M_Sinistrari posted:

Could expand that to "Don't involve anyone non-consenting in your fetish" after that one post in the last thread had an employee wanting her boyfriend to be called Master by her coworkers at the office party.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA if I throw away my niece's wedding invite?

About 5 years ago, my niece went to college and started partying. She would often post pictures of the partying on social media. Her other aunt and uncle, my BIL & SIL are extremely conservative, while my partner and I are fairly liberal, partied in college ourselves and generally dgaf what anyone else does with their life. Judgy BIL made a series of lectureish comments to her which led to her cutting contact him, SIL, grandparents, partner, and me, and blocking us all on social media.

She's now spent the last 5 years pretending like we don't exist, despite us making it clear to other family members that we didn't share BIL's judgy opinion. Her mother, the only one we are able to contact, has told us several different versions of lies about why we were cut off and blocked. I gave up trying to reach out 2 years ago.

Fast forward to today. Imagine my surprise when we received an invitation to her wedding. I see it as nothing more than a gift grab since we are better off than most of the family and have sent very nice gifts to our other nieces and nephews. My partner will undoubtedly feel pressured by the family to send her a nice gift even if we don't attend, but I say if you've ignored family for 5 years you don't deserve a gift. I'm planning to toss out the invite along with the other junk mail.

WIBTA if I threw the invitation in the trash and never told partner that we got it?

Edit: I accept the judgment that I wbta for not discussing it with my spouse. I will do that, and also as one commenter suggested, I will reach out to the niece and gauge her reaction before responding to the invite. Thanks to everyone who shared their thoughts, it was very helpful to get an outside point of view on this.

Lucrece posted:

How do I (27 M) convince my girlfriend (25 F) to get breast implants?

Licarn posted:

How Do We [21F][34M] Approach The Topic Of My Deaf FIL [60sM] Watching Porn In The Living Room?

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Edit: We can’t hear the porn because it goes straight to his Bluetooth hearing aids, but we can see it as he’s watching.

DeadMansSuspenders posted:

My (38M) wife of 5 years (35F) has been "changing up" her look. She's becoming less and less attractive and people are saying things behind her back.




Here's an uninteresting story but the title made me laugh.
I [18 F] left my laptop open and my sister [15 F] replaced everything in my "Hobbies & Passions" section on my resumé with just "garlic bread" as a joke. I unknowingly sent it out to about 20-30 businesses and now I have no idea what to do about it.

Lucrece posted:

I (26M) bought my girlfriend (25F) a car. She said that was my 3rd and final strike

Kitchner posted:

Is there some sort of charity that does incel interventions? Like fifty quid to hire a prostitute to bang that dude and it may avoid a school or synagogue from being shot up.

Xenocides posted:

Both the prostitute and therapy angle involve people interacting with the incel. Cruelty is wrong. The volcano gods do not mind as much.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA. Brother asked me to exchange my daughters sweet 16 party venue so he and his fiance could get married there and I said no.

My daughter is going to be 16 in 4 months and we got the last spot at a venue for the time being . It is a beautiful mansion type of thing with a big garden. My daughter is very exited.

My brother has a fiancée of 3 years. They have 2 kids. They were not planing a wedding till he got offered a job overseas and then getting married is the best for visa issues. He leaves in 9 months. He went to the same venue and his fiancée fell on love with it. They inquired but the earliest spot would be two days before they move. Fiancée was devastated and I consoled her.

Come to yesterday. My brother invites us over for dinner and after a while asks us if we would be willing to switch locations. He showed us a hotel that was admittedly very charming. He said that he would even throw in a night for me and my wife at the spa as a thank you.

But I shot that idea down fast. I had been planing this party for over a year and sweet 16 is a big deal. It has a color theme and it wouldn't be the same at that hotel. The girls would have a suite and my brother promised to cover her suite costs but I just prefer the other venue.

He didn't scream at me but he was very bummed and treated me quite coldly the rest of the night. As did his fiance. When we left my wife said we could at least have asked daughter and that the way I said no was very rude. But I don't see it. An emergency on their part doesn't constitute one on mine. AITA?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not wanting my depressed wife to have dinner with another man?

I (28M) have been married to my wife (24F) for about 4 years now. We're best friends, and we love each other.

Over the past few months, my wife has been having quite bad anxiety and depression. We've been talking about it quite a bit, and I've been as loving, supportive and understanding as I can be. One of the things she noted was that she really feels like she needs a support network among friends, and that she feels like a lot of her friendships are a lot more valuable and deep, since she feels like they're quite superficial now. She used to have a close family network, but she moved country and has lost that, so it's understandable.

However, one of the people she has chosen to become closer with is a guy called Rob. To be frank, I don't like Rob. Rob is insecure, to the level where she has shouted and argued at me before for "questioning" his expertise at a board game, by disagreeing with his outlook on the game. He constantly mocks me, and projects his insecurities on me - an example being that he is a window cleaner (not a bad job), but he received an economics degree, and he constantly tells me I need to "get a better job", and I need to "achieve my potential".

My wife knows I don't like him. This is, to be fair, probably aided by the fact that when we initially met, my wife expressed that in a strange way, she finds him attractive.

I've told her that he annoys me, and I don't feel comfortable around him. She has been spending more and more time with him. I've told her how uncomfortable I am about all of this, and that while I understand she will probably not cheat on me, I feel she may be having an emotional affair. She has, basically, dismissed me, and told me that I'm being a bit ridiculous. I've not told her she can't meet with Rob - I just told her that I feel uncomfortable with how much time she's spending with him, and that I don't like him.

I work for the emergency services, so I work long days (8am to 6pm). Today, we were talking, and she told me how she won't make dinner for me tonight, because she's going to Rob's house, because he offered to cook for her.

I have issues with this:

1) I don't like Rob.

2) Dinner is when my wife and I usually sit, talk and bond. I feel like she's choosing to miss this out.

3) I don't get cooked dinner. When she's working and I'm home, I cook for us....

4) I don't get to see my wife.

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Look, I understand she needs a network. And I understand I might be being a bit insecure with all of this. But I can just see this turning into an affair.

So on the phone call, I told her how uncomfortable I am with the fact that we won't only not be having dinner together, but she'll be having dinner with another man, and that man is Rob. She told me to not be like that, and hung up.

AITA in this situation?

Licarn posted:

Serephina posted:

AITA for yelling at my wife for being unhelpful while I took our son to the ER for a broken arm?

Guy's been super active in the comments, which is less usual for throwaway accts:



So, uh, Murder? On second thought & looking through it again, its probably a strawman shitpost of some sort. Thread's locked, and I just can't imagine a person so cartoonishly in the wrong.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not giving my coworker my reward?

I work in a small office and one co-worker(F) (Let's call her K) has a habit of calling in sick a lot. When she does this, I (30F), as well as another co-worker (F) (Let's call her T), get stuck doing her job instead of our own work. K works sales and I HATE sales.

Monday of last week, K was out again, but this time had informed the bosses a few days beforehand. As it was a Monday, it was super busy. T and I had to spend all day doing sales and got none of our own work done.

At the end of the day (passed the time I normally leave since I was still finishing up the paperwork), the owner of the company came by my desk to chat (it's a small company so this happens a lot). I mentioned to him that I was frustrated and how much I hate sales work.

He apparently went to my direct boss, the vice president, and told him how frustrated I was with the events of the day.

The next morning the VP called me into his office and thanked me profusely for my hard work and assured me that this would not become a common occurrence. He also gave me and T each a gift card for a cup of coffee from a local coffee chain for our trouble.

A minute later, I'm in K's office and T comes in. T hands K her gift card saying something about how it's unfair that the bosses treat K like she's doing something wrong by taking a day off.

Then K and T both look at me expectantly. I've still got my gift card in my hand. I slipped the card into my pocket and changed the subject.

Since then K and T keep giving me side glances. I feel like they're mad that I didn't donate my gift card to K.

I worked hard and I feel like, since I don't make commission on my sales, I really earned that card. AITA for not giving it to my co-worker?

Patrick Spens posted:

You are in fact obligated to take care of your children. There are in fact things more important than autonomy.

Ferrovanadium posted:

Are all these "thought my partner was cheating and hosed up my life" people just, like, sitting around waiting for the chance to burn the relationship down as hard as possible instead of ever talking to their partner?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for refusing to give my trans daughter a family heirloom?

I have 3 kids Susan (17), Jessica (mtf for 4 yearts 18), and Matt (21). There's a tradition on my side of the family where the oldest daughter in the family gets a beautiful diamond necklace when they turn 18. Okay, so I was having dinner with my family last night when Susan casually asked me if she could please wear the necklace to her junior prom. I told her she could and joked that it doesn't matter because in a year it will be hers. This is where Jessica chimed in and said, " how come I'm not going to get it? I am the oldest daughter." This made us all quiet and I didn't really know what to say as I've never really thought about it since I always planned on giving it to Susan . After thinking for a few seconds. I told Jessica that I have always planned on giving it to Susan and it wouldn't be fair but since circumstances have changed I am willing to go with you to a jewelry store and get you something equally special. This did not satisfy Jessica and she got progressively ruder to me. Jessica being rude to me and our fighting led Susan to say some very transphobic things to Jessica (which made her walk off and cry) that I don't wish to repeat.

I'm at an impasse. My and I really don't think giving Jessica the necklace would be the right thing to do. AITA?

Miss posted:

I[23F] insulted my boyfriend[24M] after he spent hours being sexist and obnoxious. Was I out of line or is he overreacting?

Miss posted:

Oh my god girl, murder that man

pentyne posted:

AITA for insisting that we buy another bed or I get to sleep in ours

PetraCore posted:

YTA bc the real problem is nobody is using the goddamn pusher when the slicer gets stuck. That's the safety issue. The safety issue even the manager was ignoring by pushing directly. 'Maybe she misjudged how far to stick her hand in the slicer bc she was high' isn't relevant when none of y'all should have been shoving your hands into the slicer and the manager is culpable by way of not enforcing using the pusher.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for wanting to be buried with my first husband?

I am 31F, married for 2 years to my husband, 35M. We have a baby son together, and are expecting another child.

When I was 23, I was married to my first husband, who passed away unexpectedly after our wedding. I was also involved in the accident that killed him, which led to the miscarriage of our unborn daughter. Both him and my daughter were buried beside each other, in the cemetery of my first husband's hometown. The headstone contained both their names and life years, as well as my name with a blank space underneath it.

My current husband and I have talked about death and dying before, but never in depth. Yesterday, we attended the funeral of his grandmother. She was buried beside her husband of 70 years. Afterwards, my husband said he had a "morbid question". He asked, in the future, if I ever passed away after him, if I would be buried beside him.

I told him that I'd like to be cremated, so half my ashes can be buried beside his body, and half my ashes can be buried beside by first husband and my daughter. This made my husband very upset. He asked me if I was serious, and when I said I was, he said that I was being insulting to him.

AITA? I feel like my plan is a good compromise and quite reasonable. My husband is usually quite accepting of the fact that I was married before him and is never jealous. This is unusual for him, and I wonder if I offended him in any way.

Trapick posted:

I think it's fair to say he may not immediately know how to react to that - but the default reaction to your wife telling you something she considers important should probably be taking it seriously, and not just saying "ok so what" and continuing to watch baseball or whatever.

Like if she said "I got fired today" or "my dad died" or "I think I'm depressed" and he responded "ok so what" you know that'd be weird, right?

Last Chance posted:

her husband's a set top box? But really, someone help me out with what STB means here. I have a severe migraine and stuff ain't working right upstairs and I can't figure it out

Licarn posted:

There's a difference between going down to a store once to get a refund and doing grocery shopping every week, plus the groceries were being done fine every week until a redditor was involved.

Licarn posted:

I have siblings who worked in a grocery store and would complain about the handful of elderly people they had to help like this, because when they they showed up they had to stop serving or stacking shelves to go round and get their stuff for them. There was at least one person, they knew the PIN for their card because they had to handle doing the payment for them as well. Nothing in the story is that unusual except the mayonnaise problem, which the other guy apparently didn't have.