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Smirking_Serpent posted:Tl;dr: if I wanna marry my boyfriend I gotta move to his home country, but I don’t like it and don’t feel safe here. Don’t want to break up. What are my options? I [25M] read my current GF's [23F] diary and saw that I was the 7th guy she has slept with but there is another guys name in the 8th spot. quote:Background: We've been dating for a little over 2 years. Every thing is really good, I had a few months of me being an rear end in a top hat for no reason (see older post in this sub if you want) but I've been able to control myself pretty well since then. My family loves her, her family feels the same about me. Even after 2 years, shes on my mind all the time everyday. I literally still get giddy before she comes over or we go hang-out. She is just a really kind person and beautiful to boot.... quote:UPDATE: So after reading whatever one has told me, I decided that I had to tell her that I was snooping because I was feeling extremely guilty plus I wanted to get the truth from her. Right after I told her she just had a solemn look on her face and just went quiet, laid on her bed, and said nothing.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 07:51 |
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Me [19F] with my roommate [20F] of 6 months, threw out my personal belongings while I was on medical leave. What do I do?quote:Hi reddit! I don't really know where to begin so I'm just going to jump right into it; apologies in advance for any grammatical errors as I'm feeling very scattered right now. I'm an international student and a sophomore (second year) at a large private university in the US and am paying for on-campus housing. Without going in to too much detail, I have a few chronic health conditions that contribute to my anxiety and depression and as they worsen they intensify the anxiety and depression along with it. For the sake of this post, I'll call my roommate Katherine.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 08:01 |
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:I [25M] had sex with my disabled friend [24F]. It made her happy but I'm feeling guilty. This guys anxiety over whether or not an adult with physical disabilities can make informed decisions is going to lead to him agonizing over her lack of past sexual experiences. This will lead to him demanding that they open the relationship and then going full red pill MRA once he learns there is a large, horny contingent of chasers who love people in wheelchairs for all the wrong reasons.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 08:09 |
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Miss posted:Me [19F] with my roommate [20F] of 6 months, threw out my personal belongings while I was on medical leave. What do I do? This is a gut punch. No restitution would ever suffice.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 08:10 |
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AITA for hotwiring my own car? My stepdad took the keys.quote:Im 18 and I've got a car and I pay for everything. The car itself I got for 100 dollars from a friend who thought it was a junker that couldn't be fixed, but I fixed it up. I pay gas, insurance, which is cheap for my age because I have the most basic coverage and the car is not worth a lot.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 08:11 |
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Miss posted:Me [19F] with my roommate [20F] of 6 months, threw out my personal belongings while I was on medical leave. What do I do?
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 08:11 |
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Wife told me that I should evaluate why I don’t have a single close friend/family in life and that it’s impossible for those who know me well to love me. I (M34) have been married you my wife (F34) for the last 6 years. I’m a type A guy, fiercely competitive and have this compulsive need of being first/correct/winner all the time. I don’t have a good EQ and rarely think about other people’s perspective or feelings. Fortunately for me, I found my soulmate - a woman who loved me in spite of all my flaws and weaknesses. Of late, there have been some differences between us. We are both extremely busy with our professional lives and there is rarely anything to talk about except work or politics. I feel like we don’t communicate like we used to. Anyway, something trivial happened today and my wife accused me of doing something that I had not. I snapped and yelled back at her. To which she said, “You should reflect why you don’t have any loved ones in your life. You make it impossible to love you”. She said this to me today - Feb 14th; Valentine’s Day. Now it’s not like we have never said things to each other. It happens in all relationships. But this hit me really hard and I’m completely devastated. Not sure what to do or how to react. The truth is, she is right. Not many people like me and I don’t make friends easily. Most of my friends from school or college think that I’m a big snob (because of my professional success). But hearing this from the person I love the most in the world (that too on Valentine’s Day) has completely destroyed me. She knows that I’m insecure about this aspect of my life and she had never mentioned this in 6 years of our marriage. On the contrary, she is extremely popular and well-liked among her friends and family. I just don’t know what to do and I’m totally paralyzed. I just don’t know what to do to be a better person or make friends. I know this whole incident may sound trivial but I’m scared that my wife may not love me anymore and it’s too late for me to make any changes. I am also mad at her for saying something that she knew was going to really hurt me. Any help or advice would be appreciated. TL;DR: Wife told me on Valentines Day that I should evaluate why I don’t have a single close friend or family and that I make it impossible to love me. I’m devastated and shocked.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 08:16 |
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PancakeTransmission posted:AITA for hotwiring my own car? My stepdad took the keys. You should have wired it to explode.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 08:17 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Wife told me that I should evaluate why I don’t have a single close friend/family in life and that it’s impossible for those who know me well to love me. What a catch; what's he worried about he's clearly the man of her dreams.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 08:23 |
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My [21F] Partner [26M] of 3 years has required me to make a lot of sacrifices for him in the last 6 months, and it is effecting my health and grades. Then found out I have substantial savings while he has none. He is demanding that I hand over money.quote:My boyfriend and I have been studying together at university, and while he is studying part time, working part time and engaging heavily in his amateur acting career. While I am studying full time and working part time. We share one subject at uni together. On top of this he is trying to pick up another hobby while looking after his grandfather who is in his final stages in a nursing home. As you can imagine, for the past 6 months he has very little time to cut out of his week to spend with me. None, in fact. I have been fine with this for the most part. I have been driving 45 minutes 3+/- times a week to get to his house so we can steal a few hours together, but he doesn't have time to spare. This is an inconvenience I can live with. OP posted:It wasn't like this for the first two and a half years of the relationship. I was really happy up until this point. I don't understand what happened, or if I just need to be gracious for a while about everything. Surely someone can't be one thing for 2.5 years and totally backflip like this? He tells me all the time that he loves me and appreciates me and wants to marry me...
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 08:31 |
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Oh my god girl, murder that man
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 08:42 |
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:I [25M] had sex with my disabled friend [24F]. It made her happy but I'm feeling guilty. I hope Reddit is telling him that disabled people can still consent and if she's happy he has nothing to feel guilty about.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 08:44 |
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Miss posted:Oh my god girl, murder that man
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 08:50 |
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AITA for doing the dine and dash? I went out for Valentine's day with my significant other today. We had a reservation for 7:45. We were seated pretty quickly, but I don't think we got our appetizer until 8:30, and we had to flag down another waiter to get our drinks. At 9:30, we still had not been served our entrees so we walked out. The waitress chased us out and asked if we were going to pay for our food, and we responded by saying that we had waited for nearly two hours, and no, gently caress that. In retrospect, I feel like we should have maybe dropped twenty bucks on the table to cover the watered down drinks they served, but are we the assholes for running out on a check? Literally never did this ever in my life.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 09:00 |
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PancakeTransmission posted:AITA for hotwiring my own car? My stepdad took the keys. This woman loving owns and I really hope the usual "my house, my rules" dinkuses we get in this thread read this and gently caress off immediately
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 09:03 |
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My [21F] Partner [26M] of 3 years has required me to make a lot of sacrifices for him in the last 6 months, and it is effecting my health and grades. Then found out I have substantial savings while he has none. He is demanding that I hand over money. Dump him, dump him, dump him in the morning, dump him in the noontime, dump him, dump him, dump him when the sun goes down https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8RV8KerchW4
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 09:41 |
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:I [25M] had sex with my disabled friend [24F]. It made her happy but I'm feeling guilty. It sounds like something pretty special happened. Try not to sabotage it with a combination of self doubt and insulting paternalism. She chose you because she wanted you, not because no one else on earth would have her.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 10:22 |
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im not sure they're actually reading this thread
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 10:29 |
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Inexplicable Humblebrag posted:im not sure they're actually reading this thread hi, welcome to this thread
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 11:40 |
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Barudak posted:Dont hyphenate the kids last name, problem solved. My ex told me our hypothetical kid would have her family name and that was that. And I was fine with it and the conversation was over. Thank Christ and the prophet Muhammad I never had kids with that woman.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 12:08 |
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MrQwerty posted:Thank Christ and the prophet Muhammad I never had kids with that woman. That sounds like one hell of a foursome, I won't ask which one you blew your load with but good call it wasn't the woman.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 12:55 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I (21F) have to move to my boyfriend’s (23M) country if I want to continue the relationship, but I hate everything about that country. I get so annoyed when they never specify the country since that’s usually pretty relevant. I figured it was either Japan or China, and found the comments that revealed I was right, it was Japan.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 13:25 |
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Ugly In The Morning posted:I get so annoyed when they never specify the country since that’s usually pretty relevant. I figured it was either Japan or China, and found the comments that revealed I was right, it was Japan. Wait, someone who posts on reddit hates Japan?
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 13:38 |
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Mill Town posted:Wait, someone who posts on reddit hates Japan? Japan is infamous for being lovely to women and especially to foreigners.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 14:30 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for doing the dine and dash? Lol balls on that server to ask for payment when they haven't even taken their actual order yet. I'd have no problem calling that poo poo out, and I definitely wouldn't feel like an rear end in a top hat about it.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 16:28 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for masturbating in a shared hotel room? Sounds like Miriam would be much happier sleeping in the hallway.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 16:39 |
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Something also overlooked is shes a freelancer and marrying the person from said country so should they divorce she will find out said country circles the wagons very, very hard for its citizens in such cases. On the other hand I guess I look like Business O'Verspender so living/working here has been much nicer than my home country.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 16:45 |
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Barudak posted:Something also overlooked is shes a freelancer and marrying the person from said country so should they divorce she will find out said country circles the wagons very, very hard for its citizens in such cases. Yeah, if she has kids with this guy and they split up, she is never, ever going to see them again.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 16:46 |
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ScentOfAnOtaku posted:Lol balls on that server to ask for payment when they haven't even taken their actual order yet. The post implies that they were waiting for entrees they'd ordered.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 16:46 |
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kimbo305 posted:The post implies that they were waiting for entrees they'd ordered. With Valentine’s Day it was probably a prix fixe menu, they likely ordered as part of the reservation. It also makes it baffling they would have to wait that long, because the kitchen should have been cranking out the 2-3 menu options like clockwork.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 16:55 |
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:I [25M] had sex with my disabled friend [24F]. It made her happy but I'm feeling guilty. Growing up in my town there was girl my sister's age who we weren't real close friends with but we knew for a long time because our parents were interlinked professionally (and they were one of the only other Catholic families in the county). This girl had been born with some kind of congenital defect in her legs and had a series of corrective surgeries and spent most if her childhood on crutches. I got sent off for school and didn't ever see her from the time we entered high school until after we were done with college. She didn't need crutches anymore and had grown up into a really beautiful woman who was very amiable. (And wealthy) She had been dating a guy for several years that she met in college and things were looking pretty serious when out of the blue he announced "it's been real fun but I just can't see having kids with a gimp' and bounced. Anyway OP, don't do that.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 17:20 |
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MrQwerty posted:My ex told me our hypothetical kid would have her family name and that was that. My wife wanted our son to have her last name. I didn't care, but I am Hispanic, so I just told her to slap my last name on there second. She went and hyphenated the last name on the birth certificate
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 17:20 |
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ScentOfAnOtaku posted:Lol balls on that server to ask for payment when they haven't even taken their actual order yet. I'd have no problem calling that poo poo out, and I definitely wouldn't feel like an rear end in a top hat about it. They had their order taken and they conveniently omit if they ever addressed the issue other than to walk out, 1:45 isn’t crazy long for many types of dinner service. They got drinks and apps, which they should have paid for. Calling that poo poo out is definitely acceptable and asking for the manager or likewise might have gotten them discounted or even comped, but these sound like typical reddit confrontational-avoidant types who “didn’t want to cause a fuss”. In any case late service isn’t an excuse to ditch out on the tab entirely, I’ve been in situations way worse than this and I’ve given a lovely tip and not gone back, but by ditching you’re nearly always the rear end in a top hat. (You’re also liable to pay and could have the police called on you but that’s rarely going to happen unless there are other extenuating circumstances.)
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 17:48 |
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gently caress Your Website posted:They had their order taken and they conveniently omit if they ever addressed the issue other than to walk out, 1:45 isn’t crazy long for many types of dinner service. They got drinks and apps, which they should have paid for. Calling that poo poo out is definitely acceptable and asking for the manager or likewise might have gotten them discounted or even comped, but these sound like typical reddit confrontational-avoidant types who “didn’t want to cause a fuss”. Or, a better idea, don't eat out at a restaurant on its busiest night of the year.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 17:51 |
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AITA for making my daughter wear her school uniform after school? This school semester I have implemented a new rule for my thirteen year old daughter to stay in her school uniform after school. This was due to a couple of problems we had the first semester of school. She would come home and change, and spend maybe an hour changing in and out of different outfits before settling on one, leaving clothes out and unfolded. Then, she would start her homework later than I would have liked, and many times skipped assignments, which I did not realize until we got her final report. Also, she would basically have double the normal amount of laundry due to her changing after school, which she always dragged her feet in doing. This semester, I told my daughter that she is not allowed to change out of her uniform after school. I expect her to do her homework right when she gets home, still in uniform. She also eats dinner in her uniform and completes her chores. She doesn’t change out of her uniform until after she showers and changes into her sleepwear. This has definitely cut down on laundry, her room is cleaner, and she’s actually been getting all her homework done. However, my daughter hates this new rule and will constantly ask when she can change. She has gone ahead to change without permission, and while I could have just let it go, I made a point of making her change back into her uniform to instill the rule. Then, she wanted to go out with some friends after school yesterday, and I said she could, and she wanted to change, but I wouldn’t let her as it was a school day and she was already wearing the uniform. One of her friends was also wearing the uniform because she did not have time to go home and change, but the other two girls were not wearing the uniform, and my daughter said she was humiliated wearing hers. AITA?
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 18:04 |
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One of the infinite reasons I love my wife is that she doesn't give a gently caress about Valentine's day, and if our anniversary slips my mind it's not a big deal either. She's more likely to forget than I am, for that matter. We don't exchange presents basically ever and she doesn't care for jewelry, only wearing her engagement/wedding ring and simple silver earrings. No makeup or perfume either.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 18:08 |
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Ugly In The Morning posted:With Valentine’s Day it was probably a prix fixe menu, they likely ordered as part of the reservation. It also makes it baffling they would have to wait that long, because the kitchen should have been cranking out the 2-3 menu options like clockwork. Nah. Even a bunch of idiots could get prix fixe out faster than that, kitchen was just probably swamped. Two hours, though, I can't imagine anyone being surprised that diners walk, two hours is a long-rear end turn time for tables anywhere but multiple course fine dining.
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# ? Feb 15, 2020 18:08 |
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Cythereal posted:Japan is infamous for being lovely to women and especially to foreigners. I'm guessing that, as a foreign woman with less-than-fluent language skills, her career choices would be limited to teaching English or maybe doing something at a western company with a presence there.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for making my daughter wear her school uniform after school? How the hell did she let her daughter get to the point of taking an hour deciding on the perfect outfit to just sit at home and do nothing?
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Vday isn’t the busiest day of the year, it’s just amateur hour.
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