:22
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They don't think it be like it is.....
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echinopsis posted:I’ve worked with a few people who would say “I seen this person”, and yeah it immediately makes people think their education was worse than someone else’s. the whole “seen” vs. “saw” thing is 100% arbitrary i and try to not knock people for saying the former when they technically shouldn’t. am i gonna start doing that or teaching it to my kids that way? no. does it matter one bit in the end? also no. so much of what we do as humans isn’t based on anything intrinsic. that doesn’t necessarily mean we should stop doing those things, but we need to stop lying to ourselves that they truly matter. it’s like people flipping out over something like a little boy wearing a dress. what does it really matter?
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Feb 6, 2021 17:28
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President Beep posted:the whole “seen” vs. “saw” thing is 100% arbitrary one is the (irregular) past tense and the other is the perfect participle of “to see” you dirty uneducated poor
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Feb 6, 2021 18:00
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President Beep posted:
i don disagree necessarily, out of all the things it’s very low down the list, but what’s worth considering is how others will view that kind of thing. whether or not it’s right. so I take somewhat of a pragmatic point of view, that it’s such a small thing that’s easy to change, but a future employer or something may judge it if it was wrong etc plus I also asked the boys yesterday and they told me it wasn’t a big deal to be corrected and that it helped them understand subtle differences if pointed out and that they’d rather be correct. lol
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Feb 6, 2021 19:20
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echinopsis posted:what’s worth considering is how others will view that kind of thing. whether or not it’s right. I totally agree.
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Feb 6, 2021 19:40
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if either of my kids come out as gay or trans, etc. it won’t make any difference to me wrt our relationship. what I truly worry about is how the world would treat them.
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I tried playing some Caravan Palace in the car on the way home and Wintergirl, all of three and a half years old, scowled and crossed her arms. I asked what the problem was gave the coldest put down I've ever heard: "This music is not fun for the kids. The kids are not dancing." Yeah the world may choose to not like her, but the world better watch out. She'll give it a hard time right back.
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Feb 6, 2021 20:06
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President Beep posted:if either of my kids come out as gay or trans, etc. it won’t make any difference to me wrt our relationship. what I truly worry about is how the world would treat them. yeah for sure part of raising kids is awareness of the lovely world and it’s unfair rules, and helping them navigate it all hopefully ethically but not naively
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might be a hot take, but I don’t think teaching your kids grammar is bourgeoise
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Feb 8, 2021 13:47
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my homie dhall posted:might be a hot take, but I don’t think teaching your kids grammar is bourgeoise
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Feb 8, 2021 14:33
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evil_bunnY posted:nobody's being that obtuse but you friendo hmm, I think that’s true
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is anyone thinking of 'apprenticing' their kids into touching computer
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my stepdads beer posted:is anyone thinking of 'apprenticing' their kids into touching computer I'm definitely going to apprentice my kid in lnto learning proper google-fu. Some of the devs at my work take it too seriously, once is already pushing emacs on his kid who's like 7
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CyberPingu posted:Some of the devs at my work take it too seriously, once is already pushing emacs on his kid who's like 7 There's no way in hell that's his kid.
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Feb 10, 2021 10:58
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my stepdads beer posted:is anyone thinking of 'apprenticing' their kids into touching computer I'm definitely going to try and prevent them doing any poo poo under their real name and try and educate on how stuff you do online is around forever etc.
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Feb 10, 2021 12:37
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my stepdads beer posted:is anyone thinking of 'apprenticing' their kids into touching computer i am absolutely going to teach my kids how to program. i'm similarly committed to them learning music and english (we're in japan). the "goal" is hopefully teaching them how to learn poo poo from an early age, like how you have to practice a little bit every day and the skills build up. it probably won't work, but it's a hill i'm cool with dying on.
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Feb 10, 2021 13:23
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Powerful Two-Hander posted:I'm definitely going to try and prevent them doing any poo poo under their real name and try and educate on how stuff you do online is around forever etc. big same. and also it’s important to remember that you’re talking to actual people too.
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Feb 10, 2021 20:05
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Powerful Two-Hander posted:I'm definitely going to try and prevent them doing any poo poo under their real name and try and educate on how stuff you do online is around forever etc. yeah this was my thing. I always tell them I can teach them programming if they want (they dont) but i make sure to teach them basic digital hygiene and just regular user stuff like what the router does and how to forward a port and stuff
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Feb 10, 2021 20:11
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the internet hygiene stuff is good, although I was thinking of providing my kids with an option for work and a career, perhaps working together??, instead of my parent's generation approach of 'you can do anything you want! just go to university and it'll work out  i will provide no further guidance good luck kids'
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Feb 10, 2021 22:16
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yeah like the option for them is there, and they know it, but I'm not gonna make them learn it.
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Feb 10, 2021 22:38
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my stepdads beer posted:is anyone thinking of 'apprenticing' their kids into touching computer for now i'm keeping him away from screens as much as possible. he wants to do everything with daddy though so probably he will eventually learn to code & i will gift him a lovely old computer to play with. not gonna encourage him to do it as a career tho unless thats what he wants
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rotor posted:yeah like the option for them is there, and they know it, but I'm not gonna make them learn it. that seems like a good idea. i guess it's not really like plumbing or whatever where they can help out with the physical stuff for some pocket money at 14
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