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Ciaphas posted:sorry to invade the thread with a stupid question but i can easily see google leading me to the wrong answers it stands for the black goat of the woods with a thousand young
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Peeny Cheez posted:Those contexts being: i would like to add to the first one 4) if you are the aurora borealis and you're referring to various sights you have seen
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Kazinsal posted:wait when did we drop two Qs into one? also does P stand for pan because if so P crew represent yo, what's the difference between bi and pan because it seems lime pan is "bi but with non-binary/agender/trans people too" but i've never met a bi person that isn't down with those groups bi the way, i'm bi
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Improbable Lobster posted:yo, what's the difference between bi and pan because it seems lime pan is "bi but with non-binary/agender/trans people too" but i've never met a bi person that isn't down with those groups pan is just a way to be less exclusionary with your labeling since bi implies 2, and for trans and genderqueer people it's not safe to assume a bi/gay person is going to react well to you. plenty of gay trans men and women have been shot down (or severely harmed even) by people of the same gender and orientation. if you call yourself pansexual, you're basically being unambiguous that you don't discriminate. i consider myself pansexual, although functionally i'm gay since i'm monogamous and for me sexual orientation isn't super critical to my identity.
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bi's what you say around str8s
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cis autodrag posted:pan is just a way to be less exclusionary with your labeling since bi implies 2, and for trans and genderqueer people it's not safe to assume a bi/gay person is going to react well to you. plenty of gay trans men and women have been shot down (or severely harmed even) by people of the same gender and orientation. if you call yourself pansexual, you're basically being unambiguous that you don't discriminate. i consider myself pansexual, although functionally i'm gay since i'm monogamous and for me sexual orientation isn't super critical to my identity. ah neat Triglav posted:bi's what you say around str8s very true
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i know at least some groups *cough*furries*cough* use it as "will gently caress anything with a hole" with all the creepy implications of that so while i used to use it to describe myself i don't really do that anymore because i've had some, uh, awkward conversations as a result
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maybe you should stop defining your identity by the words furries use
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Triglav posted:bi's what you say around str8s
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Raere posted:You don't have a dumb idiot brain because you're questioning yourself. Every person questions their identity as some point, most people just don't want to say so out loud. I feel like that nearly everyone who spends any meaningful amount of time time hanging with or reading the stories and experiences of non cishet individuals/groups is going to experience some moments where they need to sit back and process why exactly they find something so relatable. personally it has recently lead me down some very... enlightening rabbitholes of self discovery. Anyway I do have a tech-related topic I've been wondering about. Access to trans-friendly medical providers is absolutely a concern for trans folks right? Like not just the gatekeeping where some providers demand you do all sorts of things to "prove" you should be given access to hormonal therapy, I mean my understanding is that it is very difficult to find a provider that will consistently use your real name and correct pronouns instead of constantly deadnaming you. If you are in a non-metro area you likely are already short on providers to chose from so the local X-specialist being trans-hostile is a nearly insurmountable problem for those that don't happen to be able to make the trek to a major metro with better choices. I was thinking that telemedicine has the potential to help, at least in some specialties. It could even make for better care by connecting patients with people who have experience with how common HRT combos would interact with their treatment plans. I mean general telemedicine has been a "within the next decade!" thing for what... fifty years now, but maybe this is a sustainable niche? finally - database queery would be a pretty great yospos username imo.
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Shifty Pony posted:finally - database queery would be a pretty great yospos username imo. would make a great thread title to imo
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fart simpson posted:he is also bi
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i;ve been talking on and off to a couple dudes on tinder recently pros -tinder guys are much less thirsty than grindr guys -tinder guys seem more interested in dating than hookups -tinder notifications are much much less embarrassing than grindr -there are also women and various shades of non-binary folk on tinder that don't use grinder cons -tinder guys are much less thirsty than grindr guys -tinder guys seem more interested in dating than hookups
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Improbable Lobster posted:i;ve been talking on and off to a couple dudes on tinder recently the apps are a technology have totally changed everything about how gay folk interact and it is something that we're probably not going to fully appreciate the impact of for a long time, because we're living in it. there are a lot of hookup apps that cater to different interests. as a gay dude if I am looking for manly company on a site that is mixed gender I am mostly going to pull various flavors of bisexual guys who fit into one of three categories: 1) please help with my weirdo cuck thing with my wife | please help me with this weirdo fetish thing that is perfectly seamless and has no entry point for you or your interests. 2) please help me with my journey of discovery of maybe touching a cock for the first time at the age of 37. 3) closeted married (to a lady) gay dudes.
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ultravoices posted:the apps are a technology have totally changed everything about how gay folk interact and it is something that we're probably not going to fully appreciate the impact of for a long time, because we're living in it. there are a lot of hookup apps that cater to different interests. yeah i think i'm lucky in that i'm young and don't use full on dating sites because holy moly the number of older bi/gay men that are weirdos is staggering i once had a 50 y/o guy ask me if i had roommates that would jerk off onto a slice of bread for him to eat, with no prompting or prior conversation
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Improbable Lobster posted:holy moly the number of men that are weirdos is staggering fixed it there are so many men out there who are want homosexual sex but are not particularly interested in homosociality unfortunately there isn't anything that can be done about it other than block and move on.
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women get it really bad too. I had a bi friend who's dating stories were a never ending parade of married couples looking for a disposable third. putting a giant all caps "I HAVE NO INTEREST IN THREESOMES" had no effect. even if she set her profile to indicate she was only interested in women she would get them because they would use the wife's account to make contact, often only revealing their motives after a few days of messaging. she ended up just dropping off of online dating entirely last I talked to her (years ago). technology really enables people to ignore the fact that there is another person at the other end of the conversation.
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Shifty Pony posted:technology really enables people to ignore the fact that there is another person at the other end of the conversation. yay, enabling people to treat people like things Efficiently and At Scale
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fart simpson posted:he is also bi
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i'd like to think that there are other industries with far more trans people than tech, they just do too good a job of passing, so we have no idea about it
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Improbable Lobster posted:yo, what's the difference between bi and pan because it seems lime pan is "bi but with non-binary/agender/trans people too" but i've never met a bi person that isn't down with those groups pan is a term to make clearer what bi already was; i don't mind however people decide to identify themselves, but it's unfair to make assumptions about what people who self describe as bi think obviously if you look hard enough you can probably find some dude on tumblr who specifically identifies as bi to exclude nb identities, but for the vast majority there's nothing being implied by it
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a while ago i stumbled across a term that's specifically applied as a label to categorize people who entirely reject the concept of applying labels to categorize their identity which i thought was pretty lol, could never remember what it was though...
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what do you call someone who is specifically into trans gender ppl to the exclusion of cisgender?
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Triglav posted:a touchy subject
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Silver Alicorn posted:what do you call someone who is specifically into trans gender ppl to the exclusion of cisgender? a dickgirl porn haver
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Shifty Pony posted:women get it really bad too. I had a bi friend who's dating stories were a never ending parade of married couples looking for a disposable third. Yeah, the old school “swingers” community is really misogynistic, biphobic, and just terrible for women.
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atomicthumbs posted:im bi op cis autodrag posted:pan is just a way to be less exclusionary with your labeling since bi implies 2, and for trans and genderqueer people it's not safe to assume a bi/gay person is going to react well to you. plenty of gay trans men and women have been shot down (or severely harmed even) by people of the same gender and orientation. if you call yourself pansexual, you're basically being unambiguous that you don't discriminate. i consider myself pansexual, although functionally i'm gay since i'm monogamous and for me sexual orientation isn't super critical to my identity. im pan op
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Silver Alicorn posted:what do you call someone who is specifically into trans gender ppl to the exclusion of cisgender? A chaser, and they are the lowest of life forms. Chasers don't date you, they date your dick.
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Shifty Pony posted:I feel like that nearly everyone who spends any meaningful amount of time time hanging with or reading the stories and experiences of non cishet individuals/groups is going to experience some moments where they need to sit back and process why exactly they find something so relatable. You're mostly on point, except that access to care is hard even in major metros. My current provider put Transgender in my problem list (whoa) and it's visible to everybody, even front desk staff who have no business knowing. Even good clinics don't know what they're doing half the time.
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Cybernetic Vermin posted:i'd like to think that there are other industries with far more trans people than tech, they just do too good a job of passing, so we have no idea about it I want you to think very hard about what is wrong with this post.
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i imagine the reason we see a lot more queer folks in the tech space is just because it's much easier for queer folks to meet up on the internet. it's much harder for thousands of people to all show up at some building in some city than it is for us to just gather online, and of course our networks spread out much further than the ones we have in-person. there's probably also an aspect that people who are involved with or using tech are also more aware of queerness in general. i didn't even know what transgender stuff was (or gay/les/bi/etc.) until some time on the internet, just because the place i grew up in and the family i grew up around made sure that sort of thing was otherwise totally quashed unscientific anecdotal guesses of course e: also the anonymous apsect of it. i can come out as trans and talk about my gender poo poo here without having to worry about my idiot conservative boss freaking out like he did when someone had the audacity to color their hair e 2: it is very, very strange how easily "come out as trans" managed to get written there after literally months and probably years of very carefully evading ever directly mentioning it Zamujasa fucked around with this message at 22:33 on Dec 7, 2017 |
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ultravoices posted:a dickgirl porn haver the insane guy who keeps sending my wife mail bombs (they're not actually mail bombs they're just incredibly suspicious ratty packages that contain bizarre items like a "TRUMP TRAIN" mug, though i open everything outdoors with gloves on because eventually the guy's gonna lace the thing with anthrax i just know it)
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ate all the Oreos posted:the insane guy who keeps sending my wife mail bombs Jesus christ
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ate all the Oreos posted:the insane guy who keeps sending my wife mail bombs i can't speak to transpeople chasers, but I so have some experience with other brands. a small fraction of them are respectful nice people who you just happen to have the body that really turns their crank. these are rare and precious and being treated like a human being and also extremely desirable is awesome. others are creepy obsessives who can sometimes put up a screen of normality but then message you at 3am about the things they fetishize. gross but probably harmless. still others are self loathing and resentful that you turn them on. these ones are creepy and dangerous.
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hi can anyone link me to some yospos approved binders tia
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Just wanted to say that hookup apps aren't all bad. I met my boyfriend of one year so far on Scruff. If you're not having luck on Okcupid or w/e at least check em out! Whole lot of cool people out there that don't have the time to fill out a whole dating profile.
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Raere posted:Just wanted to say that hookup apps aren't all bad. I met my boyfriend of one year so far on Scruff. If you're not having luck on Okcupid or w/e at least check em out! Whole lot of cool people out there that don't have the time to fill out a whole dating profile. one husbando came from something awful dot com. the other one came from scruff.
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