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Rosalind posted:I posted about this in the last thread but again just echoing my feelings of why is "Don't involve your non-consenting friends and family in your fetish" such a difficult concept for so many people? Could expand that to "Don't involve anyone non-consenting in your fetish" after that one post in the last thread had an employee wanting her boyfriend to be called Master by her coworkers at the office party.
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Rosalind posted:I posted about this in the last thread but again just echoing my feelings of why is "Don't involve your non-consenting friends and family in your fetish" such a difficult concept for so many people? Because they view it as socially acceptable as coming out as LGBTQ+ and expect everyone to applaud them.
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 16:56 |
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M_Sinistrari posted:Could expand that to "Don't involve anyone non-consenting in your fetish" after that one post in the last thread had an employee wanting her boyfriend to be called Master by her coworkers at the office party. Oh I remember that one! That and the weird plumber who left a note talking about his dominatrix with his clients. Those people gross me the gently caress out
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Rosalind posted:I posted about this in the last thread but again just echoing my feelings of why is "Don't involve your non-consenting friends and family in your fetish" such a difficult concept for so many people? What really gets me is like, why would you WANT to include your friends and family(!!!) in your fetish??? Bleaugh. That's borderline incest.
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Shroomie posted:No, it is. "Drink while you shop" has become a new thing in places where it's legal. There is a Whole Foods near me too that has a bar in it but I doubt people could order a beer than leave the bar area with it. I'm willing to admit being wrong since I live in the Midwest and liquor laws are bonkers all over. I remember spending untold hours in bars with my dad while growing up in Wisconsin but when my mom moved to Indiana I learned kids are not allowed in bars and no alcohol on Sunday. Was a wierd culture shock for a 10 year old.
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In NYC that's the rule, you have to stay in the bar area. We go to trivia at the nearest Whole Foods bar because the prize is a gift card good for the whole store.
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 17:33 |
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AITA for not shaving my head alongside my coworkers in support of a coworker with cancer? I work at a gas station, have for over a year. It's got a small subway inside, and we have a staff of 8 on the gas station side. Subway has a staff of 10. Our assistant manager on the gas side was diagnosed with cancer and as it usually happens shaved her hair when it began falling out from the chemo. Everyone in the store has decided to shave their heads in support. Everyone. Both gas station side and subway side. I'm the only one who wont and I'm being treated very passive-aggressively. I'm getting snide comments Time to time, when customers ask why everyone shaved their heads all my coworkers give sarcastic responses clearly aimed at me. It's been a few weeks and I'm getting frustrated. I've mentioned it to my manager and she gave me something how they're frustrated that not everyone seems fully committed to wishing our assistant manager good luck. I'm a 27 year old guy. I havent cut my hair in 5 years other than basic trims to remove dead ends and groom it. I'm proud of my hair. I've only cut my hair once since I turned 18. I know it sounds stupid but I am very proud of my hair. I suffer from major depression and my hair is the one thing in my life I feel I have control over, if that makes any sense. Plus I have never found a short hair style that made me feel comfortable or one I felt I looked good in. Tl:dr AITA for not cutting my hair along my coworkers to support a coworker diagnosed with cancer. Coworkers seem to treat me like one
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AITA for disapproving of the age gap between my sister and hew new boyfriend? My sister (30F) has informed me (26M) and rest of the family that she is dating someone. When we pressed for more info, we learned he is only 19. I've met him and honestly, I just don't approve of her age gap. I think its really wrong. I told my sister she has something wrong with her if she thinks this is ok. She then told me that I'm an rear end in a top hat and why can't I be happy for her. Maybe i am harsh on her but to me this isn't ok and weird. My sis is 30 not a teenager anymore. AITA?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not shaving my head alongside my coworkers in support of a coworker with cancer? This is one of those cases where he's NTA but it doesn't matter because his coworkers have already decided he is. His best bet is to try to show his support in different ways (donating money, offering to make meals for the assistant manager), but even then since his refusal to shave his head is so visible, he's still going to get poo poo for it.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for disapproving of the age gap between my sister and hew new boyfriend?
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the r/relationships posts are coming from inside the thread with this anecdote: I was invited to be a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding last year but dis-invited from it after she found out her now-husband's family is transphobic and didn't want me in the wedding party. My sister was like, "Too bad, if you don't come to the wedding you're being selfish and dramatic." AITA?? (no, obviously).
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star eater posted:the r/relationships posts are coming from inside the thread with this anecdote: I was invited to be a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding last year but dis-invited from it after she found out her now-husband's family is transphobic and didn't want me in the wedding party. My sister was like, "Too bad, if you don't come to the wedding you're being selfish and dramatic." AITA?? (no, obviously). what a bitch
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 18:03 |
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The only thing worse than a bigot is a bigot-enabler. I always think about this section from MLK Jr.'s letter from a Birmingham Jail which is applicable to all forms of bigotry:quote:First, I must confess that over the past few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate. I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro's great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen's Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to "order" than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: "I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action"; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man's freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a "more convenient season." Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection.
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Rosalind posted:This is one of those cases where he's NTA but it doesn't matter because his coworkers have already decided he is. His best bet is to try to show his support in different ways (donating money, offering to make meals for the assistant manager), but even then since his refusal to shave his head is so visible, he's still going to get poo poo for it. I feel like this is something that gets lost so much in the AITA discussions - it doesn't matter who the rear end in a top hat is because it's more about trying to get along with your community than parceling out blame. And the former is a much more complex navigation than the latter.
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 18:08 |
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Miserable Maid posted:You straight up stole it. Doesn't matter if you paid after It is absolutely nothing like that.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not shaving my head alongside my coworkers in support of a coworker with cancer? Must be one of those extra special gas station where turnover isn't high and people are paid more than the base minimum to do a thankless job. gently caress these assholes. I shave most of my head and still wouldn't shave the whole thing unless it was a good friend or a relative. The worse a company treats you, the more they pressure you into acting like a family to make up for not being worth your time. (Still, they've already drunk the kool aid so get out if you can while asking if the company is helping with the bills/putting anything towards cancer charity instead of making minimum wage folks gently caress with their bodies for optics.)
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AITA For Possibly Getting a Teacher In Trouble?quote:I'll call my three friends Sam, Joe and Mario and the two teachers involved Mrs. P and Mrs. W. I'm an 8th grade middle school student along with my friends. There is a table right next to mine that my three friends sit at for lunch, they all tend to be a kind of obnoxious group. They would do things such as dumping out a milk carton and stomping on it to make a large boom sound, there's other things that they do but I don't have the time to list them off. Mrs. P along with Mrs. W are always in the lunch room during lunch to keep an eye on students. Mrs. P is always trying to keep an eye on the table with my friends, which is 100% understandable. Reddit voted YTA. AITA for being adamant about not letting my friends and teacher buy me food because I'm uncomfortable? quote:Throwaway account because obvious reasons. Reddit voted YTA. AITA for telling a student last week that I couldn’t be their pseudo-mom? quote:I’m a high school teacher. And I’ve been going through a pretty rough patch. My fiance decided to break up with me the day before winter break ended, so I won’t be seeing him and his daughter anymore. It’s been a week and I still really miss them. Reddit, to my chagrin, voted YTA. AITA for bailing my son out of a school project when he didn't do any work? quote:This happened last week, and my wife is still mad. I'm using a throwaway because she knows my main account. YTA for spacing out your submission so much, and Reddit voted YTA on the issue.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not shaving my head alongside my coworkers in support of a coworker with cancer?
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 18:32 |
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The dad doing his son's project is the rear end in a top hat for sure.
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Sunswipe posted:Just make something up. "I don't like talking about it, but my sister lost her hair to chemotherapy for cancer when I was a teenager. I was going to shave mine off in support but she stopped me and said 'Seeing your hair helps me keep going through the pain and embarrassment.' So no, I won't be cutting my hair, my sister means too much to me." Or maybe "My hair is the source of my superhuman strength, the last time I let someone cut it off it really didn't turn out well."
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 18:34 |
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quote:Dear Prudence, There was a succinct follow up: "The exchange student was placed with a different home and the ex and I are getting a divorce."
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Mozi posted:Or maybe "My hair is the source of my superhuman strength, the last time I let someone cut it off it really didn't turn out well." “I mean I was made a slave doing mindless labor and later was cursed to do so for eternity. That is why I am here.”
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 18:47 |
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Clawtopsy posted:AITA for bailing my son out of a school project when he didn't do any work? The teacher is the rear end in a top hat for assigning a project over break. Parents basically doing artsy school projects for kids is... normal? Whenever it came to that stuff my brother and I were mostly bystanders who just helped out. When the projects were brought to class and presented, the enormous quality gap made it obvious which ones were basically done by the parents. Or maybe the teachers really believed that I, at 9 years old, and certainly not my dad, soldered up a battery powered light for an incredibly detailed diorama.
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Rent-A-Cop posted:Needs to quit being a cockblocker. This is a pretty bad take if it was a 30 year old man dating a 19 year old woman. X/2 + 7 and all that
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gently caress Your Website posted:
In Europe this is very normal.
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 19:12 |
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Kitchner posted:In Europe this is very normal. To Catch a European
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 19:13 |
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gently caress Your Website posted:"Prudie, I'm starting to think this thing right in front of me that looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck might be....a duck???? PLEASE ADVISE" Tim and Ayaka
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 19:14 |
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Licarn posted:the update-update after it was pointed out that someone would probably google that phrase which would lead to the reddit posts I'm honestly relieved the "birth el pup" story isn't real. It was so cringy it hurt my soul.
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ilmucche posted:This is a pretty bad take if it was a 30 year old man dating a 19 year old woman. X/2 + 7 and all that As long as nobody thinks the relationship is anything it isn't I don't see a problem. There's not any kind of weird power dynamic being explored and everyone is an adult so whatever.
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 19:28 |
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Clawtopsy posted:AITA For Possibly Getting a Teacher In Trouble? So on the teacher post, she's right to draw the boundary but the way she said it to the kid is harsh as gently caress. She's an rear end in a top hat for how she talked to the kid, not for having a boundary.
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 19:54 |
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She's the rear end in a top hat for trying to garner sympathy by including her irrelevant tragic backstory
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 19:59 |
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Rent-A-Cop posted:Yeah but it wasn't. Imo there's still a bad power dynamic between a 30 year old woman and a 19 year old man. Not as bad as the reverse but still not something I'd feel comfortable with
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 19:59 |
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quote:Dear Prudence, Just lol that OP allows the etiquette of responding to this imbecile's concerns to occupy the minutest portion of his thoughts instead of immediately laughing and mocking him to the nth degree 'via social media', as is the style these days. I'd love a recording of what that 'heart to heart' would sound like, though.
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AITA for going against my girlfriend’s wishes to teach a homeless man how to skateboard? I went out for lunch with my girlfriend today. We walked to a restaurant a mile from our college campus. I walked while carrying my skateboard because I use it to get across campus faster. On our way to the restaurant, a quite dirty-looking middle-aged homeless man asked me if I could teach him how to ride a skateboard. I like to stop and interact with homeless people, but my girlfriend hates being near them because she is germaphobic and is intimidated by their presence. However, this homeless man looked quite nice so I said I’ll teach him for a few minutes. My girlfriend was tugging me away and whispering me to just go. I didn’t want to turn down the homeless man because he looked quite nice, so I put the skateboard down and held his hands while he put his feet on the skateboard. I taught him how to push off with his foot and maintain his balance. This went on for about ten minutes until I told him I had somewhere to go. He looked like he had so much fun. My girlfriend was just on her phone and giving us some nasty looks. I gave the homeless man five dollars and told him to save that up to buy his own skateboard. He thanked me profusely for the money and taking the time out my day to brighten his. When I went over to my girlfriend, she backed away and shouted at me to keep some distance and not to touch her until I take a long shower. I talked to her about the joy I brought to the homeless man. She said that I wasted her time and he will almost certainly spend that money on alcohol or drugs and never buy a skateboard. I told her that we got plenty of time and that’s alright if he does spend it on alcohol or drugs, but I at least made someone’s life a little bit better. She said I’m extremely gullible and that he used my kindness against me to obtain more money. I told her to stop being so cynical. After we finished arguing, I went in for a kiss and she backed away and said that was off limits too until I shower. I rolled my eyes and never touched her again. She seemed passive-aggressive for the rest of our lunch date.
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 20:11 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for going against my girlfriend’s wishes to teach a homeless man how to skateboard? latest disney film lookin weird
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 20:14 |
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Rent-A-Cop posted:Yeah but it wasn't. What do you think the power dynamic between an older man and a younger woman actually is? Cause it's not about physical power. A 30 year old dating a 19 year old is bad. "everyone is an adult" lol
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quote:Dear Prudence, "Dear Prudie, could it be the contorted rationalizations I've fabricated to explain away my consistently terrible actions are in fact complete bullshit? Please note the only other option is that literally everyone else in the entire world is wrong."
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Pie Colony posted:What do you think the power dynamic between an older man and a younger woman actually is? Cause it's not about physical power. A 30 year old dating a 19 year old is bad. "everyone is an adult" lol
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# ? Jan 15, 2020 20:17 |
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Rent-A-Cop posted:They could very well both be living with their parents and working at Wawa. Who cares if they wanna Netflix and chill? I mean, they shouldn't get married, but nobody said that's happening.
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Skateboard boyfriend reminds me of a former buddy who would wear team shirts and engage strangers in long, boring conversations about said team and their sport while we were out without any consideration for me or my time. He can get hosed.
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