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- Blastedhellscape
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It might just be the fact that she tried to tell then they didn’t know what they were talking about in their own academic field because of something she read in a popular press book.
Yeah.
I'm maybe going to get accused of decorum poisoning here, but when I run into a person who says something that seems both earnest and kind of ignorant about a subject I actually know a lot about my first instinct is to try to use diplomatic language and let them down easy. And maybe make it an educational moment. "Oh. I see how that book might have led you to think that, but it was simplifying things a bit and there's a lot more to subject, such as..."
Of course if you work in a field where there's a ton of misinformation and people are constantly doubling down on their ignorance I can totally understand not giving a gently caress and calling an ignorant idiot an ignorant idiot.
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Feb 3, 2022 05:50
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- Chef Boyardeez Nuts
- Sep 9, 2011
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The more you kick against the pricks, the more you suffer.
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I was wondering where all those commas went.
How exactly did OP think this was going to work?
He was going to get $400.
*fin*
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Feb 3, 2022 05:50
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- Invisible Clergy
- Sep 25, 2015
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"Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"
Malachi 2:3
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Yeah.
I'm maybe going to get accused of decorum poisoning here, but when I run into a person who says something that seems both earnest and kind of ignorant about a subject I actually know a lot about my first instinct is to try to use diplomatic language and let them down easy. And maybe make it an educational moment. "Oh. I see how that book might have led you to think that, but it was simplifying things a bit and there's a lot more to subject, such as..."
Of course if you work in a field where there's a ton of misinformation and people are constantly doubling down on their ignorance I can totally understand not giving a gently caress and calling an ignorant idiot an ignorant idiot.
Nah, that's decorum under unsafe limits, all right. I do that too because once in a while, you're actually able to teach them something. If not, then they reveal themselves as people not worth the effort and that's useful info too. That's what these academics tried to do as well, but like these "my ignorance is better than your expertise" idiots always do, the gf doubled down so they were within their rights to stop coddling her.
Fellow academics discuss how this happens to them all the time and it sucks in the comments section for this post, which amazingly is kind of ok.
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Feb 3, 2022 05:56
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- Invisible Clergy
- Sep 25, 2015
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"Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"
Malachi 2:3
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WIBTA for taking my parents to court?
parents taking it really personally that they perpetrated fraud on their child
because they're the victim
tale old as time
Unfortunately all too common. Bummer. Wouldn't be an rear end in a top hat for punishing their parents for the crimes they committed against them for years, but it'd be smart to line up a new place to live first since the kinds of parents who ruin their own child's credit to avoid paying a cable bill will definitely retaliate.
Did someone say... decorum poisoning?
AITA I refuse to go to my wedding reception because I am allergic to everything at that restaurant
quote:I am getting married. We had to push the wedding back due to Covid. Weddings are expensive and my parents offered to help pay for it.
My mother picked her favorite restaurant for the wedding reception. The wedding is in two weeks. I found out the menu this week, I am allergic to everything she picked. It’s also a religious wedding and she picked food that violates the religious requirements. She’s not religious so we assumed it was an accident, but she refuses to change parts of it because she doesn’t think it matters.
It matters to my fiancé, who feels the religious violation is further proof she’s not a good person. She already doesn’t like her. I have a horrible time even getting her to spend time with my parents. This only further agitates her.
I called the restaurant to find out what could be done so that I could actually eat at my own wedding and it turns out I can’t even walk into the building. I am deathly allergic to the oil that they use and it will fill the room with air. I have had to several EpiPen‘s this year because of that oil filling the air in a closed in space. It’s rare, but I’ve seen many specialists and no one can figure out why I’m dying.
I explained this to my mother multiple times that I can’t even walk into the building but she keeps telling me I won’t die. The doctor says otherwise. My allergies are extremely bad and just being around things I’m allergic to is dangerous and my fiancé and I are terrified of any allergy attack.
So I don’t want to go to the reception, I’m not willing to die so mom can throw a party. My fiancé is on board, she also wants to go no contact. We already don’t talk to her side, they’re homophobic and racist and after meeting me my fiancé finally realized both. I just don’t know what to do. When I tried to talk to my mother about it she told me she would just cancel the reception and I could figure it out. The wedding is in less than two weeks, what could I possibly figure out in that timeframe.
I just don’t know what to do. If I make a big stink and we don’t go, I know she won’t be honest with the relatives and tell them that I’m deathly allergic to the entire restaurant. So if we don’t go we have to be prepared to tell every relative and guest that my mom picked a restaurant I am deathly allergic to because… That’s the best part I can’t figure out why she did it. I can’t figure out why she picked a restaurant the bride is allergic to that also violates the religious values of the other bride. I really don’t know what to do. If I put my foot down and refuse to go I will start a war. My mother tends to win those.
But I don’t want to die. Is refusing to go and having to explain to all the relatives what happened going to make me the a-hole? I just don’t know what to do. Thank you
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Feb 3, 2022 06:05
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- therobit
- Aug 19, 2008
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I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time
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WIBTA for taking my parents to court?
parents taking it really personally that they perpetrated fraud on their child
because they're the victim
tale old as time
Kid, unless you report your parents to the police for ID theft you will never get out from underneath this. They are going to continue to have their utilities in your name and because it is an address you live/lived at, the creditors will be able to verify to the bureau that it is legitimate. But really, you should report them. Likely nothing will come of it unless the creditors pursue it, which they often don’t, and if the police do decide to file charges then they deserve it anyway.
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Feb 3, 2022 06:07
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- Invisible Clergy
- Sep 25, 2015
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"Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"
Malachi 2:3
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As Kung Food very intelligently said earlier, victims of abuse are often unable to cleanly cut ties with their abusers for many reasons, no matter how obvious this course of action seems to outside observers. Hopefully, OP's fiancee is able to help her along with this and it works out.
AITA for putting pepper on everything?
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My (F25) boyfriend (M30) is currently mad at me because of this issue. I love pepper so much, and my boyfriend never uses enough of it when cooking. He hates it and says it's fine if I add it to my dish after he's served it, but he refuses to add the amount that I want to the meal while it's cooking. He'll only add a little.
I think it tastes better if it's added while the meal is cooking, and it annoys me that he never adds enough. Last night he was making chicken soup, and its always so bland, and I know he would enjoy the pepper if he just gave it a try. So I added a heap of it to the pot, while it was on the stove.
When he tried some, he realised what i had done and was really angry. He said that it was inedible (it wasn't. I enjoyed it a lot and it's not going to go to waste.) And he had to make himself something else. He said I was a major rear end in a top hat, and he also said that he planned on taking some over to his parents, but he can't now because his parents hate pepper too.
I think he's overreacting but i feel kinda bad now. AITA?
ETA: I'm talking about pepper as in "salt and pepper" and it's blended peppercorns, not pre-ground lmao
EDIT: something that probably would have been worth adding into the post is that my boyfriend adds garlic to everything and I hate garlic and he refuses to make a dish without it. It's why I don't think it's fair that he won't add a bit more pepper for me when I have to put up with an ingredient that I dislike constantly. I didn't mention it because I didn't think it would be relevant but I think it might be now.
And yes, he insists that I add garlic to every dish that i cook too
update: my boyfriend and I made up last night, and I apologised for ruining the chicken soup, and he accepted my apology. But this morning, we had another fight because I told him that maybe we should start cooking for ourselves instead of each other, since we both like different things in our food. He likes a lot of garlic, and I don't. I like a lot of black pepper, and he doesn't. I told him that we should either make separate portions, and add garlic into portion meant for him, and black pepper into the portion meant for me. He didn't like this idea because he said it just created more work. I then said that maybe we could just cook for ourselves and not for each other. And days where i have to work late, i can eat leftovers from my dinner from the night before. He didn't like this idea either because he said that he doesn't like the idea of having to either cook for himself every night or be stuck eat leftovers on nights where he doesn't want to cook, since he usually doesn't like eating the same thing two nights in a row. So idk what to do now, it's a stalemate. All this over black pepper and garlic ._. Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 06:22 on Feb 3, 2022
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Feb 3, 2022 06:17
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- Mx.
- Dec 16, 2006
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I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!
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AITA for refusing to accept a birthday cake from my future SIL?
quote:My fiance and I have a son who just turned 5, and 2 daughters 8 and 13.
My fiance has a brother, Joey, and Joey is married to Debbie. They have been married about 5 years.
Joey has a daughter who he had very very young is now in her 20s and moved out of the house and Debbie has no children of her own. This means they are both late 30s empty nesters.
Over the last few years I have always been uncomfortable with them. When ever we are around Debbie will offer to cook. But not just something quick, she always has to make some elaborate BS so everyone praises her non stop.
Last time she picked some.poo poo out of her garden to make a "quick dinner".
Apparently( according to my fiance and his friends) she basically caters to Joey 24/7 and I am constantly hearing from my fiance that "Debbie let's Joey do XYZ without getting mad!" Or "Debbie does this! Or that!"
Basically she is a trophy wife.
Anyways, my fiance has 2 sisters who are married and have children. Of course, Debbie can't help herself and the tradition is she makes the kids a special cake for their birthday and decorates them and what not.
In my experience it is a what I ordered off wish vs what I got thing, but again, she gets endless praise about how talented she is and what not.
Anyways, over a family dinner I mentioned I was planning a birthday party for my son and she offered to make him a cake.
Now, here is where I might be(honestly probaby am) the rear end in a top hat...
I had just had it lately with how 'amazing' she is, in her life with litterally 0 real responsibility and I told her I would let the professional women at Walmart handle it, and I didn't really want a woman who's ability to cook and wait on a man is the only thing she takes pride in setting an example for my children.
So, AITA or am.i right to not play into the "yay domestic debbie!" bs, especially in front of my kids.
For the record, my family says ITAH.
they can use this post as a bittering agent on switch cartridges to stop kids eating them
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Feb 3, 2022 06:24
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- therobit
- Aug 19, 2008
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I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time
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AITA for asking my husband to choose between his daughters?
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I hope this post won’t look messy, I’m so riled up that help me God. Me (F 50) and my husband (M 51) were married for 21 years. He divorced his pregnant wife to get with me, but he saw his daughter Kristen whenever he wanted. Later I gave birth to our daughter Sasha but my husband was cheating on me and we took a break, I forbade him to see our daughter. He missed her early years and now I think it changed everything. He doesn’t treat Kristen (21) and Sasha (18) the same. Kristen is his number one thing, he comes running if she calls him and he can just drop everything if she asks. He pays for Sasha’s education but she just isn’t his priority. He always talks about Kristen, it’s always about her. Sasha feels it and it hurts her.
I’m sure Kristen hates me for breaking her mom and my husband up. She always does things to rile me up. She calls my husband 5 times a day to chat, even late at night when she knows he’s with me! She makes him spend a week in a month with her just ‘chilling’ in his apartment. He never spends as much time with Sasha and we live together. It’s a victory if I manage to get us to watch a movie together. Recently I learned that my husband left everything to Kristen in his will. She gets an apartment, his WW2 collection when Sasha gets just one room in an old hostel building!
Now there is a cat. Kristen already has 3, there is no place for more, so she dragged one into my husband’s flat. She’s claiming someone threw him away and she just wanted to give him a home. That’s bullsh*t, she’s doing everything to keep my husband chained to his second flat, away from his other daughter and me. He now has to stay there to feed it. Kristen does it when he’s not there, but now he has a reason to spend more time in his flat, and he keeps doing it. Kristen knew it would be like this, she did this on purpose, I'm sure.
I asked my husband to give the cat away or we’d have a problem, he said he’d think but he went and consulted Kristen. From what I got, she accused him of betraying that cat and stopped talking to him. My husband spent all night writing her apologies and he told me he’d never get rid of the cat! He didn’t even want it, Kristen brought it, it's just one more thing that keeps him away from his family! I finally had enough and I told him to pick between Kristen and Sasha. He can’t have two relationships at once and if he cares about Sasha he has to prove it and pick her at least this once.
It was weeks ago, he refuses to give me his answer and I keep feeling like I’m an rear end in a top hat but then I get angry again. I know he loves Kristen, but maybe the threat to not seeing Sasha will make him realize he has another daughter who needs his attention. So AITA for wanting my husband to focus on our daughter for a change instead of constantly running around his first daughter?
Who would have thought that they guy who cheated on his wife with you would cheat on you too?
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Feb 3, 2022 06:33
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- WoodrowSkillson
- Feb 24, 2005
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*Gestures at 60 years of Lions history*
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Nah, that's decorum under unsafe limits, all right. I do that too because once in a while, you're actually able to teach them something. If not, then they reveal themselves as people not worth the effort and that's useful info too. That's what these academics tried to do as well, but like these "my ignorance is better than your expertise" idiots always do, the gf doubled down so they were within their rights to stop coddling her.
Fellow academics discuss how this happens to them all the time and it sucks in the comments section for this post, which amazingly is kind of ok.
yeah, without a full testimony of what was said, the unwritten parts really stack up against the gf. the OP specifically notes they compared her source to Percy Jackson. I don't know what she is referencing, but it really seems like this lady referenced a young adult novel or equivalent source to academics in a relevant field.
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Feb 3, 2022 06:39
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- Captain Fargle
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yeah, without a full testimony of what was said, the unwritten parts really stack up against the gf. the OP specifically notes they compared her source to Percy Jackson. I don't know what she is referencing, but it really seems like this lady referenced a young adult novel or equivalent source to academics in a relevant field.
She didn't just reference it. She doubled down and kept insisting she was correct about ancient languages to scholars in classical latin because she had read a children's novel. Of course that dumbass deserved to be laughed out of the room.
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Feb 3, 2022 06:44
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- Invisible Clergy
- Sep 25, 2015
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"Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"
Malachi 2:3
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AITA for asking my husband to choose between his daughters?
Who would have thought that they guy who cheated on his wife with you would cheat on you too?
His pregnant wife.
This is an amazing post. OP's ex is affiliated with (at least)
- Kristen's mom and Kristen
- OP and Sasha
- Whoever he traded OP in for
And then he rents or owns
-OP and Sasha's house
-Kristen's flat
-At least one unit in a hostel for Sasha
-Possibly a house with Kristen's mom
-Whatever house/apartment he actually lives in
These are just the wives, mistresses, ex-wives, daughters, and residences OP knows about.
In addition, he has enough free time to spend at least 1 week a month with Kristen. This guy has an expensive hobby, but it looks like he can afford it. I wonder which state's senator he is.
Then in addition to that, lol at OP's actual "problem." "Help! I forbade my ex-husband from having a relationship with my daughter and now he doesn't have a relationship with my daughter!" I really love "The daughter he abandoned before she was even born due to cheating on her mother with me is treating me like I'm some kind of homewrecker! Can you believe that?"
OP's ex:
yeah, without a full testimony of what was said, the unwritten parts really stack up against the gf. the OP specifically notes they compared her source to Percy Jackson. I don't know what she is referencing, but it really seems like this lady referenced a young adult novel or equivalent source to academics in a relevant field.
Based on the context and reading the comments, the novel in question was probably "Song of Achilles" which in terms of accuracy is probably worse.
Invisible Clergy fucked around with this message at 06:54 on Feb 3, 2022
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Feb 3, 2022 06:47
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- therobit
- Aug 19, 2008
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I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time
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I have a job, one wife, and two children and am pretty overwhelmed by how much it takes to maintain all of the above. But the thing is, that guy probably isn’t putting much effort into anything except the next mistress he is going to knock up, so his life os probably more manageable than mine.
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Feb 3, 2022 06:57
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- trickybiscuits
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Yeah.
I'm maybe going to get accused of decorum poisoning here, but when I run into a person who says something that seems both earnest and kind of ignorant about a subject I actually know a lot about my first instinct is to try to use diplomatic language and let them down easy. And maybe make it an educational moment. "Oh. I see how that book might have led you to think that, but it was simplifying things a bit and there's a lot more to subject, such as..."
Of course if you work in a field where there's a ton of misinformation and people are constantly doubling down on their ignorance I can totally understand not giving a gently caress and calling an ignorant idiot an ignorant idiot.
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Feb 3, 2022 07:00
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- therobit
- Aug 19, 2008
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I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time
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AITA for telling my friend to stop showing his art to people?
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I know how bad that title sounds so I’ll try my best to explain.
My (F17) friend “Trent” (M18) has always wanted to be a comic book author. It has been his dream ever since we were kids. We’re seniors in high school and he finally started trying his hand at making comics, which is great, I’m always happy to support someone’s interests… but what wasn’t so great was his actual art... and also his attitude.
Here’s the thing, and I say this part with love: His art is just… off-putting. He draws his female characters in a way that I can only describe as creepy. He did try to warn me that his comics were a little NSFW, which I didn’t entirely mind, but something else bothered me. He has… an obsession with drawing these women as being mind controlled. Like, as in, the main character of his comics has the ability to mind control girls. In an NSFW comic.
Yeah, I think you can guess what THAT leads to.
I tried to look past it and support his passion as a friend, but it’s clear to me I’m not the only person who gets uncomfortable by both his depictions of women and his little mind control interest.
See, Trent is very proud of his work. Every time he finishes a comic, he shows it to me first and then he would show his drafts to anyone who was willing to see it. Every single time he made a comic, he would ask every nearby classmate to read it.
But if they refused to read it or even show a smudge of dislike? Trent gets PISSED. I get it, he’s proud of his work, but he continuously harassed our classmates to look at his art and wouldn’t take any form of response that wasn’t completely positive… which was not very often. The girls in our grade were particularly disturbed by his artwork, and since he likes a lot of these girls… I’ve done a lot of damage control this year and I’m not happy about it.
But either way, both Trent’s art and his behavior were making many of our classmates uncomfortable and, as much of a friend Trent is to me, I was getting really uncomfortable too and I kept getting second hand embarrassment every time another student started avoiding him (and by association, me).
So, today at lunch, after he threw a particularly intense fit at this poor junior he found cute, calling her names and insulting her for “leading him on” or something (as far as I know they’d been talking for a few months and he probably thought she was into him) I finally had enough. I pulled him away and asked him to stop showing his art.
Oh. My. God. If I thought he was mad at her, he lost his poo poo with me. He started screaming, yelling, insulting, even going as far as calling me a racist slur (I’m Asian) while he was ranting at me. He called me unsupportive and a horrible friend and said so many hurtful things I can’t even tell which one was the worst. He eventually stormed off to a different table but I was completely shaken by the time he was done. And now I’m blocked on our shared social medias and he’s been ignoring me since.
Did I make a bad call here? AITA?
EDIT: I. Um. I can’t believe I forgot I made this. This blew up a lot more than I expected so I’ll take awhile to reply to everything. Thanks everyone for your help in advance!!
EDIT2: Getting a little overwhelmed with all the messages. I’ll try my best to keep replying, but I don’t know how much more I can read and reply to at once. Either way, if I don’t reply to your comment, please know that I still read it and I appreciate it all the same! Thank you all so much for your help.
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Feb 3, 2022 07:06
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- Invisible Clergy
- Sep 25, 2015
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"Behold, I will corrupt your seed, and spread dung upon your faces"
Malachi 2:3
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I have a job, one wife, and two children and am pretty overwhelmed by how much it takes to maintain all of the above. But the thing is, that guy probably isn’t putting much effort into anything except the next mistress he is going to knock up, so his life os probably more manageable than mine.
Definitely. Like all guys with multiple secret families, I'm sure he spends very little time with any given member of them. I was talking primarily about how much money all those houses, apartments, alimony, child support, divorces, settlements, mediations, etc must cost for all these people.
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Feb 3, 2022 07:34
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- pentyne
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Girlfriend yelled something odd during coitus and it is bothering me
Guess the spoiler
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Throwaway because my friends know my real account.
My girlfriend (of three months) and I were having sexy times and she blurted out, “gently caress ME FAT BOY!” I thought I misheard and ignored it, but she yelled it 2-3 more times.
Reddit, this has messed with me ever since. Am I the fat boy? Is she thinking about a fat boy whilst we bump uglies? Worse, is there a “fat boy” on the side?
What does reddit think?
EDIT: I’m slightly overweight and would not consider myself a “fat boy”
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Feb 3, 2022 09:14
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- teen witch
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R/r: I’m slightly overweight and would not consider myself a “fat boy”
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Feb 3, 2022 09:16
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- teen witch
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Oh wow OP included footage:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hMPJgsXLrnw
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Feb 3, 2022 09:17
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- Barudak
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Wanna see this dude argue with a Japanese doctor about his weight.
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- Bubblyblubber
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You're welcome to think I'm a piece of poo poo, but I don't like dogs, and yet I would make that absolutely clear to begin with when dating someone, much less marrying them. It's a widespread dealbreaker, much like having children, or buying a farm.
But babe, if we don't buy a farm, where will the dog go live when I inevitably drop kick it from the top rope?
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Feb 3, 2022 10:20
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- keep punching joe
- Jan 22, 2006
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Die Satan!
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Girlfriend yelled something odd during coitus and it is bothering me
Guess the spoiler
Some things you just have to roll with.
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Feb 3, 2022 10:59
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- Mx.
- Dec 16, 2006
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I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!
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AITA for getting my college ex boyfriend fired?
quote:I (f26) dated this guy (m27) in university for about 2 months. I broke up with him because he was boring, we didn't shared any common interests and i just realized he was a "nice guy".
For the next 2 years, he wouldn't leave me alone, he took the same classes and would hang out always near me, always sat at a nearby table in the cafeteria, etc. It was creepy but he never did anything aside from staring at me and saying hi like 5 times a day, so I had no way to report him.
When I graduated I started working on a big company and got promoted quite fast, now I manage a fast-growing team and because we're urgently hiring and I was on vacation the last month I didn't interviewed any of the new hires.
I got back on Monday and the first thing was to meet the new hires, when he appeared on my zoom screen I froze, gave them a very lame excuse and disconnected (not the most professional I know).
I contacted HR and explained my situation, I told them I couldn't work with him and that I'd resign if they couldn't change me to another area, luckily the director was really understanding and gave me the day off until they find a solution. Today HR called me to say they've fired the new hire and to continue manage the team as usual.
At about lunch time my phone started blowing off with texts about how I abused my power to get him fired, I don't know how he got my number but him and a lot of people I haven't talked with since university are hella mad at me.
I never asked for him to get fired so I don't think I'm in the wrong but my boyfriend says I forced HR hand as it's easier to replace a new hire.
Btw I'm not from the USA, so I'm sorry for any English mistake.
creepers do not apply
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Feb 3, 2022 11:36
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- Alchenar
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Some things you just have to roll with.
Particularly if you are more round than straight.
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Feb 3, 2022 13:14
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- Soylent Pudding
- Jun 22, 2007
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We've got people!
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AITA for walking out of my sister's wedding after she tried to use me as free childcare?quote:
Obligatory throwaway/long time lurker disclaimer, because apparently that matters.
A few months ago my (31M) sister (29F) announced that she was going to get married. The planning process took a while but the date and venue were agreed on. Now, my sister has a baby (1M) that just loves to cry. He cries all the time, unless someone takes him outside for fresh air.
So a few days ago the wedding started. Because I was out of town I missed the night before the wedding (basically a get-together period for family members and a big party) but showed up for the ceremony and reception. The second I got there my sister asked me to take the baby outside in order to calm him down. I agreed because the ceremony hadn't started yet, but she asked me to take the baby outside again a while later. When I asked why the baby didn't have a sitter, she said that they spent all the money on the ceremony and parties.
I was kind of annoyed because I wanted to sit in on the ceremony, but just about everyone jumped on me telling me to do my sister a favour and that "it was her day". I asked her about when I was expected to take the baby out for fresh air, and she gave me this huge list of times that basically meant I missed out on the important parts. I wouldn't be there for the exchanging of vows, the reception, the aisle walk, the readings, the kiss, etc.
I figured out that in total I would have about 30 minutes actually sitting inside, and the rest was just about the baby. When I pointed this out to her she said someone would videotape it for me but I wasn't convinced. I wanted to watch my sister reach a milestone, and that was what I came for. I told her that someone else could watch the baby for her, and that as her brother I wanted to watch the wedding, and not have to miss her getting married. Again, she told me to "just do it".
I was really mad, but tried not to show it on the outside. When I asked about the reception, she told me, "Oh, you'll have to miss out. [Baby's name] needs to be outside and has to be fed."
That was the final straw, and when my mother was holding the baby I slipped out and just left. The next day I get a call from my sister, and she's screaming about how I ruined her wedding and how the baby wouldn't stop crying. I told her that I left because she treated me like a babysitter instead of a guest/family member, and said that it was her fault if she couldn't get a nanny or ask a friend to do it. Since then I've been nuked with calls from family calling me selfish and telling me that I'm effectively disowned unless I apologise. I see no reason to. AITA?
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Feb 3, 2022 14:07
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- Slo-Tek
- Jun 8, 2001
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WINDOWS 98 BEAT HIS FRIEND WITH A SHOVEL
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AITA for walking out of my sister's wedding after she tried to use me as free childcare?
Wild reading all these stories about people who flatly refuse to make the best of it. I've been to a ton of family weddings with screamy kids. It is part of the experience, and people just hot-potato the little potato around. Dude has a legitimate bitch if they honestly sprung the "surprise, you are the uncompensated full-time child carer!" thing on him the day of. But why did that happen, there is enough family there that everybody can take their turn, and he should have advocated for that rather than dipping out. Crying about missing the reading is a hell of a thing. Is that real? Do people honestly look forward to 1 Corinthians 13:4 as rendered by the most 14 year old of your female cousins that much?
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Feb 3, 2022 14:25
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- Ghost Leviathan
- Mar 2, 2017
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Exploration is ill-advised.
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Is there a genetic imperative for every family group to select a workhorse and join together to keep them abjectly pinned in that position?
No, just a theme for the lovely ones.
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Feb 3, 2022 14:32
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- Xachariah
- Jul 26, 2004
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AITA for telling my girlfriend she deserved to be laughed at in a party?
Wait a minute, isn't this a bit from Brooklyn Nine-Nine?
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Feb 3, 2022 14:35
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- Tobermory
- Mar 31, 2011
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AITA for telling my BIL he needs to leave my house?
quote:Just a little back story in my BIL defense, he is the youngest of 4 and is about 6 years younger than his closest sibling. Due to a medical condition, his mom babied him his whole entire life and has always given him everything he wanted. When he started dating my sister, we noticed severe red flags. He talks to her in grunts, texts her while they are in the same room, and just generally acts like a child.
Anyways, one of my wife and I's dogs had puppies. My BIL wanted one, but my sister told him no. I really didn't think anything of it, but he texted me a day later asking for more information about it. Initially, I figured they must have discussed it between themselves and are compromising and getting one of the puppies. Because of my assumption, I gave him a bunch of information about them and set a time for them to come look at the puppies, come to have dinner, visit, etc.
Later that week when they came over, we were all chatting when I brought up the puppies and if they would like to go pick one out. My sister scowled at me and asked what I was talking about. I told her about the text exchange between me and her husband. She was (rightfully) super pissed that he went behind her. My wife and I let them hash things out a bit in your backyard before continuing with our evening.
My BIL spent the next few hours laying on the floor in the middle of the walkway. It was super frustrating seeing him act like a child throwing a tantrum in my house, but I let it slide since it's how he has always acted. That is until he got in the way of my wife. Long story short, my wife asked him to move and he basically told her no and he was going to lay wherever he wanted.
I was completely fed up at this point and asked him and my sister to leave my house. I had never felt so disrespected. I got a text later from my sister calling me an rear end in a top hat for kicking them out of my house without eating after I asked them to come over for dinner. My wife even says I may have acted a little irrationaly.
AITA?
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Feb 3, 2022 14:42
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May 13, 2024 06:56
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- hawowanlawow
- Jul 27, 2009
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AITA for telling my BIL he needs to leave my house?
wow the perfect situation to have been solved by a kick in the balls and they didn't do it
AITA for telling my girlfriend she deserved to be laughed at in a party?
girlfriend deserved it
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Feb 3, 2022 14:47
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