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Absurd Alhazred posted:That's literally the argument I'm making, though. You all just are hung up on me disrespecting the tall piles of rock. I don't give a poo poo what you think about the climb, but okay. I'm going off what's said in the post. We have one side, and people can theorize all they want about what really is going on and what the girlfriend really wants. But all we have is one side of the story that absolutely doesn't say those things. He might be neglecting his girlfriend, she might be jealous he's spending all this time with Rosie, or she might be an idiot who thinks she climbed some relatively easy climbs and therefore these ones are perfectly doable Right Now. It could be any of those things and isn't definitively any one of them.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I will spend time with your best friend so we could condition ourselves to climb what would otherwise be dangerous, and exclude you from that training so I can then absolutely rationally, with respect to the holy mountains of Rainier and Denali, tell you that you just can't go there because it's unsafe. I am a great responsible Climber Man It's not a given that he excluded her from their own prep work. Though he does seem spectacularly uninterested in encouraging a shared interest, assuming girlfriend actually does want to climb at a high level as well.
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AngryRobotsInc posted:she might be an idiot who thinks she climbed some relatively easy climbs and therefore these ones are perfectly doable Right Now. Nope! He himself says otherwise! quote:She’s very mad that me and Rosie exclude her from these trips, (“how will she learn if I don’t teach her, etc.”) Ravenfood posted:You know, there is the option that he knew Rosie and had been training/climbing with her before the girlfriend came into the picture quote:My girlfriend’s friend, Rosie, and I turn out to both love mountaineering!
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BrigadierSensible posted:Mountain climbing is hard. Climbing Denali is very hard. Nobody is disputing that. AA appears to be, at considerable length.
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Lots of mountaineers climb regularly with people not their romantic partners, sometimes spending a considerable amount of time with them and becoming very close. This is not always a problem for their non-climbing partners, but sometimes it is. Maria Coffey wrote a really good book on the experiences of the partners of top-level mountaineers called "Where the Mountain Casts Its Shadow" - it talks about the selfishness of mountaineering when you have a family, dealing with loved ones dying in the mountains, jealousy about your partner going off with someone else while you're left behind, and also some weird stuff like marrying your dead climbing partner's wife. Coffey's own husband was a pro mountaineer who died on Everest. Anyway it sounds like for the GF in this instance it is an issue, and not really because of Rosie so much as that she feels excluded while he's spending so much time preparing for the big trip. Maybe the OP could reduce his own ambitions while training up his GF, but it doesn't really sound like she has the same aims as him and finding a climbing partner who has similar ability, goals, and with whom you climb well is really tough and quite often not the same kind of person you want as your romantic partner. Maybe they can get through this period by agreeing to spend time on easier stuff afterwards, or take up bouldering together or something. Otherwise it sounds like he has to decide if the relationship or his mountaineering is more important.
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People are allowed to have hobbies separate from their partners. They can even be the same type of hobby if one of them does it casually and the other competitively. There are ways of mutually enjoying the hobby (and further challenging the less skilled person) without asking the advanced person to pump the brakes on their own drive. I do/did a lot of tramping myself, and most of my tramping mates have couples in different levels of fitness (for a wide definition of fitness - not just cardio). The couples are always doing stuff together, with the aggro person running off to do mountaineering with their peers, nobody's bitter about anything. Heck, one guy flew across the globe to do a 5 day run in the Sahara (wtc!) and his gf was cheerfully supporting him. The levels of training to raise yourself to raise yourself to proper mountaineering cannot be understated - it's not some small thing that your partner has you tag along for every weekend, it's your own personal journey that they support you on. The post is short and lacking details, such as the width of their gap (can the gf do those hills trivially and is looking for more challenge, or was that the bf supporting her already?), the amount of other tramping they do together and/or how long they've been together and so know know each other's levels, etc. The bf might be acting selfish, but I get the impression that the gf is new to the situation and doesn't 'get' it. Hard to tell. BUT! I think we can all agree that Absurd Alhazred is once again talking out of his rear end about something he knows absolutely nothing about.
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Serephina posted:BUT! I think we can all agree that Absurd Alhazred is once again talking out of his rear end about something he knows absolutely nothing about. The part of the OP that you don't care about/are incapable of reading isn't my rear end.
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When they were in college my parents went to Rainer together. It was a rainy day, most of the people at the lodge were grumbling about the weather, but my parents went out hiking anyway. I don't know what trail they took (they got up to Camp Muir at some point, might not have been that day) but they got up above the cloud cover into clear sun and breathtaking views. So everyone in the lodge is huddled around a fire, in walk two sunburned twenty-somethings talking about how amazing it was out there. Anyway that's my (inherited) mountain climbing story. I've gone up Wheeler in NM but that's one you can walk to the top of and the only hard part is the altitude and not getting eaten by marmots (do not feed the marmots, when they know you have food the whole clan shows up).
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Midnight Voyager posted:I didn't even know they changed Mt McKinley's name to Denali. I hope you enjoyed your long nap, also you may want to sit down while I bring you up to speed on the world
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Captain Hygiene posted:I hope you enjoyed your long nap, also you may want to sit down while I bring you up to speed on the world Look, I may have known once for all I know, but Trump Time and Covid Time have obliterated my memory.
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Captain Hygiene posted:I hope you enjoyed your long nap, also you may want to sit down while I bring you up to speed on the world No, no, don't tell them about Uluru
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Cowslips Warren posted:EFB. I searched for this reddit thread and the first thing that came up was a domestic violence hotline.  Absurd Alhazred posted:I would like to know more! https://www.mangashakespeare.com/titles/king_lear.html "Manga Shakespeare" sounds like a godawful combination but illustration 5 is based off a moderately well-known painting of Johnson Hall in Johnsonville NY. Whoever did that, did their loving research.
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Barudak posted:No, no, don't tell them about Uluru That one got me for a while. "They're talking about some other massive rock in Australia? Why does nobody mention it alongside Ayers?" And by "for a while" I mean "until just now."
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trickybiscuits posted:https://www.mangashakespeare.com/titles/king_lear.html Huh! I think I saw the original at the Albany Institute of History and Art!
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA for asking my brother to evict my parents because they've asked me to give up my room to my step sister? the loving gall of these loving people. the brother sounds like a solid guy
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Bruceski posted:That one got me for a while. "They're talking about some other massive rock in Australia? Why does nobody mention it alongside Ayers?" drat I haven't heard Ayers in like over a decade. Anticolonialism works
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AITA for wearing my engagement ring on the necklace over neckquote:I am a medical worker and I got engaged to Mt fiancé 2 weeks ago. He bought me gorgeous ring with small black diamond I really wanted.
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AITA for not wearing a bra to sleep on family vacationquote:I (F16) had gone through puberty at a young age and have grown in places. My parents know I choose to stay comfortable and not wear a bra to sleep as I cover myself with a sweater or a oversized shirt at home.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for not wearing a bra to sleep on family vacation Again, trash taking itself out.
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Cacator posted:r/relationships: This is the cum jar now! Few pages back but I can't help hearing this in the Lord Farquaad voice from that x-rated video "Give me the cum jar"
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Pomme de Terror posted:AITA for wearing my engagement ring on the necklace over neck Gotta love the simple stories of a man having a meltdown over the most trivial poo poo.
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Hughlander posted:AITA for not wearing a bra to sleep on family vacation There are people who wear a bra to bed? That must be so drat uncomfortable.
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If your man's ring has to be worn on a chain lest you be tempted to put it on your finger and destroy middle earth, girl that ain't your man thats Sauron
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Midnight Voyager posted:I didn't even know they changed Mt McKinley's name to Denali. Oh man, it is legit hilarious how it came about. Everybody in Alaska has wanted to revert the name back to Denali for a long time, but a bipartisan group of congressmen from Ohio were vehemently opposed to doing that because William McKinley was from Ohio. For forty years Ohio's congressional designation took advantage of a loophole in the law that stated the Board of Geographic Names wasn't allowed to consider renaming any landmark that was currently the subject of any pending legislation so at the start of every term of Congress one of them would propose a bill that specifically mentioned "Mt. McKinley" and then left it in pending status all term. This loophole worked for forty years, and then the Obama administration found ANOTHER loophole that said if the Board of Geographic Names didn't make a ruling on a proposed change within a "reasonable" timeframe, then the Secretary of the Interior had the power to unilaterally make the decision. And since 40 years isn't "reasonable", it's back to Denali.
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Haschel Cedricson posted:Oh man, it is legit hilarious how it came about. Everybody in Alaska has wanted to revert the name back to Denali for a long time, but a bipartisan group of congressmen from Ohio were vehemently opposed to doing that because William McKinley was from Ohio. For forty years Ohio's congressional designation took advantage of a loophole in the law that stated the Board of Geographic Names wasn't allowed to consider renaming any landmark that was currently the subject of any pending legislation so at the start of every term of Congress one of them would propose a bill that specifically mentioned "Mt. McKinley" and then left it in pending status all term. Lmao how is this country real
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Haschel Cedricson posted:Oh man, it is legit hilarious how it came about. Everybody in Alaska has wanted to revert the name back to Denali for a long time, but a bipartisan group of congressmen from Ohio were vehemently opposed to doing that because William McKinley was from Ohio. For forty years Ohio's congressional designation took advantage of a loophole in the law that stated the Board of Geographic Names wasn't allowed to consider renaming any landmark that was currently the subject of any pending legislation so at the start of every term of Congress one of them would propose a bill that specifically mentioned "Mt. McKinley" and then left it in pending status all term. That's AMAZING. And completely stupid, but amazing.
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WIBTA if I requested a different teacher for my 2nd daughter over something that happened five years ago?quote:There's a lot of backstory I can get into, but it'll make the post super long so for the sake of size, I'm going to try and TL'DR it.
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Cowslips Warren posted:AITA flipping out on my fiance for cancelling all the vegan food options from our wedding food menu behind my back? You know for a fact that the salad they would offer would be a premixed Caesar salad covered in cheese, too.
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There's occasionally some noise made about reverting Mount Rainier to a native name, but the various tribes can't agree whether it's Tacoma, Tahoma, Talol, Tacobet, or Tacobeh, and the most popular choice is also the name of a crappy city, so we're stuck with a mountain named after a random British admiral that never saw it.
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Cerekk posted:There's occasionally some noise made about reverting Mount Rainier to a native name, but the various tribes can't agree whether it's Tacoma, Tahoma, Talol, Tacobet, or Tacobeh, and the most popular choice is also the name of a crappy city, so we're stuck with a mountain named after a random British admiral that never saw it. and let's be honest, if we named the mountain "Mt. Tacobeh" there would be no end to the burrito jokes
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Serephina posted:
My partner and I hike together on smaller walks, she knows that she isn't fit enough for longer stuff so we compromise and communicate. An old friend of mine mountaineers and it is absolutely a lifestyle that consumes everything else, every month he doesn't climb is dieting and training for the next mountain. It got him to quit drinking, but I'm not sure if it's exactly a healthier long term alternative
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Cowslips Warren posted:WIBTA if I requested a different teacher for my 2nd daughter over something that happened five years ago? Def no, and it’s waaaay easier to make changes pre school year so I say go for it. You don’t have to let two kids get traumatized by the same teacher before you just go “nahhh”
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Cowslips Warren posted:WIBTA if I requested a different teacher for my 2nd daughter over something that happened five years ago? NTA, just do it quick before too many other parents make the request and it gets denied because RT’s class isn’t allowed to get any smaller.
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Party Sub Guy has a challenger! AITAH for eating the last of the chicken? quote:Yo, sorry I'm on mobile. Its a throw cuz my fam uses reddit. Cowslips Warren fucked around with this message at 06:02 on Aug 6, 2022 |
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I'm sorry Jon, I was so hungry
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