Evil Willow posted:

AITA for telling my girlfriend that I will no longer be paying for her friends

1. This all started after "Bridget" moved in with him.
2. She pays no bills / rent.
3. He was planning on proposing to her.
4. She's "out of his league".
5. She's unemployed, sometimes looks for a new job (fired from her last one), cooks most nights and they split the chores.
6. What she brings to the relationship: she's pretty, sweet, loving

Sisal Two-Step posted:

AITA for telling a woman I hope she’s nicer to her daughter than she was to a chubby girl in high school?

Lemniscate Blue posted:

As a sufferer of sleep apnea gently caress this MIL entirely.

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Hi all. My mother passed away 3 years ago. Mortgage was paid off prior to her passing. The deeds of the house are now named with my stepfather (50%) and my sister and I (25% each). He has now moved in with his new partner, I own my own place and my sister rents a flat. So basically the house is empty.

To say our relationship with him since her passing has been rocky would be an understatement. Not only is his new partner an old family acquaintance, she is a ‘therapist’ who used our grief to provide us with ‘therapy’ whilst beginning a relationship with my stepfather.

A lot has happened and we have sought family therapy (mine and my sisters suggestion) to try and resolve things, but to no avail.

Around 3 weeks ago we received a text message stating he was considering releasing some equity from the house to pay my sister and I. We both declined this and the following day he then informed us that he had changed the locks due to “having some trouble”. We have yet to receive a key as he states this is difficulty to get a copy.

Last night, he then informed us that during this period he has begun to remove our mothers belongings. Obviously this was extremely upsetting for us to hear as the agreement was that we would do this together, but his reply was that he could have put it all in the bin if he wanted as “it is his” as he has the overall say over the house and the contents.

Where do we stand? Can we change the locks ourselves if we can’t access the house? (we still have a lot of our own things in the house) Does he have a right to remove such items?

This is extremely distressing for both myself and my sister and would appreciate any advice at all

TIA

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This is really helpful, thank you. I wasn’t aware of the protected titles. She used to work as a nurse and then gained a qualification in hypnotherapy. As far as I’m aware she does not have a degree is psychology but I can’t say for sure. Safe to say I need to do some digging!

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Ah this is really helpful, thank you She is a hypnotherapist but was very insistent on seeing us pretty much immediately after my mother died. All very suspicious.

Slugworth posted:

No such thing as unskilled labor. The guy mentions being the fastest on his machine, and that he would be hard to replace quickly. You can do a job well, or you can do a job shittily. Doing a job - any job - well, is a skill.

But yeah, gently caress this 'apprenticeship'. Union apprentices still make a decent wage.

Achmed Jones posted:

sure all labor requires a skill and you can be better or worse at it, but that's not what people mean by "skilled labor." unless you just are playing dumb semantic games and want to come up with a new term, i guess

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Mike (36M) has been dating Terra (32F) for about a year. At this point, she should be a huge part of every holiday gathering. But I have heard complaints from Mike about how everyone in the family treats Terra like a stranger and doesn't want her in their homes.

When I talked to people about it, they told me they aren't gonna talk about it, it is a choice they have made. I can make my own choices about Terra and Mike, but they don't want her in their home at all. My sister Claire (28F) sounded exhausted when I asked.

I (26F) just moved back home in November and have not met Terra in person. I am renting a townhouse with my husband Greg (30M). Mike and Terra were out of town visiting her family most of November and December. Mike has my address.

I have gotten three Ring videos of Terra knocking on my door at weird times during the day. When I don't answer, she waited there a few times for up to ten minutes. She texted me the last time about how I wasn't home and I said we aren't home during the day. And if we are, then she needs to text us instead of just coming by.

Greg said she seems a little intrusive, but he has sisters like that so we just tried to look past it.

On the 23rd, Mike and Terra texted me to say they were in the area. Could they stop by?

I said sure, we are having grilled cheese and tomato soup for lunch did they want a plate? Mike said absolutely.

When Terra sees what we are having, she goes “Oh I don’t want that. I will just make myself something else.”

I tell Mike we don’t have anything else she can have right now, everything else is for another meal. Mike tells her to just eat what we have and she plops down like a toddler.

She then says she needs to use the bathroom. We show her the guest bathroom. She says there is no bathtub in there. Mike asks if she can use our main bathroom to take a shower. I tell him no. He gets upset.

At this point Greg and I are starting to get why Terra isn’t welcome in people’s homes. I am about to make an excuse for them to leave when Terra comes out with my box of mud masks, which had been sitting on my bed. It was unopened. She tells me she loves this brand and she wants to use one right now.

I tell her no. Greg takes the box out of her hand and says it might be time for them to leave, as we have somewhere we need to be. Mike and Terra leave.

Later I get a text from Mike asking what I thought of Terra. I told him politely I would love to see more of him if he wants to come by. But I don’t think Terra and I would get on. He called me an rear end in a top hat and told me to grow up. AITA?

Hughlander posted:

AITA for kicking out my brother's girlfriend for how she behaved?


Anyone want to place odds on TBI in the past?

Seth Pecksniff posted:

There's two types of people in this world:

1) those who remember high school fondly, still have friends from high school and think it was the best time of their lives. They have never moved out of their hometown or driven more than 100 miles from it

2) functioning members of society

Prove me wrong

Hughlander posted:

AITA for kicking out my brother's girlfriend for how she behaved?


Anyone want to place odds on TBI in the past?

SMEGMA_MAIL posted:

We now return to our INTJ science man

Hughlander posted:

AITA for kicking out my brother's girlfriend for how she behaved?


Anyone want to place odds on TBI in the past?

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Context: Me f26 and my husband m32 welcomed our daughter several months ago. So far we've agreed on every decision made regarding our daughter but the topic of peircing her ears came up and he said he didn't like the idea despite me explaining that 1. It's normal thing for babies and 2. It looks pretty 3. no it's not cultural we're both white but it's a great new experience imo. He said he needed time to think about it but weeks went by and he hasn't said okay yet. Mom suggested we do it behind his back and he'll then come around and see for himself that it's a good thing since he was having doubts and being indecisive. I was hasitant but I agreed and chose a day where he was out all day.

Thankfully it went smoothly but when my husband got home and found out he lost his temper and went on about what a major breach of trust I just committed and how I should have never decided to do this without him fully agreeing since he's the parent too and got extra mad that I went behind his back and was being sneaky and untruthful about it. I tried to explain that first it was my mom's idea and I didn't think he'd overreact like that but he insisted that I did was not okay and that I overruled him as a parent and damaged the trust we have and also put our daughter through pain and discomfort. I had an argument with him and told him he was acting like this is just his daughter, I'm the mother and my opinion does have heavier weight than his to some degree. He got offended by that and went to stay with his mom who called and berated me for going behind her son's back and treating him as a less than when it comes to our daughter but I never understood why he thought that.

He is not talking to me now. I think he's being selfish by saying he needed time to think about it and trying to stall without considering my point of view. Mom is on my side here but he and my inlaws said I screwed up for making such decision without his "okay" and going behind his back to get it done.

AITA?

Edit/ putting this out there/ My husband was aware that I had plans to get our daughter's ears peirced and we've had many many discussions about it so it wasn't like it was out of the blue and I didn't bring it up with him. I did but he kept giving me the same "I need time to think about it" the entire time. How long was I supposed to wait? Why he kept stalling instrad of just saying "just no"? He just kept stalling and putting off any further discussions/compromises that we could've had as a way maybe to get me to just abandon the whole idea.

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but it's a great new experience imo

Seth Pecksniff posted:

There's two types of people in this world:

1) those who remember high school fondly, still have friends from high school and think it was the best time of their lives. They have never moved out of their hometown or driven more than 100 miles from it

2) functioning members of society

Prove me wrong

Seth Pecksniff posted:

There's two types of people in this world:

1) those who remember high school fondly, still have friends from high school and think it was the best time of their lives. They have never moved out of their hometown or driven more than 100 miles from it

2) functioning members of society

Prove me wrong

Midnight Voyager posted:

Uhh. It's an infant. What experience? She'll never remember this.

Khizan posted:

I'm guessing stroke/TBI here.

I considered drugs, because the "no, no, I need to use the master bathroom all by myself" thing is classic seeking behavior, but the mud mask and doorbell weirdness leans me away from that.

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Colorado laws shall apply here. 3 cops showed up on my door issuing me a harassment ticket. They were asking for my information in order to fill out the ticket. They asked for my phone number and I simply said "I don't need to provide you with this information. It's public info I'm sure you can find but I'm not going to provide it."

They immediately put me in cuffs and walked me to the car. They did ask if anything was in my pockets before placing me in the car which I know is correct, but once I was in the car I was able to take the hand cuffs off with ease. I tapped on the window and kept asking the officer stupid questions. Just mainly to get his attention to the fact that I wasn't hand cuffed.

After they ran my information and were about to uncuff me I made sure my hands were in front of me and I said " you didn't do well I took the cuffs off."

"We weren't worried about you" was their response

I feel like this was negligence on Their part and they weren't following standard protocol, nor do I believe I should have even been detained for not providing my phone number.

Was I in the wrong? Were they in the wrong? Can I possibly get my whole charge thrown out because of their negligence?

snergle posted:

Tarkus posted:

why tf do people pierce the ears of their babies? If the kid wants to get pierced when they're older, let 'em, otherwise just stop. jesus

Tarkus posted:

why tf do people pierce the ears of their babies? If the kid wants to get pierced when they're older, let 'em, otherwise just stop. jesus

value-brand cereal posted:

Piercing infants' ears is a perfectly normal thing for many people's culture. Please be careful about being weird or racist about this.

Seth Pecksniff posted:

There's two types of people in this world:

1) those who remember high school fondly, still have friends from high school and think it was the best time of their lives. They have never moved out of their hometown or driven more than 100 miles from it

2) functioning members of society

Prove me wrong

value-brand cereal posted:

Piercing infants' ears is a perfectly normal thing for many people's culture. Please be careful about being weird or racist about this.

Cthulu Carl posted:

I have some fond memories of high school, but it definitely wasn't the peak of my life.

Tarkus posted:

why tf do people pierce the ears of their babies? If the kid wants to get pierced when they're older, let 'em, otherwise just stop. jesus

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I'll try and make this as straight forward as possible and I'm (obviously) really interested in hearing everyone else's opinion, as I'm debating whether to bring this up with my partner. I was a little stuck on what to title this, so I hope it makes sense.

I (29F) have been with (31M) for 3 years. I am a typical height whereas he is a little person. We are in a committed relationship and see marriage in our future.

Recently, a family member brought up the idea of children, (awkward Christmas gathering). We have both said we would like to have children but have not really discussed how, (whether that be biological, adopted etc) in any depth. This led to questions about the likelihood of our child being average sized vs little. I said that, when the time came to seriously think about having children, we would discuss potentially trying IVF and genetic testing to ensure our child was an average height. My partner confessed to me later that night that he was really hurt by what I had said and that it suggested I don't truly accept him for who he is. From my perspective, I just don't know if I'd want to bring a child into the world with a 50% chance of them being differently-abled when it can be avoided. The child would still be half me/half him, which would be amazing, just without the negative things he's had to experience.

I feel awful for hurting him and can see why it could have come across like that. AITA?

Cowslips Warren posted:

My mom wanted me to get pierced ears my entire life. But she wanted me to want it, so every loving year she'd keep asking me if I wanted to get it done. Finally about age 10, I agreed, on the condition I could bring my guinea pig with me. I remember sitting in the lovely Claire's chair, Capy in my lap, and the piercer in training did my ear before the trainer gave the okay. It did hurt, it did startle me, but the real issue was the infection that happened a bit later, because my mom promised me some cute earrings, and I wore them too early. Little wood ducks with waving feet. Every loving step I took with those in, I felt like someone stabbing my ears, but I looked cute, and that was what was important, wasn't it?


AITA for considering genetic testing in LTR with a little person.

Nah if I did the math right, you take both your heights and divide by two! That's precisely why everyone with a physical difference like eye color or skin color end up with a perfect 50/50 baby.

Hughlander posted:

AITA for kicking out my brother's girlfriend for how she behaved?


Anyone want to place odds on TBI in the past?

DemoneeHo posted:

Did the cops illegally detain me and were they negligent while doing so?

muscles like this! posted:

Just kind of blow past the "harassment ticket" part. From the other parts I'm getting strong sovereign citizen vibes.