teen witch posted:

you can only talk about the nerd on nerd violence post if you post your favorite smash stage and it CANNOT BE FINAL DESTINATION

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My girlfriend and I have not been together for long, only about 3 months. She is a mother of two small children (3M & 4F). I have never had a problem with her having children, I haven't even met them yet.

We have been having unprotected sex since about the second date. She was upfront with me that she is not on birth control. I figured we would be okay because she tells me when she thinks she is about to ovulate and I pull out during those times. I figure she knows a lot about when she is ovulating since she has two kids.

Well apparently she ovulated early and now she is pregnant. I told her I absolutely cant have a child and that if she wants to stay together she must get an abortion. She feels strongly that she doesn't want an abortion. I remember in passing her telling me in the past she could never get an abortion but I never thought it would come to anything like this.

She claims I'm trying to force her to get an abortion. I assured her that is not the case, but that if she continues with this pregnancy I will have no choice but to remove myself from the situation as I am positive I'm not ready to be a father, I still live with my mom and I'm only working freelance positions part time. I pointed out to her that she already has two kids. I promised we could have a child later on in life. Nothing I say is working. When I gave the ultimatum she cried and asked if I really want to dump her and be with other girls. I assured her I do not, I only want to be with her, but I just can't be a father now.

She just told me a couple of hours ago that even if I break up with her that she can't go through with an abortion. Even multiple phone calls of me pleading did not change her mind. I really don't want to lose her but I know I can't stick around if she continues with this pregnancy. What should I do?

Tldr; Girlfriend (24F) is pregnant by me (20M) and is trying to force me to become a father by refusing to get an abortion. I do not want to lose her, what should I do?

Bruceski posted:

That's a bit different. Christian Zionism is into Israel because it ties into Revelations or something. Sees Jews as a means to an end (times).

Messianic Judaism is different. Whether it's former Jews who converted but still wanted to keep their Jewish identity (because a cultural/ethnic religion is weird like that and isn't entirely based on "what you believe") or it's Christians trying to target Jews for conversion with something more palatable, it's actually a part of the religion's beliefs and practices. It's not just a field trip to Israel. Depending on the person I find this can come across as misguided weird cosplay or downright appropriative.

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I have a cousin called “Alice”. She has taken two gap years and has recently announced that she won’t be going to university after all. Her parents asked her what she was planning to do, and she said her plan was to do what I did but unlike me, she would be successful at it. My aunt told me this after she asked me to talk some sense into her.

I told her I didn’t want to get involved but Alice brought it up herself in front of me at a family gathering. She was telling our cousins about how they were all wasting their lives studying and working when they could just snag a rich man like she had almost done and that they were wasting their best years. I tried to mind my own business, but I knew someone was going to mention me, which they did. Her sister pointed out that marrying a rich man hadn’t worked out well for me and Alice turned around and basically said that I had failed because I was dumb and didn’t know how to keep my mouth shut and my legs open (these weren’t her exact words).

I’ve been sort of separated from my husband for almost 3 years and everybody in my family know it’s a sensitive subject for me, nobody except for my immediate family talks about it.

I asked her what her plan was exactly, and she told me she knew how to keep a man and she was “young and pretty” so she would find a rich man easily and live life in luxury. I asked her how many rich men she knew, and she got annoyed by my question and told me it was none of my business. I asked her where she thought I met my husband and told her the rest of our cousins had a better chance at finding a “rich man” than her. She got angry at me and said I was just bitter because she was going to have the life I thought I would have when I "baby trapped" my husband and that instead of focusing on her, I should focus on all of the women my husband was probably sleeping with right at that moment.

I told her she was a delusional idiot and that I hoped she woke up before she made the same mistakes I did. She called me a bitter bitch and ignored me for the rest of the day.

AITA?

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Jazmadoodle
4h
Um... was your cousin born, like a human, or did she just spring into being when someone spilled Chemical X on an incel forum

Evil Willow posted:

A solid contender for the stupidest loving man on the planet!

Girlfriend (24F) is pregnant and is trying to force me (20M) to be a father. What should I do?

Gnossiennes posted:

i'm not talking out my rear end here, and it's not just run of the mill christian zionism imo. they have dudes come talk from messianic temples, and i've met several of my MIL's baptist fellowship who wear star of david jewelry and stuff, but are very much southern baptists.

Arsenic Lupin posted:

Dawn asked Sonya if she wanted to leave the Facebook group. Sonya chose to stick around so she could mock. There was a perfect opportunity to .

Evil Willow posted:

A solid contender for the stupidest loving man on the planet!

Girlfriend (24F) is pregnant and is trying to force me (20M) to be a father. What should I do?

Funktastic posted:

after an employee died, her team has driven off anyone we hire to replace her

Me posted:

This thread is absolutely spectacular at making me extremely glad I had my tubes tied.

OnlyBans posted:

I can't blame her for keeping a trainwreck friend on social media. And I can't blame her for mocking an annoying person who goes to the same conferences, etc. she does. Especially if that person thinks you are close friends and has glommed onto you.

Funktastic posted:

after an employee died, her team has driven off anyone we hire to replace her

Funktastic posted:

after an employee died, her team has driven off anyone we hire to replace her

Evil Willow posted:

A solid contender for the stupidest loving man on the planet!

Girlfriend (24F) is pregnant and is trying to force me (20M) to be a father. What should I do?

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I know this sounds ridiculous and I'm going to get downvoted to hell. But my fetish is cumming inside women unprotected. So if I'm going to be in a relationship I want to do that. I thought the combination of calendar method and pull out would work.

spouse posted:

Also, I'm a socialist, but jerking yourself off because you make $60k in a country where median household earnings are $67k and you're 30 isn't a loving flex. If you're gonna be a classist shitheel, please at least try and be a less mediocre contestant in the rat race. A little over a decade ago, I was a department manager at a Walmart, and yes, it can be a pitstop for people who don't have the skills to lie their way into a convincing resume, but I also met a lot of kind and good people who just needed a paycheck and had rough lives, and they deserve better than this guy's misplaced sense of superiority.

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Just as the title describes, my boyfriend of nearly a year has given me an ultimatum that he has to help and be involved in his ex girlfriend’s life and recovery from heroin or I can “kick rocks.” I have no say in the matter and he acts unlike he ever does in regard to this situation. He has lied in the past about talking to and seeing her and expects me to blindly accept whatever he has to do to help her, including seeing her without warning (like he did a week ago) for any type of emergency situation that her mother might call him to. Is it just me or does this seem extremely unfair to me, especially the ultimatum part and not being notified beforehand that he is going to see her at an undisclosed location for hours without contact?

Funktastic posted:

after an employee died, her team has driven off anyone we hire to replace her

H.P. Hovercraft posted:

if i were in charge of hiring i would simply fill that position with another person named jane

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I figured we would be okay because she tells me when she thinks she is about to ovulate and I pull out during those times

Antivehicular posted:

How none of these guys figure out the concept of "get a partner on birth control and just loving pretend" is completely beyond me.

NO gently caress YOU DAD posted:

This is honestly the dumbest thing. An entire management suite of total weenies who even after a year can't bring themselves to say "Jane's gone, I don't care how much you still love her or how big the shrine you built out of keyboard lint and old ID badges is, shut up and do your job".

Lol at multiple people pussing out to the point of quitting their jobs over this rather than just raining down warnings and dismissals until the "you're not my real dad" bullshit stops.

Funktastic posted:

after an employee died, her team has driven off anyone we hire to replace her

Jane was one of my reports (I manage her manager).

I don’t even know where to start. I am way out of my depth with this.

Evil Willow posted:

A solid contender for the stupidest loving man on the planet!

Girlfriend (24F) is pregnant and is trying to force me (20M) to be a father. What should I do?

Scaevolus posted:

Role-playing isn't as exciting as doing it for real!

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Let me start off by saying that I love my boyfriend. We met one and a half years ago at a mutual friend’s party and shortly after, we started dating. After around 7 months we decided to take the relationship to the next level and moved in together (I know it was quick but we both were renting and moving in together allowed us to save way more money). We have always gotten along really well and haven't had any major arguments. Ever since covid lockdown started in Australia, things between us haven’t been the same.

My boyfriend lost his job at the start of covid and for the first month everything was relatively normal in our relationship. But in the last few months, he’s been watching a lot more anime to get through the day. He’s always been into anime and I have always been okay with that, but things have been getting worse over the last few months as he spends up to 9 hours a day watching it. At first he was saying random Japanese phrases he heard in his shows all the time, which was fine with me as it was his way of coping with the lockdown and losing his job.

Recently though, he’s started spending money we were saving into an account to potentially buy a house. Instead he’s ended up buying a bunch of his anime figurines and the most expensive one cost over $200… I’d be fine with this but with him not having a job, money has been tight.

The biggest issue was a week ago when we got a big package and I thought it might be more figurines. However, when he opened it up, it was a very large pillow with a half naked anime character on it. I asked him what it was and he said it was a body pillow with his favourite character from one of his anime shows. I don’t necessarily have an issue with the body pillow itself, but the other day I came into bed with him and he kept the pillow in between us rather than snuggling with me.

I don't want to make him feel bad about himself but his obsession with anime is coming between us both emotionally and financially. I find myself becoming less attracted to him due to his lack of self control and the fact that he is distancing himself from me through anime. How do I bring up this subject without it becoming a huge issue? I’m scared because we have never had these sorts of issues before.

Edit 1: woah, I went to sleep after I wrote this and have just seen all the responses. Thank you all for your advice, I think I will confront him later today for a discussion after I finish work.

Edit 2: okay so I tried to talk to him after work today but he wasn't even listening to what I had to say and told me to not disturb him when he is watching anime. I kept trying and then he told me to gently caress off. I am just so lost and don't know what to do. To the people saying this is fake, you don't understand what it's like and I really hope your partner never gets an addiction like this.

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I started a new job at a start up about a month ago and it's been a wild ride so far. I come from a F100 finance company, so we're all about political correctness, diversity, all that poo poo so it's a different beast here. I've been enjoying the work here, since it's a bigger scope and more hands on with the software.

I have a white coworker who I work with in my department. For background, I'm the only Asian employee, everyone else is white. This week he came into the office and said good morning trashcanpandas-san. I told him I'm not Japanese, and then he said it's a reference to Karate Kid. I didn't press further, since I thought it was a one off thing. 1) He then asked me about if Asian languages all sound the same since they're Asian and have the same written words in every language. I asked him if the white motherland languages all sound the same and have the same written words and he looked at me with confusion.

2) Afterwards while leaving for the day, he said goodbye trashcanpandas-san again, and I said goodbye colonizer. He asked me what that meant and I said, "Oh, haven't you seen Pocahontas? It's a reference to that."

AITA for thinking his joke was offensive to me as the only POC in the office and responding the way I did? He's also a vocal antivaxer and hardcore Christian with conservative values from our conversations the past month.

EDIT: Trashcanpandas is my username. That's actually a replacement for my name in the conversation. So if my name was John, he called me John-san.

Note: my name is not John

cumshitter posted:

Ahahaha

This guy is dumb as a brick but I wonder what's going on with the GF who got had her first kid at 20.

NO gently caress YOU DAD posted:

This is honestly the dumbest thing. An entire management suite of total weenies who even after a year can't bring themselves to say "Jane's gone, I don't care how much you still love her or how big the shrine you built out of keyboard lint and old ID badges is, shut up and do your job".

Lol at multiple people pussing out to the point of quitting their jobs over this rather than just raining down warnings and dismissals until the "you're not my real dad" bullshit stops.

Batterypowered7 posted:

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I am a mom of two girls, Sierra (12) and Emily (10). Both of my girls had absolutely beautiful curls that went down to about waist length. I've never personally been able to grow mine out that long so I just could never bear to get theirs cut. Emily has never complained but it started bugging Sierra when she was about nine and decided to join the local girls' soccer team. She needed to have it tied back but because it's also rather thick, her snaps would continuously break and it was a hassle. She wanted to have it all cut back then until we managed to work out a solid way to braid her hair so that it wouldn't keep coming loose, and she stopped complaining about it.

Two weeks ago, there was an incident at school where a kid stuck a bunch of loose pieces of paper in Sierra's hair. It was a major deal as Sierra got very upset and I had to go in and talk to the school about it. Unfortunately, Sierra's a very shy kid and that's been giving her a lot of issues since she's started middle school. The school promised to deal with it, but when we were leaving, Sierra asked if I'd take her to the hairdresser's and get her hair cut. I told her no and she just about had a meltdown, telling me that she was sick of having the other kids mess with her hair and didn't even want it anyways and I didn't listen to her. She was pouty for the rest of the weekend until she and Emily went to their father's for the week, and Sierra came back with most of her hair gone. It was cut to a little above chin length.

Of course, I wasn't happy. I called my ex and he acted as though I was in the wrong, saying that I obviously didn't care about Sierra if I let this go on this long. I did take Sierra's tablet for going behind my back over this, but I otherwise have talked this out with my ex and avoided getting too far into it with her because I don't want another meltdown.

Sierra was at tears during pickup today, telling me that the other kids have been telling her she looks like a boy. I obviously comforted her, but I told her that the haircut was her decision, I'd advised her against it, and now she has to deal with the consequences of her own actions. She got very upset with me and stormed off to lock herself in her room when we got home. She won't come out for a meal or speak to me, and I think I might have been a little harsh. I only wanted her to consider her actions, not to make her upset. AITA?

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She was punished because she knew my opinion on the matter and went behind my back to get it done anyways instead of waiting to have a proper conversation about it.

Mx. posted:

AITA for telling my daughter she has to deal with consequences?

where to even start