teen witch posted:

tempted for a separate r/legaladvice thread because it’s a loving mess of its own

Miss posted:

how intriguingly low on detail

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Purse.io is a website where you can exchange Bitcoin for Amazon items by using gift cards. The person who wants the item sets a discount, usually ranging from 5-30 percent. A buyer then comes in and accepts their deal, and uses their Amazon balance to pay for it. The buyer is then compensated in Bitcoin minus whatever the discount was. Basically purse.io was created so people could turn their Amazon wallet balance into Bitcoin.

What I figured I could do is go onto a third party website and buy amazon gift cards for discounts themselves. Again, completely legal to buy gift cards from third party vendors but it is against Amazon's TOS for the reason that the cards may be scams.

If I buy a $500 amazon gift card for $400, that's a 20% discount. I then use the $500 in the gift card balance to buy things for people on purse.io. As long as what I am buying is set at a discount lower than 20%, I make a profit. So if I buy $500 worth of items at 5% discount on purse, I get back $475 in Bitcoin which is $75 in profit.

Illegal or legal?

Edit: Also, as I said above, amazon states that the breaking of TOS by buying third party gift cards is a punishment of suspension or banning of account.

Lucrece posted:

And now for something from someone who's not bitter or unhinged in the least.....

Revenge on husband and mistress

Licarn posted:

"beating the system" = being the middle-man for money laundering schemes

Licarn posted:

"beating the system" = being the middle-man for money laundering schemes

Serephina posted:

Its only arbitrage if he can reliably liquidate those bitcoins back into real money on the fly. Otherwise he's some sort of prehistoric trader, trading real goods for goodwill and calling it profit.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My (17M) girlfriend (19F) is mad because my video game character has a girlfriend. Is she being too sensitive or am I in the wrong?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My fiancé (28M) and I (26F) tried the 36 questions to fall in love and it led to arguments and feeling distant.

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The question is who would you invite for dinner, he said this guy who’s name he couldn’t remember that could never be killed during WWI and eventually drowned in a river (sorry I tried to googling it and I couldn’t find the name),[ed: people are saying Rasputin] I said John Mulaney.

Beachcomber posted:

I thought no one liked a Tatty tale?

Sjs00 posted:

They could be singing the baby's shark song

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We’ve been together 2.5 years, engaged for 3 months.

We live together, have joint checking, work from home together, share credit cards, share a vehicle, pay for all bills together, etc.

Recently he wanted to buy a new luxury model car when we make $55K combined. I was impulsive and naive and said heck yeah! then after doing research and budgeting for the first time I realized how foolish and impractical the expense is (especially considering we WORK FROM HOME!).

Anyway, I changed my mind, explained my reasoning with objectivity and tried to be respectful of his position, yet told him honestly he won’t change my mind but that the discussion is open ongoing if circumstances change, and now my fiancé is quite upset. He said he does not align with my financial decisions and wants to separate our finances since he’s mistrusting of my worldview on finances and because I initially said yes then said no with further information.

I think this is an awful, childish, retaliatory, downright manipulative thing for him to suggest. It seems to me like we will break up if he sticks to this. But can anyone help me with arguments in my defense here? I mean we can’t and shouldn’t split our finances because of his suggestion here, right? He was being silly in wanting this new car we can’t afford, and I indulged him and myself for a bit but once I did adequate research my mind changed. I didn’t change his mind and while I respect it, I know we have to agree on big decisions like this and I did not feel comfortable with the large expense.

If I had been the one who suggested splitting finances, I think that would be more reasonable. And yet I don’t even want to do that (yet). I think of us as a unit, a whole. I’ve lended him money, been the primary on a loan for his small business (which is still in my name! so what do I do about that if we split finances?), I’m the primary breadwinner and i want to provide for us and now he’s actually getting some decent income he wants to take that away?

It’s as if he’s taking away his income from me so I’m punished for not buying this new car, and the consequence is having even LESS money than if I agreed to get the car.

I’m so hurt, confused, offended, and disheartened by this all. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

What do I do? What can I say? Am I in the right here? How can I convince him? Should I try to separate our finances? That would really hurt.

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tl;dr: fiancé got upset when I refused to buy a new luxury car with him because of reasonable reasons. He’s claiming my flip-flopping and lack of willingness for risk/benefit makes him mistrust me and he wants to separate our finances. I don’t want to do this and if he insists I’m not sure I believe it’s for any good reasons at all and I may try to leave. What do you think? Should I try separating finances? Is there enough evidence he’s just punishing me and this is as awful as I feel it is?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My fiancé (28M) and I (26F) tried the 36 questions to fall in love and it led to arguments and feeling distant.

quote:

We haven’t had many big problems, so I am not really sure. The one big problem we did have we had to go to therapy to solve. His brother moved in awhile back and he just sat around smoking weed and eating all of our food for 7 months, he didn’t pay rent, he didn’t clean (he actually did quite the opposite), he wouldn’t even do small favors for us (one time we asked him to go get us medicine when we were both really sick). I couldn’t say anything about something his brother did (for instance he consistently won’t flush the toilet leaving huge poops in the bathroom and ash and matches all over the floor even though we ask him not to smoke in the house) without my fiancé feeling like I was attacking his brother. The therapy helped a lot, I can now point out something his brother did without my fiancé instantly going into defense mode. We learned to work through it as a team.

So I guess we aren’t great at it. A part of me worries that every big problem we will have to solve in therapy and I don’t know how I feel about that.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for refusing to use the gender neutral single bathroom?

Beachcomber posted:

Is this the same guy that poo poo at the dinner table?

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Some weeks I cry 10 times a day, at work even too. Other times we go weeks without an "episode." I don't know what to do... stay and try to make it work or start over? I'm 31 and I really want a family and a supportive partner and I know that I'm getting older and that scares me too in terms of having kids. Terrifies me. I don't want to start over. But I just don't know if this is right. And I know I am not perfect. At all. And my biggest thing in this relationship is I am sensitive and can be emotional.

People have told me to ignore it, and some things I can.

Some days he is the most loving wonderful person in the world and I am on cloud nine. Other days he's in a "mood" and just nothing I say is okay. I very often feel as if I'm walking on egg shells.

-The other night he asked me to leave his apt at 2:30 am because he couldn't sleep. Apparently he was annoyed that my dog was sleeping in bed and that I left her water bowl in the middle of the apartment without asking him first. I was sound asleep and had to walk home through the streets of NYC at 2:30 am with my dog.

-His brother works at a restaurant and his hours are being cut. My uncle owns a company in the same town. I asked my uncle if his company was hiring (I did not give his brother's name or anything), and if my uncle said yes, my plan was to pass the info on to my BF and then he and his brother could make a decision about whether to apply. He got FURIOUS that I asked. "How dare I get involved with his brother or his family." I literally was only trying to help. He could have said that was nice but no thanks. Instead he told me he's not sure he loves me anymore and doesn't know if he wants me to meet his family (we were leaving for me to meet his family for the first time the following week.) He also came into my apartment without telling me first to search for and take his keys back as a result of this.

-I am an elementary school teacher. We ran into a student on the street. I introduced him as my friend. He FLIPPED out. Said maybe he should bring me to his office and introduce me to people there as his friend.

-He was in a horrible mood. We had gotten a gift card for a certain restaurant and went that night. The music was loud and it felt "going-out ish." He got in an even worse mood and wouldn't talk to me at all. I said I know this isn't your first choice place, but you're a grown up and this is date night, can't we just make the best of it? All he said was "let's just get this over with, I hope the food comes fast". We sat in uncomfortable silence the whole meal.

-We were walking to see a movie and planned to go to a drug store across the street from the movie. We passed a drug store earlier (I didn't realize that corner had one) and I suggested going in. He didn't answer me. I said "I guess not" as we walked passed it. He got mad that I was changing the plans, and thought I was trying to control him. He also thought I had an attitude. After this, we sat in the movie and he told me that he is just realizing (9 months into the relationship) that I have an attitude problem and he doesn't really like my personality. He thinks we're better as friends.

-We walked past a deli with a really long line. I said "Look at that long line." No response. Thought he didn't hear. Said it again. He got mad and said "Wow, cool a line. Never seen that before." He thought it was a stupid comment and that I'm being controlling by telling him where to look.

-We were going to visit my sister in another city. I was really excited and he knew all the plans. One involved dinner with her friends. The night before we went he asked me "Do you really think I want to hang out with your sister and all her little friends?"

When he is in a mood, he literally cannot stop himself from reacting in a certain way or say something that comes out of his mouth. Usually, later when he is calmer, he apologizes and says he understands why what he said/did was wrong. But then it keeps happening.

I think I love him. But this part of him is horrific and I never know when it will come out. Please help me. I want honest advice.

Cockmaster posted:

It seems that story was removed under the "No shitposts" rule. Apparently the mods over there have never seen "My 600lb. Life".

AceClown posted:

My BF (32M) and I (31F). Is this "normal?" Abusive? Or am I overreacting? Sad and confused, need help.

I don't want to start over.

Licarn posted:

I (25m) don't want to really ever hug my sister (14f) anymore, basically because she has boobs. After being pressed about it, I told her and it hurt her. I kinda feel like a bad person now and don't know what to do.

AceClown posted:

r/relationship_advice

My BF (32M) and I (31F). Is this "normal?" Abusive? Or am I overreacting? Sad and confused, need help.

Long rear end post but here are the highlights:

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So my mom is retired and doesn't work, however she receives disability and watches my daughter for 6 hours 5 days a week.

But I feel like she's killing my own homelife. Instead of being home with our child, I have to run my mom for her errands. And then she remembers that she forgot some insignificant item and wants me to come back. My SO is getting frustrated and feels like I'm putting her before us.

I feel guilty, because she's our baby sitter and everything, but at the same time I feel frustrated that she'll suddenly ask to go to the store and if I tell her I'm cleaning/want to be at home, she always seems to get passive agressive. I just don't know how to make everyone happy, or what to say to my mom.

Of course I want to help my mom and everything, but I feel like she has bad time management and it's messing up my own family life.

TLDR: I feel like I'm putting my mother before my husband and daughter and I feel like it's messing up my own home life

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I moved out of home after my mother (and babysitter) dropped my child off at my job. While I was working. I kept her in my office until I found somebody. Now she has a babysitter who loves her, does her hair every morning, and buys her things because they love her.

So she hasn't seen her since she dropped her off at my office. She chose to not communicate her frustration and put my daughter in danger? Plus be abusive in front of her? She's cut off because my daughter will not grow up the way I did.

My mom texted me and said "you keep my baby from me ill loving end you sl** cu**.

I thought of you guys, and your Mils.

All the crazy grandma's who think their children's children are theirs??

Barudak posted:

A household that produces a person who doesnt flush didnt just get unlucky raising a kid

Licarn posted:

I (22f) feel like I'm putting my mother before my husband and child and it's ruining my family
submitted 1 day ago by life_sentencer



Keep me from my baby and I'll end you
submitted 1 year ago by life_sentencer

Power Khan posted:

How does that even work? Next one who sits on the throne automatically flushes? Or does the dude finish up, walks out and yells downstairs "Ma, you need to come up and flush. I need to go back to gaming."

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AITA for changing the "days without an accident" sign when a pregnant coworker peed her pants?
u/throwawaypanda565h
Hi Reddit. I work at a factory that manufactures a lot of toys. I'm a regional manager at the facility so I am in charge of a lot of the factory post it's on the board wall including the big days without an accident sign that my higher ups want me to update when something happens. Yesterday one of the factory workers unfortunately urinated on herself before she could make it to the restroom. I wasn't there when it happened but I overheard it when everyone was talking on lunch break 30 minutes after it happened. Upon knowing this I thought it would be funny to update the accident sign. None of the factory workers were really happy with that and the person that had the accident started sobbing. I changed it back and apologized immediately. I knew this individual and I thought she would laugh but I guess she didn't. I now feel kind of bad and anxious that I'll be demoted. AITA?

teen witch posted:

SilvergunSuperman posted:

Probably not work appropriate but pretty funny nonetheless.

teen witch posted:

quote:

I want to explain my first GF and our relationship. I though would last forever. I am very devoted and loyal guy, I am not clingy, just dependable. We started to date 5 years ago, I crazily fell in love and she did too. We had a bit of a rocky start because she wanted to always go party and dance and I am not outgoing type. However she was emotionally quite lost, and I was always her emotional support in hard times.

I was always trying to make her happy by traveling out of the country somewhere (Denmark, Germany, Australia, Kazachstan). She wanted to see the world.

When I was working abroad, she called me, and told me that she kissed some other guy. Next day she told me it wasnt just a kiss. Next days she told me, it wasnt just one guy. Next day she told me it was 4 guys in total.

I loved her crazy, but I wasnt stupid. I told her that we have two options. Either we are going to break up and never see each other again, or she would really have to start to work on that relationship. She chose the latter.

I told her that I will be able to forgive, if she will tell truth and nothing but truth. Dont make me an idiot ever again. Say how things are, so that I know what I am forgiving you.

She told me that those 4 guys where all there was.

Needless to say, couple months later, she mentioned that she wasnt all that truthfull, and that there was another guy. But in her words, that wasnt cheating, because that guy "didn't finish"

I knew our relationship was doomed. So I told her we will break up. She went on tinder and literally two days after, she had ONS. Because we were still living together, I was curious where she was. Naturally I still had feelings for her, so I read her text messages and leanred that she had ONS with the guy choking her while they were at it. She liked that.

Its been a year now. I am not trusting any woman now. I am sorry, I dont want to offend anyone, its just the fact, that I dont want to live through something like this again, so I dont date anyone. What should I do? How can I trust? How can I now that other person wont do this again?

**TL;DR; : My ex was cheating on me for 5 years, she was my first GF. I dont trust anyone anymore. How can I help myself? **.

teen witch posted:

AITA for changing the "days without an accident" sign when a pregnant coworker peed her pants?

Uncle Enzo posted:

I drew attention to someone's really embarrassing situation. Was that a bad thing?

loving rear end in a top hat picking on a pregnant woman.

The only way he can make it up to her is join her and pee his own pants in front of everyone

teen witch posted:

(Accident sign change)

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So I realize this may sound silly and I'm sorry in advance if it does, I promise I'm not snooty or holier than thou in my day to day life. It's just that I've always wanted to host a "sophisticated" party with great wine and food and decent conversation. I'm not opposed to bar nights and keg parties, it's just that I wanted to do something different on this particular night (last Saturday).

I had literally been planning this party for over a month, I ordered special cheeses directly from Europe, I sent out "taste questionnaires" to all my guests to best accommodate their wine and food preferences. I cleaned for days, I even replaced our ratty old couch with a new sectional from Crate and Barrel and matched some really cool thrift store hauls to make it sort of "warehouse chic." I hand made all the invitations and event matched the stamps to better fit the motif of the design.

Saturday night came around and everyone was having a great time, people were dressed to the nines and I was on cloud nine with what a great time everyone was having. We had intelligent and polite conversation and everyone was getting along great. I had at max 20 total guests (some left early and some arrived late).

After maybe 2 hours I noticed my husband was not present, no big deal I thought since he said he'd wanted to smoke some good cigars so I figured that's where he was. Maybe 10 minutes later I hear him and his best friend bust through the front door saying really loud "Now we got a party folks!!!" as he and his friends were carrying huge boxes of Budweiser.

Well slowly but surely my sophisticated wine party turned into a beer bust, the guys took their ties and coats off, the girls got more loose and after an hour of beer drinking my new couches were pushed to the wall and everyone was dancing and grinding and my nice calm background music was changed to hip hop.

I basically went in my room and cried. I didn't tell anyone so no one checked on me, not my friends, not my husband, no one. They were all having "too good" of a time. To make it worse, the next day nearly everyone sent me texts or emails saying what a great time they had and they didn't expect to "party until 3am." So not only did it not go my way, no even appreciates "my part" of the party.

I'm crushed. By my husband mostly since he knew how important this was to me, but also by my friends who so quickly went along with my husband and didn't even seem to miss me at the party.

What do I do here? I feel betrayed by just about everyone.

tl;dr: Husband ruined my "sophisticated" party by showing up in the middle of it with beer and basically turned it into a frat party.

DeadMansSuspenders posted:

Time for another classic!
I (28f) planned a wine and cheese mixer for almost a month. My husband (28m) of 5 years showed up with 3 36 packs of Budweiser and turned it into a frat party. I know this may sound silly but I'm crushed. What do I do?

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No, not really. Every party, football night/day, poker night, I end up doing the cleaning. Usually its ok because I don't mind and I'm a much neater person than he was but part of wanting to have a sophisticated party was so I could just enjoy myself Sunday morning with coffee and not have to get up feel l needed to scrub before stains set in. That's exactly what I ended up doing.

quote:

If I tried to make him clean up after the party, he would have head nodded me to death and said he would do it and we'd still be sitting in over a hundred beer cans.

quote:

he did some cursory cleaning between the time he got up and went to play golf, but for all intents and purposes, I cleaned up by myself.

quote:

Last football season when the Cowboys played the Redskins I specifically went out of town to see my sister the week after. I thought that if I wasn't there to clean up after he and his friends he'd get so sick of the mess he'd jump in and clean it up. Well not only did he not clean up after that game, he didn't clean up after poker night on Tuesday, he didn't clean up after college games on Saturday and he didn't clean up after the NFL games on Sunday. I arrived Sunday night to beer cans literally coating our floor and empty pizza boxes and Chinese food containers.

basically if I don't do it, he never will.