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She's so militant anti-child that she got "devastated" when her friend got pregnant. Her entire identity is based on her hating kids. She's just in denial about it. Edit re: complications "Oh, yeah, the doctor told me tha-" "YOU SHOULD HAVE ABORTED I TOLD YOU BABIES ARE LITERALLY SATAN"
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OP apparently made an abortion joke, along the lines of 'oh god i'd go get it aborted right away!' (paraphrasing) I also don't trust people who go to the friend group try and litigate this poo poo in the court of public opinion, so gently caress OP there as well. She wasn't just venting or asking for 'opinions', she was looking for backup to bully her friend.
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Jan 12, 2022 17:14
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StrangersInTheNight posted:OP apparently made an abortion joke, along the lines of 'oh god i'd go get it aborted right away!' (paraphrasing) It's much worse than that quote:I didn’t outright suggest she kill it. At most I think I was like “Oh no! Really, are you sure? It’s not to late!” which obviously was mostly a joke, and then I just said if it were me I’d already have gotten an abortion and I was glad my doctor knew that if that ever happened to me I’d be getting an abortion right away. "I'm just kidding. Or am I? I totally am. Unless..."
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Jan 12, 2022 17:17
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Barudak posted:Like Im happy for the two of them but thats some lovely behavior to a friend being nice. Sounds like Hailee has self-confidence issues and was struggling with her sexuality, as teenagers (it sure sounds like teenagers, or maybe young college students) are wont to do. OP prodded her at a delicate moment, she lashed out, and everything's back to normal once she sorted her poo poo out. It's lovely, but it's kind of understandable and it sounds like neither of them are holding it against each other.
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Jan 12, 2022 17:19
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Cythereal posted:Sounds like Hailee has self-confidence issues and was struggling with her sexuality, as teenagers (it sure sounds like teenagers, or maybe young college students) are wont to do. OP prodded her at a delicate moment, she lashed out, and everything's back to normal once she sorted her poo poo out. yeah they sound very young, I know I wouldn't be pissed off by her reaction and neither is OP
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Jan 12, 2022 17:21
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Variable 5 posted:She's so militant anti-child that she got "devastated" when her friend got pregnant. yeah this is what boggles my mind. i don't want kids because that entire endeavor is not something i feel drawn too or suited for. Sure id be a good dad cause I'm not a monster, but its not what i want from life. I'm excited to be an uncle to future neices/nephews and "uncle" to my friends kids. Yeah i don't like being around crying/whining kids for too long either, that's part of my whole deal, but just lmao at this broke brained poo poo
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Jan 12, 2022 17:21
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When my ex was about 3 months pregnant with our son, we were having lunch with a friend of ours, who made a "joke" about maybe the baby would die in the womb and we could all get drunk again, like we used to. The joke was so funny we didn't speak to her for about 5 years! Haha!
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Jan 12, 2022 17:22
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Cythereal posted:Sounds like Hailee has self-confidence issues and was struggling with her sexuality, as teenagers (it sure sounds like teenagers, or maybe young college students) are wont to do. OP prodded her at a delicate moment, she lashed out, and everything's back to normal once she sorted her poo poo out. I think I had them mentally pegged as a bit older like, early twenties, but either way I'd still want an apology or at least some admission of the snap back being uncalled for.
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Jan 12, 2022 17:25
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hawowanlawow posted:yeah they sound very young, I know I wouldn't be pissed off by her reaction and neither is OP If they are out of high school I would be shocked
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Jan 12, 2022 17:26
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The real question is how lovely were the dates this girl has been having been that dinner and a movie was life changing.
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Jan 12, 2022 17:30
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Ethiser posted:The real question is how lovely were the dates this girl has been having been that dinner and a movie was life changing. I dunno, a guy could take me to dinner and a movie and I still wouldn't wanna gently caress them. Prolly works the same way for lesbians or if she's bi maybe they did all just suck rear end lol
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Jan 12, 2022 17:32
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Ethiser posted:The real question is how lovely were the dates this girl has been having been that dinner and a movie was life changing. I went on a first date with a woman who was super impressed that I didn't balk at buying her a frozen yogurt. I guess she had met up with a lot of broke fucks previously.
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Jan 12, 2022 17:33
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Ethiser posted:The real question is how lovely were the dates this girl has been having been that dinner and a movie was life changing. If they're highschool boys your lucky to get dinner.
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Jan 12, 2022 17:34
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Ethiser posted:The real question is how lovely were the dates this girl has been having been that dinner and a movie was life changing. I don't think you appreciate how low the bar is for dating these days
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Jan 12, 2022 17:35
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my friends that their pretend date sounds like lot like a real one? I thought this was cute 
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Jan 12, 2022 17:36
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Hey babe, my idea for a date is I pick you up in the family car, drive to a quiet spot and we gently caress. Dinner? No thanks, I ate already
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Jan 12, 2022 17:37
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It's similar to the difference between "I play video games" and "I'm a gamer" "I'm not having kids" is just fine. Avoid "I'm child-free"
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Jan 12, 2022 17:37
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Dinner? In this economy?
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Jan 12, 2022 17:38
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Pope Corky the IX posted:It's similar to the difference between "I play video games" and "I'm a gamer" Cream's "I'm Child-Free" never made it to the top of the charts, and for good reason!
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Jan 12, 2022 17:39
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Pope Corky the IX posted:It's similar to the difference between "I play video games" and "I'm a gamer" "militantly" child free at that.
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Jan 12, 2022 17:39
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hey u wanna Samsung Live TV Plus and chill?
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Jan 12, 2022 17:40
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Sounds like she's gone from "I'm child-free" to "reincarnation of King Herod"'hawowanlawow posted:hey u wanna
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Jan 12, 2022 17:40
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for disrespecting my future MIL after she gave us advice? Protip: If you need couples therapy in the first couple of years of a relationship and before you're actually married, you're probably not gonna make it.
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She's also someone that just refuses to grow the gently caress up. Like, I'm sure they made jokes about abortion and "just getting rid of it" when they were younger and single and having fun. But to not see a difference between that and telling her pregnant and happy friend "You know, there's still plenty of time to get rid of it but I'm totally kidding if you get upset" means she'll end up the lonely miserable old woman that throws a fit every time she hears children laughing at the park.
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Jan 12, 2022 17:45
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Hey wanna come over, play some madden. Nah I don't have a car, ask your mom.
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Jan 12, 2022 17:46
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Ouhei posted:Protip: If you need couples therapy in the first couple of years of a relationship and before you're actually married, you're probably not gonna make it. I actually disagree. I've heard arguments that it's good to get couples therapy when you're getting serious so you can have someone neutral help you defuse any time bombs or communication missteps that may occur. Therapy doesn't necessarily have to be reactive imo
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Jan 12, 2022 17:47
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"I could never have children, having to raise them would take too much time away from my hobby." "Oh, what's your hobby?" "Hating children."
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Jan 12, 2022 17:48
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Pope Corky the IX posted:She's also someone that just refuses to grow the gently caress up. Like, I'm sure they made jokes about abortion and "just getting rid of it" when they were younger and single and having fun. But to not see a difference between that and telling her pregnant and happy friend "You know, there's still plenty of time to get rid of it but I'm totally kidding if you get upset" means she'll end up the lonely miserable old woman that throws a fit every time she hears children laughing at the park. Friend of mine swore he'd never get married, then got married. He then swore he'd never have kids. He now has two adorable little girls and apparently took cake decorating courses or something because he now bakes and decorates super elaborate multi-tier princess castle-style birthday cakes If you're the same person in your 30s/40s as you were in your teens/20s, something has gone wrong somewhere.
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Seth Pecksniff posted:I actually disagree. I've heard arguments that it's good to get couples therapy when you're getting serious so you can have someone neutral help you defuse any time bombs or communication missteps that may occur. Therapy doesn't necessarily have to be reactive imo Personal bias as I did it in a previous relationship. I could see how it would be not a horrible idea in your scenario though, even I think most healthy couples should be able to navigate any of those logistics without a therapist.
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Variable 5 posted:Friend of mine swore he'd never get married, then got married. He then swore he'd never have kids. He now has two adorable little girls and apparently took cake decorating courses or something because he now bakes and decorates super elaborate multi-tier princess castle-style birthday cakes this is true. i used to be a huge fuckup. i still am as well.
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Ouhei posted:Personal bias as I did it in a previous relationship. I could see how it would be not a horrible idea in your scenario though, even I think most healthy couples should be able to navigate any of those logistics without a therapist. Even healthy couples have things happen to them like illness, loss of employment, deaths of people close to them, etc. That's actually a really lovely thing to say.
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AITA for telling my girlfriend she 'ruined' my night by insisting she comes along?quote:My girlfriend and I (both 20f) have been dating for a year. My girlfriend-Jane and I have separate friend groups. Jane doesn't get along with my friends, yet insists she is brought along to our nights out/in. It's incredibly uncomfortable because whilst she's also a woman, these get-togethers are no-partners allowed parties. Plus, she doesn't get along with anyone so it's super awkward. I was invited out to one of their parties, and Jane got upset that I'm going without her. I'll be gone from 10am Friday to afternoon on Saturday. She has no issue with both of us going, but without her, it's an issue. quote:Because if Jane doesn't agree with something, she'll go on an angry rant about it. My friend finally cut her toxic family out of her life, and Jane called her a 'pos' for 'abandoning her family'. One of my friends doesn't drink booze but is fine in its presence (religious reasons) and Jane called her an 'idiot'. quote:Yes I do think she tried to deliberately ruin things. quote:I love my girlfriend. I'm just sick of her double standard (I'm not allowed to join her on her nights out with her friends). quote:I didn't bring her along, she came on her own. quote:(After receiving a slew of comments telling her to DTMF) Not yet. I'm going to have a long sit down and talk with her.
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Mr. Grapes! posted:I loved hanging out with hardcore Jews. I worked at a hospital as a teenager that was in a very Jewish area so I met a lot of them, and their kids would have a similar job as me but with all sorts of odd restrictions. I remember one of my friends mentioned that he had his computer and stereo set up on a timer so he could listen to music on The Holy Day (Shabbos?) without touching any electronics. Another guy told me about how his dad was running fishing line all around his cul de sac to create a special enclosure in which Things Would Be Allowed. Gerblyn posted:
Tarkus posted:I went on a first date with a woman who was super impressed that I didn't balk at buying her a frozen yogurt. I guess she had met up with a lot of broke fucks previously.
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Halloween Jack posted:There's a line (eruv) encircling most of Manhattan! Maintaining it is a community project at this point. What if I wash my butthole with froyo?
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Soylent Pudding posted:What if I wash my butthole with froyo? It wraps right back around to being straight.
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Soylent Pudding posted:What if I wash my butthole with froyo?
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Halloween Jack posted:There's a line (eruv) encircling most of Manhattan! Maintaining it is a community project at this point. It's one of the most fun bits of Jewish rules lawyering. Problem: There are restrictions on what you may move into or out of your home on the Sabbath Solution: Redefine "home" to cover the entire neighborhood, go hog wild https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eruv
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Pope Corky the IX posted:It's similar to the difference between "I play video games" and "I'm a gamer" Honestly, this goes for many things. There's obviously a lot of linguistic nuance in this, but "I do/am interested in/try to avoid x" is overall less worrisome than "I am x". The latter kind of suggests it's the main or only aspect of your personality. Also, I'm an engineer, and I'm interested in homosexuality. (Note: I'm not an engineer, though it was in my job title a couple of years. Tres gay, though.)
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haveblue posted:It's one of the most fun bits of Jewish rules lawyering. There was an unfortunate conflict over this in some predominantly non-ultra-orthodox Jewish New York suburb a while back. I think it was covered by The Daily Show back then.
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Literally laughed out loud in a public place just from the title alone My [32m] girlfriend [31f] asked me to choose what year, I thought she was the most physically attractive. I told her 21.. Now she told me that I am a creep and I am not the guy for her quote:My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half we met each other off a dating app. Things have been overall good, but now we have been at a weird place where she has been constantly been bringing up us getting married. And for me, I view it as the next natural step in a long term relationship, but I need to feel like I truly feel ready for that level of commitment. My girlfriend says she agrees with that but then does a lot of like subtley manipulative stuff to get me to think about marriage and babies.
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