Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for refusing to pay for mechanic to tighten my wheel?

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my brothers could come?

teen witch posted:

And spice must be harder to avoid, especially if you haven’t been exposed to it at a younger age. But it’s one thing to not like something (or not tolerate it well), it’s another to sabotage another’s enjoyment of it.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for calling my gf psychotic for believing her dolls were alive?

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for calling my gf psychotic for believing her dolls were alive?

Doctor Butts posted:

I went to some hot chick's place and she told me about how her good friend died recently and she said she knows that their friend is a ghost now talking to her and that was enough for me to leave instead of trying to seal the deal.

Doctor Butts posted:

I could see how 'pretending they were alive' could freak the dude out

Fatkraken posted:

r/relationships: I asked her when she was letting them Move in she hung up

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for calling my gf psychotic for believing her dolls were alive?

I jokingly said "You were psychotic as a child." But I guess my tone sounded rather serious. 

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So I (M40) and my wife (F38) have 2 daughters (19F) and (2F).

My 19F daughter is living in her uni city but still keeps things at our home which is fine. At this point however, we need her room for our youngest daughter so I decided to start offering things to my family. For example, her smart scales weren’t being used anymore and my brother has been trying to get healthier and lose weight so I passed them onto him as they measure fat and metrics. My other brother’s kids wanted Articulate and I figured it can’t hurt to let them play with my daughter’s copy. She only took what she really wanted to university so I don’t know why she would miss the things at home.

Things came to a head a few days ago when I offered my nephew her Harry Potter book collection. He’s really been struggling to read lately and I think once he finds a book he really likes, it will makes it easier for him. My daughter is an avid reader so I thought she would appreciate the books are to help her cousin get into reading like she did. I was wrong. She got very angry with me when she realised the books were gone, saying that “I always do this without asking” and that I never ask for anything back from the people I give her things to. She also pointed out several examples so she does have a point and I guess I do let other people use her things.

I told her that she was being selfish because she’s enjoyed using them and that it’s going to family and whenever she needs something, they help her. It’s also not good to hoard things because it’ll get thrown out by my wife sooner or later. She refuses to engage in any conversation with me now until I get those books back so i’m wondering AITA?

EDIT - Okay I get it, I’m an AH. I grew up having to share everything but that doesn’t mean my daughter has to. I’m going to message my brother and ask for the books back and apologise to my daughter.

Lemniscate Blue posted:

TL;DR: I have had enough of my stepdaughter so I moved back to my parents with my son. I’m also 8w pregnant and I don’t know know what to do

Update: tl;dr I have had enough of my stepdaughter so I moved back to my parents’ with my son

Jesus, what a tragedy.

jazzyhattrick posted:

What do you even do if your kid is just an irredeemable piece of poo poo? Stick them them a cheap boarding school until you can cut contact when they turn 18?

Halloween Jack posted:

My question is, what do you do as the father in this situation? How do you live with being such a massive failure that your daughter is attacking people and setting poo poo on fire, and your wife divorces you and aborts a planned pregnancy to save an unborn child from you failing them as a parent, too?

Invisible Clergy posted:

AITA for refusing to pay for mechanic to tighten my wheel?

limp_cheese posted:

I guarentee he said this with a straight face and a tone of voice with zero mirth in it. loving lol at a guy that hears his gf talk about how she used her imagination when she was a kid and thought "This bitch is crazy." He sure sounds like a fun guy to be around.

teen witch posted:

I swear we know the same guy.

I feel bad because I outright hate most anise-salmiakki* type flavors and that’s present way more where I live, but it’s something that even a hint of it makes me retchy, so I get it. And spice must be harder to avoid, especially if you haven’t been exposed to it at a younger age. But it’s one thing to not like something (or not tolerate it well), it’s another to sabotage another’s enjoyment of it. Like I’m not going to TNT a candy section at ICA because I don’t like black licorice in a salmiakki hate crime.

*there is a beer here that’s half salt liquorice/half raspberry flavored and gently caress me it’s drat good (Dugges Fifty Fifty, anything from them is worth a shot). I think THAT might be the only thing I like.

sephiRoth IRA posted:

They didn't start making ritos with cocaine dusting or anything like that, right?

hawowanlawow posted:

I'm like that with pistachios, I will sit there and eat them as fast as I can shell them until they're all gone

Brawnfire posted:

It's definitely gotten insane, much like every tradition around weddings and childbirth. The original idea as I understand it was feeding each other cake and "oh lol that got messy let's kiss now"

That got a laugh from a desperate, trapped wedding audience so the next couple had to up the ante. Now I'm guessing there's probably cake cannons and poo poo.

The thing I'd be scared of is like, you can't just slam someone's face into a cake without preparing for that. You don't know what's supporting that cake. People have ended up with dowels and poo poo speared through their eye because they think a giant decorated cake is just cake throughout.

Halloween Jack posted:

My question is, what do you do as the father in this situation? How do you live with being such a massive failure that your daughter is attacking people and setting poo poo on fire, and your wife divorces you and aborts a planned pregnancy to save an unborn child from you failing them as a parent, too?

jazzyhattrick posted:

Tell psycho daughter that she's dead to you, relinquish all parental rights, beg wife not to have the abortion and take you back.

mediaphage posted:

lol who'd take back a guy who did that to their child

Halloween Jack posted:

My question is, what do you do as the father in this situation? How do you live with being such a massive failure that your daughter is attacking people and setting poo poo on fire, and your wife divorces you and aborts a planned pregnancy to save an unborn child from you failing them as a parent, too?

teen witch posted:

AITA for telling my boyfriend i don’t want his ugly handmade gifts?

There’s a whole hefty contingent of downvoted YTA comments because of course there are.

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Before you come at me hear me out. Obligatory throwaway account in case this gets seen.

I went interstate to see my mother over the Christmas period. I had asked my bf to look after my cat and house sit for me while I was away. I said to him not to have anyone over which included MIL. I think that's a pretty reasonable request. While I was away bf secretly had MIL over to my house under the guise of meeting the cat.

MIL got it in her head that I needed her to "tidy up" so they set to work "tidying up" while I was gone. I asked bf not to get too carried away and not to touch anything that could be classed as rearranging. I thought I made myself very clear on my stance about this. Bf actively lied to me about not having anyone over while I was away.

I come home, bf picks me up from to airport to tell me that my father is coming to my flat to see me. I thought the flat was still the way I wanted it. We get through the door to my flat and absolutely everything has been changed. I walk around and I lose my poo poo saying to bf that I told him not to go overboard. I started crying because he didn't respect my wishes and told me that MIL had been there to help him.

I lose it even more finding out that MIL who is a first class snooper has been in my apartment touching my things and putting my life on display. Bf got up in arms because I was being ungrateful and I said to him that I didn't want this, I didn't ask for this at all and to find out that MIL had been here without my permission really made me mad. I said to him he should have consulted me about the changes he was going to make instead of just doing it and making me learn to like it.

My Dad came over and I was in a foul mood having just learned that my privacy and my home had been violated. Dad thought I was being unreasonable about the state of my house (bf and MIL made it look like no one lives there) I stood my ground and said it was too much change and now they have made it so I can't change it back.

Bf said I was an AH because of my reaction to this. I'm starting to think I am, but I also feel like it was a heathy reaction to someone completely turning your house and stuff upside down without you knowing. So AITA?

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he's filled the empty spaces with furniture that I can't lift or move so I have to keep it the way he put it. he bought a whole second TV cabinet so I can't put things back.

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My gf of 5 years, Clara (25F), and I (26M) both attend the same university. I’m finishing up the final parts of my STEM BSc (computer science, working on mobile application development), and she’s in the 3rd year of studying for a doctorate in a Humanities and will get her Phd in Sept. It’s a university city so politically active and Clara is active there, does a lot of organising, demos and protests etc: FYI we align the same politically so this isn’t an issue, I’m describing what she does.

If you know computer science dudes, you’ll know we like to joke around a lot. Last year, I had to repeat classes and I was with students a few years below me, who saw photos of me and Clara on my phone bg. Clara is objectively very pretty, and it’s something I can be insecure of. So I, jokingly, said she was my trophy wife, and made some dumb blonde type jokes about her being “no thoughts head empty” and “proof you are either pretty or smart”. If you know guys, you know inside jokes, and my trophy wife became a meme in the STEM underclasses, my friends even made me a mug that said “every developer needs a trophy wife”.

But last week I took Clara to a mutual’s party and the CS underclassmen were there. They straightaway started joking about finally meeting the trophy wife, and she got offended and said something snippy like “you know I’m doing a Phd and organised X strike to pressure the college for money for YOUR department right?” (I know this as I had told her abt the issue so she pressured the college).

My friend was drunk, and laughed at her and said he didn’t know that, but a degree in CS is worth more than “reading books and acting like MLK” and to my horror said something like “OP, you were right, she is a trophy wife”. Clara, who is mixed race, seemed to take offence at the first statement, but left the group and ignored me totally.

At home, she rounded on me and I immediately said sorry, the MLK comment was wrong, I’ll speak to him. She said to forget that, and asked me what the gently caress I meant by trophy wife. I explained the backstory, a bit badly as I was drinking. She asked why I didn’t defend her from the comments about her degree, but I said that everyone thinks their course is the best and she shouldn’t overreact. She told me I was a prick, then gave me the cold shoulder till now.

I feel like an AH because I didn’t think she’d be annoyed by trophy wife jokes. She is aware she’s pretty and is confident about it so I don’t know why she’s reacting badly. I accept the MLK comment was rude, and my friend apologised the next day. But the trophy wife stuff was just jokes, most people in her community knows her well, she never interacts with STEM students so I didn’t think their jokes mattered.

Maybe this is an “academia” thing I don’t know about since I’m aiming to work in an industry? If I messed up, I want to apologise, but I can’t see how this was more than a joke gone sour.

ETA because I’m seeing some people argue about politics and I wanted to be fair/clear about this since it seems Im the AH in all other ways.

She isn’t an activist for party politics aka leftwing or rightwing stuff, she’s more a “student politics” type. Student Union president last year and did a lot of student union stuff through her time here, thats why she was able to press the college for money for facilities. So no it’s not the kind of “professional liberal” ur thinking of, so please stop sending me hate from both sides of the political line.

Also, to the person who DMed asking if she was doing a gender studies phd, no, her subject is History. I accept that Im an rear end in a top hat, not because of all your abuse but because of the kind of people agreeing with me.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for calling my academic girlfriend a trophy wife as a joke?

My gf of 5 years, Clara (25F), and I (26M) both attend the same university. I’m finishing up the final parts of my STEM BSc (computer science,

Hughlander posted:

Something great about this one that came out in the comments... Christmas present was a rock. Just a rock found on the ground.


AITA for badly reacting to my house being rearranged?


What do you mean you can't change it back?

Someone needs a loving hammer. Take it to the tv cabinet then the ex.

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for calling my academic girlfriend a trophy wife as a joke?

Soylent Pudding posted:

I accept that Im an rear end in a top hat, not because of all your abuse but because of the kind of people agreeing with me.

teen witch posted:

HerStuddMuffin posted:

It is such a shame that this sentence is too long for a thread title.

Brawnfire posted:

*fuming* "You... 'got rid of' the junk drawer?!? EVERY HOME NEEDS A JUNK DRAWER"

Absurd Alhazred posted:

I'm trying to imagine how Jewish weddings would go if we had this mentality. Wine glass? Pfft... ten wine glasses! The groom breaking them with his foot? How about some DYNAMITE instead?!!?

CannonFodder posted:

Mazel tov? More like Molotov!

*sets everything on fire*

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for calling my academic girlfriend a trophy wife as a joke?

Soylent Pudding posted:

AITA for calling my academic girlfriend a trophy wife as a joke?

she never interacts with STEM students so I didn’t think their jokes mattered